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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy mother passed away tonight...
I am beyond devastated.
But I am so glad she is no longer in pain.
Stuart G
(38,726 posts)TEB
(15,651 posts)Bayard
(30,150 posts)I am SO sorry. Sending you good vibes.
Backseat Driver
(4,671 posts)JI7
(93,849 posts)Let us know if there is anything you need that any of us could possibly do to help right now.
chowder66
(12,465 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(156,845 posts)I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.
But yes: she is no longer in pain. And that matters.
Please take care of yourself; be gentle with yourself. Grief is a strange beast.
Doreen
(11,686 posts)c-rational
(3,221 posts)revmclaren
(2,613 posts)Grown2Hate
(2,218 posts)I love your posts, and that's frankly all I know about you (other than the fact that your screen name could refer to me or any male in my family lineage).
I hope that you're able to properly mourn in this time, and I join you in a shot.
ECL213
(453 posts)You will go on living and the heavy feeling in your heart will get lighter.
Sorry for your loss.
ZZenith
(4,474 posts)
Cha
(320,334 posts)sorry, DI.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Mom
Demovictory9
(37,113 posts)orleans
(37,148 posts)LuvNewcastle
(17,896 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find the inner strength to get through this time and may others help to lessen your burden.
shenmue
(38,599 posts)jaysunb
(11,856 posts)I understand your pain. Covid 19 took my mom 6 months ago. I still haven't gotten far beyond it.
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Metatron
(1,262 posts)My deepest sympathies.
I've enjoyed learning about your mom through your posts.
MFM008
(20,042 posts)CatMor
(6,212 posts)please accept my deepest sympathy for this saddest of time.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)vercetti2021
(10,481 posts)Especially on Christmas day that's just so goddamn difficult I can't imagine I'm sorry
Maru Kitteh
(31,929 posts)susanr516
(1,514 posts)oldtime dfl_er
(7,178 posts)condolences.
DFW
(60,377 posts)But I can tell you it will ease, though not any time soon. It will be gradual at best.
Ive been there. It takes a while. But youll get there.
murielm99
(33,059 posts)Hekate
(100,133 posts)handmade34
(24,041 posts)TrollBuster9090
(6,135 posts)I felt the same way when my Mom passed on. Devastated, but relieved that she is in a better place.
Raine
(31,231 posts)sympathy to you and all those who knew and loved her.
MyNameIsKhan
(2,205 posts)a la izquierda
(12,379 posts)and may your mums passage into the Great Beyond be smooth.
littlemissmartypants
(34,234 posts)I know you feel gutted right now. Daddy went to his heavenly rest December 9th. Each day it gets a little easier to bear. She'll live on in your heart forever. Stay encouraged. You are loved.
❤ lmsp
flying-skeleton
(817 posts)🙏🙏
musicblind
(4,563 posts)My deepest condolences
regnaD kciN
(27,692 posts)KT2000
(22,201 posts)at this most difficult time. I'm so sorry.
joshcryer
(62,536 posts)TigressDem
(5,126 posts)TheBlackAdder
(29,981 posts)Response to Drunken Irishman (Original post)
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denbot
(9,950 posts)Tiger8
(432 posts)I'm Irish too and so your posts have stood out to me in a special way, and I've appreciated them very much.
Thanks for being here. It's clear that your mother raised an awesome son.
Mike 03
(18,690 posts)My deepest condolences.
TruckFump
(5,838 posts)MacKasey
(1,531 posts)Peace be with you and your family
GentryDixon
(3,154 posts)May you find peace in knowing she is no longer suffering. That's how I handled losing both of my parents. ❤️
redwitch
(15,269 posts)May her memory be a blessing.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)She's a very fortunate woman. 🌸
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)When you feel stronger, try to do something that makes her happy...she will live forever that way through you.
I am so sorry.
mrs_p
(3,238 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)SheltieLover
(81,537 posts)So sorry to hear of your loss.
Cicada
(4,533 posts)essaynnc
(992 posts)Cry, laugh, think about the good times together. know that we're all thinking about you and hoping the best for you and yours....
Meowmee
(9,212 posts)I am glad she is no longer in pain too. There is maybe nothing more painful than the finality of the ones you love no longer being physically here with you. Wishing you peace.
Alliepoo
(2,842 posts)Im so very sorry for your loss, DI.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(13,140 posts)Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)It's always hard to lose our parents, but at Christmas time is especially hard.
She's close by.
duforsure
(11,885 posts)mobeau69
(12,448 posts)Jim__
(15,267 posts)malaise
(297,648 posts)hlthe2b
(114,491 posts)backtoblue
(13,211 posts)May your mother rest in peace.
panader0
(25,816 posts)I still miss my mom, gone 35 years now
7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)As others have said, grief is a beast but it will get better...
Take care, know thst you are much loved.
Kaleva
(40,412 posts)monmouth4
(10,767 posts)gademocrat7
(12,005 posts)Sending you love and hugs during this difficult time.
lanlady
(7,231 posts)Losing a mother is one of life's hardest journeys. May she be at peace and may memories of her sustain you in the difficult moments ahead.
UpInArms
(55,280 posts)underpants
(197,044 posts)❤️
tavernier
(14,495 posts)So sorry.
Peacetrain
(24,291 posts)A HERETIC I AM
(24,891 posts)hamsterjill
(17,722 posts)To you and yours. Im so sorry for you loss.
OnDoutside
(20,868 posts)May her soul be on God's right hand.
brer cat
(27,660 posts)I hope you find comfort in your memories.
spanone
(142,021 posts)marlakay
(13,384 posts)Peace and hugs.
icymist
(15,888 posts)MoonRiver
(36,975 posts)greatauntoftriplets
(179,285 posts)Maeve
(43,486 posts)Let the pain wash over you but hold tight to the love she gave you
Demsrule86
(71,554 posts)I still miss my my Mom. Prayers for you and your Mom.
TrishaJ
(885 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,887 posts)sinkingfeeling
(57,973 posts)Tom Rinaldo
(23,193 posts)I'm so sorry DI
pazzyanne
(6,761 posts)Death of a loved one is always hard, and even more so when it happens during the holidays. Be kind and take good care of you during your time of grief!
louslobbs
(3,416 posts)I was so glad she was no longer in pain. Please take care of yourself and know that you have many friends standing by you. Stay safe and Im so sorry for your loss. Also, I saw the Christmas picture of you and your mom, it was a bright moment...think of those as often as you can. Youll cry some more, but you will also smile...I did.
Lou
niyad
(133,762 posts)you and your loved ones.
Bettie
(19,833 posts)I hope you find peace in the coming days.
Freedomofspeech
(4,823 posts)ProfessorGAC
(77,174 posts)My wife has a rough time in February. Her mom died on Valentine's Day.
Take care!
marked50
(1,591 posts)PCIntern
(28,550 posts)wryter2000
(47,940 posts)As you said, she lived to see Trump defeated.
sheshe2
(98,257 posts)cate94
(3,119 posts)cry baby
(6,876 posts)blogslut
(39,205 posts)I am so sorry
Maraya1969
(23,538 posts)BComplex
(9,948 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Malmsy
(339 posts)shrike3
(5,370 posts)area51
(12,744 posts)Donkees
(33,745 posts)We sing with our light
We are the birds of fire
We fly over the sky
Our light is a voice
We make a road for the spirit to pass over
We are like the wind,
Wrapped, in luminous wings,
We make a road for the spirits to pass over.
For the Spirits to pass over.

Hotler
(13,747 posts)sellitman
(11,748 posts)I lost my Dad last year and felt just the same way.
Hugs.
GoCubsGo
(34,981 posts)Been there, too. It sucks.
AllyCat
(18,973 posts)Even with time to prepare, it is not easier. Hugs to you.
AirmensMom
(15,119 posts)kimbutgar
(27,501 posts)Losing ones Mother is the hardest. The one who brought you in the world.
QED
(3,361 posts)my mom died on New Year's day a few years ago and the day has never been the same to me. A family tradition was watching the Rose Parade and now it's just bittersweet.
Mad_Dem_X
(10,220 posts)Moral Compass
(2,429 posts)From one drunken irishman to another.
Greybnk48
(10,745 posts)Your love for each will always be there. The love we all saw in that picture you posted. Please take care, and accept my heartfelt sympathy.
onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)Sending healing vibes
world wide wally
(21,836 posts)To you and your family
George II
(67,782 posts)First Speaker
(4,858 posts)...it takes time to get through this--but you will.
58Sunliner
(6,390 posts)Moostache
(11,262 posts)I just got through my first Christmas since the passing of my own mother this past November, and it doesn't matter what time or day this happens, it leaves a gaping hole that only closes slowly with time but feels like it will never close again. We cried and remembered mom last night and what helped us all were the shared memories of better days and happier times that temporarily fill that horrible dull ache. I hope that you are able to find the support and memories that will help carry you through this as swiftly as possible.
FakeNoose
(42,218 posts)
It's hard to say goodbye to someone who's always been there for you.
I'm sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need for grieving.
Those who love you will understand and empathize.
Remember that your mother is in a better place now, and her time to suffer is over.
When you see her again in heaven, you'll have so much to tell her.
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pandr32
(14,307 posts)highplainsdem
(62,919 posts)I sent mail a few days ago with a link that might help, and I know you probably haven't had any time to look at mail, but I hope when you do it will offer some comfort.
Nevilledog
(55,118 posts)justhanginon
(3,383 posts)ancianita
(43,322 posts)MineralMan
(151,495 posts)DeeDeeNY
(3,960 posts)It will take time for the pain to ease.
peggysue2
(12,570 posts)This part of life is always so hard.
Blessings to you and your family.
BobTheSubgenius
(12,245 posts)Time comes for us all, sadly...but I bet with a son like you as an indicator, she had a fine life, lived well.
iluvtennis
(21,519 posts)May she Rest in Peace and May Her Meory be a Blessing.
bdamomma
(69,616 posts)sympathy during this sad time for you. We are here DI.
MustLoveBeagles
(17,114 posts)Judi Lynn
(164,163 posts)The love never dies. It's with you forever.
Deepest wishes for your healing.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)Shell rest peacefully forever in your heart.
lillypaddle
(9,606 posts)May she rest in peace. Take care of yourself.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)May she rest in peace.
My sincerest condolences to you.
boston bean
(36,961 posts)StarlightGold
(372 posts)your mother is gone. I cant imagine what youre going through. Your first memories are of this person.
Be good to yourself. Dont try to avoid the emotional pain; you need to grieve and youll avoid even more stress. The stress of trying to suppress overwhelming feelings.
Im sending every calming vibe to you.
DownriverDem
(7,022 posts)As bad as it is keep hold of the "she is no longer in pain" meme.
SaveOurDemocracy
(4,566 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(32,037 posts)Sending sympathy and love your way.
CousinIT
(12,704 posts)I know your world feels shattered and broken right now and you probably feel hollowed out inside. Only time will heal this for you and meanwhile I'm sending you all the strength to get through this.
Hugs my friend.
LiberalLoner
(11,467 posts)When my Mom died I cried for three days straight. I am so sorry.
leftieNanner
(16,165 posts)My Mom passed away on Easter Sunday. Although Easter was difficult to manage for a few years, I now have wonderful memories of her on that day (even though the actual date is different every year) and I eat a chocolate bunny in her honor.
You will have a place in your heart for her for evermore.
MerryBlooms
(12,376 posts)majdrfrtim
(340 posts)probably because every new grief reawakens every old grief -- even those we've processed effectively.
My sincere condolences and prayers, FWIW.
Consider yourself hugged.
Requiescat illa in pace.
CaptainTruth
(8,244 posts)EndlessWire
(8,103 posts)Deep condolences to you and your family.
BigBearJohn
(11,410 posts)ucrdem
(15,720 posts)Peace and rest to her soul.
Niagara
(12,037 posts)Sending you strength during this difficult time.
Atticus
(15,124 posts)Care for yourself. It's what she would want you to do.
My condolences.
occupant
(166 posts)She is your Guardian Angel now, she will watch over you now and keep you safe
femmedem
(8,563 posts)Mr. Evil
(3,470 posts)Every time she'd call, when I answered she'd always say, "hey honey." I guess I'll always hear (sense) that.
She passed in 2016. I'll always miss her.
My deepest condolences to you, DI. I'm sure she was a grand lady just like my mom.
Tumbulu
(6,631 posts)I am so sorry for your loss, friend.
ailsagirl
(24,287 posts)Still Sensible
(2,870 posts)bless you and your family.
Vivienne235729
(3,748 posts)MLAA
(19,787 posts)Vadem
(2,599 posts)I am still heartbroken!
LeftInTX
(34,807 posts)myccrider
(484 posts)The pain is intense, I know. Remember all the good things, tell stories, cry, laugh with tears in your eyes, love her memory.
a kennedy
(36,272 posts)mvd
(65,940 posts)My condolences go out to you, Drunken Irishman. Thinking of you during this very difficult time.
herding cats
(20,054 posts)Your mom is now free of pain, which matters. However, now you have to deal with this extremely difficult and painful moment in your life.
My heart is with you tonight. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
electric_blue68
(27,190 posts)Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.
l know how devastating it is.
Everyone grieves in their own way, but at some when in the furure the pain will lessen. More joy will return.
Strength to you and family.
RMVet
(25 posts)Sending prayers, strength, and love your way.