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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMa (Little Star) passed away today at 5:08 pm eastern.
She loved DU.
She passed at my home that we shared for many years, with her four daughters comforting her.
Hardest thing I ever had to do, but the most necessary.
She was one hell of a strong woman. My best friend, my rock. The smartest, the most common sense, one hell of an intuition, full of life, strongest, loving women one would ever be privileged, to know.
She is no longer suffering, but I am going to miss her more than I could possibly express.
Rest In Peace Ma.
DarthDem
(5,257 posts)May she rest in peace.
Ohiogal
(32,133 posts)Peace to all of you
KT2000
(20,598 posts)It's hard to lose your mom. Peace to you. And RIP Little Star.
Ms. Toad
(34,119 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,927 posts)malaise
(269,246 posts)3catwoman3
(24,085 posts)...to one another.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)kimbutgar
(21,237 posts)hlthe2b
(102,472 posts)I know what that "hole in the heart" feels like, but I'm forever amazed now that I can see so much of my late Mom in myself and in my sister. She is definitely still with us in that respect. And I can much more readily remember a funny or happy story now after time has passed, rather than the pain of loss. May that happen for you and your sisters too and may your mother RIP.
Solly Mack
(90,795 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)We got your back boston bean.
uppityperson
(115,681 posts)Shaddox
(384 posts)dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,022 posts)sheshe2
(83,989 posts)I am so glad you and your sisters were there in the end to hold her hand and give her all the love in your hearts.
I know you are hurting. I want to say I loved Little Star, she made DU a better place'
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
When the blazing sun is gone,
When he nothing shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, all the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
Love and hugs to you and yours.
She will still be shining brightly above the world so high.
Sweet dreams, Little Star.
Squinch
(51,074 posts)2naSalit
(86,880 posts)I am glad you were able to be together for that. Many will not be able to with the virus. Virus or not, my mom will be going soon and I hope it's after the isolating s over but I'm thinking it will be sooner. Called her today to try and chat, she was lucid today so I made sure to tell her I love her, I never know if it's the last time we will ever speak.
Do take care of yourself.
ornotna
(10,807 posts)RIP Little Star
FM123
(10,054 posts)femmedem
(8,209 posts)What a beautiful description of her. May she rest in peace, and may your grief ease in time, knowing you did all you could for her and that she knew she was loved.
applegrove
(118,870 posts)vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Cha
(297,911 posts)LuckyCharms
(17,469 posts)underpants
(182,971 posts)Quackers
(2,256 posts)denbot
(9,901 posts)Peace to you and yours.
live love laugh
(13,181 posts)Me.
(35,454 posts)aikoaiko
(34,185 posts)tavernier
(12,410 posts)I well remember.
revmclaren
(2,541 posts)Zoonart
(11,894 posts)Love never dies.
MLAA
(17,350 posts)samnsara
(17,654 posts)dflprincess
(28,089 posts)Peace to you and your family.
crickets
(25,988 posts)Demsrule86
(68,747 posts)jmbar2
(4,912 posts)Your posts about her here on DU showed how much she was loved and honored. I wish you peace as you learn to live with this big hole in your heart.
oasis
(49,435 posts)babylonsister
(171,104 posts)You did with your family.
milestogo
(16,829 posts)Lost my mom 2 years ago, and I miss her every day.
pdxflyboy
(678 posts)I lost my Mom on 4/9/88 at 7:25 am. My consoling hugs go out to you. You you will never forget that date and time. Peace to you.(
cayugafalls
(5,646 posts)She will be in my prayers this evening.
Hekate
(90,939 posts)cate94
(2,816 posts)May she RIP.
emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)Pachamama
(16,887 posts)I have been following your updates this last week and I am so sorry to hear she has passed...
I remember your mom on DU since way back...
Big hug to you
CousinIT
(9,267 posts)Peace and strength be with you at this difficult time.
gademocrat7
(10,680 posts)Take care.
kentuck
(111,110 posts)It was our loss, too. Peace to Little Star.
JohnnyLib2
(11,212 posts)And much admiration for your devotion and care giving.
Docreed2003
(16,889 posts)My deepest condolences during the awful time. My thoughts are with you and yours!
StevieM
(10,500 posts)May she rest in peace.
still_one
(92,488 posts)helpisontheway
(5,008 posts)mokawanis
(4,455 posts)mercuryblues
(14,552 posts)mahina
(17,727 posts)Love to you and Little Star.
How do we survive these moments?
Danmel
(4,932 posts)May sweet memories of your beloved mom always bring you comfort.
musicman65
(524 posts)However music heals
Crabby Appleton
(5,231 posts)R I P
Karadeniz
(22,600 posts)tblue37
(65,503 posts)MaryMagdaline
(6,858 posts)mcar
(42,426 posts)and I am so sorry for your loss.
demtenjeep
(31,997 posts)George II
(67,782 posts)Control-Z
(15,682 posts)I wish you comfort and peace.
BigmanPigman
(51,648 posts)and I am still in shock and dealing with it. He used to say to me when I was little, "Where are you, little star...here I am". I hope you deal with your loss better than me.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,027 posts)Little Star
herding cats
(19,569 posts)My heart is with all of you who loved her dearly.
IADEMO2004
(5,575 posts)irisblue
(33,042 posts)CountMyVote4Reality
(209 posts)So sorry for your loss.
NoRoadUntravelled
(2,626 posts)May you and your sisters know peace and comfort as you go through this sad time.
barbtries
(28,817 posts)iluvtennis
(19,891 posts)OhioChick
(23,218 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My condolences to you and your family.
TheBlackAdder
(28,239 posts).
It's nice to hear that all of your sisters were with her and you in her final moments.
Take solace in being there with your mother and helping her though her final years, as it sounds as though she had medical problems.
Caring for one's parents is a very draining task that often goes unmentioned, more so than raising children, but it really is a spectacular accomplishment and one that you will look back upon with great pride. It also speaks worlds of your selfishness and devotion to family.
I wish I could say that the pain goes away, but over time it more like buries itself, waiting to surface again and again.
.
berni_mccoy
(23,018 posts)Silver Gaia
(4,548 posts)Your mother is and has been missed here.
May peace be with you and your loved ones.
mzmolly
(51,016 posts)your loss.
blogslut
(38,021 posts)...and joy in the future.
RestoreAmerica2020
(3,439 posts)peggysue2
(10,847 posts)Condolences to you and your family
Kali
(55,027 posts)dalton99a
(81,658 posts)R.I.P. Little Star
pazzyanne
(6,560 posts)scarletwoman
(31,893 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,290 posts)My mother passed away just a little under 3 months ago and Im still feeling numb. But the world keeps on moving and all loving mothers would want their children to keep on living as best as we can.
May you find all the solace you need from your friends and/or family in this trying time.
niyad
(113,714 posts)I know that words are not adequate now, but know that your DU family is here for yup.
Rest gently, Little Star.
murielm99
(30,780 posts)backtoblue
(11,347 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,184 posts)Little Star so bright, on the wings of angels.
I am so sorry for your sad loss.
joost5
(421 posts)TygrBright
(20,776 posts)And that gift will endure.
May the pain of loss bear you to the transcendence of loving memory.
respectfully,
Bright
Harker
(14,067 posts)Maraya1969
(22,509 posts)InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,123 posts)Midnight Writer
(21,823 posts)LisaM
(27,848 posts)Take care.
Greybnk48
(10,178 posts)You've been a good daughter and a good friend to your mom. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
EllieBC
(3,045 posts)Im so sorry.
nolabear
(42,001 posts)Bettie
(16,139 posts)I wish you peace in the coming days.
StarryNite
(9,464 posts)NBachers
(17,156 posts)Bless you all for helping Little Star cross
radical noodle
(8,016 posts)I'm so sorry. Always know your DU family is here when you need us.
Duppers
(28,130 posts)"The deeper the love, the deeper the grief."
Your mom, Little Star, deserves her martyr status.
Coventina
(27,219 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,448 posts)...and sending you loving thoughts that your appreciative memories of such an amazing woman will hold you up and help you in your pain and sadness.
Withywindle
(9,988 posts)I am so so sorry for your loss.
William769
(55,148 posts)Demonaut
(8,934 posts)Fla Dem
(23,823 posts)Peace to you and all your family, Remember the good times.
Gothmog
(145,754 posts)LittleGirl
(8,292 posts)orleans
(34,088 posts)"Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.
Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!"
("This poem is often read at funerals. The author, Henry Scott-Holland (1847 - 1918), a priest at St. Paul's Cathedral of London, did not intend it as a poem, it was actually delivered as part of a sermon in 1910. The sermon, titled, "Death the King of Terrors" was preached while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster."
and this:
"Your Mother is always with you.
She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street.
She's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and
perfume that she wore.
She's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well.
She's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day.
She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a
rainbow.
She is Christmas morning.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter.
She's crystallized in every teardrop.
A mother shows every emotion .......... happiness, sadness, fear,
jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy,
sorrow... and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good
feelings in life. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's
the map you follow with every step you take.
She's your first love; your first friend, even your first enemy, but
nothing on earth can separate you. Not time, not space...not
even death!"
-author unknown
Meowmee
(5,164 posts)7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)jdadd
(1,314 posts)DFW
(54,467 posts)It's never easy. Never.
Raine
(30,541 posts)Sounds like she was a very special person, you're lucky to have had her for your mother. 💞
Demovictory9
(32,488 posts)Granny M
(1,395 posts)So very sorry. Sending you love and peace in this time of sorrow. RIP, Little Star.
GoneOffShore
(17,342 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)BlueMTexpat
(15,374 posts)All my condolences!
She was very fortunate to have such loving children and to have spent her last hours with them.
littlemissmartypants
(22,841 posts)I hope you find comfort in the memories she left behind. ❤
seaglass
(8,173 posts)tishaLA
(14,176 posts)Thoughts go out to you and your family.
raccoon
(31,130 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,792 posts)Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I'm glad you have each other, Boston.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I'm glad you have each other, Boston.
sarge43
(28,946 posts)EarthFirst
(2,905 posts)klook
(12,173 posts)I lost mine last year. But you'll never lose her love.
So sorry for your loss.
Response to boston bean (Original post)
klook This message was self-deleted by its author.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)Losing a parent is especially hard.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,498 posts)Moms are with us forever in our hearts each day.
Mine is still, after all these years and at 72 now I walk with her often for solitude and repose.
RIP, Little Star.......
BooScout
(10,406 posts)Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,762 posts)😭🙏
R B Garr
(17,000 posts)Sorry to hear this news.
MineralMan
(146,341 posts)blm
(113,124 posts)((boston bean))
npk
(3,660 posts)Anon-C
(3,430 posts)stillcool
(32,626 posts)don't know of many women that have had the kind of relationship with their mother, that you obviously have. I'm sorry for your loss, but I thank you for expressing what love is.
bluestarone
(17,101 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,485 posts)Leith
(7,814 posts)It's rough. Very rough. Some day, once you get through the worst of it, you will be able to think of her and smile. I haven't reached that stage yet.
dawn5651
(604 posts)volstork
(5,403 posts)spanone
(135,917 posts)raccoon
(31,130 posts)Stuart G
(38,454 posts)Andy823
(11,495 posts)I am sorry for your loss.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)RIP Little Star.
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)brer cat
(24,631 posts)GentryDixon
(2,963 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)for the loss of your beloved mother.
edbermac
(15,949 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)...
Soph0571
(9,685 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(31,953 posts)Sending love and light your way.
lapucelle
(18,374 posts)wendyb-NC
(3,342 posts)Please know you are all in my prayers. May your, Ma, Little Star R.I.P.
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)My heartfelt condolences.
Love helps us all. Keep it.
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Peacetrain
(22,881 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)Sending you a virtual hug. I hope you feel the DU love.
Marrah_Goodman
(1,586 posts)ProfessorGAC
(65,323 posts)My wife & I have lost both lost both parents, so we get it.
Take care.
VOX
(22,976 posts)I know how difficult this time is for you. Know that you are connected and much loved here.
Go safely, and be well
Throckmorton
(3,579 posts)A passing is hard, and in these times it is extra trying. I am sorry for your pain, may it soon pass.
Love, Throckmorton
Renew Deal
(81,889 posts)Please stay strong.
Permanut
(5,671 posts)heartbreaking. I hope she knew what you just said about her.
yardwork
(61,737 posts)Stinky The Clown
(67,834 posts)calimary
(81,558 posts)Such a sorrowful time. And then this on top of everything else.
Im so sorry. Let DU keep a vigil with you. For her.