Lost my mom in 2012

[LuckyCharms]

And I keep thinking that in a sense, I'm glad she is not around to experience all of this bullshit that is happening.

She was 94. She was in a nursing home, and she watched TV there.

If she were still alive, she would be distressed, and she would constantly ask me why all of these things are happening in the US, and why Trump is behaving in the manner that he is.

I have no idea what I would tell her, except to say that he is compromised in some manner, and that is is truly insane.

[unas3]

1. Lost my dad in 2012

Glad he didn't have to experience this shit but I still would want him around.

[LuckyCharms]

2. I'm sorry about your dad, unas3...

and welcome to DU

[FM123]

3. Me too.

Everything you said....

[LuckyCharms]

4. .

[tanyev]

5. Know exactly how you feel.

Lost my mom in 2018. Went through some tough stuff in all of that, but going through it now would be even worse. I assume the nursing home she was in went into lockdown for awhile. Trying to explain to her on the phone why I couldn't drive 5 hours just to wave at her through a window would have been unimaginable.

[LuckyCharms]

9. I'm sorry to hear, tanyev

And I know what you went through.

[ProudMNDemocrat]

6. Lost mine on Jan. 2, 2013...

12 days before her 79th Birthday in January.

She had turned Conservative and was a FOX viewer. Near the end of her life, we often got into arguments because she was my Liberal Lion and rock, who helped me form the Liberal views I still have today. Would she have voted for Trump in 2016 had she lived? Perhaps.

[LuckyCharms]

10. I'm sorry for your loss...

FOX poisoned many good people.

[ProudMNDemocrat]

15. Thank you, Lucky....

When I would go visit her where she lived outside of Reno, I had to walk out of the room when she had FOX on.

I recall an argument we had about the impending 2012 election. She wanted to see a "Black President, but NOT this Black President." I asked her..."What is so bad about this President?" She could not come up with a reasonable answer.
I reminded her that I had seen Barack Obama several times, worked an event where he was the keynote speaker at, hugged by Michelle Obama in 2008, met Joe Biden in 2011 at an event he was a keynote speaker at. She changed the subject.

I still miss her because there has been so much that has happened not related to Politics.

[LuckyCharms]

17. Reminds me of an old neighbor...

Something happened, I forget what it was exactly. My neighbor said "that's what happens when we elect a black president". It was just me and her talking over the fence, and she WHISPERED the word "black".

I just replied "You're not fucking serious, are you"?

We hardly spoke to each other after that.

[Zoonart]

7. I can so relate.

Lost my dad in 2016 and mom in 2017, so glad they did not have to go through this. So grateful that I wa able to take care of the and
visit them to the end. I can't imagine the pain care giving children of elderly parents are going through and non of the even touches of on the horror of knowing what the POS in the white house has done to destroy everything they loved about this country.

[LuckyCharms]

11. I'm sorry, Zoonart

Yes, it's one of the most difficult things to handle. You really have to call up some inner strength, and it would be 100 times worse under these conditions.

[Zoonart]

14. Indeed 100xworse.

Since we are commiserating...what really chaps my ass is that after doing the right thing... spending seven years of my life taking care of my elders... a sacred responsibility for any child.... I have to read this shit about the virus being "boomer remover".
We should all just hurry up and die. What happened. Who raised these sociopaths?

RANT OFF.

[LuckyCharms]

16. Yep, understand completely.

Also, I have not spoken to any of my siblings since my mom died. Not one word.

They lived their lives while she went down hill...I did the right thing and saw my mom through the process. Very hard to forgive something like that. It opens your eyes real quick as to how a lot of people really are...

[Zoonart]

18. You are not kidding LC.

I did eventually patch things up with my brother. We're good now. Life is too short.
Be well Buddy.

[LuckyCharms]

19. You be well also...

I'm glad you patched things up.

If I told you all of the details of what happened during this time, you wouldn't believe it. I'm surprised I survived all of it.

[CentralMass]

8. I lost my mom in 2015 at 94. I know what you are saying.

Athough they lived through a lot in their lives.

[LuckyCharms]

12. I'm sorry for your loss...

My mom was tough as nails, seriously, she was incredible, as I'm sure your mom was. When my mom was dying, I got into a discussion with one of her doctors, and she told me that people who lived through the depression display a toughness that is not usually found.

[CentralMass]

23. My condolences on your loss as well.and yes my mom was tough as nails.

It was a tough few years. Lost my dad in 2013 and my mom and a sister in 2015.

[Raven]

13. Me too. Think about it: those people lived through the Great Depression, 2 World Wars and

countless other wars, assassinations, civil unrest...and I think they thought they had seen everything.

[LuckyCharms]

20. Exactly right. Dad born in 1912...

died when I was young. Both parents told me when I was a kid...always vote Democratic. They are for people like us. Republicans are for money. And this was back when it was not shameful to be a Republican...

[cayugafalls]

21. Sorry for your loss, LuckyCharms.

I lost my mom in 2017, so she got to see trump and his failures. She had cancer and I was her caregiver for 2.5 years 24/7. Losing her was the hardest thing I ever experienced. Nothing I could do but watch her go. We had lots of great talk about politics and we listened to lots of democracy now and other shows. I turned her on to Rachel and MSNBC so that helped her get in the know and gave us talking points. I miss her greatly, more than words can say.

At least she knows that there are people working hard to defeat trump.

I wish you peace.

[LuckyCharms]

24. I'm sorry, cayuga falls

and I wish you peace as well.

[ooky]

22. I often wonder about how my Mom would react to all this. I lost her back

in 2002 to pancreatic cancer at the age of 76. She used to listen to Rush Limbaugh, and was a member of the Republican old folks breakfast club at Hardy's. One day another male member of her breakfast club bought her a gun. She had never had a gun or shot a gun. It fell out of her safe deposit box at her death when we went to close the box out. The gun had never been shot. I have it now and it still has never been shot, because I don't give a damn for guns.

I knew it was nonsense back then, and told her so, but at the time I considered it harmless and just a social identity she needed. So I didn't press the issue, and she was also an incredibly thoughtful and kind person to EVERYONE. She would do stuff like take refreshments to the garbage collectors on hot days.

Fast forward to today and of course this is anything but harmless. It's mean and cruel, not at all like her persona, and I think about how she would react to what the Republican Party has become in the 18 years since her death. I wonder at what point she would have gotten off. I have to believe that if she were still living today that she would have become a "never Trump" Republican and renounced Limbaugh. I just don't see her supporting these monsters.

[LuckyCharms]

25. I'm sorry for your loss, ooky

and thank you for sharing.

[electric_blue68]

26. Condolences to all....

It's usually a difficult thing to go through.


Lost my mom in 2008 at 86 in a unexpected pretty horrible way over a week or so. My dad 2011 at 90 after a series of events that started with his impatience about ?3 years earlier.

My dad's unresolved anger (a often quite difficult childhood), and depression made him often difficult to be with. After his 2nd depression he became often uncaring. When his dementia way later had him forget all that he returned to the usually kind and sweet man he was before. Thanks the powers for that.
He did a lot of community work. He loved science, nature, music, and visiting his sales force around the USA. He was a liberal.

My mom was smart, curious about the whole world, highly visually creative, hated cruelty, was for justice and equality. She was even more liberal!

One of the things I loved about them both that they welcomed my friends of all colors to our home! I could go to theirs as well, no problem.

Had my mom not had this one thing happen to her she might have made to 94. Both our family sides many made it to or past 90!

Mom would have been so horrified, so while I wish I had her longer, best she wasn't around for this!
Dad depending on his state of mind. He might not have cared. But pre depression he'd been pretty horrified, too.

I have my mom's ashes in a heart shaped box on my night stand. Since 1/20/17: I've said "omg, mom, you wouldn't believe what is going on down here!!!!!!".

Sorry to go on.

[LuckyCharms]

27. Thanks for sharing this...

I'm sorry for your losses.