I'm trying to think clearly, and am acutely aware that this dilemma is insignificant these days,

[phylny]

but our daughter was supposed to be married on June 13 in Virginia. They have been planning this since last June.

The governor has targeted a June 10 as the “back to work/normal” day of sorts, though that can and might change.

I honestly think it’s cutting it too close to continue to plan for a wedding and reception on June 13. I think most people, rightly so, will decline to travel to a wedding and there is no way of knowing what we will still be dealing with in terms of safely and the continued need for social distancing. Plus, the invitations would have to go out soon and if the wedding has to be called off, that’ll get tricky.

They will still be married on June 13 by either the pastor or SOMEONE, but the reception is the sticking point.

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[Sherman A1]

1. I really don't see things being okay for

2 years so my vote would be for them to find a means to get married and get on with their lives as best one can in these extraordinary times.

[Laelth]

2. It's too early to say whether even August 1 will be safe.

I’d cancel the reception entirely. I’d promise my daughter a big shin-dig on her one year anniversary and encourage her to go ahead and get married in a private ceremony now.

For what that’s worth.



-Laelth

[Sunriser13]

4. This.

Just too many variables to determine anything right now regarding a big shindig, IMO.

[crickets]

10. This is the most sensible thing to do. nt

[PA Democrat]

18. That would be my suggestion as well.

[iwillalwayswonderwhy]

3. My daughter got married on March 18

Had planned a June wedding. She and her now husband got their marriage license the day before that office closed. It’s hard to get a license now. Not considered essential.

I watched the ceremony on Facebook Live.

Hopefully, we will have a celebration when it’s safe to do so.

[phylny]

5. My heart is with you.

They will have to figure out the license thing because it’s going to impact so many. The license is good for 60 days.

[KY_EnviroGuy]

6. One option would be...

to just have a safe, private civil marriage now and postpone the celebratory part until it's totally safe, which could possibly be a year or more.

I would hate to live with the memory that my wedding celebration resulted in someone's hospitalization or death.


KY............

[dweller]

7. add elope option

celebrate later ...

✌🏼

[Joinfortmill]

8. Have a private ceremony now and a bang- up reception once this is over for good

[Demsrule86]

9. You could have the wedding...small at home...with bride groom and a witness and then have the

reception in August...you could stream the wedding you know. and make it available for the guests.

[Jamastiene]

17. That is a good idea.

That way they can still get married. Maybe make it a virtual reception online through video chat or something. The spirit of being together can be there still that way.

[babydollhead]

11. my son had wedding planned for 8/8/2020, called and said they will just change it to 2021 n/t

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

12. I'd advise they go ahead and get married in a small ceremony in June.

For one thing, there are very strong benefits to being legally married, which is why I'm constantly advising committed couples (regardless of gender combination) to get married. For one thing, Social Security benefits down the line.

Put off a large public ceremony and reception until such time as it seems realistic. But go ahead and get married.

[seaglass]

13. It's not THAT insignificant. I would definitely push the reception off if you can. My daughter is

getting married Jul 31. She will get married that day but like your daughter the reception is the question. In our case everyone who would attend is within the state, I just don't see the comfort level with people mingling, eating and drinking together. I mean no one is predicting we will have a vaccine by this summer and unless people can get instant coronavirus tests - how is a group of 100-150 ppl going to be safe?

Do you have a contract with the reception venue?

I do not believe we will get a refund if we cancel so we are waiting to see what the venue is going to do (for now).

[phylny]

15. The venue is willing to reschedule

and they've really been quite good to deal with. We'll see what happens. Good luck to you as well!

[phylny]

14. Thank you to all who responded.

I agree that the June date is not going to happen. They are going to talk about it tomorrow and come to a decision. I worry, too, that even August might be too soon.

Stay well!

[Jamastiene]

16. IMHO: Be safe, not sorry. Plus:

If you wait, things might settle down and you can have a better time, better access to supplies and food needed for the reception, and more people will attend, if that is what you want.

I wouldn't plan anything right now. Wait until a better time can be had by all and supplies are easier to find and it is safer to get together. It would be win win win all the way around, that way. That's just my take on it. ymmv