My Respiratory Therapist sister.....

[diverdownjt]

Wants to have a little mini family reunion...before my Dad goes to Hawaii for 6 month's(6 mo. in Co. 6 in Hi).

We could go out to a restaurant together she say's........one year anniversary of Mom's death and all.....

"Stay home...You of all of us should know better...The virus is on the rise
in every state...Just how many of us would you like to see dead?"

Above was my reply. 28yrs. ago she sent me a bus ticket so I could get home after too much crack cocaine
cost me my house and job. She saved my life. My other sister is like me...sane and scared...the other may
be Q...not sure 100%..but pretty sure. Apparently she has become a little rascist as well...I know a little is the
same as a lot. We weren't raised with any predjudice's...military family...no bullshit allowed.
Her second husband may be the source.

Was I too hard? Any advice? She has a science education...I just don't get it!

[MissB]

1. Definitely not too harsh

I think it’s natural to want to get together. That’s more human nature than logic.

One of my mother’s siblings just arrived in town. Her other two siblings were thinking of coming here too, and figured we could all get together and have a mini reunion, including some cousins. One cousin even booked a hotel.

I put my foot down and said no way. Look, they’re all in their 80s and most of us including our cousins are in our 50s. It’s just not reasonable. How awful would we feel if the older relatives died of Covid after a gathering?

One of my siblings is reimbursing my cousin for their lost hotel deposit, which I think is sweet.

It’s just not the year for reunions/get togethers. Don’t feel bad for pointing out the truth. Your sibling likely knows the reality but it’s human nature to want to gather. It’s ok to override that human nature.

[diverdownjt]

19. Thank's for your kind words...

[samnsara]

2. my sister is a nurse who has also gone to the dark side...we are no longer in contact and never will

..be again. She should be on the side of science but after she and her second hubby moved to N Idaho to live off the grid she became 'less educated' i guess.

You are EXACTLY right to respond the way you did. Suggest a Zoom dinner with everyone. We are foregoing Tday dinner in person and will have a Zoom dinner. I havent seen my grand kids in over a year and they are only 2 hours away.


But we all need to do our part so the world can heal.

[Arazi]

12. I've been seeing everyone outside, socially distanced, in masks

I'm making an extra effort to see loved ones in case they get Covid and die.

There are ways to visit safely according to the science

[diverdownjt]

20. Sounds real familiar....

Mine lives in Mass. Her second hubby bought some land in Maryland.
I think he might be the cause of this uneducated nonsense.
Is "Q" big in Maryland???

[Sherman A1]

3. Not at all

Play it safe .

[mokawanis]

4. My wife and I have been with our kids at Thanksgiving every year

for the last 37 years, which is the age of my oldest. This year we will break that long-standing tradition. Our only contact on Thanksgiving will be a Zoom conference. It sucks, but we are determined to do everything we can to avoid Covid,

No, you weren't too harsh by any means.

[Sanity Claws]

5. Do the restaurants in your area have outside dining?

I agree that eating inside in a restaurant is not worth the chance. Here in NYC, restaurants have set up tables outside. Is that happening in your area?

[diverdownjt]

14. I don't of any doing dining at all...

It's a dumb idea...will be calling dad today to try and protect him as much as I can.

[3Hotdogs]

6. Yes, I think your response went beyond what was needed.

Consider a toned-down, second response.

[diverdownjt]

15. I was thinking that too....

but if she is "Q" then you really have to punch hard to get a point through...if at all.

[sinkingfeeling]

7. Yes.

[diverdownjt]

16. Thank you for your thought's....

[ecstatic]

8. It wasn't too harsh, I wish I had stood up to my cousin

who arranged a birthday gathering for my sister last weekend. I didn't want to be negative about it, so I went and even heard a few sniffles. Then we sat in a restaurant for a couple hours. 🙄 Waiting for my test results now.

[Lars39]

9. To be a Respiratory Therapist and suggest that?

Hell no you weren’t harsh. She should absolutely know better.

[diverdownjt]

17. Yes...I think so as well...

I think the right wing scream machine has her ...hook...line...and sinker.

[Demsrule86]

10. My libertatian brother has gone off the deep end lately...don't know if it has

Something to do with his girlfriend. We simply do not discuss politics. I love my brother and refuse to lose him because of Trump.

[Niagara]

11. Absolutely not.

These get togethers that family members insist on planning is one of the many reasons why we're having issues containing the virus.




Awhile back, I had in-laws that wanted to go out to an indoor restaurant. I told them that I wasn't comfortable with that and I explained how the Covid spores circulate indoors. They respected my wishes of not wanting to go but the rest of them decided to risk it and went out anyways. Apparently, getting together and eating out is much more important than their own life.

[Statistical]

13. It was too harsh given it was just a question at this point.

"Just how many of us would you like to see dead?" is unlikely to change anyone's mind. In fact it is more likely to make some who may be open to suggestion to double down to "win the fight".

If she lashes back at you about that line I would just say something like "yeah it was a bit hyperbolic I didn't mean it literally but we all should stay home to keep everyone safe".

[diverdownjt]

18. Very sage advice thank you..

Your right...I hope it wont trigger the "win at all costs" agenda of todays rupug party.