Sat May 23, 2020, 08:17 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
We attended a wedding yesterday
My nephew and his fiancee have been planning their wedding for a year and chose May 22nd as their date. When the coronavirus made it clear that everyone wouldn't be able to attend, they pushed the date back to July. In the last few weeks, however, it became clear that that date wasn't going to work either.
In a sign of our times, they reinstated the original date and got married on Zoom. They had a beautiful day for their ceremony and the groom's brother-in-law performed the wedding. They had to limit the number of attendees to 15 and the ceremony took place outdoors with appropriate social distancing. There appeared to be over 50 people tuned in for the event and it was wonderful to be able to be a part of their wedding. Some observations that struck me: -We didn't have to travel 4 hours each way -We didn't have to get a hotel room -We didn't have to get dressed up (one couple in their bathing suits was watching from a beach) -I didn't have to dance at the reception (I suck!) So, all in all, it was a terrific experience and my nephew and his wife are happily married. In the future, I guess there will be weddings where the couple will be separated but they'll get married remotely! Modern life... ain't it great?!
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PJMcK | May 2020 | OP |
TreasonousBastard | May 2020 | #1 | |
marble falls | May 2020 | #2 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #5 | |
snowybirdie | May 2020 | #3 | |
Maeve | May 2020 | #7 | |
snowybirdie | May 2020 | #8 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #10 | |
BlancheSplanchnik | May 2020 | #19 | |
uponit7771 | May 2020 | #4 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #6 | |
iwillalwayswonderwhy | May 2020 | #9 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #11 | |
Pacifist Patriot | May 2020 | #12 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #22 | |
Pacifist Patriot | May 2020 | #30 | |
mtngirl47 | May 2020 | #13 | |
oldsoftie | May 2020 | #15 | |
Pacifist Patriot | May 2020 | #31 | |
oldsoftie | May 2020 | #33 | |
Pacifist Patriot | May 2020 | #34 | |
Ilsa | May 2020 | #14 | |
JustABozoOnThisBus | May 2020 | #16 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #23 | |
Coventina | May 2020 | #17 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #24 | |
paleotn | May 2020 | #18 | |
DFW | May 2020 | #20 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #25 | |
DFW | May 2020 | #27 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #28 | |
BlancheSplanchnik | May 2020 | #21 | |
PJMcK | May 2020 | #26 | |
DFW | May 2020 | #29 | |
BlancheSplanchnik | May 2020 | #35 | |
hauckeye | May 2020 | #32 | |
Laurelin | May 2020 | #36 |
Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:24 AM
TreasonousBastard (40,703 posts)
1. Corona is pushing us in the direction we were going anyway-- just...
getting us there faster.
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:24 AM
marble falls (45,632 posts)
2. Like Ferris Bueller says, "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once ...
in a while, you could miss it."
Congratulations to the couple! |
Response to marble falls (Reply #2)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:31 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
5. Good quote!
Thanks for the congrats. I'll pass it on!
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:28 AM
snowybirdie (3,818 posts)
3. Our family too
My mountain climbing grandson and his fiancee were scheduled to be married in June on a mountain top in Utah. That's been cancelled and wedding plans are still up in the air!
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Response to snowybirdie (Reply #3)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:35 AM
Maeve (40,946 posts)
7. No, up in the air is when my friends got married in a balloon!
Sorry, couldn't resist (but they DID; he was a pilot and the minister was nervous but game)
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Response to Maeve (Reply #7)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:36 AM
snowybirdie (3,818 posts)
8. Love it!
A dose of humor is so needed these days!
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Response to Maeve (Reply #7)
Sat May 23, 2020, 09:06 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
10. Up, up and away...
...in my beautiful balloon!
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Response to Maeve (Reply #7)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:08 AM
BlancheSplanchnik (20,218 posts)
19. Aww, that's cool!
Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:29 AM
uponit7771 (85,168 posts)
4. K&R, Sounds like this couple is going to be on the side of science and common sense a good start
Response to uponit7771 (Reply #4)
Sat May 23, 2020, 08:33 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
6. They're very bright and engaging young people
Last edited Sat May 23, 2020, 11:20 AM - Edit history (1) They both have outgoing and friendly personalities and they share many of the same goals. I hope they'll have many years of happiness together!
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 09:01 AM
iwillalwayswonderwhy (2,358 posts)
9. My daughter got married on Facebook Live
I live in England, she lives in Florida. His elderly parents live in Virginia. We had all planned to travel for the wedding, but Covid 19 changed all our plans.
It was a lovely ceremony, and they are just as married as any of us. |
Response to iwillalwayswonderwhy (Reply #9)
Sat May 23, 2020, 09:06 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
11. Best wishes to your daughter! (n/t)
Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 09:33 AM
Pacifist Patriot (24,018 posts)
12. I am officiating a wedding this evening.
On the beach
limited guests guest seating arranged by households with each household at least ten feet away from the others groom is holding the rings so I will not touch them bringing my own sound system so I can speak softly from a distance and a number of other precautions being taken I am curious what this experience will be like. I would never have agreed to do this if they weren't already friends and I officiated the bride's sister's wedding last October. |
Response to Pacifist Patriot (Reply #12)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:22 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
22. Hope all goes well
It sounds like you've covered the safety issues.
Love in the era of Covid-19. Weird. |
Response to PJMcK (Reply #22)
Sat May 23, 2020, 12:34 PM
Pacifist Patriot (24,018 posts)
30. The bride's father has this thing planned like a military exercise.
I'm in awe of what he's managing to pull off for his daughter that ticks all the safety boxes. He's one of those people who will walk through fire to help you solve a knotty problem. Great guy!
I learned yesterday that the wedding favors are gift bags with personalized hand sanitizer bottles and other pandemic supplies. LOL! |
Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 09:56 AM
mtngirl47 (885 posts)
13. I've always thought that the big expensive weddings were a waste of money--
I had a hippy wedding in a garden many years ago.....
Maybe the side effect for the virus will be young couples re-thinking the $10k weddings! |
Response to mtngirl47 (Reply #13)
Sat May 23, 2020, 10:50 AM
oldsoftie (8,751 posts)
15. 10k? HA! That number has been left in the dust
And when the hell did "barn weddings" become a "thing"?
Here's a greta idea; lets get married in a barn. In Georgia. In JULY. I had to go to 3 of those things last year. Every bride always says they want their wedding to be "special". Then they all do the same thing as the rest of them |
Response to oldsoftie (Reply #15)
Sat May 23, 2020, 12:36 PM
Pacifist Patriot (24,018 posts)
31. I've officiated over 600 weddings over the last 15 years.
You are so right!
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Response to Pacifist Patriot (Reply #31)
Sat May 23, 2020, 01:30 PM
oldsoftie (8,751 posts)
33. HA! But 600? WOW!!!
Response to oldsoftie (Reply #33)
Sat May 23, 2020, 02:37 PM
Pacifist Patriot (24,018 posts)
34. Not that many in recent years, but
2010 or 2011, can't remember which, I officiated 97. I'll have a grand total of 2 this year. I have to really really like you to agree to do your wedding these days. 😀
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 10:29 AM
Ilsa (59,343 posts)
14. To them: Mazel tov! Good on them for
fulfilling their dreams and finding a way.
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 10:51 AM
JustABozoOnThisBus (22,042 posts)
16. As long as the check doesn't bounce, they appreciate your attendance.
In person, or virtually.
Maybe none of the attendees got a DUI. ![]() |
Response to JustABozoOnThisBus (Reply #16)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:23 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
23. I'm sure there was some drinking!
But no one had to drive so, I guess it's safer.
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 10:53 AM
Coventina (23,844 posts)
17. Let's hope COVID kills the Wedding-Industrial Complex.
A pox on humanity.
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Response to Coventina (Reply #17)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:24 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
24. Here, here
My wife and I went before a judge and got married in the well of her courtroom. Following the ceremony, she sentenced us to a life term!
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:04 AM
paleotn (13,250 posts)
18. Didn't have to get dressed up....
Ya! Sorry, but I truly detest getting all dressed up. Ties are torture devices.
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:17 AM
DFW (47,183 posts)
20. The question everybody WANTS to ask, is, of course......
Did the bride and groom maintain proper social distance on their wedding night?
By the way, my sister and her husband got married 20 years ago yesterday. They had a zoom gathering, too, for their 20th (now that I know what THAT is! LOL!!!) anniversary. I never wold have been able to make a trip over to North America for a day just for that, so it worked out fine for me. My daughter was on from Manhattan, my brother from Langley, VA, a few from New England and some from a galaxy far, far away (they called it "Indiana" or some such foreign name....). |
Response to DFW (Reply #20)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:25 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
25. Well, the bride and groom have been living together for a coupe of years
I suspect that they didn't bother social distancing from one another.
At least I hope they didn't! |
Response to PJMcK (Reply #25)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:29 AM
DFW (47,183 posts)
27. For their sake...
I hope not, too!
Way back when, my brother invited me to my own wedding. Actually, it was originally supposed to be only HIS wedding, but when I said I'd see if my girlfriend could come, too, he said, "well, if you're BOTH gonna be there, why not make it a double wedding?" and so we did. My wife and I had been together for 8 years before the wedding, and my best man said in his speech, "I know all of you think they're rushing into this...." |
Response to DFW (Reply #27)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:31 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
28. That's a great story!
Good for you for making her an honest woman! (wink)
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:17 AM
BlancheSplanchnik (20,218 posts)
21. Sounds like a WIN all around!
Sorry they didn’t get a giant shindig, but their hearts should be just as happy, and everyone was able to take it easy! Money saved... Less gas used and car exhaust, too!
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Response to BlancheSplanchnik (Reply #21)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:27 AM
PJMcK (17,865 posts)
26. If this is a new trend...
...I'm all for it.
Generally, weddings are a pain. The travel, hotels, clothes, meals, gifts, etc. just end up costing a lot of money. When you're at the wedding, you'll only get a few brief moments with the couple so, what's the point? As someone posted above, hopefully this will dent the wedding industrial complex! |
Response to PJMcK (Reply #26)
Sat May 23, 2020, 11:32 AM
DFW (47,183 posts)
29. Wedding industrial complex!
A new term has been coined.
Ours wasn't overly elaborate, but the airlines and hotels did just fine. It was held in Washington, but since the two brides were from Germany and Japan, the place looked like an informal gathering of the UN General assembly. |
Response to PJMcK (Reply #26)
Sat May 23, 2020, 05:39 PM
BlancheSplanchnik (20,218 posts)
35. Yes! It's all banking on (mostly) young women's fairytale fantasies.
And family pressure... all of it is a big unnecessary expense and pain in the butt.
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Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sat May 23, 2020, 01:02 PM
hauckeye (440 posts)
32. Only one problem: you didn't get wedding cake 😄
Response to PJMcK (Original post)
Sun May 24, 2020, 04:26 AM
Laurelin (431 posts)
36. My daughter had a zoom wedding
She and her fiance got married in their backyard. It was lovely. The best part was that people who couldn't make it to an in-person ceremony could participate in the Zoom wedding.
They couldn't get the money refunded that they'd already paid, but the venues and caterer she had booked worked with her to push her date to next year, so hopefully the pandemic will allow a recommitment ceremony then. With luck she'll get the Big Event she'd been planning for over a year next May. That seemed reasonable when she pushed everything back, but I guess that ultimately means there will need to be a cure or vaccine before then. Time will tell. |