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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy 95 year old mother succumbed to covid-19 this morning.
Her husband of 71 years is also positive and quarantined.
She died alone and probably terrified for the. Past 7 days
While I am devastated I'm also angry. Angry at those that failed to act in a timely fashion that surely would have saved many lives. And I am especially angry with those who doubt the seriousness of this virus.
For those who say the numbers are inflated... not for me. For those that think old people are expendable, she wasn't for me and the 6 generations she was the matriarch of.. And for those who feel their rights and freedom are compromised by wearing a mask in public, a very special Fuck you.
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,483 posts)so sorry for your loss, especially since we all know it might have been avoided.
rusty fender
(3,428 posts)Sherman A1
(38,958 posts)Siwsan
(26,177 posts)I can't even begin to imagine your anger.
mia
(8,356 posts)ismnotwasm
(41,921 posts)50 Shades Of Blue
(9,777 posts)crickets
(25,896 posts)My thoughts are with you, your father, and your whole family.
ProudMNDemocrat
(16,485 posts)Prayers for your father and for strength during this terrible time for you.
Docreed2003
(16,817 posts)I'm so terribly sorry for your loss during this insane time. My heart hurts for you and your family. Your righteous rant should be echoed across this country
MoonRiver
(36,926 posts)no_hypocrisy
(45,774 posts)I'm so sorry for her suffering and yours.
ProfessorGAC
(64,425 posts)71 years, married. Wow!
Lars39
(26,093 posts)All of these needless deaths...just infuriating.
Coventina
(26,874 posts)This didn't have to happen.
It's all on Trump.
certainot
(9,090 posts)told millions wearing masks was for sissies, just a way to attack trump, etc
Nevilledog
(50,687 posts)That's inadequate, I know. This makes me despise the selfish people in this world.
I hope your dad weather's the virus, and the death of his beloved.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,280 posts)CentralMass
(15,265 posts)Phoenix61
(16,954 posts)Stuart G
(38,365 posts)mokawanis
(4,434 posts)bronxiteforever
(9,287 posts)My thoughts are with your family in this time.
herding cats
(19,549 posts)I'll join you in being angry. I'm literally beyond livid at the selfish people refusing to do the right thing! Don't even get me started on our government's leaders playing political games with the public health!
Peace to you and all your family and healing for your father.
highplainsdem
(48,731 posts)death could have been prevented, and when the news every day hits you with examples of the callousness of people who aren't doing enough to help stop this pandemic.
Prayers for you and your family.
TheBlackAdder
(28,076 posts)Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin
(107,111 posts)LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)aikoaiko
(34,127 posts)Peace and love to you and yours.
CountAllVotes
(20,854 posts)I think everyone can understand your anger!
May your dear mother rest in peace.
Please take care best you can.
hlthe2b
(101,730 posts)May your Mother be at peace, aided in passing by the warmest and most caring nurses and staff.
EllieBC
(2,961 posts)Im very sorry for your loss.
ohtransplant
(1,488 posts)Demsrule86
(68,352 posts)Atticus
(15,124 posts)totally agree we with your remarks.
pandr32
(11,447 posts)You must be gutted. I completely understand your anger.
colorado_ufo
(5,717 posts)71 years is a marriage truly blessed.
MLAA
(17,165 posts)I cannot imagine your grief and anger.
FM123
(10,050 posts)Blue_true
(31,261 posts)That you were there and could not be with your Mom in her final moments is horrible. We need to get rid of the monsters that brought that about.
babylonsister
(170,963 posts)sheshe2
(83,355 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,124 posts)and I understand and agree to your anger.
It is unfathomable for someone to live a safe, long life with the decades of experience to pass on to others to be victimized.
The victims of this horrific mismanagement of a terrible disease are lives that can never be replaced. The tragedy is that it should not be like this at all.
I am so very sorry, my deepest condolences. I understand your deep pain and loss and anger. This should not be.
blogslut
(37,955 posts)She deserved better
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)Anger is certainly appropriate.
Moostache
(9,895 posts)No one should ever have to experience that, but for your parents to be parted like that after 71 years of marriage is beyond cruel, I honestly can't think of anything more heinous to be visited on someone in their position. My heart breaks for them even though we never met.
You anger is righteous and should be remembered by all on November 3rd. ANYONE even thinking about skipping the vote needs to hear this and understand that we are being asked to choose whether this is OK and acceptable or beyond the pale and hideous.
I am at the point that I would really like to smack non-mask wearers across their smug little faces with a bat...
barbtries
(28,702 posts)I'm so sorry your mother and your family are living this nightmare.
consider sending this to your local paper.
StevieM
(10,499 posts)Peacetrain
(22,836 posts)Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)So sorry for your loss. Healing vibes to you & yours! 💗💗💗
monmouth4
(9,664 posts)her life. I would love to read about your Mother.
peggysue2
(10,811 posts)And yes for a growing number of Americans, Covid-19 is personal and devastating.
Condolences.
Brogrizzly
(145 posts)calimary
(80,700 posts)I'm so sorry.
I am standing shoulder-to-shoulder with you on the "very special Fuck you" and all those other wrongs that make you justifiably angry. I'm angry not only for you but with you. I'm already angry.
But that anger is one thing that keeps me going, and keeps me fired up.
It's become personal.
jaysunb
(11,856 posts)StarfishSaver
(18,486 posts)alwaysinasnit
(5,038 posts)Desert grandma
(802 posts)So very sorry for your loss jaysunb. I understand your grief. My 93 year old mother is in an assisted living center here in Albuquerque. Thus far, the facility has been Covid free. I pray that it stays that way. Like your mother, mine means everything to her kids and grand kids. We have google chats every week but that is it. My mom is not computer savvy at all, and is dependent on others to assist her to call us. We are very scared for her. Unfortunately, none of her 3 daughters can visit her as we are all considered "high risk" because of our age. Even if we could, no visitors are allowed into the facility. I share your intense anger at those who failed to act when so many lives could have been saved.
malaise
(267,827 posts)My deepest sympathy
Evolve Dammit
(16,632 posts)Vinca
(50,170 posts)must be almost too much to bear.
catbyte
(34,174 posts)And I share your anger.
a la izquierda
(11,784 posts)Im so sorry for your loss.
chia
(2,235 posts)I am so very sorry.
Bettie
(15,998 posts)BComplex
(7,984 posts)sarge43
(28,939 posts)May she rest in light.
MineralMan
(146,192 posts)My mother is 95 years old, and I worry daily about her.
Ms. Toad
(33,915 posts)leftyladyfrommo
(18,816 posts)He was 83. It was awful. No one could visit him. He was in a care home.
LittleGirl
(8,261 posts)So angry too, standing beside you hearing your rage.
Peace to you and hope your father survives.
Cyber hugs xx
Tanuki
(14,893 posts)mother's life was precious and meaningful, and certainly no less so because she was 95. Our elders should be cherished and protected. I am so sorry that her life journey had to end on such a distressing note. My heart goes out to you and your family. Love never dies, and she will always be a part of you. Peace be with you, Jaysunb
❤
Upthevibe
(7,884 posts)..............
tavernier
(12,322 posts)irisblue
(32,829 posts)hamsterjill
(15,214 posts)Please know that I am very sorry for the loss of your mother and that I agree 1000% with your post.
Tears...
MANative
(4,105 posts)Response to jaysunb (Original post)
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Bayard
(21,806 posts)I'm sure the loss is doubled by being unable to be with her. As Joe Biden says--One day you will remember her with smiles, instead of tears.
Get well to her husband, and peace to you.
Backseat Driver
(4,339 posts)karin_sj
(805 posts)I can only imagine your heartbreak, frustration, and anger. I'm taking care of my 91 year old mom and I worry every day about her contracting it, even though I'm being extremely careful. My heart goes out to you.
Glorfindel
(9,706 posts)Deepest sympathy and condolence.
JudyM
(29,122 posts)Heartbreaking. It shouldnt be this way. Wishing you comfort and peace.
Sogo
(4,967 posts)Last edited Wed Jul 22, 2020, 07:39 PM - Edit history (1)
It's never easy to lose your mother (or father), but in this way....
I'm so sorry.
diva77
(7,606 posts)Your words in the OP are very powerful. I hope when you feel up to it that you will email them to some of the government officials and right wing media people who have blood on their hands.
keopeli
(3,461 posts)stillcool
(32,626 posts)ecstatic
(32,567 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)I get your anger. Its justified.
As inadequate as I feel my sentiment is I send you and your family hugs, hoping it makes you a bit stronger.
ananda
(28,783 posts)And I believe those numbers are seriously deflated.
pazzyanne
(6,519 posts)Granny M
(1,395 posts)So tragic that she didn't have her loved ones holding her close in her last days. My heart goes out to you and the family,
All this death from the 'pro life' party. Scum, all of them.
Fla Dem
(23,352 posts)And for your Mom, who was not surrounded by her loving family for the last 7 days of her life. That is the greatest of all sorrows.
mountain grammy
(26,571 posts)gademocrat7
(10,623 posts)Take care.
niyad
(112,435 posts)Pacifist Patriot
(24,647 posts)iluvtennis
(19,758 posts)Sending you hugs.
May your mom Rest in Peace.
dlk
(11,438 posts)Raster
(20,996 posts)...
MFM008
(19,782 posts)certainot
(9,090 posts)denvine
(798 posts)pwb
(11,205 posts)It is so cruel. Peace to you.
budkin
(6,691 posts)May peace find you.
democrank
(11,052 posts)Hope you get strength from all these DU responses. We care.
CaptainTruth
(6,546 posts)misanthrope
(7,405 posts)Sorry for your loss
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)My sincere condolences.
H2O Man
(73,333 posts)I wish that there was something I could say ......but in terrible times and circumstances, I am at a loss for words. You have reason to be both devastated and angry.
LisaM
(27,762 posts)This angers me, too. So much is wrong.
murielm99
(30,657 posts)My dad died at 89, with hospice care at home. We were able to visit him, and say goodbye. He just sort of wore down and died in his sleep.
My mother is 91 now, and still living independently. She is in Wisconsin, where they make stupid decisions. I hope she will not go from covid.
Trump is a monster.
Alacritous Crier
(3,806 posts)brer cat
(24,402 posts)Your anger is righteous and well placed.
I hope your father recovers.
Ohio Joe
(21,656 posts)in2herbs
(2,942 posts)nolabear
(41,915 posts)I dont even know what to say except she clearly knew she was loved for a very, very long time. Love now from me to you and all those who STILL love her.
Maraya1969
(22,441 posts)Wawannabe
(5,580 posts)randr
(12,408 posts)My wife works in an ER and ICU. We have recently grown close to an elder couple, though we are somewhat elder ourselves, who are both positive. He in his 80's has been admitted twice, currently in ICU. His wife is at home in quarantine with a positive tested son living next door at the same time. Nothing we can do but wait it out and hope for the best as I am sure you know about.
We are all in this together and, I fear, we will all suffer the same sorrows before it is over.
Be well and be kind.
Lonestarblue
(9,880 posts)DSandra
(999 posts)First, my deepest condolences for you, I feel so sorry for your loss, I cant imagine how angry and distraught you feel over this.
I feel angry as hell though that this virus is no way to go, it is cruel and unusual punishment to innocent American citizens caught in an unprecedented time of chaos.
Mars and Minerva
(369 posts)Hopefully, your Dad will pull through and your family can heal the best you can.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,129 posts)tazkcmo
(7,286 posts)And a big fuck you to the maskless from me in honor of your mom.
electric_blue68
(14,623 posts)Strength to you, and your dad. Hope he makes it through.
tazmaniac
(114 posts)MissMillie
(38,456 posts)My mom got it while she was in the nursing home. She lived long enough to test negative for it, but it put her into a decline that she did not survive. She also had Alzheimer's Disease. She passed last week.
I'm angry too.
Firestorm49
(4,004 posts)kimbutgar
(20,882 posts)This CV is insidious and it didnt have to be so bad. I hope you get to see your Dad.
redwitch
(14,933 posts)Just so wrong. If only we had a president with a brain and a heart.
Ilsa
(61,675 posts)No one knows you like your mom. And I agree: screw all of those selfish people who can't be bothered to wear a mask.
I hate to be morbid, but I suspect her beloved husband may hasten his own passing. You can literally die from a broken heart.
LAS14
(13,749 posts)Raine
(30,540 posts)Talitha
(6,479 posts)Dan
(3,524 posts)This is breaking my heart.
Take care of you and your family.
easttexaslefty
(1,554 posts)Solly Mack
(90,740 posts)N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,593 posts)Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)It didnt have to be this way.
Cherish your memories and know shell forever be in your ❤️.
dawn5651
(601 posts)cp
(6,543 posts)Please be kind to yourself.
femmedem
(8,188 posts)Dying alone is the cruelest part of this awful pandemic--for both the people who pass and their loved ones who don't get to say goodbye and who can't help but imagine what their relative was going through.
The people who deny the seriousness of this virus are equal parts selfish and willfully ignorant. I'm angry, too.
appalachiablue
(41,055 posts)a special and loving matriarch of our group. I miss her greatly every day.
Shame on the vile, unscrupulous elements responsible for this catastrophy. The country is a wreck.
cate94
(2,797 posts)It is so hard to lose a parent, and not being able to comfort them or say good-bye, is heart wrenching.
Cousin Dupree
(1,866 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)May her soul rest in peace.
orangecrush
(19,237 posts)MontanaMama
(23,242 posts)No one is expendable. Im angry with you and for you. I hope your father recovers. Peace to you and yours.
liberalla
(9,166 posts)The loss of a mother is always difficult. I hope your father survives and beats this virus.
Nululu
(833 posts)Stinky The Clown
(67,697 posts)I am sure there are many.
BigmanPigman
(51,432 posts)We are angry...it did NOT have to be this way.
I hope you take care of yourself. My dad died suddenly a year ago but it feels like yesterday.
oasis
(49,152 posts)warmfeet
(3,321 posts)and my fury for those responsible.
PlanetBev
(4,098 posts)Soph0571
(9,685 posts)UpInArms
(51,253 posts)Awsi Dooger
(14,565 posts)Moms are incredible. I miss my mom and think about her every day
vercetti2021
(10,150 posts)Fuck Trump for all this
Cha
(295,929 posts)Sorry for your heartbreaking loss.
jaysunb
(11,856 posts)orleans
(33,987 posts)my best friend and i (both in our sixties) have talked about the elderly in this time.
i told him i am glad my parents are gone so they do not have to be a part of this bizarre horror happening across the world and especially in this country. he told me he feels the same way about his parents. losing them was hard enough--not able to be with them would have been the absolute cruelest thing; i would have lost my fucking mind.
i am so very sorry for both you and your mom. and for the rest of your family.
Marthe48
(16,692 posts)Heart-breaking
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,847 posts)mzmolly
(50,957 posts)for your loss and for the manner in which your Mom passed.
seta1950
(932 posts)Losing ones mom is terrible to begin with, but to happen this way, is pretty awful,my deepest condolences.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,563 posts)Dark n Stormy Knight
(9,760 posts)SunSeeker
(51,378 posts)Let me add another big Fuck You to anti-maskers.
Rhiannon12866
(203,037 posts)I'm sure that you can see from the number of responses that everyone here shares your grief - and anger. And that we're here for you, we're your family here, too.
marlakay
(11,370 posts)Sending you a hug.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)My mom passed away in 2001, a lifelong New Yorker. I thank the gods that she never saw her beloved Towers go down.
Pachamama
(16,875 posts)While you shared only a few details about her, she had a husband 24 years younger than her...that has a story unto itself I am sure.
She was your mom and I am sure this is heartbreaking and devastating- I am so sorry for your loss and that she died alone. I am sure though she knew you loved her.
I hope her husband will be okay and survive his COVID infection. I hope he is being reassured right now because coupled with being sick, he is in mourning like you and the rest of the family and that makes it even harder for him to fight this.
A big hug to you JaysunB
PS: couldnt agree more with you about all the Maskholes out there....
jaysunb
(11,856 posts)GeoWilliam750
(2,519 posts)Trueblue Texan
(2,372 posts)Sending positive thoughts for healing for your mom's husband.
yardwork
(61,418 posts)polmaven
(9,463 posts)to you and your entire family!
Snackshack
(2,540 posts)I have lost friends to this and the isolation aspect of this virus is especially infuriating and horrible.
I agree with you 100%. There will always be a special Fuck You to all who thought this virus was no big deal, delayed the response, think its a hoax etc. i will never forgive those people.
ornotna
(10,763 posts)MomInTheCrowd
(262 posts)Shanti Mama
(1,288 posts)I, too, lost an older relative. It doesn't make it easier, just because they're old. I'm old! Sure, it's not a life cut short, but still a life ended through dereliction.
PA Democrat
(13,225 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss and please know there are many of us who share in your anger.
I'm so sick of these fragile little assholes who refuse to wear a mask, who just refuse to limit or delay their social interactions to protect others .