Excommunicated a family member today.

[hay rick]

You can pick your friends but not your family. In the age of Trump I live in an uneasy unspoken truce with certain (most) family members. Don't bug me and I won't bother you. Today, a brother-in-law broke the peace by forwarding me a Facebook meme from Trump Family Nation or some such group. The text was something like: Remove Nancy Pelosi from all Government positions.

I have always been friendly with this in-law and could easily have ignored his message and told myself I was being the "bigger person." Not today. My response: Herman, please do not send me this spiteful, ignorant shit. Trump is an incompetent crook and traitor and his supporters are fools at best.

[CanonRay]

1. I've discarded several.

[mitch96]

13. Same here Had to cut ties with a buddy of mine

We have known each other since we were 16...... we are 70 now.
He just wont stop talking right wing conservative politics. Told him over and over we can talk anything else but politics. He just could not leave it alone so I said adios... makes me sad..
He was a wool died liberal during the Vietnam war and some where, some how he changed.
Where did my friend go???
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[CanonRay]

14. Two nieces, a cousin and a friend's wife are all

Persona non grata

[mitch96]

15. Now I understand a little bit better when I read the civil war caused brother against brother...

[Upthevibe]

36. Wow....do you ever speak the truth......n/t

[NCLefty]

39. Of course, the brother that stood with a south was a f*&#ing traitor.

[mitch96]

41. I think they were a victim of a grand marketing ploy

The plantation owners were making bucket loads of money with cotton. The only way they could maintain the profits was thru slavery.. Low/no labor costs meant high profits.. Like today.
They sold the rank and file share cropper common man/woman it was all about STATES RIGHTS
Like the Union was gonna change how the southern states would rule them selfs... All the while maintaining the profits of the wealthy... Sound familiar? Get the poor and down trodden to fight your war and you make lots of money....
"Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it"
m

[robbob]

20. Two words:

Fox “News”

[dchill]

29. There's your sign.

[johnnyfins]

45. We Distort, you Divide

[Autumn]

2. Yeah I got that from a cousin. I unfriended her.

[BKDem]

3. You don't need to be the bigger person.

You are the better person.

I know it’s hard, but don’t look back. You did the right thing.

[demosincebirth]

4. I'm glad I don't have any republicans in my family or extended family.

[hay rick]

6. Please adopt me!

[BigmanPigman]

19. Me too!

My niece is dating a GOP boob but fortunately they are 3,000 miles away and I will likely never meet him.

[demosincebirth]

37. I retract what I said. I do have a nephew, who is gay, that is a trump supporter but stays

Clear of any political discussions we might have.

[lunatica]

5. If he knows not to mess with you

then he’s baiting you. Or maybe he thinks he’s owning you.

I’m also beyond engaging with Trump supporters. It’s time to just cut them off.

[ecstatic]

7. Good for you. Honestly, I lose it even

with my democratic friends/family who are too nonchalant about trump. I can't imagine having to deal with a trumper on a daily basis.

[42bambi]

8. We can only take so much of this crap. What a proud moment for you,

[brush]

9. You did good.

[Karadeniz]

10. He invaded your space with someone you wouldn't allow in your home. Unless he realizes

That he was at fault with his inconsiderate gesture, he excommunicated himself.

[cynatnite]

11. My sister is a tRumpster and since our mother passed, the rule is no politics...

We are all each other has and we have gotten closer since Mom died.

We've stuck to the rule and it's worked for us. I'm sorry your brother-in-law broke that rule.

[NanceGreggs]

12. I cut off all communication ...

… with one of my sisters when the “kids in cages” story broke. I’d put up with her support of Republicans for years – but her continued support of Trump after this incident was that proverbial straw that broke this camel’s back.

What set me off was her Facebook post bragging about how she and her husband were such righteous citizens, because they were involved in raising money to buy sports equipment for local kids who couldn’t afford it.

I told her that her vote for Trump led to migrant children in concentration camps, traumatized by being taken from their parents, frightened that they’d never see their family again – and buying a kid in her neighbourhood a hockey stick was a pitiful excuse for having contributed to what was done to innocent children.

Her support of Republicans has always been hypocrisy in motion. She had three abortions before she was 22 – and yet she votes for those who want Roe v Wade overturned. She has two daughters and a grand-daughter – and yet she supports the party that wants to curtail women’s rights.

In other words, she is a typical Trump-humping GOP supporter – a hypocrite who prides herself on being a model Christian, overflowing with charitable selflessness because she donated a pitcher’s mitt to the kid down the street – while completely ignoring kids who are desperate to know that their plight has not been forgotten, and that they will someday be reunited with their parents.

No regrets – I’ve never looked back. If you still support Trump, after all you’ve seen and heard, you have no place in my life.

[MLAA]

28. +1

[MurrayDelph]

16. You can absolutely choose your family

What you can't choose are your relatives.

[Laffy Kat]

17. I understand and would have done the same thing.

I haven't had to break with any family members because there aren't that many of us left; I have, however, broken with many old friends. The thing that bothers me is how easy it was and how much I do not miss them.

[ChubbyStar]

21. It is a weird kind of crushing feeling, you know?

I mean they are your friends, you think alike, and they care.....then you realize they are just not what you thought. When you dump them and you don't mourn, it is telling that they never really cared. Getting them gone is a thing of beauty. But it is hard because it breaks a belief system, don't know about you, but that really hurts me.

[Laffy Kat]

32. You are nicer than I am!

I am actually disturbed that it doesn't hurt me more, or at least a little. It seems like it should.

[ChubbyStar]

38. That must be my Irish Catholic guilt

[Laffy Kat]

43. ...

[New Breed Leader]

18. What did he say back? Nt

[hay rick]

25. No reply so far. nt

[lunasun]

22. Thank you for resisting . No response can be seen as acceptance of the comment by all viewers

You helped stop the normalization of such comments

[Iggo]

23. I have absolutely no problem cutting ties with family members like that.

[man4allcats]

24. How generous of you!

I doubt I would have been capable of such restraint.

[Piasladic]

26. It can be painful

I had a friend who I knew was a bit conservative, but when she told me she voted for that one, I told her I'd never forgive her. I know that's way too harsh, and I sort of regret it, but frankly I just didn't like her or respect her anymore.

It was especially galling because she has a gay (white) daughter who was/is? dating a black woman. A real smart kid and was/is on her way to becoming a doctor. I blame her second husband, the kid's step father, who was always rude about his step daughter and wife. I wonder if she and her daughter managed to work it out.

Thankfully, though we work at the same college, we're on different campuses. We only see each other a few times a year now at college events, and though we're polite to each other, it still hurts. I often wonder as more and more crap comes out about that one and if she still supports him, but I guess I know the answer.

[Skittles]

27. I dumped a peripheral family member for emailing me racist shit on Obama and his family

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I told her, if cannot cease sending me racist rightwing garbage then do not email me. I do not miss her.

[woodsprite]

30. Guess I'm just passive/aggressive with my relatives ;)

I have a FB "no politics" group where I usually post, but today's stuff that I've posted has gone to everybody on my list. I'm home recuperating from a kidney stone blasting I had yesterday, so I've been firing off a lot of posts. My new niece-in-law comes from a military gun-humping family from VA and was posting how there were 65K guns at the rally and no violence which just proves it's the people, not the guns. I posted about the people the FBI picked up (3 from right down the road from my home) who had been planning on instigating violence, sniping people from different directions, and killing people - hoping to cause the beginning of a civil war. I also posted what was in the new "extreme" gun laws, and " (D)emocrat, (R)ussian - who will you vote for".

[the_sly_pig]

31. yep, F 'em.

I don't put up with drumpf support from anyone.

[hurple]

33. My tale

I have 4 grandkids, the oldest is just 2 1/2. They youngest will be 1 in 2 months.

My mom posted one of those facebook memes cheering the trump admin for locking kids in cages. (You may have seen one, yourself at some point)

I *exploded* on her. On Facebook. About those kids being the ages of my grandkids, her great-grandkids, and asked if she would support them being locked up, alone, for years? I ranted about how I've learned all those "lessons" they taught me about "be nice to people" "don't be a bully" "everybody is equal" etc... were ALL LIES! That she has shown her true colors, that she is a monster, and I am ashamed she is my parent.

That was in November, I have not seen, or heard from either of my parents since. They didn't even come over for Xmas.

Fine. Good riddance.

[Hassler]

34. Whenever Trump acquaintances start on me, I reply:

"I never debate with people making bad-faith arguments" (And all their arguments are bad-faith). When they then accuse me off being afraid I'll lose the argument, I reply, "That's exactly what someone making a bad-faith argument would say."

[Demovictory9]

35. i like your straight forward reply

[NCLefty]

40. Dumped my Fox-watching parents years ago. I didn't get the family I needed.

And yes, there were lots of problems from them (multi-divorce-a-thon) before I ever noticed their politics.

[UTUSN]

42. K&R

[HAB911]

44. I'm with you

I have warned a couple in my family that if he is acquitted the ramifications will be as follows and I would hold them personally responsible.

Tip O' the hat to Eyeball Kid

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100212889779

[The Polack MSgt]

46. I admire your ability to live in that truce as long as you did

I lost my shit and burned those bridges long since