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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy mother passed away tonight...
I am beyond devastated.
But I am so glad she is no longer in pain.
Stuart G
(38,414 posts)TEB
(12,840 posts)Bayard
(22,035 posts)I am SO sorry. Sending you good vibes.
Backseat Driver
(4,385 posts)JI7
(89,244 posts)Let us know if there is anything you need that any of us could possibly do to help right now.
chowder66
(9,065 posts)CaliforniaPeggy
(149,560 posts)I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.
But yes: she is no longer in pain. And that matters.
Please take care of yourself; be gentle with yourself. Grief is a strange beast.
Doreen
(11,686 posts)c-rational
(2,590 posts)revmclaren
(2,505 posts)Grown2Hate
(2,010 posts)I love your posts, and that's frankly all I know about you (other than the fact that your screen name could refer to me or any male in my family lineage).
I hope that you're able to properly mourn in this time, and I join you in a shot.
ECL213
(211 posts)You will go on living and the heavy feeling in your heart will get lighter.
Sorry for your loss.
ZZenith
(4,119 posts)Cha
(297,029 posts)sorry, DI.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Mom
Demovictory9
(32,443 posts)orleans
(34,043 posts)LuvNewcastle
(16,843 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find the inner strength to get through this time and may others help to lessen your burden.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)jaysunb
(11,856 posts)I understand your pain. Covid 19 took my mom 6 months ago. I still haven't gotten far beyond it.
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Metatron
(1,258 posts)My deepest sympathies.
I've enjoyed learning about your mom through your posts.
MFM008
(19,803 posts)CatMor
(6,212 posts)please accept my deepest sympathy for this saddest of time.
octoberlib
(14,971 posts)vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Especially on Christmas day that's just so goddamn difficult I can't imagine I'm sorry
Maru Kitteh
(28,333 posts)susanr516
(1,425 posts)oldtime dfl_er
(6,930 posts)condolences.
DFW
(54,328 posts)But I can tell you it will ease, though not any time soon. It will be gradual at best.
Ive been there. It takes a while. But youll get there.
murielm99
(30,724 posts)Hekate
(90,616 posts)handmade34
(22,756 posts)TrollBuster9090
(5,954 posts)I felt the same way when my Mom passed on. Devastated, but relieved that she is in a better place.
Raine
(30,540 posts)sympathy to you and all those who knew and loved her.
MyNameIsKhan
(2,205 posts)a la izquierda
(11,791 posts)and may your mums passage into the Great Beyond be smooth.
littlemissmartypants
(22,628 posts)I know you feel gutted right now. Daddy went to his heavenly rest December 9th. Each day it gets a little easier to bear. She'll live on in your heart forever. Stay encouraged. You are loved.
❤ lmsp
flying-skeleton
(696 posts)🙏🙏
musicblind
(4,484 posts)My deepest condolences
regnaD kciN
(26,044 posts)KT2000
(20,571 posts)at this most difficult time. I'm so sorry.
joshcryer
(62,269 posts)TigressDem
(5,125 posts)TheBlackAdder
(28,179 posts)Response to Drunken Irishman (Original post)
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denbot
(9,899 posts)Tiger8
(432 posts)I'm Irish too and so your posts have stood out to me in a special way, and I've appreciated them very much.
Thanks for being here. It's clear that your mother raised an awesome son.
Mike 03
(16,616 posts)My deepest condolences.
TruckFump
(5,812 posts)MacKasey
(986 posts)Peace be with you and your family
GentryDixon
(2,948 posts)May you find peace in knowing she is no longer suffering. That's how I handled losing both of my parents. ❤️
redwitch
(14,944 posts)May her memory be a blessing.
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)She's a very fortunate woman. 🌸
DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)When you feel stronger, try to do something that makes her happy...she will live forever that way through you.
I am so sorry.
mrs_p
(3,014 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)SheltieLover
(57,073 posts)So sorry to hear of your loss.
Cicada
(4,533 posts)essaynnc
(801 posts)Cry, laugh, think about the good times together. know that we're all thinking about you and hoping the best for you and yours....
Meowmee
(5,164 posts)I am glad she is no longer in pain too. There is maybe nothing more painful than the finality of the ones you love no longer being physically here with you. Wishing you peace.
Alliepoo
(2,215 posts)Im so very sorry for your loss, DI.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,712 posts)Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)It's always hard to lose our parents, but at Christmas time is especially hard.
She's close by.
duforsure
(11,885 posts)mobeau69
(11,138 posts)Jim__
(14,072 posts)malaise
(268,846 posts)hlthe2b
(102,191 posts)backtoblue
(11,343 posts)May your mother rest in peace.
panader0
(25,816 posts)I still miss my mom, gone 35 years now
7wo7rees
(5,128 posts)As others have said, grief is a beast but it will get better...
Take care, know thst you are much loved.
Kaleva
(36,291 posts)monmouth4
(9,691 posts)gademocrat7
(10,651 posts)Sending you love and hugs during this difficult time.
lanlady
(7,133 posts)Losing a mother is one of life's hardest journeys. May she be at peace and may memories of her sustain you in the difficult moments ahead.
UpInArms
(51,280 posts)underpants
(182,724 posts)❤️
tavernier
(12,374 posts)So sorry.
Peacetrain
(22,873 posts)A HERETIC I AM
(24,365 posts)hamsterjill
(15,220 posts)To you and yours. Im so sorry for you loss.
OnDoutside
(19,949 posts)May her soul be on God's right hand.
brer cat
(24,544 posts)I hope you find comfort in your memories.
spanone
(135,803 posts)marlakay
(11,443 posts)Peace and hugs.
icymist
(15,888 posts)MoonRiver
(36,926 posts)greatauntoftriplets
(175,729 posts)Maeve
(42,279 posts)Let the pain wash over you but hold tight to the love she gave you
Demsrule86
(68,539 posts)I still miss my my Mom. Prayers for you and your Mom.
TrishaJ
(797 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,158 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,444 posts)Tom Rinaldo
(22,912 posts)I'm so sorry DI
pazzyanne
(6,546 posts)Death of a loved one is always hard, and even more so when it happens during the holidays. Be kind and take good care of you during your time of grief!
louslobbs
(3,230 posts)I was so glad she was no longer in pain. Please take care of yourself and know that you have many friends standing by you. Stay safe and Im so sorry for your loss. Also, I saw the Christmas picture of you and your mom, it was a bright moment...think of those as often as you can. Youll cry some more, but you will also smile...I did.
Lou
niyad
(113,213 posts)you and your loved ones.
Bettie
(16,083 posts)I hope you find peace in the coming days.
Freedomofspeech
(4,223 posts)ProfessorGAC
(64,959 posts)My wife has a rough time in February. Her mom died on Valentine's Day.
Take care!
marked50
(1,366 posts)PCIntern
(25,514 posts)wryter2000
(46,025 posts)As you said, she lived to see Trump defeated.
sheshe2
(83,710 posts)cate94
(2,810 posts)cry baby
(6,682 posts)blogslut
(37,991 posts)I am so sorry
Maraya1969
(22,474 posts)BComplex
(8,029 posts)BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)Malmsy
(297 posts)shrike3
(3,530 posts)area51
(11,902 posts)Donkees
(31,365 posts)We sing with our light
We are the birds of fire
We fly over the sky
Our light is a voice
We make a road for the spirit to pass over
We are like the wind,
Wrapped, in luminous wings,
We make a road for the spirits to pass over.
For the Spirits to pass over.
Hotler
(11,410 posts)sellitman
(11,606 posts)I lost my Dad last year and felt just the same way.
Hugs.
GoCubsGo
(32,078 posts)Been there, too. It sucks.
AllyCat
(16,174 posts)Even with time to prepare, it is not easier. Hugs to you.
AirmensMom
(14,642 posts)kimbutgar
(21,103 posts)Losing ones Mother is the hardest. The one who brought you in the world.
QED
(2,747 posts)my mom died on New Year's day a few years ago and the day has never been the same to me. A family tradition was watching the Rose Parade and now it's just bittersweet.
Mad_Dem_X
(9,553 posts)Moral Compass
(1,516 posts)From one drunken irishman to another.
Greybnk48
(10,167 posts)Your love for each will always be there. The love we all saw in that picture you posted. Please take care, and accept my heartfelt sympathy.
onecaliberal
(32,811 posts)Sending healing vibes
world wide wally
(21,739 posts)To you and your family
George II
(67,782 posts)First Speaker
(4,858 posts)...it takes time to get through this--but you will.
58Sunliner
(4,378 posts)Moostache
(9,895 posts)I just got through my first Christmas since the passing of my own mother this past November, and it doesn't matter what time or day this happens, it leaves a gaping hole that only closes slowly with time but feels like it will never close again. We cried and remembered mom last night and what helped us all were the shared memories of better days and happier times that temporarily fill that horrible dull ache. I hope that you are able to find the support and memories that will help carry you through this as swiftly as possible.
FakeNoose
(32,613 posts)It's hard to say goodbye to someone who's always been there for you.
I'm sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need for grieving.
Those who love you will understand and empathize.
Remember that your mother is in a better place now, and her time to suffer is over.
When you see her again in heaven, you'll have so much to tell her.
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pandr32
(11,572 posts)highplainsdem
(48,957 posts)I sent mail a few days ago with a link that might help, and I know you probably haven't had any time to look at mail, but I hope when you do it will offer some comfort.
for your sweet mom.
Nevilledog
(51,055 posts)justhanginon
(3,289 posts)ancianita
(36,009 posts)MineralMan
(146,281 posts)DeeDeeNY
(3,354 posts)It will take time for the pain to ease.
peggysue2
(10,826 posts)This part of life is always so hard.
Blessings to you and your family.
BobTheSubgenius
(11,562 posts)Time comes for us all, sadly...but I bet with a son like you as an indicator, she had a fine life, lived well.
iluvtennis
(19,843 posts)May she Rest in Peace and May Her Meory be a Blessing.
bdamomma
(63,812 posts)sympathy during this sad time for you. We are here DI.
MustLoveBeagles
(11,587 posts)Judi Lynn
(160,508 posts)The love never dies. It's with you forever.
Deepest wishes for your healing.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)Shell rest peacefully forever in your heart.
lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)May she rest in peace. Take care of yourself.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)May she rest in peace.
My sincerest condolences to you.
boston bean
(36,220 posts)StarlightGold
(365 posts)your mother is gone. I cant imagine what youre going through. Your first memories are of this person.
Be good to yourself. Dont try to avoid the emotional pain; you need to grieve and youll avoid even more stress. The stress of trying to suppress overwhelming feelings.
Im sending every calming vibe to you.
DownriverDem
(6,226 posts)As bad as it is keep hold of the "she is no longer in pain" meme.
SaveOurDemocracy
(4,400 posts)SalmonChantedEvening
(31,951 posts)Sending sympathy and love your way.
CousinIT
(9,234 posts)I know your world feels shattered and broken right now and you probably feel hollowed out inside. Only time will heal this for you and meanwhile I'm sending you all the strength to get through this.
Hugs my friend.
LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)When my Mom died I cried for three days straight. I am so sorry.
leftieNanner
(15,074 posts)My Mom passed away on Easter Sunday. Although Easter was difficult to manage for a few years, I now have wonderful memories of her on that day (even though the actual date is different every year) and I eat a chocolate bunny in her honor.
You will have a place in your heart for her for evermore.
MerryBlooms
(11,761 posts)majdrfrtim
(317 posts)probably because every new grief reawakens every old grief -- even those we've processed effectively.
My sincere condolences and prayers, FWIW.
Consider yourself hugged.
Requiescat illa in pace.
CaptainTruth
(6,582 posts)EndlessWire
(6,477 posts)Deep condolences to you and your family.
BigBearJohn
(11,410 posts)ucrdem
(15,512 posts)Peace and rest to her soul.
Niagara
(7,589 posts)Sending you strength during this difficult time.
Atticus
(15,124 posts)Care for yourself. It's what she would want you to do.
My condolences.
occupant
(166 posts)She is your Guardian Angel now, she will watch over you now and keep you safe
femmedem
(8,199 posts)Mr. Evil
(2,833 posts)Every time she'd call, when I answered she'd always say, "hey honey." I guess I'll always hear (sense) that.
She passed in 2016. I'll always miss her.
My deepest condolences to you, DI. I'm sure she was a grand lady just like my mom.
Tumbulu
(6,272 posts)I am so sorry for your loss, friend.
ailsagirl
(22,893 posts)Still Sensible
(2,870 posts)bless you and your family.
Vivienne235729
(3,381 posts)MLAA
(17,266 posts)Vadem
(2,596 posts)I am still heartbroken!
LeftInTX
(25,201 posts)myccrider
(484 posts)The pain is intense, I know. Remember all the good things, tell stories, cry, laugh with tears in your eyes, love her memory.
a kennedy
(29,642 posts)mvd
(65,169 posts)My condolences go out to you, Drunken Irishman. Thinking of you during this very difficult time.
herding cats
(19,558 posts)Your mom is now free of pain, which matters. However, now you have to deal with this extremely difficult and painful moment in your life.
My heart is with you tonight. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
electric_blue68
(14,848 posts)Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.
l know how devastating it is.
Everyone grieves in their own way, but at some when in the furure the pain will lessen. More joy will return.
Strength to you and family.
RMVet
(25 posts)Sending prayers, strength, and love your way.