If you love your kids don't go with them on job interviews

[ripcord]

Since complaining about the quality of the truck drivers HR was sending me I am now privileged to sit in on all the interviews with the final candidates and the first today took the cake. We were interviewing a 23 year old man straight out of truck driving school, he had a first class application and resume but we knew something was up by the look on the assistant's face when she brought him in, and his mother. Not only did she sit in but she did most of the talking and no matter how directly we asked questions of this young man his mother answered them, I don't think he said a dozen words. She informed us with a straight face that he was a self starter and as the interview finished she stated that when we hired her son, not if, we would definitely have to discuss pay because the amount we advertised was just too low.

Needless to say this young man is no longer being considered by our company, he might have worked out but his mother just wasn't a good fit.

[fleur-de-lisa]

1. OMG

[Arkansas Granny]

2. I have heard several similar stories in the last year or so.

This takes "helicopter parent" to a whole new level.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

3. That's not just a helicopter parent, that's a Halo parent.

The Halo Mi-26 helicopter is the largest helicopter in production in the world. Her poor son is doomed to a life in her basement.

[Floyd R. Turbo]

4. Happened to me fifty years ago. I was interviewing for an Assistant Manager. A twenty something

guy came in as scheduled. Behind him was a woman who I assumed was a customer. I told her someone would be right with her. She told me she was with the interviewee and was his mother. She then said that “before we get started” she had to know the salary, hours, days off, and vacation allotment.

We never got started!

[raccoon]

5. This happened to me--and this was in the early 1970's.

My mother had a control issue from hell.

She sat in on an interview I had with a local bank. I answered the questions but needless to say, I didn't get that job.

That was the first and last interview she went on with me.

I hope that young man will stand up to his mother and not allow her to go with him to any more interviews.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

6. Why did you all let her sit in on it?

Also, did you give him feedback that having his mom along just isn't helpful?

[Rider3]

7. This happens more than people realize, and

you're not helping you kid. Just to see a parent walk through the door with a candidate would immediately disqualify that person.

[redstatebluegirl]

8. I had a college student whose mother insisted on coming to every

advising appointment. He had to sign a privacy form in order for that to happen and he did once she told him to do it or his money would be cut off. She called me once a week about his progress.

I think she would be one that would do what is described above.

[wishstar]

9. Doubt he would have been willing to take on many out of town trips

where mom can't control him and he has to stand on his own two feet.

[wishstar]

10. Guess I was lucky that my Mom merely gave me a Valium and let me borrow a suit

For my first major job interview from which I was hired and made a lifelong career. She knew I only owned jeans and well-worn shirts and as an introvert I was quite nervous, so the Valium and nice suit was the only boost I needed.

[Love-All]

11. Did Mom have a truck driver's license?

I'd be tempted to give him a job just so he could make some money and help him to get away from Mom.

[brooklynite]

14. Those trucks have two seats, right?

[lagomorph777]

12. "his mother just wasn't a good fit"

Holy shit that poor kid.

[ripcord]

18. I guess the Hr mananger's assistant got an earful today

She called and told the young man that he hadn't been selected for the position and his mother came on the line and really told her off, she finally had to hang up because of the abuse she was getting, I feel bad if I had thought that was going to happen I would have made the call. On the other hand I'm really happy we dodged that bullet.

[cwydro]

19. Why in the world was she allowed to do that?

Couldn’t you have informed her politely that you were only interviewing the applicant?

[ripcord]

22. Its company policy

We always lets interviewees know our decision.

[cwydro]

24. No, my question is why was the mother allowed into the interview?

It seems she would be advised that the interview is only for the applicant.

[ripcord]

25. Because we were surprised

And also it wasn't worth her causing a scene, we are trying to run a business, we just went through the motions and called it all good.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

23. I asked the same. They're running the interview; why let her stay?

[brooklynite]

13. It would have been simple politeness to offer her a driving test...

[NewJeffCT]

15. If was just out of college

and didn't have a car or something, then I can see having a parent drop me off for an interview... but, I can't imagine actually having a parent at your interview.

[Chellee]

16. I watched an interview for a barista position at a local coffee shop.

She brought her boyfriend. He sat at the table with them. To his (or her) credit, he didn't say anything, but still. It's weird that he was there. I don't think she got the job because I've never seen her behind the counter, but maybe her shifts and my time off don't mesh.

[Buckeyeblue]

17. I would have refused to interview him with his mother in the room

[Hekate]

20. OMG what an eye-opening thread!

[Demonaut]

21. omg

[lunasun]

26. She may have also written his resume and been the one to apply for the job. Who took his tests?

He could be really messed up and everything they recieved so far is from her . Maybe he could be trouble and not up to the job and she covers his tracks
Brings up way too many what ifs ....& she assured them he is a self starter ?? ..

Reminds me of that TV comedy show the Goldbergs where the overbearing mother tries to insert her self in every aspect of her childrens’ lives
The TV bit is funny and her wig hilarious but I think in real life it’s probably not, just a sad relationship.
Yes he is a no for the opening.
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[TeamPooka]

27. Oh geez, if you must go, wait in the car lady.

[Blue Owl]

28. Mike Pence wants to be a trucker?

[Dem2theMax]

29. .

[2naSalit]

30. DUzy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!