Our daughter has been indoctrinated by the Fauxed and Christianed family she married into.
She wants nothing to do with us. We’re evil liberals. It was the first holiday without her and our grandchildren. Has this happened to anyone else? How are you coping?
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She's not only cheating you out of time with your grandchildren, she's cheating them too. Even if your views are vastly different from hers, this is just despicable. It's not as if you'd be speaking politics or religion to a four year old and a two year old.
She sure as hell isn't acting in a Christian manner. 
Half the problem social workers have to deal with -- yours -- isn't.
Occurs to me that a line of information, rather than communication with family, about this church society might be a good thing to have. Might be a relative of other members or even chatting with a server in a local restaurant or a mail carrier (where they still exist they often know a fair amount about people and activities on their routes in general). Have you looked for on-line groups of people in your position?
Best wishes. 
let me just say I understand... my story is too long and complicated to share here
We are pretty lucky - both are daughters are as liberal as my wife and I - one married an equally liberal man. The other married a fundy-type racist jerk - no idea how they are making it work. His parents are fundy wingnut types. No relationship between us and them, but we avoid each other. The fundy hubby knows enough to "go there" when we are around him. My brother veered far right when he moved to Florida - it has impacted our relationship for sure.
But - my wife and I spend most time with our two dogs and two cats, and as far as we know they are trump haters!
Not sure I have an answer for you - patience, perhaps, but once the cult takes hold, it is hard to see a way out for them.
In post #10, you said that you leave gifts on their porch for your grandchildren and you're not sure if the grandchildren are actually getting these gifts. Is it possible for you to start a savings account for your grandchildren? There will be a day when they will need extra money for a car, college or whatever else. I would hate to believe that your money could be potentially wasted. You could let them know down the road that you saved this money for their future.
Hugs to you. 
I don't know what I did, but they have made it clear I am not to be trusted or spoken to. We live in a small town and they have also spoken ill of me around town... I don't care
One of the only things I can attribute to this is the fact that the d-i-l's mom is in NA and they are all about recovery. (even though both son and d-i-l drink, but that's ok for them) I have been known to enjoy a cocktail from time to time...but they make it seem like I am a falling down drunk who can't sustain a life. I was "allowed" to watch my first granddaughter for a total of 5 times when their work schedules conflicted... and then *poof* they made up some thing that I had a specific person at my house that they didn't like and that was it. (mind you, my babysitting time was SACRED I never had people over, that time was for baby only!)
Anyway, the kids are now 3 & 1 and my oldest has also cut out his younger siblings in favor of this girl and her family.
Don't know if it will ever be healed, I cry on mother's day and my bday.
My other kids are bitter and have no desire to mend fences, they think it is on HIM, and I have to say I agree.
It's heartbreaking :hugs: I think the person upthread who suggested volunteering with kids as an outlet for offering your love & wisdom is spot on.
Ironically, my eldest has some friends who are starting families of their own, and have included me...he has cut them off as well. So the isolation isn't just in the family, it's through all social contacts. (not a good sign 
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You're being robbed of your moral right to be a part of your grandchildren's life and upbringing, as is traditional in most civilized cultures. Let's start with that as a foundation.
Further, you own a level of moral authority that is above your daughter because you gave birth to her and raised her.
My suggestion is thus: find out the organizational structure of the church they attend and request a meeting with one of the high-level officers of that organization, whom I assume would also be a minister. Lay out your dilemma to him or her from a humanist moral standpoint, and not from a doctrinal viewpoint of any church because you would just get in a pissing match over secular doctrine. You wouldn't even need to reveal you daughter and son-in-law's name, just say "one of your churches".
Just explain to him/her you feel you should not be rejected from participating in that family simply because you don't attend their church or share their politics. If they reject your argument and are willing to quote the basis for that, I would be tempted to let them know there's consideration of either taking it to a higher level of authority within that church OR exposing that practice to public media such as state-level newspapers.
Further, if they are making an official pronouncement that the church says they must reject you because of your political beliefs, I would be having a chat with the ACLU or SPLC.
However, should you get lucky and the higher-ups agree with you, get them to write a letter of proclamation you can present to your kids to consider, and hopefully you can reunite with your daughter.
Often, these local pastors execute doctrinal practices they have designed to satisfy their ego which are not in compliance with the official doctrine of that organization. You deserve to know if that's the case here. After they are ordained, many of these dime-store preachers seem to think they are saints and have the right to declare what (their) god wants and does not want as if they have a direct line to heaven. Such proclamations in my view are human creations and are 100% false.
Something to think about and best of luck........
