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EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:00 PM Dec 2020

My old cat

refuses to get down off my lap. I think I wore her out all year with my anger and cursing. I get up and down a lot while working, and she clings to my lap with her claws.

I tell her, "You're a cat and I am a human. I win." But, while she doesn't appear to be ill, she is sleeping soundly all day and most of the night, choosing my lap as her bed. It feels all right. I don't mind, but I feel guilty when I have to dislodge her.

Anyone who thinks that animals don't have emotions should hear this cat with her cat noises. I admit I can be guilty of projecting a human-like quality onto my animals, but this cat has called me a few names today. And, yesterday.

Plus, she now wants to eat my coffee cup pancakes. After a lifetime of meat and gravy products, she now competes for my food.

What is happening?? I hope my general demeanor can pick up after January 20th, when we are safe again. Maybe I dragged her down as we shared the last four years.

My gosh! I just remembered! I have catnip bubbles! I know catnip works on her. Since the CBD I tried had absolutely no effect on me, I wonder if she would mind if I tried her catnip?

Maybe--if llamas can have effective antibodies--the catnip bubbles might protect me? Worth trying...

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My old cat (Original Post) EndlessWire Dec 2020 OP
This thread is worthless without pictures. SoonerPride Dec 2020 #1
I can't provide a picture EndlessWire Dec 2020 #6
Our old cat is a calico, too. She's 21 and, sad to say, kind of fading away. She hasn't got much Vinca Dec 2020 #27
My calico cats have always had really big personalities Bettie Dec 2020 #34
Selfies are difficult enough soldierant Dec 2020 #35
What are coffee cup pancakes? Ziggysmom Dec 2020 #2
That's what I wondered? How old is kitty? Karadeniz Dec 2020 #4
She's around fifteen. EndlessWire Dec 2020 #14
Both of you lucked out! When my oldest hit 15, I put him on the same kidney meds the vet Karadeniz Dec 2020 #20
I am watching my cat carefully EndlessWire Dec 2020 #30
Cats pick up on our moods. wnylib Dec 2020 #32
Klondike cakes EndlessWire Dec 2020 #8
They definitely have emotions jcgoldie Dec 2020 #3
She gets a taste EndlessWire Dec 2020 #10
Cats do pick up on atmospheres. Denzil_DC Dec 2020 #5
She holds on with all four feet EndlessWire Dec 2020 #15
Whenever we pick our girl up, say to move her round the house, Denzil_DC Dec 2020 #18
Yeah, I think EndlessWire Dec 2020 #21
Many years ago I had a cat who had a very colorful vocabulary without a sound. soldierant Dec 2020 #36
My cat, Kitty, wants to sleep INSIDE my pillow case these days. Grasswire2 Dec 2020 #7
Yes. Exactly. n/t EndlessWire Dec 2020 #11
My beautiful human like cat always wanted to share his food with me. If I put my head near his RKP5637 Dec 2020 #9
That's so cute! n/t EndlessWire Dec 2020 #13
I love cats. If you have one that truly loves you, it's a beautiful heart warming experience! n/t RKP5637 Dec 2020 #12
I love watching my cat think and problem solve. n/t- EndlessWire Dec 2020 #17
Cats are amazing. They can be lovable and independent at the same time mtnsnake Dec 2020 #16
I agree EndlessWire Dec 2020 #19
Don't tell a cat, "You're a cat and I am a human. I win." Lady Freedom Returns Dec 2020 #22
LOL! n/t EndlessWire Dec 2020 #23
That was my first thought as well! niyad Dec 2020 #24
Your kitty might just be in need of a warm place to sleep--YOU! Get her a heating japple Dec 2020 #25
My little rescue believes that my lap was created for his personal convenience. He would be niyad Dec 2020 #26
cats really try to hide how smart they are housecat Dec 2020 #28
a few years ago i was making fur catnip toys. this house came w/ catnip plants + very GOOD catnip. pansypoo53219 Dec 2020 #29
What dose of CBD do you use? n/t EndlessWire Dec 2020 #31
well, i don't do a full dose of the drop kind. not sure how much, but i guess i don't need much. and pansypoo53219 Dec 2020 #40
time for a vet check marti Dec 2020 #33
TY! n/t EndlessWire Dec 2020 #37
Here is mine noneof_theabove Dec 2020 #38
Aw, her little tongue is sticking out. Mine wants to help wrap gifts tonight. Ziggysmom Dec 2020 #39

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
6. I can't provide a picture
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:18 PM
Dec 2020

but, she is a calico cat. She came to my door in the country when she was pregnant. She knew what she was doing.

Vinca

(50,079 posts)
27. Our old cat is a calico, too. She's 21 and, sad to say, kind of fading away. She hasn't got much
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 05:36 PM
Dec 2020

of an appetite and spends most of her day parked on the back of a chair in front of the pellet stove snoozing. She's funny, though. She totally loves my husband and does just about anything to get her ears rubbed by him and she curls up with him at night to sleep. Guess I'm the bad guy since I end up being claw cutter, ear drop doser and the person who carts her to the vets. As long as she doesn't appear to be suffering in any way, we'll let her live out her life doing whatever she feels like doing. She's the oldest cat I've ever had and she's been with us since she was a baby.

Bettie

(15,880 posts)
34. My calico cats have always had really big personalities
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 06:31 PM
Dec 2020

She wants you to be happier and she knows you will be if she sits with you.

My current calico is Scout. She has claimed my youngest son and must sit on him every time he is sitting anywhere. She has been sitting with him every day while he does online school, purring her little heart out.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
14. She's around fifteen.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:32 PM
Dec 2020

I never knew exactly how old she was when she moved in. She hauled her pregnant self in and said, "Oh, Honey! I'm home! Where's the grub?" And, she never left, thank goodness.

Karadeniz

(21,949 posts)
20. Both of you lucked out! When my oldest hit 15, I put him on the same kidney meds the vet
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:57 PM
Dec 2020

Prescribed for one of mine when we learned at 4 mos. his kidneys would never be right. That was about 7 yrs. ago. I figure if a cat lives long enough, its kidneys will fail...although that's not really true. My golden oldie has been on the meds...epakitin, rena plus...for a yr.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
30. I am watching my cat carefully
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 06:05 PM
Dec 2020

but she seems fine. Good appetite, etc. I think she's slowing down, though.

wnylib

(21,146 posts)
32. Cats pick up on our moods.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 06:13 PM
Dec 2020

If you've been edgy and out of sorts, she might feel anxious about it and that could make her clingy.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
8. Klondike cakes
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:22 PM
Dec 2020

transferred to my cup so I have a handle. They are delicious, and have maple syrup in the ingredients so I don't have to add anything.

jcgoldie

(11,527 posts)
3. They definitely have emotions
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:08 PM
Dec 2020

And they definitely learn your behavior and respond to manipulate you. The pancakes, however, probably not so good cats are obligate carnivores.

Denzil_DC

(7,154 posts)
5. Cats do pick up on atmospheres.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:09 PM
Dec 2020

But besides that, as they get older, they can get more clingy. Some will start contact calling, often in the middle of the night. Their world may contract as they're able to cope less well with a larger territory.

If her new habits aren't bothering you, I wouldn't worry about it. As long as they have consistent love and a degree of routine, they'll usually adjust to and put up with a lot.

We've been through caring for older cats a few times now. Aside from the inevitable health problems, it can be a magical time of their life to enjoy with them.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
15. She holds on with all four feet
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:34 PM
Dec 2020

and protests, bitterly. But, it's comfortable with her on my lap, as long as I don't try to stand up.

Denzil_DC

(7,154 posts)
18. Whenever we pick our girl up, say to move her round the house,
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:48 PM
Dec 2020

there's always one of her claws that gets stuck in our clothing when we go to put her down, which provokes some indignance till we untangle it. She has a colourful vocabulary which is continually expanding.

All four feet's claws shows impressive spirit and determination. She's entitled to protest. You're doing something she doesn't want you to do. You're entitled to do what you have to in order to get on with your day.

Our last but two cat showed signs of senility in his later years - the constant contact calling and world contraction I mentioned above, wouldn't let my wife get on with her work (we both work from home) without moithering her or trying to walk across her desk and laptop looking for a fuss.

We got a cat hammock that fit on a radiator next to my wife's workstation, so she was nearby and could pet him occasionally. That worked to an extent for a while. Then we had to resort to chucking a few catnip crunchies into the hammock every now and then. Fossicking around for them preoccupied him and gave us peace for some time, till either he fell asleep or was ready for some more.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
21. Yeah, I think
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 05:06 PM
Dec 2020

that they lose control of their claws when they age. I should probably clip her claws, but somehow I don't. She still uses cardboard to scratch on, so I think we're good.

soldierant

(6,467 posts)
36. Many years ago I had a cat who had a very colorful vocabulary without a sound.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 07:24 PM
Dec 2020

We first noticed it when she leaped on the back of male cat, bit him sharply on the neck, jumped off and ran away. It was very clear (and there had been provocation.) It was clear to him too - after looking stunned for a few seconds, he started the fanny-washing of embarrassment.

Grasswire2

(13,558 posts)
7. My cat, Kitty, wants to sleep INSIDE my pillow case these days.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:21 PM
Dec 2020

She can't get close enough to me.

Putting my hand on her very warm, purry body is the best possible way to fall asleep. I have not enough words to say how much I value her companionship this year.

RKP5637

(66,959 posts)
9. My beautiful human like cat always wanted to share his food with me. If I put my head near his
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:22 PM
Dec 2020

dish he would move over and look up - like saying we can share this if you want!

mtnsnake

(22,236 posts)
16. Cats are amazing. They can be lovable and independent at the same time
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:42 PM
Dec 2020

and fascinating. There's nothing better than a cat cozying up to you, and few pets that are bolder than cats when they kick you out of your favorite chair so they can have it all to themselves. Cats will have none of that sit up Rover stuff or shake hands Rover stuff either. They rule.

EndlessWire

(6,222 posts)
19. I agree
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 04:57 PM
Dec 2020

they do what they want. But, all the cats I ever had would come when I called. True, every last one of them had a lag time. But, they would show up, like, "Okay, let's go see what *she* wants now."

I had a cat who would roll over on a hand signal. He taught that to himself, because he would roll over when I came home from work, and from there we worked it out.

We'd play hide n seek, and when I hid in a new spot and leapt out at him (that's what the game was,) he would then copy the new spot and leap out at me. He was an amazingly intelligent animal. I miss him to this day.

I actually have two cats. My second cat is the daughter to my lap cat, the last kitty from the litter of five cats that this mama cat had. She will use her paw to tap me and pull on my hand to get a good scratch and pet.

You see animals on You Tube doing this. I think it's more common than we think, and it is close to tool using, IMO.

japple

(9,744 posts)
25. Your kitty might just be in need of a warm place to sleep--YOU! Get her a heating
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 05:33 PM
Dec 2020

pad. Get the kind that especially made for pets. Put it under a kitty bed or a thick, folded blanket. Instant bliss for your little calico. Chewy has some great products and they are an excellent company for all of your pet needs. Great customer service.

niyad

(110,940 posts)
26. My little rescue believes that my lap was created for his personal convenience. He would be
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 05:34 PM
Dec 2020

perfectly happy to sleep there until HE decides to move. He does not like it if I want to move when he does not? But listening to him purr is worth it.

As for the catnip. . If you are talking the regular stuff, it actually works as a cal active in humans. Just the opposite of most cats. On the other hand, one of my kits many years ago would spread her little stash out, roll in it,many then go to sleep on it. Never ate it.

We love our feline overlords.

pansypoo53219

(20,820 posts)
29. a few years ago i was making fur catnip toys. this house came w/ catnip plants + very GOOD catnip.
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 05:55 PM
Dec 2020

each 'ball' got fresh cat nip + I WAS GETTING HIGH from the nip.had to give cats dried nip. green gave them bad trips.

CBD works for me. not for my uncle...

pansypoo53219

(20,820 posts)
40. well, i don't do a full dose of the drop kind. not sure how much, but i guess i don't need much. and
Thu Dec 24, 2020, 07:09 PM
Dec 2020

GET MINT if you get drops.

marti

(26 posts)
33. time for a vet check
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 06:23 PM
Dec 2020

sleeping that much and change in diet may need to be looked into- my older kitty!(15) needed thyroid med- give it transdermal daily- easy and she's much better. Good luck!

noneof_theabove

(410 posts)
38. Here is mine
Wed Dec 23, 2020, 08:14 PM
Dec 2020

Her Prissyness Queen Fluffy Of Coconuts - aka Fluffy
She likes eating solid coconut oil from the back of a spoon.
She is a Maine Coon about 14 years old and diabetic.
I got her when she was about a year old as a rescue.

Does not want me messing with her, nail clipping or just checking her out.

Reminds me of a cartoon where the queen is asking her knight if he is
going to claim more land for the kingdom. No my lady, I have to give the cat a pill.

She is "sleeper" which some are.
But when she is up, and will often hunt me down, to be the center of attention.
At times she is on the bed looking at the pillow and hollering for me that can be heard across the house.

She excels at math because when she wants a nap
she can calculate the exact center of the bed [twin] so I have to work around her.
Which is where she is right now and it is near bedtime.

You won't find a happier cat.
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Ziggysmom

(3,354 posts)
39. Aw, her little tongue is sticking out. Mine wants to help wrap gifts tonight.
Thu Dec 24, 2020, 01:34 AM
Dec 2020

This is Stanley, a shelter rescue. He is the nosiest cat I’ve ever had, gets into everything.

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