This Is How To Change Someone's Mind: 6 Secrets From Research

[RAB910]

Some interesting tactics discussed that are based on science

But having a reasonable discussion these days seems impossible. The world is so increasingly polarized that “no furniture being broken” passes for a civil conversation. Everyone is so sure they’re right that they end up doing everything wrong.

We need more discussions where no one is demonized, shamed and both sides are open to changing their mind. Not only is it more pleasant, but that harsh stuff doesn’t actually work. It just makes enemies more vicious. Yes, some topics will always be controversial and things won’t always go smoothly, but they don’t have to go badly.

Now it would be great if someone had taken the time to pull all the insights from peer-reviewed research, professional negotiations, cult exiting and applied epistemology into one book… Oh wait, someone has.

Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay have written an excellent book titled How to Have Impossible Conversations. It would definitely make my “Best of 2019” list, right behind David Epstein’s Range. Frankly, this book taught me a great deal about the errors I personally make while verbally beating the hell out of people kindly sharing information. It’s short but packed with useful information and fresh ideas.

First we’re gonna quickly cover a lot of fundamentals so we can get to the cool new toys. This first section is gonna be a bit of lightning round. Some of it may sound obvious but if you neglect it, none of the subsequent ideas will work.

Let’s get to it…

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[no_hypocrisy]

1. 7. Appeal to the mercenary element of the adversary.

Find something in your presentation that would appeal to them or affect them. ("What's in it for me?)

Example: My parents wanted to put me against my will in a private school that was 35 minutes away from our home. Saying I didn't want to go was a losing argument. However, at dinner, I asked my mother if she planned to resign as President of the town's Board of Education. She hadn't considered that sending me out of town to a private school demonstrated lack of endorsement of a school system of which she was not only a trustee but the executive.

The matter of going to the private school was never discussed thereafter.

[RAB910]

2. That is a good number 7

[jeffreyi]

3. Boiling down even more

Ask questions. Then ask more questions.

[Kali]

4. not bad