I'm sorry I have not been doing my job as a MIR member

[abakan]

I've been wondering how to really do it and as soon as I get past the death of my dad.
He died yesterday at 90 years old of lung cancer. I'll get to it, soon, please be patient .
thank you

[Wounded Bear]

1. Be strong, take your time...

[joshcryer]

2. I am so sorry for your loss.

Time will heal your pain. It is all that will. Be well.

[mn9driver]

3. So sorry for your loss.

[applegrove]

4. Take as much time as you need. That is big. You are not expected

to go back to routine tasks anytime soon. Reach out and remember. Cry. Dad's are the greatest. ((((Hugs))))

[Nevilledog]

5. ...

[Brother Buzz]

6. Here's a link that only MIR Team member can read that will get you going in the right direction

https://www.democraticunderground.com/1244306175

Repost your OP in the MIRT forum and you'll find everyone will be willing to walk you through the process and get you oriented.

Sorry for your loss.

[abakan]

7. Thank you for the links

I will read them in the coming days.
Thank You

[Brother Buzz]

11. Bookmark it.

Believe me, you'll go back to it again, again, and again. And speaking of again, there are a ton of extraordinary people in the MIR Team forum that will help you.

MIRT's motto, "The only dumb question is the one that isn't asked".

[BumRushDaShow]

34. We grieve with you

and as soon as you are ready, do come in and "sit for awhile".

Sending my deepest condolences to you.

[Marie Marie]

8. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Take care of yourself first.

[MontanaMama]

9. I'm so sorry for your loss.

You cannot be expected to be over the passing of your beloved dad in one day...one week or whatever. He's your dad. Take the time to mourn.

[hlthe2b]

10. I'm so sorry to hear about your Father. Take care of yourself as your priority right now.

[irisblue]

12. I am so sorry for your great loss.🕯️May his Memory be a Blessing

[Miigwech]

14. So sorry for your loss. Take time, never worry about that minor stuff in life.

May all his memories be a blessing.

[MoonRiver]

15. So sorry for your dad. I've lost both my parents.

I also felt inadequate on MIR team. Some said I shouldn't quit, but I did. You definitely should stay. They are a very understanding group.

[ProfessorGAC]

16. Take Care, Abakan

Take your time, and thanks for volunteering for MIRT.

[SheltieLover]

17. Deepest Condolences

So sorry for your loss.

Please remember to engage in quality self-care. Make sure you eat, sleep, and do a lot of deep breathng to stay grounded and centered.

Please also consider contacting his hospice organization, or one in your area for bereavement therapy. Most will provide 13 months to support you through the "year of firsts," birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc.

And know that the stages of grief are not linear; there is no timeline for resolving grief.

Hugs

[brer cat]

18. I am very sorry for your loss, abakan.

Take care of your self first. MIRT will be here when you are ready to return.

[LiberalLoner]

19. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Spazito]

20. My sympathies to you and your family...

Don't worry about MIRT, it will be there when you feel you can participate.

[malaise]

21. Take a break

Deepest sympathy

[Dem2theMax]

22. I am so sorry for your loss.

We will share a date together. My dad died on December 14th, eight years ago.

Don't worry about us. You take care of you.
We are all here to support you.

[Hortensis]

23. MIR can be as busy as you like, and for some life happens instead.

People here don't know what MIRT is doing.

When you're ready to get active on that private forum, you'll find there are instructions for how to do the job. It's a forum like these where people discuss their thoughts on cases and guidelines and you can read old threads and ask questions.

Take care of yourself right now, though.

[alwaysinasnit]

24. ...

[barbtries]

25. Sorry for your loss.

[Soph0571]

26. Don't stress it

When you are ready we will talk you through how to get be a marvellous member of the team, and in the meantime my deepest condolences at your loss.

[greatauntoftriplets]

27. ..

[niyad]

28. So very sorry for your terrible loss. Sending vibes for healing and peace. Please take care of

yourself, and remember that your DU family is here for you.

[Jay25]

29. I'm also sorry for your loss

[sinkingfeeling]

30. Deepest condolences.

[NoRoadUntravelled]

31. I'm so very sorry for your loss, abakan.

Please give yourself the time you need as you adjust to a new way of being in the world. It's so very hard to lose a loved one. You are in my thoughts.

[Cadfael]

32. So sorry for you loss

[CaptainTruth]

33. I'm so sorry... do what you need to do.

[AmyStrange]

35. Hopefully, your Dad will get to meet the Notorious RBG...

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I'm not in any hurry myself, but that's gonna be one of the first things that I do.
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[DonaldsRump]

36. I am so sorry for your loss

Losing a parent at any age is awful. It's the end of an era, if nothing else. For most of us, it's even greater than that.

I just finished two consecutive terms on MIRT and met some incredibly fine people between April 2020-last week. It felt like a REAL team because it WAS a real team. No one minds how much you contribute, and especially under the circumstances, they will of course understand. Really great folks, I have to say, several of whom have posted on this thread!

Your obligation right now, if I can be so presumptuous, is to you and your family. There are plenty of fantastic MIRTers right now who will welcome you with open arms whenever you're ready.

[mahina]

37. Peace and a prayer for so fort and solace

God bless him, and you. Aloha.

[electric_blue68]

38. So sorry for your loss...

it's usually hard stuff to go through losing a parent, lung cancer Imo one of the worst things to suffer from.

Mine are both gone a bit over, and under a decade.

You need to take care of the immediate things, and go through some grieving - at some point you'll get to your MIR work.

Look how many people here are giving you support. Strength to your and your family.

[Rhiannon12866]

39. I am so terribly sorry to hear that!

Please do whatever you need to do and take your time. Everyone certainly understands. As we always say on MIRT, "real life comes first," and my heart goes out to you - I lost my own Dad between Thanksgiving and Christmas some time ago and know how devastating this can be. Come join us when you're ready and we'll welcome you then.

And here's the link to the MIRT Forum when you need it:
https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1244

[cate94]

40. I'm sorry for your loss.