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tishaLA

(14,176 posts)
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:30 PM Jun 2020

Woman apologizes for moment of 'anxiety, frustration and panic' in outburst

...against Black Lives Matter protester (this is the "I'm going to fucking kill you" woman)

<...> Carrie Maxwell said she had seen news coverage of protests turning into riots and, on Friday, heard protesters gathering and loudly chanting profanities near her home in northwest Bakersfield, California. She became overwhelmed with anxiety and fear, she said, and after being told by police that there was nothing they could do she went out to ask the protesters to move away. <...>

“Every man, woman and child deserves to be treated with dignity, compassion and equality, regardless of the color of their skin, and every person deserves to live a life free of fear,” Maxwell said.

Humphrey said the video is not reflective of the type of person Maxwell is. She’s been a dedicated teacher for a dozen years and works with each child to make sure everyone gets equal time from her and is treated the same.

She “clearly made a bad choice,” Humphrey said, but there was no fear or perceived threat as a result of what she said. The attorney said the video didn’t capture the entire confrontation and the back-and-forth that occurred before the protester began filming.

The Bakersfield City School District Superintendent Doc Ervin issued the following statement about the incident:

“The Bakersfield City School District strives to be a model of inclusion and equity for our students, staff, families and community members. The District is aware of the incident that occurred on June 5 involving an employee. We do not condone nor endorse the action and behavior captured on the video. The district is currently conducting an investigation into the incident.”

Full statement from Maxwell’s attorney:

The Law Offices of Kyle J. Humphrey as representatives for Carrie Maxwell are providing this response from Ms. Maxwell to the partial video circulating on social media involving a confrontation between Ms. Maxwell and a protester:

I want to offer my sincerest apology to anyone who was hurt by my behavior in that video.

My behavior was never intended in any way to diminish this important time in the life of our country. Like everyone else, I was horrified by the video of the murder of George Floyd. every man, woman, and child deserves to be treated with dignity, compassion, and equality, regardless of the color of their skin, and every person deserves to live a life free of fear.

What you saw in that video was a captured moment of my anxiety, frustration, and panic for the safety of my family. I am the caretaker for my 18-year-old autistic son and my elderly mother who has COPD and is extremely vulnerable to health complications. I had seen news coverage of the protests turning into riots across the country and was aware that the protest near my home had turned to confrontation the day before. When I heard protesters gathering near my home, loudly chanting profanities, I became overwhelmed with anxiety and fear. I called the police and was told there was nothing they could do. I went out to ask the protesters to move the protest away from my home. This was not shown on the video that was posted. there was a woman who became confrontational and I responded in a inappropriate manner. I never intended to cause fear. i never spoke to or threatened this woman’s daughter. I have never even been in a physical altercation in my life.

I am humiliated by my actions.

I am heartbroken to think that any of my students or their parents might see that video and believe that it is in any way reflective of my values or views regarding race or inclusivity.

My family and my students are my greatest joys in life. I take pride in creating a classroom environment that is welcoming and safe for all my students, regardless of their race. In my twelve years of teaching, I have predominantly taught students of color. I have always been and will continue to be passionately protective of my students’ well-being. I work every day to ensure that my students are afforded every opportunity for success. As teachers, we are not only educators, but also counselors, social workers, guardian, and friends. I take pride in the relationships I have cultivated with my students and their parents. In the future I will continue to support and uplift my students and stand against inequality of all types.
https://www.wjtv.com/news/woman-apologizes-for-moment-of-anxiety-frustration-and-panic-in-outburst-against-black-lives-matter-protester/

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Woman apologizes for moment of 'anxiety, frustration and panic' in outburst (Original Post) tishaLA Jun 2020 OP
Woman "apologizes" for getting caught on cell phone video hatrack Jun 2020 #1
+1. she suffered from FNDS: fox news derangement syndrome. nt Javaman Jun 2020 #13
Exactly JDC Jun 2020 #21
Scampering to keep her job it would appear. n/t CincyDem Jun 2020 #2
Exactly. old guy Jun 2020 #8
I doubt she wrote that herself. Tipperary Jun 2020 #3
They are always so sorry when a video shows up. MrsCoffee Jun 2020 #4
Oh lord she's a teacher MaryMagdaline Jun 2020 #5
worst part of the whole thing. And in Bakersfield tishaLA Jun 2020 #6
Not only a bad choice. As a teacher, she is a role model. no_hypocrisy Jun 2020 #9
My retired teacher husband Ohiogal Jun 2020 #10
She committed a crime, so she should be arrested and prosecuted. Mariana Jun 2020 #7
Since when is saying "I will kill you" mercuryblues Jun 2020 #11
Kinda like the old joke quaint Jun 2020 #12
Is this the one where the husband explained she's sick? soothsayer Jun 2020 #14
this is the one where the husband, shirtless with a beer gut, tishaLA Jun 2020 #15
that was a different one.. stillcool Jun 2020 #16
Was she the one that got dragged away by her husband, kicking and screaming? Crunchy Frog Jun 2020 #17
Yup. The very one. tishaLA Jun 2020 #18
I guess he wasn't as "scared" of a woman and her young child Crunchy Frog Jun 2020 #20
Ny-ope. phylny Jun 2020 #19
Too bad lady Olafjoy Jun 2020 #22
When you apologize with qualifiers (anxiety, frustration, panic, whatever) that's not a real apology Goodheart Jun 2020 #23
So still working for the school district, and needed to hire a lawyer to apologize lunasun Jun 2020 #24
Bullshit apology. dalton99a Jun 2020 #25
She looks like a MAGA type DenverJared Jun 2020 #26
I think a judge should order counseling. Ilsa Jun 2020 #27
Lemme get this straight Ms. Toad Jun 2020 #28

JDC

(10,127 posts)
21. Exactly
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 05:33 PM
Jun 2020

Apology not accepted.

This is the woman who said, "I'll F'in Kill you" to the woman in front of her 8 yo daughter on camera.

I would never let one of my kids attend school where she works.

MrsCoffee

(5,801 posts)
4. They are always so sorry when a video shows up.
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:36 PM
Jun 2020

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

tishaLA

(14,176 posts)
6. worst part of the whole thing. And in Bakersfield
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:37 PM
Jun 2020

she for sure has lots of Latino students in her classes

no_hypocrisy

(46,094 posts)
9. Not only a bad choice. As a teacher, she is a role model.
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:44 PM
Jun 2020

I substitute teach kids pre-school to Grade 9 in a district with majority African-American, Arab, and Hispanic students. You bet I'm careful with every word I speak, especially in situations involving discipline or provocation. I'm working from a presumed white privilege venue and I want the kids to listen to me for my help in education, self-control, and behavior.

I've only "lost it" once in my 40 years of teaching. I screamed at seventh grade boys who were at a private (expensive) school. While the provocateur deserved my unabridged outrage, I'm sorry to this day I lost my composure.

Mariana

(14,856 posts)
7. She committed a crime, so she should be arrested and prosecuted.
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:38 PM
Jun 2020

It's illegal to threaten to kill someone. In most places, it's a felony.

mercuryblues

(14,531 posts)
11. Since when is saying "I will kill you"
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 04:46 PM
Jun 2020

not speaking to or threatening to a person?

No, there is nothing the police can do when a woman and her child is walking down the street peacefully. She sounds more upset that she wasn't granted superior privilege over an African American.

Just by that she has shown that she is the one who can not be trusted in the classroom. I would love to see an audit of who she sends to the office for discipline.

phylny

(8,380 posts)
19. Ny-ope.
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 05:31 PM
Jun 2020

Nope nope nope.

She was so anxious that she said she was going to kill someone, in front of a little girl. If I were anxious about protesters outside of my house, I think that the most rational thing for me to do would be to go to or stay in my house, lock the door, and stay quiet.

Olafjoy

(937 posts)
22. Too bad lady
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 05:43 PM
Jun 2020

You let everyone know who you really are And now you are terrified of losing your job. You are a teacher and you should lose your job and I hope you do!!!
Not forgiven.

Goodheart

(5,321 posts)
23. When you apologize with qualifiers (anxiety, frustration, panic, whatever) that's not a real apology
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 05:56 PM
Jun 2020

How about "I'm sorry. What I did was totally unjustified. I promise to work on myself."

 

DenverJared

(457 posts)
26. She looks like a MAGA type
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 06:31 PM
Jun 2020

The MAGA types have become totally unhinged.

I would not accept her apology and let her fry. There was no reason to have panic, anxiety and frustration from the protests. If she stayed at home, she wouldn't have been bothered.

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
27. I think a judge should order counseling.
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 06:43 PM
Jun 2020

If she's this stressed, then she needs a relief valve, or medication, counseling, etc. Not that I'm excusing her behavior or that she needs a stronger punishment, but counseling is a good start.

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
28. Lemme get this straight
Tue Jun 9, 2020, 06:50 PM
Jun 2020
I am the caretaker for my 18-year-old autistic son and my elderly mother who has COPD and is extremely vulnerable to health complications. I had seen news coverage of the protests turning into riots across the country and was aware that the protest near my home had turned to confrontation the day before. When I heard protesters gathering near my home, loudly chanting profanities, I became overwhelmed with anxiety and fear.


And the best way to protect the two at-risk people you care for from COVID 19 is run out and get in the face of people who potentially have COVID 19?
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