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usedtobedemgurl

(1,137 posts)
Tue Sep 22, 2020, 07:58 AM Sep 2020

Advice On Actions Against A Republican Ex-Love Interest

A guy I talked with online for two months kept it from me he was Republican. I met him on a site that is pretty liberal, so it just never came up. Fast forward to me trying to have a discussion with him, when he said he does not belong on the left or right. I actually said I was trying to have a discussion and was telling him, since you do not get intonation in an electronic note. Things escalated and ended. They ended on a rather bad note - him stating not to write him a nasty reply, and me stating I wished him the best and I hope he finds happiness.

I place an ad on the liberal site, looking for another possible love interest. The guy has a friend go on my ad and start talking about how hypocritical I am, wanting everyone to feel the same way I do. That never happened. I wanted to discuss why they guy felt the way he did. The guy kept posting. I reported him to the site, but knew nothing would probably happen. I feel harassed and stalked.

I wrote to the friend, publicly (only way I can, since I have him blocked privately). I gave the number of the guy's address (not the full address- I have never been there, so I felt this could spook him). I said as a woman, I feel vulnerable. I feel stalked and harassed. I said to please reach out to his friend and make sure he wants it all to continue, since now they are on notice of how I take the posting on my ad. I said the next step is to place a complaint with the cops, whether the friend or another friend tries this.

I know who his ex is and could easily reach out to her. I am sure she could possibly renegotiate the custody terms if some of his actions (not just this, but some other things, as well) were known. I am searching for all legal remedies I can get, because I am not sure the cops will take a complaint seriously.

Do I have any legal remedies with something like this?

Thanks.

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Advice On Actions Against A Republican Ex-Love Interest (Original Post) usedtobedemgurl Sep 2020 OP
Not really. The cops will not take this seriously at all. Reaching out to the ex would certainly WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2020 #1
Thank You. nt usedtobedemgurl Sep 2020 #2
Walk away. You should not do any of this or the cops will visit you. Who cares what this Demsrule86 Sep 2020 #3
I Personally Do Not Care What The Guy Thinks.... usedtobedemgurl Sep 2020 #4

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,327 posts)
1. Not really. The cops will not take this seriously at all. Reaching out to the ex would certainly
Tue Sep 22, 2020, 08:23 AM
Sep 2020

escalate things. At this point, document everything, don't engage and keep yourself safe.

Demsrule86

(68,553 posts)
3. Walk away. You should not do any of this or the cops will visit you. Who cares what this
Tue Sep 22, 2020, 08:54 AM
Sep 2020

guy thinks? FYI. I married a Republican...when I first started dating him I didn't know. And after I found out, I was smitten...he is now a card carrying Democrat and has been for years.

usedtobedemgurl

(1,137 posts)
4. I Personally Do Not Care What The Guy Thinks....
Tue Sep 22, 2020, 10:52 AM
Sep 2020

I care that he has one of his friends following me on the internet and stalking me.

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