My 95 year old mother succumbed to covid-19 this morning.
Her husband of 71 years is also positive and quarantined.
She died alone and probably terrified for the. Past 7 days
While I am devastated I'm also angry. Angry at those that failed to act in a timely fashion that surely would have saved many lives. And I am especially angry with those who doubt the seriousness of this virus.
For those who say the numbers are inflated... not for me. For those that think old people are expendable, she wasn't for me and the 6 generations she was the matriarch of.. And for those who feel their rights and freedom are compromised by wearing a mask in public, a very special Fuck you.
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so sorry for your loss, especially since we all know it might have been avoided. 
My thoughts are with you, your father, and your whole family.
Prayers for your father and for strength during this terrible time for you.
I hope her husband pulls through this quickly and fully.
All of these needless deaths...just infuriating.
This didn't have to happen.
It's all on Trump.
That's inadequate, I know. This makes me despise the selfish people in this world.
I hope your dad weather's the virus, and the death of his beloved.
My thoughts are with your family in this time.
I think everyone can understand your anger!
May your dear mother rest in peace.
Please take care best you can.
You must be gutted. I completely understand your anger.
and I understand and agree to your anger.
It is unfathomable for someone to live a safe, long life with the decades of experience to pass on to others to be victimized.
The victims of this horrific mismanagement of a terrible disease are lives that can never be replaced. The tragedy is that it should not be like this at all.
I am so very sorry, my deepest condolences. I understand your deep pain and loss and anger. This should not be.
So very sorry for your loss jaysunb. I understand your grief. My 93 year old mother is in an assisted living center here in Albuquerque. Thus far, the facility has been Covid free. I pray that it stays that way. Like your mother, mine means everything to her kids and grand kids. We have google chats every week but that is it. My mom is not computer savvy at all, and is dependent on others to assist her to call us. We are very scared for her. Unfortunately, none of her 3 daughters can visit her as we are all considered "high risk" because of our age. Even if we could, no visitors are allowed into the facility. I share your intense anger at those who failed to act when so many lives could have been saved.
My deepest sympathy
I am so very sorry.
This is devastating! My deepest sympathy to you and your family. May she rest in light.
mother's life was precious and meaningful, and certainly no less so because she was 95. Our elders should be cherished and protected. I am so sorry that her life journey had to end on such a distressing note. My heart goes out to you and your family. Love never dies, and she will always be a part of you. Peace be with you, Jaysunb
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I'm sure the loss is doubled by being unable to be with her. As Joe Biden says--One day you will remember her with smiles, instead of tears.
Get well to her husband, and peace to you.
Deepest sympathy and condolence.
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It's never easy to lose your mother (or father), but in this way....
I'm so sorry.
Your words in the OP are very powerful. I hope when you feel up to it that you will email them to some of the government officials and right wing media people who have blood on their hands.
Know that your anger is shared by many of us. Prayers for your father's recovery are on their way to you. Stay strong and take care of yourself. 
And for your Mom, who was not surrounded by her loving family for the last 7 days of her life. That is the greatest of all sorrows.
Sending you hugs.
May your mom Rest in Peace.
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My sincere condolences.
Hopefully, your Dad will pull through and your family can heal the best you can.
My mom got it while she was in the nursing home. She lived long enough to test negative for it, but it put her into a decline that she did not survive. She also had Alzheimer's Disease. She passed last week.
I'm angry too.
This CV is insidious and it didn’t have to be so bad. I hope you get to see your Dad.
Please be kind to yourself.
Dying alone is the cruelest part of this awful pandemic--for both the people who pass and their loved ones who don't get to say goodbye and who can't help but imagine what their relative was going through.
The people who deny the seriousness of this virus are equal parts selfish and willfully ignorant. I'm angry, too.
It is so hard to lose a parent, and not being able to comfort them or say good-bye, is heart wrenching.
May her soul rest in peace.
No one is expendable. I‘m angry with you and for you. I hope your father recovers. Peace to you and yours.
The loss of a mother is always difficult. I hope your father survives and beats this virus.
We are angry...it did NOT have to be this way.
I hope you take care of yourself. My dad died suddenly a year ago but it feels like yesterday.
and my fury for those responsible.
Sorry for your heartbreaking loss.
my best friend and i (both in our sixties) have talked about the elderly in this time.
i told him i am glad my parents are gone so they do not have to be a part of this bizarre horror happening across the world and especially in this country. he told me he feels the same way about his parents. losing them was hard enough--not able to be with them would have been the absolute cruelest thing; i would have lost my fucking mind.
i am so very sorry for both you and your mom. and for the rest of your family.
for your loss and for the manner in which your Mom passed.
I'm sure that you can see from the number of responses that everyone here shares your grief - and anger. And that we're here for you, we're your family here, too.
My mom passed away in 2001, a lifelong New Yorker. I thank the gods that she never saw her beloved Towers go down.
While you shared only a few details about her, she had a husband 24 years younger than her...that has a story unto itself I am sure.
She was your mom and I am sure this is heartbreaking and devastating- I am so sorry for your loss and that she died alone. I am sure though she knew you loved her.
I hope her husband will be okay and survive his COVID infection. I hope he is being reassured right now because coupled with being sick, he is in mourning like you and the rest of the family and that makes it even harder for him to fight this.
A big hug to you JaysunB
PS: couldn’t agree more with you about all the Maskholes out there....
to you and your entire family!
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