My sister with colon cancer (on hospice) took a turn for the worse today.

[demtenjeep]

I drove down and just laid in bed with her. And just talked. and let her talk and talk when she could . She was sucking down the morphine and taking Dilaud like crazy. The Hospice nurse came and cathed her because she wasn't outputting. .I think it scared her greatly. She wasn't expecting things to be this fast. She has lost 100 lbs.

[tblue37]

1. I am so sorry. My heart hurts for you and your sister. nt

[sheshe2]

2. I am so sorry, demtenjeep.

[hlthe2b]

3. I don't know anything that can make this better for either of you, but I'm glad you can be with her.

I'll be thinking of you.

[mcar]

4. I am so sorry, demtenjeep

Cancer is the worst. I am glad for your sister that she is on hospice care. I lost both my parents to cancer, and a beloved SIL.

I hope your sister's journey is pain-free and peaceful.

[SheltieLover]

5. So sorry to hear! 💔

I'm glad you are having some time together.

[Jim__]

6. Sorry to hear this.

[Croney]

7. I'm so sorry. My sister died of colon cancer in 2011.

She was 59.

Its good that you had time to talk. I hope she experiences comfort and peace.

[lunasun]

8. Precious time now . Sorry it has come to this . Take care and wishing her peace

[chillfactor]

9. I am so sorry to hear that.....

spend all the time you can with your sister and cherish each moment.

[gademocrat7]

10. So very sorry, demtenjeep.

[spanone]

11. ...

[Laura PourMeADrink]

12. Wow. Glad u are there. What a heavy experience you are

going thru.

[mobeau69]

13. Peace be with you.

[crickets]

14. Oh, sweetie. I am so, so sorry.

I'm glad to hear that she has medicine for the pain. You are a wonderful sister to be there for her, to listen to her and to give her comfort. My love and strength goes out to you both and to your family to get through this time.

[majdrfrtim]

15. Prayers for all concerned, from my end

FWIW

[mountain grammy]

16. It's hard, those last days. So sorry for you both.

[blogslut]

17. I am sorry.

I wish peace and mercy for you both.

[MLAA]

18. 💖💖💕💕💖💖💕💕💕 for you both.

[Hekate]

19. I am so sorry. What an awful thing for you both to go through...

Know that she will be at peace and beyond all suffering

[cayugafalls]

20. Sending love and prayers to you and your sister.

I know it must be hard, but she knows you love her.

Much love, demtenjeep.

[MontanaMama]

21. ...

Peace be with you and your sister.

[Hoyt]

22. So sorry. Glad you were there.

[Sugarcoated]

23. I lost my little sis the same way

Colon cancer at 36. It's all about love...

[onecaliberal]

24. I'm so sorry. 💔

[JudyM]

25. So sorry.

Precious time together for both of you, sharing love. I treasure memories of those days before my dad passed. Wishing both of you comfort and peace.

[Niagara]

26. I'm sorry to hear this, Demtenjeep

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Sending you and your family strength.

[raging moderate]

27. I am so sorry!

Love to you, and Love to your sister!
We are all temporary. Our love is true forever.

[Illumination]

28. Best regards to you & your sister! What a loving brother you are demtenjeep!...

[still_one]

29. So hard, so tough. You are are doing a very important thing for you sister. Being there

[diva77]

30. So very sorry

She is lucky to have you there with her.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. Oh my dear demtenjeep.........I am so sorry to hear this.

I am sure she was very glad that you were there with her. Nothing says love like being there in person.

I hope she passes easily, without pain or struggle.

Blessings to you both.

[WheelWalker]

32. Strength and honor.

[Gore1FL]

33. Ultimately this is something we all face alone.

But the fact that you are there for the moments before speaks volumes. I feel fortunate to have siblings that behave like like you.

Find peace in this horror. When faced with this, you know you did everything right.

[Docreed2003]

34. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this

You and your sister will be in our thoughts!

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

35. I am so sorry.

Can I say I'm glad you have gotten this time with her?

It is always incredibly difficult to lose someone you are close to. I know. It doesn't matter if that person is, like your sister, in hospice and so you already know her end is near, or anyone of the many sudden things that can happen.

Keep in mind that we here at DU love you very much.

[lunatica]

36. Hugs to both of you

I’m so sorry.

[electric_blue68]

37. I'm a semi-newbie here 6? weeks I have a sister...

that I love very much and visa versa ... (we've both through medical scares).

I'm so sorry you are near it seems to losing yours
I'm glad you got to be with her. It means a lot.

A few years before my mom died (she had some pre existing conditions) I said to myself because I knew I was going to be devastated... "she wouldn't want me to be too sad for too long" (because she loved me).

You will grieve how ever you will.
I know it helped me from truely as devastating as it was going into a very deep nosedive.

I wish you strength, and hopefully all the support you would want, need.

[fierywoman]

38. Love and peace to you and your sister. {{big hug}}

[GeoWilliam750]

39. Deepest sympathy

[kimbutgar]

40. I wish I could give you a hug of support

So sorry.

[peggysue2]

41. So sorry to hear this.

Lost my sister in January. It's hard. Really, really hard.

Best to you and your family.

[renate]

42. I am truly sorry--we all are--for what she and you are going through

Make sure she knows she will be remembered. I think that’s the fear we all have... that after we’re gone our lives won’t have mattered and we won’t be remembered. Reassure her that she will still be part of family gatherings and celebrations.

Honestly, she has thousands of people here thinking of her right now. She is held in love right now. You and she are not alone.

[smirkymonkey]

43. I'm so sorry for you and your sister, demtenjeep.

I can't imagine how difficult this must be for both of you. It is so wonderful that you can be there for her during this time to ease her fear and pain. My thoughts are with you both at this difficult time.

[Demovictory9]

44. ..

[dlk]

45. I'm so sorry you & your sister are going through this ordeal

Sending prayers of comfort and peace to you both.

[Demsrule86]

46. I am so sorry...so very sorry. I have one sister and can't imagine going through what you are going

through.

[malaise]

47. Here's wishing her peace

and no pain

[babylonsister]

48. I remember my mom

enduring this years ago. It is so tough to see a loved one go through this awful cancer; I am glad you have hospice to help you. I hope she can find some comfort, and you, too.

[demtenjeep]

49. Thank you all. I try to be strong for her but I cried all the way back to my home

this sister is 10 years older than me.

When I was born, our mom had blood clots and had to have extended stays in the hospital.

My sister stayed home from school to take care of me. It was noticed and the school called and accused her of being my mom so women from the church stepped in so she could go back to school.

She is like my second mom and I love her so much. When I hug her there is nothing there to hug

[renate]

52. Your love must be bringing her so much comfort

You probably feel helpless and as though you’re not making a big enough difference, but honestly, your presence and love must mean the absolute world to her. You are giving her something so important and precious. As ill as she is, she is feeling cherished, and that is such a wonderful feeling.

[hedda_foil]

50. I am so sorry to hear this sad report about your dear sister, demtenjeep.

Your visit with her today sounds like it means the world to her. I know how hard it is to watch her vitality care but the love you share between you will always endure.

❤❤❤❤❤

[myccrider]

51. Gut punch

This hurts the heart. So sorry for you both having to go through this. Hope you can spend more quality time with her and that she is kept comfortable.

[North Shore Chicago]

53. Warm white light

to embrace your sister.

[boston bean]

54. I am still living with flashbacks of my mom.

I do not think I can write anymore, but please know my heart is with you all.

[panader0]

55. It's very tough. If you can. rent a room in the town she's in and stay.

Being with her is all you can do and she needs it. Be strong for her.
Both parents and my best friend died alone. I "knew" they were bad but didn't realize
they'd be gone so quick. I'd love to have those few days back to be with them at the end.

[NurseJackie]

56. I'm so sorry she must go through this... and that you must endure it as well.

I've been there and I know that feeling of helplessness... wanting to savor every moment... dreading the moment that the end arrives... and feeling guilty at my own sense of relief. The next few hours, days and weeks will be difficult for you and your family. I hope you're able to draw strength from each other.

Good luck to you all.