My grandmother is 97, living in a facility with a COVID-19 outbreak.

[Coventina]

I am angry beyond words, at this misadministration for putting her life in jeopardy.

The rest of my family is shrugging their shoulders, like, "What can we do?"
(A good many of them Trump supporters).

Many of them have the financial means to take her out and house her temporarily until this is over.
I don't.

I am pissed at them all.

I am going to be calling her soon, to see if there is anything I can do to convince her to pressure her sons to do something.

If she gets sick and dies of this, because of non-action at federal, state, care facility, and family levels, I will lose my fucking mind.

On edit: she is not mentally or physically impaired. She's just elderly.

[EllieBC]

1. I would be angry too.

I’m sorry to it I dealing with crappy family dynamics.

My hope is all this will make us take a second look at how we in the west regard our elderly. We farm them away until it’s time to hear the will read.

[sfstaxprep]

2. I Feel So Sorry For Both Your Mother & You

Does she realize that some of her children don't care whether she lives or dies? Does she realize that to them, she's just an old person, and that it's fine that old people are more likely to die from this virus? That she should sacrifice herself for the sake of them and their Cult?

I imagine you may not have, and don't want to bring in that dynamic. Are you in any way close to these family members who couldn't care less? If so, why would you want to be after this? Even if they are family, they sound like disgusting human beings, and interacting with them is obviously bringing you pain right now.

[Coventina]

4. Grandmother, not mother, but yes, I agree with you 100%

I am done with these selfish a-holes.

[sfstaxprep]

5. Do What You Can

Show your Grandmother how much you care about her, and hopefully things will work out. Know that some things are out of your control, and you are just unable to solve every problem in life. Feel comfortable in the truth that you saw the situation for what it is, and had your heart in the right place. There is nothing wrong with the way you feel, and everything wrong with the way your relatives quite seemingly do.

[RhodeIslandOne]

7. Only the cult of Trump matters.

[uponit7771]

3. I am angry for you, I would be livid knowing Trump said "... testing would make us look bad"

[Coventina]

6. Kicking with update: Had a 90 minute, tearful conversation with Grandma

after posting this thread.

I told her about how much I wanted to get her out of harm's way.
(She knows my situation, and that I do not have the means).

She basically said she loves me very much, but that she would rather stay and die, than be a "thorn in the side of the family."

I think she was referencing the sons and other family that could do something but choose not to.

I'm heartbroken.

[Crunchy Frog]

8. I'm so sorry that you and your grandmother are dealing with this situation.

Not much I can say other than it really sucks.