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jaysunb

(11,856 posts)
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:42 PM Jul 2020

My 95 year old mother succumbed to covid-19 this morning.

Her husband of 71 years is also positive and quarantined.
She died alone and probably terrified for the. Past 7 days
While I am devastated I'm also angry. Angry at those that failed to act in a timely fashion that surely would have saved many lives. And I am especially angry with those who doubt the seriousness of this virus.
For those who say the numbers are inflated... not for me. For those that think old people are expendable, she wasn't for me and the 6 generations she was the matriarch of.. And for those who feel their rights and freedom are compromised by wearing a mask in public, a very special Fuck you.

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My 95 year old mother succumbed to covid-19 this morning. (Original Post) jaysunb Jul 2020 OP
I am so sorry... DonaldsRump Jul 2020 #1
. Guy Whitey Corngood Jul 2020 #2
I'm Faux pas Jul 2020 #3
Condolences rusty fender Jul 2020 #4
My condolences. Sherman A1 Jul 2020 #5
My heart and comfort go out to you Siwsan Jul 2020 #6
I'm so sorry for your loss mia Jul 2020 #7
K&R ismnotwasm Jul 2020 #8
Deepest sympathies to you and your family. 50 Shades Of Blue Jul 2020 #9
I am so very sorry. crickets Jul 2020 #10
I am sorry for your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Jul 2020 #11
My sincerest condolences jay Docreed2003 Jul 2020 #12
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hope your father makes it. MoonRiver Jul 2020 #13
Sincere condolences. no_hypocrisy Jul 2020 #14
Condolences! ProfessorGAC Jul 2020 #15
Oh, jaysunb, I am so sorry for your loss. Lars39 Jul 2020 #16
I am so sorry. I do not blame you for being angry. Coventina Jul 2020 #17
it's also on your local rw radio station - they all helped him deny it, call it a hoax, and certainot Jul 2020 #105
I'm so mad and sad for you. Nevilledog Jul 2020 #18
I'm so sorry! The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2020 #19
My condolences. Is all I can say is the fond memories help you get through it. CentralMass Jul 2020 #20
I'm so sorry. nt Phoenix61 Jul 2020 #21
I am sorry for your loss. Stuart G Jul 2020 #22
My condolences mokawanis Jul 2020 #23
I am so sorry. bronxiteforever Jul 2020 #24
I am so very sorry for your loss. herding cats Jul 2020 #25
I'm so sorry, Jason. It's always heartbreaking to lose a parent, but even worse when the highplainsdem Jul 2020 #26
That's just tragic. I'm so sorry this is happening. TheBlackAdder Jul 2020 #27
I'm so sorry Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Jul 2020 #28
I am so sorry for your loss. LiberalLoner Jul 2020 #29
I'm so sorry for your pain and grief. Your anger is righteous. aikoaiko Jul 2020 #30
I am so sorry to read this CountAllVotes Jul 2020 #31
I am very very very sorry for you and your Father. hlthe2b Jul 2020 #32
May her memory be a blessing. EllieBC Jul 2020 #33
Condolences... ohtransplant Jul 2020 #34
So sad...so so sorry. Demsrule86 Jul 2020 #35
Reading your OP made my heart hurt. I am sincerely sorry for your loss and I Atticus Jul 2020 #36
I am so sorry pandr32 Jul 2020 #37
Deepest condolences to you and your father. colorado_ufo Jul 2020 #38
I am sending you and your family💕💕💕 MLAA Jul 2020 #39
I am so very sorry dear jaysunb. FM123 Jul 2020 #40
My sympathy. I wasn't in my hometown when either of my parents passed. Blue_true Jul 2020 #41
So very sorry to read this. Sincere condolences. babylonsister Jul 2020 #42
I am so very sorry for your loss, jaysunb. sheshe2 Jul 2020 #43
I am so sorry for your great loss, peacebuzzard Jul 2020 #44
I am so sorry blogslut Jul 2020 #45
I'm sorry, Jaysunb. If only they could at least have been together. Hortensis Jul 2020 #46
I am sorry for your family's loss. Moostache Jul 2020 #47
well put. barbtries Jul 2020 #48
My deepest condolences for your loss. (eom) StevieM Jul 2020 #49
I am so sorry.. Peacetrain Jul 2020 #50
Hugs to you. Totally Tunsie Jul 2020 #51
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Jul 2020 #52
My heart breaks for you. Deepest condolences. When you feel better you might write about monmouth4 Jul 2020 #53
Sorry to hear/read this news peggysue2 Jul 2020 #54
I hope your love and memories of her overcome the sorrow and pain, wishing you healing. /nt Brogrizzly Jul 2020 #55
Awwwwww, jaysunb, I'm so sorry... calimary Jul 2020 #56
Indeed n/t jaysunb Jul 2020 #111
I am so, so sorry. StarfishSaver Jul 2020 #57
... alwaysinasnit Jul 2020 #58
This is heartbreaking news. Desert grandma Jul 2020 #59
How sad - losing a mom is so hard malaise Jul 2020 #60
I am so sorry for your loss. I also agree 100% with your sentiment. Evolve Dammit Jul 2020 #61
My condolences. It's sad whenever a loved one dies, but to know they died alone Vinca Jul 2020 #62
I'm so very sorry. catbyte Jul 2020 #63
My heartfelt condolences. a la izquierda Jul 2020 #64
My heart goes out to you... you lost your mom, and lost your last moments with her chia Jul 2020 #65
I'm sorry for your loss Bettie Jul 2020 #66
Oh, Jaysunb! I am so sorry! BComplex Jul 2020 #67
My condolences, jaysunb sarge43 Jul 2020 #68
I'm so sorry to read that. MineralMan Jul 2020 #69
sorry for your loss. n/t Ms. Toad Jul 2020 #70
Happened to a friend if mine's husband, too. leftyladyfrommo Jul 2020 #71
I'm so sorry and I'm LittleGirl Jul 2020 #72
I support and amplify every word you wrote. Every moment of your Tanuki Jul 2020 #73
I'm so sorry.... Upthevibe Jul 2020 #74
Your last sentence says it all. tavernier Jul 2020 #75
🕯️ a light unto generations. I am so sorry for your loss irisblue Jul 2020 #76
I have no words worthy for the pain you are suffering hamsterjill Jul 2020 #77
So very sorry for your loss MANative Jul 2020 #78
Post removed Post removed Jul 2020 #79
So sorry, Jaysunb Bayard Jul 2020 #80
I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss! n/t Backseat Driver Jul 2020 #81
This is horrible. I am so sorry. karin_sj Jul 2020 #82
Very sorry, jaysunb. Glorfindel Jul 2020 #83
So sorry, jaysunb. JudyM Jul 2020 #84
I got tears reading your post.... Sogo Jul 2020 #85
so very very sorry jaysunb diva77 Jul 2020 #86
My deepest condolences and well wishes for your father's health. keopeli Jul 2020 #87
so sorry for your loss.. stillcool Jul 2020 #88
Sorry for your loss ecstatic Jul 2020 #89
This is so damn heartbreaking lunatica Jul 2020 #90
I hear you! ananda Jul 2020 #91
Sincere condolences to you and your family. pazzyanne Jul 2020 #92
My deepest sympathies, jaysunb. Granny M Jul 2020 #93
My heart aches for you and your family. Fla Dem Jul 2020 #94
I'm so sorry mountain grammy Jul 2020 #95
Condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. gademocrat7 Jul 2020 #96
My deepest condolences, ja. Vibes for healing and comfort and peace for you and your family. niyad Jul 2020 #97
My condolences. Pacifist Patriot Jul 2020 #98
My heart goes out to you and your family jaysunb. I'm so sorry your mom had to be alone. iluvtennis Jul 2020 #99
I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother dlk Jul 2020 #100
I am so sorry for your loss... Raster Jul 2020 #101
So sorry💜 MFM008 Jul 2020 #102
sorry certainot Jul 2020 #103
I'm so sorry! denvine Jul 2020 #104
So sorry. This virus came from Satan himself. pwb Jul 2020 #106
I'm so sorry for your loss budkin Jul 2020 #107
So sorry, jaysunb democrank Jul 2020 #108
I am so sorry... CaptainTruth Jul 2020 #109
Condolences misanthrope Jul 2020 #110
I am so sorry for your loss, jaysunb. smirkymonkey Jul 2020 #112
I'm very sorry to hear this. H2O Man Jul 2020 #113
A 95-year old matriarch should die peacefully in the bosom of her family. LisaM Jul 2020 #114
Exactly what I would have said. murielm99 Jul 2020 #119
I'm so sorry for your loss. Alacritous Crier Jul 2020 #115
I'm so sorry for your loss. brer cat Jul 2020 #116
My condolences Ohio Joe Jul 2020 #117
So sorry for your loss. nt in2herbs Jul 2020 #118
Oh I am so sorry. She deserved so much better. nolabear Jul 2020 #120
I am so sorry for you loss. I wish you peace that passes understanding right now. Maraya1969 Jul 2020 #121
Grace and peace to you Wawannabe Jul 2020 #122
My condolences go out to you randr Jul 2020 #123
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Lonestarblue Jul 2020 #124
How dare Trump and the Republicans try to normalize this virus DSandra Jul 2020 #125
I'm so sorry. Mars and Minerva Jul 2020 #126
So sorry. SammyWinstonJack Jul 2020 #127
Very sorry for your loss. tazkcmo Jul 2020 #128
Every death is a world to someone(s). So sorry. electric_blue68 Jul 2020 #129
I'm so sorry and so angry along with you!! tazmaniac Jul 2020 #130
I am so very, very sorry for your loss MissMillie Jul 2020 #131
Very sorry for your loss. Firestorm49 Jul 2020 #132
I'm so sorry you didn't get to be with her and say goodbye kimbutgar Jul 2020 #133
I am so sorry. redwitch Jul 2020 #134
I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Ilsa Jul 2020 #135
+1 n/t jaysunb Jul 2020 #158
And angry at the inability to let family visit. If we had way more PPE, surely this could be done?? LAS14 Jul 2020 #136
I'm very sorry. nt Raine Jul 2020 #137
So, so sorry... Talitha Jul 2020 #138
I don't know you or your family, but Dan Jul 2020 #139
I'm so sorry easttexaslefty Jul 2020 #140
I'm sorry. So sorry. Solly Mack Jul 2020 #141
... N_E_1 for Tennis Jul 2020 #142
So sorry and angry right along with you.... Heartstrings Jul 2020 #143
my deepest condolences to you for the loss of your mom. dawn5651 Jul 2020 #144
We're with you in sorrow and anger cp Jul 2020 #145
I'm so sorry, for you and for her last days. femmedem Jul 2020 #146
Sincere condolences from one who shares treasuring a mother, appalachiablue Jul 2020 #147
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Jul 2020 #148
So sorry for your loss Cousin Dupree Jul 2020 #149
Very sorry to hear this jaysunb ucrdem Jul 2020 #150
No words. orangecrush Jul 2020 #151
Please accept my deep condolences for the loss of your mom. MontanaMama Jul 2020 #152
I'm so sorry for your loss, especially under these maddening circumstances. liberalla Jul 2020 #153
I am so sorry for your loss nt Nululu Jul 2020 #154
Sincere condolences to you and all who loved her. Stinky The Clown Jul 2020 #155
You have 100% tight to be angry. BigmanPigman Jul 2020 #156
My sincere condolences to you and family. oasis Jul 2020 #157
My condolences, warmfeet Jul 2020 #159
My deepest sympathies, Jaysun PlanetBev Jul 2020 #160
My deepest condolences for your loss Soph0571 Jul 2020 #161
I am so sorry UpInArms Jul 2020 #162
So very sorry for your loss Awsi Dooger Jul 2020 #163
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Jul 2020 #164
Jay, I'm so Cha Jul 2020 #165
Thanks Cha nt jaysunb Jul 2020 #167
so heartbreaking -- and infuriating orleans Jul 2020 #166
Offering sympathy to you and your loved ones for your loss. Marthe48 Jul 2020 #168
So sorry for your loss. nt Buckeye_Democrat Jul 2020 #169
I'm so very sorry mzmolly Jul 2020 #170
I'm so so sorry seta1950 Jul 2020 #171
I'm so sorry for your loss jaysunb MustLoveBeagles Jul 2020 #172
So very sad. Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 2020 #173
I'm so sorry about your mom. SunSeeker Jul 2020 #174
I am so sorry. Rhiannon12866 Jul 2020 #175
So sorry this happened to you and your family marlakay Jul 2020 #176
My sincerest condolences, I hope you have many wonderful memories of your beloved mom. secondwind Jul 2020 #177
Your mother sounds like she was quite the woman - so sorry for your loss Pachamama Jul 2020 #178
They were married 71 years. He is 94. Nt jaysunb Jul 2020 #185
Deepest sympathy GeoWilliam750 Jul 2020 #179
I'm very sorry... Trueblue Texan Jul 2020 #180
I'm very sorry for your loss, and for the circumstances. yardwork Jul 2020 #181
Deepest condolences polmaven Jul 2020 #182
I am so sorry for your loss. Snackshack Jul 2020 #183
My deepest sympathies ornotna Jul 2020 #184
So sorry 😞 MomInTheCrowd Jul 2020 #186
Oh, I'm so sorry for this. Shanti Mama Jul 2020 #187
I wish there were words that could offer some degree of comfort. PA Democrat Jul 2020 #188

Docreed2003

(16,817 posts)
12. My sincerest condolences jay
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:46 PM
Jul 2020

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss during this insane time. My heart hurts for you and your family. Your righteous rant should be echoed across this country

Lars39

(26,093 posts)
16. Oh, jaysunb, I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:47 PM
Jul 2020
I hope her husband pulls through this quickly and fully.
All of these needless deaths...just infuriating.
 

certainot

(9,090 posts)
105. it's also on your local rw radio station - they all helped him deny it, call it a hoax, and
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:34 PM
Jul 2020

told millions wearing masks was for sissies, just a way to attack trump, etc

Nevilledog

(50,687 posts)
18. I'm so mad and sad for you.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:47 PM
Jul 2020

That's inadequate, I know. This makes me despise the selfish people in this world.
I hope your dad weather's the virus, and the death of his beloved.

herding cats

(19,549 posts)
25. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:53 PM
Jul 2020

I'll join you in being angry. I'm literally beyond livid at the selfish people refusing to do the right thing! Don't even get me started on our government's leaders playing political games with the public health!

Peace to you and all your family and healing for your father.

highplainsdem

(48,731 posts)
26. I'm so sorry, Jason. It's always heartbreaking to lose a parent, but even worse when the
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:53 PM
Jul 2020

death could have been prevented, and when the news every day hits you with examples of the callousness of people who aren't doing enough to help stop this pandemic.

Prayers for you and your family.

CountAllVotes

(20,854 posts)
31. I am so sorry to read this
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:56 PM
Jul 2020

I think everyone can understand your anger!

May your dear mother rest in peace.

Please take care best you can.

hlthe2b

(101,730 posts)
32. I am very very very sorry for you and your Father.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 12:57 PM
Jul 2020

May your Mother be at peace, aided in passing by the warmest and most caring nurses and staff.

Atticus

(15,124 posts)
36. Reading your OP made my heart hurt. I am sincerely sorry for your loss and I
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:00 PM
Jul 2020

totally agree we with your remarks.

Blue_true

(31,261 posts)
41. My sympathy. I wasn't in my hometown when either of my parents passed.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:05 PM
Jul 2020

That you were there and could not be with your Mom in her final moments is horrible. We need to get rid of the monsters that brought that about.

peacebuzzard

(5,124 posts)
44. I am so sorry for your great loss,
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:09 PM
Jul 2020

and I understand and agree to your anger.
It is unfathomable for someone to live a safe, long life with the decades of experience to pass on to others to be victimized.
The victims of this horrific mismanagement of a terrible disease are lives that can never be replaced. The tragedy is that it should not be like this at all.

I am so very sorry, my deepest condolences. I understand your deep pain and loss and anger. This should not be.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
47. I am sorry for your family's loss.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:12 PM
Jul 2020

No one should ever have to experience that, but for your parents to be parted like that after 71 years of marriage is beyond cruel, I honestly can't think of anything more heinous to be visited on someone in their position. My heart breaks for them even though we never met.

You anger is righteous and should be remembered by all on November 3rd. ANYONE even thinking about skipping the vote needs to hear this and understand that we are being asked to choose whether this is OK and acceptable or beyond the pale and hideous.

I am at the point that I would really like to smack non-mask wearers across their smug little faces with a bat...

barbtries

(28,702 posts)
48. well put.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:15 PM
Jul 2020

I'm so sorry your mother and your family are living this nightmare.

consider sending this to your local paper.

monmouth4

(9,664 posts)
53. My heart breaks for you. Deepest condolences. When you feel better you might write about
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:20 PM
Jul 2020

her life. I would love to read about your Mother.

peggysue2

(10,811 posts)
54. Sorry to hear/read this news
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:21 PM
Jul 2020

And yes for a growing number of Americans, Covid-19 is personal and devastating.

Condolences.

calimary

(80,700 posts)
56. Awwwwww, jaysunb, I'm so sorry...
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:27 PM
Jul 2020

I'm so sorry.

I am standing shoulder-to-shoulder with you on the "very special Fuck you" and all those other wrongs that make you justifiably angry. I'm angry not only for you but with you. I'm already angry.

But that anger is one thing that keeps me going, and keeps me fired up.

It's become personal.

Desert grandma

(802 posts)
59. This is heartbreaking news.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:28 PM
Jul 2020

So very sorry for your loss jaysunb. I understand your grief. My 93 year old mother is in an assisted living center here in Albuquerque. Thus far, the facility has been Covid free. I pray that it stays that way. Like your mother, mine means everything to her kids and grand kids. We have google chats every week but that is it. My mom is not computer savvy at all, and is dependent on others to assist her to call us. We are very scared for her. Unfortunately, none of her 3 daughters can visit her as we are all considered "high risk" because of our age. Even if we could, no visitors are allowed into the facility. I share your intense anger at those who failed to act when so many lives could have been saved.

Vinca

(50,170 posts)
62. My condolences. It's sad whenever a loved one dies, but to know they died alone
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:32 PM
Jul 2020

must be almost too much to bear.

chia

(2,235 posts)
65. My heart goes out to you... you lost your mom, and lost your last moments with her
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:35 PM
Jul 2020

I am so very sorry.

leftyladyfrommo

(18,816 posts)
71. Happened to a friend if mine's husband, too.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:42 PM
Jul 2020

He was 83. It was awful. No one could visit him. He was in a care home.

LittleGirl

(8,261 posts)
72. I'm so sorry and I'm
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:43 PM
Jul 2020

So angry too, standing beside you hearing your rage.
Peace to you and hope your father survives.
Cyber hugs xx

Tanuki

(14,893 posts)
73. I support and amplify every word you wrote. Every moment of your
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:44 PM
Jul 2020

mother's life was precious and meaningful, and certainly no less so because she was 95. Our elders should be cherished and protected. I am so sorry that her life journey had to end on such a distressing note. My heart goes out to you and your family. Love never dies, and she will always be a part of you. Peace be with you, Jaysunb

hamsterjill

(15,214 posts)
77. I have no words worthy for the pain you are suffering
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:47 PM
Jul 2020

Please know that I am very sorry for the loss of your mother and that I agree 1000% with your post.

Tears...

Response to jaysunb (Original post)

Bayard

(21,806 posts)
80. So sorry, Jaysunb
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:47 PM
Jul 2020

I'm sure the loss is doubled by being unable to be with her. As Joe Biden says--One day you will remember her with smiles, instead of tears.

Get well to her husband, and peace to you.

karin_sj

(805 posts)
82. This is horrible. I am so sorry.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 01:52 PM
Jul 2020

I can only imagine your heartbreak, frustration, and anger. I'm taking care of my 91 year old mom and I worry every day about her contracting it, even though I'm being extremely careful. My heart goes out to you.

Sogo

(4,967 posts)
85. I got tears reading your post....
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:02 PM
Jul 2020

Last edited Wed Jul 22, 2020, 07:39 PM - Edit history (1)

It's never easy to lose your mother (or father), but in this way....

I'm so sorry.

diva77

(7,606 posts)
86. so very very sorry jaysunb
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:03 PM
Jul 2020




Your words in the OP are very powerful. I hope when you feel up to it that you will email them to some of the government officials and right wing media people who have blood on their hands.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
90. This is so damn heartbreaking
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:12 PM
Jul 2020

I get your anger. It’s justified.

As inadequate as I feel my sentiment is I send you and your family hugs, hoping it makes you a bit stronger.

pazzyanne

(6,519 posts)
92. Sincere condolences to you and your family.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:16 PM
Jul 2020
Know that your anger is shared by many of us. Prayers for your father's recovery are on their way to you. Stay strong and take care of yourself.

Granny M

(1,395 posts)
93. My deepest sympathies, jaysunb.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:17 PM
Jul 2020

So tragic that she didn't have her loved ones holding her close in her last days. My heart goes out to you and the family,

All this death from the 'pro life' party. Scum, all of them.

Fla Dem

(23,352 posts)
94. My heart aches for you and your family.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:20 PM
Jul 2020

And for your Mom, who was not surrounded by her loving family for the last 7 days of her life. That is the greatest of all sorrows.

iluvtennis

(19,758 posts)
99. My heart goes out to you and your family jaysunb. I'm so sorry your mom had to be alone.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:26 PM
Jul 2020

Sending you hugs.

May your mom Rest in Peace.

H2O Man

(73,333 posts)
113. I'm very sorry to hear this.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 02:58 PM
Jul 2020

I wish that there was something I could say ......but in terrible times and circumstances, I am at a loss for words. You have reason to be both devastated and angry.

LisaM

(27,762 posts)
114. A 95-year old matriarch should die peacefully in the bosom of her family.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:03 PM
Jul 2020

This angers me, too. So much is wrong.

murielm99

(30,657 posts)
119. Exactly what I would have said.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:16 PM
Jul 2020

My dad died at 89, with hospice care at home. We were able to visit him, and say goodbye. He just sort of wore down and died in his sleep.

My mother is 91 now, and still living independently. She is in Wisconsin, where they make stupid decisions. I hope she will not go from covid.

Trump is a monster.

nolabear

(41,915 posts)
120. Oh I am so sorry. She deserved so much better.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:17 PM
Jul 2020

I don’t even know what to say except she clearly knew she was loved for a very, very long time. Love now from me to you and all those who STILL love her.

randr

(12,408 posts)
123. My condolences go out to you
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:21 PM
Jul 2020

My wife works in an ER and ICU. We have recently grown close to an elder couple, though we are somewhat elder ourselves, who are both positive. He in his 80's has been admitted twice, currently in ICU. His wife is at home in quarantine with a positive tested son living next door at the same time. Nothing we can do but wait it out and hope for the best as I am sure you know about.
We are all in this together and, I fear, we will all suffer the same sorrows before it is over.
Be well and be kind.

DSandra

(999 posts)
125. How dare Trump and the Republicans try to normalize this virus
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:29 PM
Jul 2020

First, my deepest condolences for you, I feel so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine how angry and distraught you feel over this.

I feel angry as hell though that this virus is no way to go, it is cruel and unusual punishment to innocent American citizens caught in an unprecedented time of chaos.

electric_blue68

(14,623 posts)
129. Every death is a world to someone(s). So sorry.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:43 PM
Jul 2020

Strength to you, and your dad. Hope he makes it through.

MissMillie

(38,456 posts)
131. I am so very, very sorry for your loss
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 03:49 PM
Jul 2020

My mom got it while she was in the nursing home. She lived long enough to test negative for it, but it put her into a decline that she did not survive. She also had Alzheimer's Disease. She passed last week.

I'm angry too.

kimbutgar

(20,882 posts)
133. I'm so sorry you didn't get to be with her and say goodbye
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 04:24 PM
Jul 2020

This CV is insidious and it didn’t have to be so bad. I hope you get to see your Dad.

Ilsa

(61,675 posts)
135. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 04:30 PM
Jul 2020

No one knows you like your mom. And I agree: screw all of those selfish people who can't be bothered to wear a mask.

I hate to be morbid, but I suspect her beloved husband may hasten his own passing. You can literally die from a broken heart.

LAS14

(13,749 posts)
136. And angry at the inability to let family visit. If we had way more PPE, surely this could be done??
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 04:30 PM
Jul 2020

Dan

(3,524 posts)
139. I don't know you or your family, but
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 05:13 PM
Jul 2020

This is breaking my heart.

Take care of you and your family.

Heartstrings

(7,349 posts)
143. So sorry and angry right along with you....
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 05:24 PM
Jul 2020

It didn’t have to be this way.

Cherish your memories and know she’ll forever be in your ❤️.

femmedem

(8,188 posts)
146. I'm so sorry, for you and for her last days.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 05:35 PM
Jul 2020

Dying alone is the cruelest part of this awful pandemic--for both the people who pass and their loved ones who don't get to say goodbye and who can't help but imagine what their relative was going through.

The people who deny the seriousness of this virus are equal parts selfish and willfully ignorant. I'm angry, too.

appalachiablue

(41,055 posts)
147. Sincere condolences from one who shares treasuring a mother,
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 05:46 PM
Jul 2020

a special and loving matriarch of our group. I miss her greatly every day.

Shame on the vile, unscrupulous elements responsible for this catastrophy. The country is a wreck.

cate94

(2,797 posts)
148. I'm so very sorry.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 05:48 PM
Jul 2020

It is so hard to lose a parent, and not being able to comfort them or say good-bye, is heart wrenching.

MontanaMama

(23,242 posts)
152. Please accept my deep condolences for the loss of your mom.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 06:53 PM
Jul 2020

No one is expendable. I‘m angry with you and for you. I hope your father recovers. Peace to you and yours.

liberalla

(9,166 posts)
153. I'm so sorry for your loss, especially under these maddening circumstances.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 06:55 PM
Jul 2020

The loss of a mother is always difficult. I hope your father survives and beats this virus.



BigmanPigman

(51,432 posts)
156. You have 100% tight to be angry.
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 07:24 PM
Jul 2020

We are angry...it did NOT have to be this way.

I hope you take care of yourself. My dad died suddenly a year ago but it feels like yesterday.

orleans

(33,987 posts)
166. so heartbreaking -- and infuriating
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 09:17 PM
Jul 2020

my best friend and i (both in our sixties) have talked about the elderly in this time.
i told him i am glad my parents are gone so they do not have to be a part of this bizarre horror happening across the world and especially in this country. he told me he feels the same way about his parents. losing them was hard enough--not able to be with them would have been the absolute cruelest thing; i would have lost my fucking mind.

i am so very sorry for both you and your mom. and for the rest of your family.

seta1950

(932 posts)
171. I'm so so sorry
Wed Jul 22, 2020, 11:55 PM
Jul 2020

Losing one’s mom is terrible to begin with, but to happen this way, is pretty awful,my deepest condolences.

Rhiannon12866

(203,037 posts)
175. I am so sorry.
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 02:40 AM
Jul 2020

I'm sure that you can see from the number of responses that everyone here shares your grief - and anger. And that we're here for you, we're your family here, too.

secondwind

(16,903 posts)
177. My sincerest condolences, I hope you have many wonderful memories of your beloved mom.
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 03:29 AM
Jul 2020

My mom passed away in 2001, a lifelong New Yorker. I thank the gods that she never saw her beloved Towers go down.


Pachamama

(16,875 posts)
178. Your mother sounds like she was quite the woman - so sorry for your loss
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 03:29 AM
Jul 2020

While you shared only a few details about her, she had a husband 24 years younger than her...that has a story unto itself I am sure.

She was your mom and I am sure this is heartbreaking and devastating- I am so sorry for your loss and that she died alone. I am sure though she knew you loved her.

I hope her husband will be okay and survive his COVID infection. I hope he is being reassured right now because coupled with being sick, he is in mourning like you and the rest of the family and that makes it even harder for him to fight this.

A big hug to you JaysunB



PS: couldn’t agree more with you about all the Maskholes out there....

Snackshack

(2,540 posts)
183. I am so sorry for your loss.
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 09:30 AM
Jul 2020

I have lost friends to this and the isolation aspect of this virus is especially infuriating and horrible.

I agree with you 100%. There will always be a special Fuck You to all who thought this virus was no big deal, delayed the response, think it’s a hoax etc. i will never forgive those people.

Shanti Mama

(1,288 posts)
187. Oh, I'm so sorry for this.
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 11:26 AM
Jul 2020

I, too, lost an older relative. It doesn't make it easier, just because they're old. I'm old! Sure, it's not a life cut short, but still a life ended through dereliction.

PA Democrat

(13,225 posts)
188. I wish there were words that could offer some degree of comfort.
Thu Jul 23, 2020, 11:33 AM
Jul 2020

I'm so sorry for your loss and please know there are many of us who share in your anger.

I'm so sick of these fragile little assholes who refuse to wear a mask, who just refuse to limit or delay their social interactions to protect others .

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