My nephew's fiance died today

[CanonRay]

I'd posted last week that her Covid test was negative, so they sent her home with fluid on her lungs. She has cancer, which started in her stomach and was in her lungs. This morning we learned the cancer has spread to her blood, and was , well, everywhere. They gave her a month. Today she was having trouble breathing, and got more and more distressed as the day went on. My nephew arranged for a hospice nurse. She died about 10 minutes after the nurse got there. Maybe it was the virus, maybe not, we will probably never know.

34 years old, lovely person, the love of my nephew's life. A high school biology teacher working on her doctorate.

I'm out of words. My heart breaks for my nephew, his mother and her family.

[SheltieLover]

1. I am so sorry for your loss

[CanonRay]

2. Thank you.

Normally we'd be racing back to Colorado but....

[SheltieLover]

11. You are most welcome

So sad!

Ridiculous that they did not admit her & try to help her! I know they are slammed, but it could have eased her discomfort.

I encourage you to talk with your nephew & inform him that the hospice will provide 13 months of free bereavement counseling to support him through "the year of firsts," birthdays, holidays, and what would have been their wedding day.

And they will help the whole family with bereavement counseling.

If they can't or won't, the following link has a lot of good resources. Click on menu & choose grief support.

I think there is also a link on that site to find professional help.

Please be gentle with yourself, know that the stages of grief is not a linear process.

Healing vibes on the way to you & your family.

[Sunriser13]

15. This is a great post!

Thank you for reminding that hospice is for the entire family.

[SheltieLover]

21. You are welcome

And it really helps. Loads of great idras as I interned at a hospice doing just this sort of work. 😉

The thing that always blew my mind was nearly everyone thought they were "going crazy" because they would feel, hear, see or smell their deceased loved one. I'd always respectfully ask where they would expect their loved ones to go & where they would go if they transitioned to spirit. Would you look out for your spouse, loved ones, etc? Every person said they would stay close to kids, spouse, etc.

One very religious lady told me "but the Bible doesn't talk about this stuff."

I asked her if she'd ever been to the natural history museum. She had. And she agreed that the huge dinosaur skeletons are real. Then I told her that maybe, like the dinosaurs, the Bible just didn't go there.

Could instantly see the 💡 go on in her head, giving herself permission to think for herself. 👏👏👏👍

[CanonRay]

20. Thanks so much for the information, I will pass it along when the time is right

[SheltieLover]

29. You are most welcome.

👍

[mercuryblues]

3. Sorry to hear of your family's loss

[cate94]

4. I'm so sorry

[cayugafalls]

5. So sorry for your loss.

So much sadness.

Stay well.

[smirkymonkey]

6. I'm so sorry for your and your nephew's loss. She was so young.

How very tragic. My condolences to you and your family.

[malaise]

7. Too sad

Deepest sympathy to you and your family

[NNadir]

8. I am very, very, very sorry. Such a young woman! It's very tragic.

[Zoonart]

9. So very sad.

So sorry for your loss.

[MLAA]

10. 💕💕💕💕love to your nephew, you and entire family

[Stuart G]

12. Sorry for your loss.

[Lonestarblue]

13. How sad for all involved. Cancer alone is scary, but doubly so in this environment.

[CatMor]

14. So sorry for your loss ...

so young to have it happen. Hope to have a cure for cancer soon.

[Sunriser13]

16. I am so very sorry for your loss.

[irisblue]

17. 🕯️

[CountMyVote4Reality]

18. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. What a tragedy.

This is a horrible time to die. Peace.

[spooky3]

19. Deepest condolences to you. So sad. Nt

[niyad]

22. So very sorry for your loss. There are not words that can ease this, but know that your DU

family is here for you.

[Cha]

23. ..

[MontanaMama]

24. Please accept my condolences.

This is a tragedy. I am just so sorry.

[SleeplessinSoCal]

25. 💕

[Progressive Jones]

26. I'm so sorry to hear of this. nt

[sinkingfeeling]

27. Condolences to your family and hers.

[Lulu KC]

28. Sympathy to all

[femmedem]

30. I'm so sorry, CanonRay.

I don't have any words either; it's just so sad. 💔

[DownriverDem]

31. So sorry

for you all. Cancer sucks.

[dlk]

32. Very sorry for your loss

[Karadeniz]

33. Very sad news...heartbreaking for your nephew to lose the future he'd planned.

[Upthevibe]

34. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss....

and to all of her loved ones. R.I.P.

[Tanuki]

35. This is heartbreaking. I remember your previous post and was hoping

for the best. She sounds like a wonderful person who had much to offer the world. I will hold your family and the young lady's family in my heart in this sad hour. I am sure she knew how dearly she was loved.

[Texin]

36. I' very sorry for you, your nephew's, yours and her family's loss. Her students and co-workers will

Be devastated.

[Hulk]

37. Very sad to hear...

My heart goes out to all who knew and loved her. Tragedy.

[FakeNoose]

38. It's hard to understand why these things happen

It seems your nephew and his fiance were not well served by the medical professionals. But they deserve understanding too because of the overwhelming tasks they've had to face in the last few weeks.

Sometimes it's just bad luck and bad timing. I'm so sorry for your loss!

[Beacool]

39. That's just terrible.

I'm sorry for your nephew's loss, 34 is so young to die. My condolences to your family and hers. May she rest in peace.

[Scarsdale]

40. Heartbreaking. So young

and accomplished. Please give your nephew my deepest condolences. What a loss for the entire family, plus her own family. They say there is a reason for everything, but this is so difficult to accept.

[iluvtennis]

41. 34 years old - om my goodness. My heart goes out to you/your nephew/and family.

May she rest in peace.

[liberalmuse]

42. This is awful.

I can't imagine how devastated your family must be over her death. No words.

[bronxiteforever]

43. I am so so sorry for your heartbreaking loss

Peace, Bronx

[CanonRay]

44. Sincere thanks to all of you, DU is so much a part of my support system.

And I suspect many of you as we.

[marble falls]

45. So many good people being taken from us. Its become a drumbeat. I am so sorry for her loss.

[IronLionZion]

46. Sorry for your loss

[people]

47. My nephew's fiance . . .

I feel so sad about their terrible loss.

[gademocrat7]

48. Condolences, CannonRay

To you, your nephew and family.

[sheshe2]

49. ...

[Dem_in_Nebr.]

50. I am so sorry

for everyone involved.

I wish your nephew well in this time of sorrow.

Words seem to have no meaning to express the unexpressible.

Nevertheless know that I will be thinking about him and her and all of you.

May the peace that passes all understanding guard and guide you all.

[murielm99]

51. I am very sorry for all of you.

[Dial H For Hero]

52. How terribly sad, My deepest condolences.

[appleannie1]

53. I am very, very sorry. I was so hoping it was a clot in her lungs and could be treated medically.

[Raster]

54. I am sorry for your loss...

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[The Blue Flower]

55. So tragic, sending love

No words.

[Bigredhunk]

56. Tears

Thinking of you and your family.

[TuxedoKat]

57. So sorry

for your and your nephew's loss of this dear lady. Life is just so damn unfair sometimes.

[Meowmee]

58. So heartbreaking 💔

I am so sorry for you all

[HipChick]

59. So sorry for your loss, lost my SIL at age 32..

Liver cancer, so young...

[Fla Dem]

60. So sorry for you, her family and especially your nephew. Got choked up just reading this.

[bdamomma]

61. My deepest

[sympathy, so sad

[Demsrule86]

62. So sorry...so much sadness.

[mountain grammy]

63. I'm so sorry..

[colorado_ufo]

64. Deepest sympathy.

[OldBaldy1701E]

65. I am sorry for the loss to your family

Words kind of fall flat in these instances, but know that there are people out here who want to help you through this if possible and send love and good vibes to you and yours.

[luvallpeeps]

66. Damn it to hell!

So sorry for your loss.

[Soph0571]

67. Och Ray

I am so sorry for your families loss. I hope you are holding up OK and keeping safe. Going to message you

[CanonRay]

69. Thank you so much

My nephew is just devastated as you can imagine, and his mother as well.

[DFW]

68. I am so sorry for your, for her, for him

I went through EXACTLY that scenario with I was there to see my dad off 20 years ago.

I know. Unfortunately, I know all too well. My sympathies--for all that is worth..

[onecaliberal]

70. I am so sorry. Feed pest sympathy for your loss.

Just awful. 💔