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My mother passed away tonight... (Original Post) Drunken Irishman Dec 2020 OP
So Sorry. Stuart G Dec 2020 #1
Condolences TEB Dec 2020 #2
Oh no! Bayard Dec 2020 #3
I am so sorry for your loss, Drunken Irishman! Backseat Driver Dec 2020 #4
I am so sorry JI7 Dec 2020 #5
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss... and on Christmas. chowder66 Dec 2020 #6
Ah, my dear Drunken Irishman... CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2020 #7
My condolences to you and yours. Doreen Dec 2020 #8
So sorry DI. May you both find peace. c-rational Dec 2020 #9
I am so very sorry for your loss. revmclaren Dec 2020 #10
I'm so sorry. Grown2Hate Dec 2020 #11
My mom said before she passed... ECL213 Dec 2020 #12
My deepest sympathies are with you, Drunken Irishman. ZZenith Dec 2020 #13
It's so hard.. I'm very Cha Dec 2020 #14
So Sorry DI ... mr_lebowski Dec 2020 #15
sorry to hear that Demovictory9 Dec 2020 #16
... orleans Dec 2020 #17
Days like these are the ones that all of us dread. LuvNewcastle Dec 2020 #18
Rest in peace shenmue Dec 2020 #19
My condolences. jaysunb Dec 2020 #20
This message was self-deleted by its author CatLady78 Dec 2020 #21
My heart is with you and your family tonight. Metatron Dec 2020 #22
so sorry MFM008 Dec 2020 #23
So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother... CatMor Dec 2020 #24
So sorry for your loss. octoberlib Dec 2020 #25
I'm sorry for your loss vercetti2021 Dec 2020 #26
I lost my mom on Thanksgiving. My heart breaks for you Maru Kitteh Dec 2020 #27
I'm so very sorry for your loss. susanr516 Dec 2020 #28
I'm so sorry oldtime dfl_er Dec 2020 #29
I can't help lessen the pain DFW Dec 2020 #30
I am sorry. murielm99 Dec 2020 #31
I'm so sorry for your loss, DI. Peaceful crossing for your mother, & peaceful heart to you Hekate Dec 2020 #32
... handmade34 Dec 2020 #33
My deepest condolences. TrollBuster9090 Dec 2020 #34
I'm so very sorry 💔 Raine Dec 2020 #35
My deepest condolences, really sorry. MyNameIsKhan Dec 2020 #36
My deepest sympathies to you... a la izquierda Dec 2020 #37
So sorry, Drunken Irishman. littlemissmartypants Dec 2020 #38
🙏🙏 flying-skeleton Dec 2020 #39
I am so sorry. musicblind Dec 2020 #40
May her memory be eternal... regnaD kciN Dec 2020 #41
Peace to you KT2000 Dec 2020 #42
I'm so sorry for your loss. joshcryer Dec 2020 #43
(((Hugs))) So, so sorry for your loss. TigressDem Dec 2020 #44
I'm so sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family during this trying time. TheBlackAdder Dec 2020 #45
This message was self-deleted by its author Freelancer Dec 2020 #46
. denbot Dec 2020 #47
My condolences to you, Drunken Irishman. Tiger8 Dec 2020 #48
So sorry to hear this, Drunken Irishman. Mike 03 Dec 2020 #49
So very sorry. TruckFump Dec 2020 #50
Very sorry MacKasey Dec 2020 #51
I am so very sorry. 😢💔 GentryDixon Dec 2020 #52
I'm sorry. redwitch Dec 2020 #53
We're very sorry for your loss, Irishman, but glad she's so well loved. Hortensis Dec 2020 #54
My deepest condolences DonaldsRump Dec 2020 #55
I am so so sorry for such a great loss mrs_p Dec 2020 #56
Hugs to you lunatica Dec 2020 #57
Deepest Condolences SheltieLover Dec 2020 #58
Our sincere sympathies are with you Cicada Dec 2020 #59
so sorry for your loss. essaynnc Dec 2020 #60
So sorry for your loss Meowmee Dec 2020 #61
It's one of the hardest things to lose your Mom Alliepoo Dec 2020 #62
... N_E_1 for Tennis Dec 2020 #63
May the sweet memories help you through your grief. Frustratedlady Dec 2020 #64
So sorry for your loss, duforsure Dec 2020 #65
My deepest condolences to you and your family. mobeau69 Dec 2020 #66
Sorry for your loss. Jim__ Dec 2020 #67
So painful anytime but on Christmas night malaise Dec 2020 #68
Know that many are thinking of you and sharing your pain. hlthe2b Dec 2020 #69
Condolences to you and your family backtoblue Dec 2020 #70
So sorry DI-----losing a parent is never easy panader0 Dec 2020 #71
There is so much love and wisdom in this thread. Take comfort in that. 7wo7rees Dec 2020 #72
Very sorry for your loss. Kaleva Dec 2020 #73
Sincere condolences to all of you..n/t monmouth4 Dec 2020 #74
Condolences on the loss of your beloved mother. gademocrat7 Dec 2020 #75
My deepest condolences, DI lanlady Dec 2020 #76
I am so sorry UpInArms Dec 2020 #77
I'm so sorry for you underpants Dec 2020 #78
It's an especially hard time of the year for a loss such as this. tavernier Dec 2020 #79
I am so sorry DI... its hard to let them go.. Peacetrain Dec 2020 #80
My sincerest condolences. A HERETIC I AM Dec 2020 #81
Sending prayers for peace and comfort. hamsterjill Dec 2020 #82
My sincerest condolences to you and yours, DI. Ar dheis De go raibh a anam. OnDoutside Dec 2020 #83
I'm so sorry, DI. brer cat Dec 2020 #84
So sorry.... spanone Dec 2020 #85
So sorry for your loss marlakay Dec 2020 #86
I'm sorry for your loss. icymist Dec 2020 #87
I'm so sorry DI. MoonRiver Dec 2020 #88
My deepest sympathies for your loss. greatauntoftriplets Dec 2020 #89
The grief will lessen in time, but the good memories will remain always Maeve Dec 2020 #90
So sad for you. I am so sorry. Demsrule86 Dec 2020 #91
So sorry.... TrishaJ Dec 2020 #92
I am so sorry. peacebuzzard Dec 2020 #93
Deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Dec 2020 #94
You were both blessed with an amazing relationship. That makes the loss even harder Tom Rinaldo Dec 2020 #95
So sorry, Drunken Irishman. pazzyanne Dec 2020 #96
I said those exact words louslobbs Dec 2020 #97
So very sorry for your terrible loss, DI. Sending vibes for strength and comfort and healing for niyad Dec 2020 #98
I'm sorry for your loss Bettie Dec 2020 #99
Sending you love and peace... Freedomofspeech Dec 2020 #100
Condolences, DI ProfessorGAC Dec 2020 #101
Sorry for you-be well marked50 Dec 2020 #102
May her memory always be for a blessing PCIntern Dec 2020 #103
So hard to happen at Christmas wryter2000 Dec 2020 #104
May she Rest In Peace. sheshe2 Dec 2020 #105
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Dec 2020 #106
Deepest condolences. cry baby Dec 2020 #107
Blessings to you blogslut Dec 2020 #108
I'm so sorry. Losing your mom is so hard. Maraya1969 Dec 2020 #109
My deepest condolences, DI. BComplex Dec 2020 #110
Heartfelt Condolences 💐 BlancheSplanchnik Dec 2020 #111
May her memory be a blessing. Malmsy Dec 2020 #112
A parent's love is something that never leaves you. You will take it with you wherever you go. shrike3 Dec 2020 #113
I'm so sorry, DI. area51 Dec 2020 #114
And into the Light, Love, Peace Donkees Dec 2020 #115
That sucks. Let me offer my condolence Hotler Dec 2020 #116
My thoughts go out to you. sellitman Dec 2020 #117
I am so sorry, Drunken Irishman. GoCubsGo Dec 2020 #118
Oh dear. I am so sorry. AllyCat Dec 2020 #119
I'm sorry for your loss. AirmensMom Dec 2020 #120
I'm sorry for your loss kimbutgar Dec 2020 #121
My condolences.... QED Dec 2020 #122
So sorry for your loss. Mad_Dem_X Dec 2020 #123
So sorry for your loss Moral Compass Dec 2020 #124
I'm so sorry, D.I. Greybnk48 Dec 2020 #125
I'm so very sorry. 💔 onecaliberal Dec 2020 #126
Peace world wide wally Dec 2020 #127
Sorry to hear this. George II Dec 2020 #128
My deepest condolences... First Speaker Dec 2020 #129
Condolences.. 58Sunliner Dec 2020 #130
My deepest condolences... Moostache Dec 2020 #131
An eternal flame for your Mom FakeNoose Dec 2020 #132
This message was self-deleted by its author MustLoveBeagles Dec 2020 #144
I am so sorry pandr32 Dec 2020 #133
I'm so sorry. My heart is with you. highplainsdem Dec 2020 #134
... Nevilledog Dec 2020 #135
My condolences. A very sad time. justhanginon Dec 2020 #136
So sorry for your loss, DI. ancianita Dec 2020 #137
I'm very sorry to read that. MineralMan Dec 2020 #138
My sincerest sympathy DeeDeeNY Dec 2020 #139
Condolences peggysue2 Dec 2020 #140
I'm so sorry to hear of your pain and loss. BobTheSubgenius Dec 2020 #141
... iluvtennis Dec 2020 #142
My deepest bdamomma Dec 2020 #143
My condolences on the loss of your mom MustLoveBeagles Dec 2020 #145
So sorry you are experiencing this loss. It is good to know her suffering has ended for her. Judi Lynn Dec 2020 #146
Condolences.... Heartstrings Dec 2020 #147
So very sorry lillypaddle Dec 2020 #148
I'm so sorry for your loss, DI. smirkymonkey Dec 2020 #149
Heartfelt condolences on your loss. boston bean Dec 2020 #150
I am so sorry StarlightGold Dec 2020 #151
So sorry DownriverDem Dec 2020 #152
Condolences DI SaveOurDemocracy Dec 2020 #153
My condolences SalmonChantedEvening Dec 2020 #154
I am so sorry DI. CousinIT Dec 2020 #155
I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏🌹 LiberalLoner Dec 2020 #156
My condolences to you DI leftieNanner Dec 2020 #157
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. Sending you love from Oregon. MerryBlooms Dec 2020 #158
Grief, though not a mental illness, can sure *feel* like one, majdrfrtim Dec 2020 #159
I'm so sorry... You're in my thoughts... CaptainTruth Dec 2020 #160
I'm sorry to hear this. EndlessWire Dec 2020 #161
God bless the two of you. My sincere sympathy. BigBearJohn Dec 2020 #162
Really sorry to hear this DI ucrdem Dec 2020 #163
My condolences to you and your family, DI. Niagara Dec 2020 #164
It is said that you never "get over" such a loss, but it is possible to "get through" it. Atticus Dec 2020 #165
your guardian angel occupant Dec 2020 #166
I'm so sorry, Drunken Irishman. femmedem Dec 2020 #167
I still hear my mom's voice. Mr. Evil Dec 2020 #168
Sending my condolences, Tumbulu Dec 2020 #169
There are no words when you lose a mother... ailsagirl Dec 2020 #170
So sorry Still Sensible Dec 2020 #171
So very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Vivienne235729 Dec 2020 #172
I am so sorry DI. 💕💖 MLAA Dec 2020 #173
My deepest condolences! I lost my mother two years ago and Vadem Dec 2020 #174
I'm so sorry, Drunken Irishman LeftInTX Dec 2020 #175
Deepest sympathy myccrider Dec 2020 #176
I am so sorry......... a kennedy Dec 2020 #177
I'm very sorry mvd Dec 2020 #178
My condolences on your painful loss. herding cats Dec 2020 #179
My deepest sympathy for your loss, DI. electric_blue68 Dec 2020 #180
Very sorry for your loss. RMVet Dec 2020 #181

JI7

(89,244 posts)
5. I am so sorry
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:02 AM
Dec 2020

Let us know if there is anything you need that any of us could possibly do to help right now.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,560 posts)
7. Ah, my dear Drunken Irishman...
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:02 AM
Dec 2020

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.

But yes: she is no longer in pain. And that matters.

Please take care of yourself; be gentle with yourself. Grief is a strange beast.

Grown2Hate

(2,010 posts)
11. I'm so sorry.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:07 AM
Dec 2020

I love your posts, and that's frankly all I know about you (other than the fact that your screen name could refer to me or any male in my family lineage).

I hope that you're able to properly mourn in this time, and I join you in a shot.

ECL213

(211 posts)
12. My mom said before she passed...
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:07 AM
Dec 2020

You will go on living and the heavy feeling in your heart will get lighter.

Sorry for your loss.

LuvNewcastle

(16,843 posts)
18. Days like these are the ones that all of us dread.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:24 AM
Dec 2020

I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find the inner strength to get through this time and may others help to lessen your burden.

jaysunb

(11,856 posts)
20. My condolences.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:29 AM
Dec 2020

I understand your pain. Covid 19 took my mom 6 months ago. I still haven't gotten far beyond it.

Response to Drunken Irishman (Original post)

Metatron

(1,258 posts)
22. My heart is with you and your family tonight.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:32 AM
Dec 2020

My deepest sympathies.

I've enjoyed learning about your mom through your posts.

CatMor

(6,212 posts)
24. So sorry to hear of the loss of your mother...
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:35 AM
Dec 2020

please accept my deepest sympathy for this saddest of time.

vercetti2021

(10,156 posts)
26. I'm sorry for your loss
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:38 AM
Dec 2020

Especially on Christmas day that's just so goddamn difficult I can't imagine I'm sorry

DFW

(54,328 posts)
30. I can't help lessen the pain
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:57 AM
Dec 2020

But I can tell you it will ease, though not any time soon. It will be gradual at best.

I‘ve been there. It takes a while. But you‘ll get there.

TrollBuster9090

(5,954 posts)
34. My deepest condolences.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 04:12 AM
Dec 2020

I felt the same way when my Mom passed on. Devastated, but relieved that she is in a better place.

littlemissmartypants

(22,628 posts)
38. So sorry, Drunken Irishman.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 04:22 AM
Dec 2020

I know you feel gutted right now. Daddy went to his heavenly rest December 9th. Each day it gets a little easier to bear. She'll live on in your heart forever. Stay encouraged. You are loved.

❤ lmsp

Response to Drunken Irishman (Original post)

 

Tiger8

(432 posts)
48. My condolences to you, Drunken Irishman.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 05:31 AM
Dec 2020

I'm Irish too and so your posts have stood out to me in a special way, and I've appreciated them very much.

Thanks for being here. It's clear that your mother raised an awesome son.

GentryDixon

(2,948 posts)
52. I am so very sorry. 😢💔
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 06:24 AM
Dec 2020

May you find peace in knowing she is no longer suffering. That's how I handled losing both of my parents. ❤️

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
54. We're very sorry for your loss, Irishman, but glad she's so well loved.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 06:34 AM
Dec 2020

She's a very fortunate woman. 🌸

DonaldsRump

(7,715 posts)
55. My deepest condolences
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 06:36 AM
Dec 2020

When you feel stronger, try to do something that makes her happy...she will live forever that way through you.

I am so sorry.

essaynnc

(801 posts)
60. so sorry for your loss.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 06:56 AM
Dec 2020

Cry, laugh, think about the good times together. know that we're all thinking about you and hoping the best for you and yours....

Meowmee

(5,164 posts)
61. So sorry for your loss
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 07:07 AM
Dec 2020

I am glad she is no longer in pain too. There is maybe nothing more painful than the finality of the ones you love no longer being physically here with you. Wishing you peace.

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
64. May the sweet memories help you through your grief.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 07:19 AM
Dec 2020

It's always hard to lose our parents, but at Christmas time is especially hard.

She's close by.

7wo7rees

(5,128 posts)
72. There is so much love and wisdom in this thread. Take comfort in that.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 08:02 AM
Dec 2020

As others have said, grief is a beast but it will get better...
Take care, know thst you are much loved.

lanlady

(7,133 posts)
76. My deepest condolences, DI
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 08:12 AM
Dec 2020

Losing a mother is one of life's hardest journeys. May she be at peace and may memories of her sustain you in the difficult moments ahead.

OnDoutside

(19,949 posts)
83. My sincerest condolences to you and yours, DI. Ar dheis De go raibh a anam.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 08:58 AM
Dec 2020

May her soul be on God's right hand.

Maeve

(42,279 posts)
90. The grief will lessen in time, but the good memories will remain always
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 09:20 AM
Dec 2020

Let the pain wash over you but hold tight to the love she gave you

pazzyanne

(6,546 posts)
96. So sorry, Drunken Irishman.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 09:52 AM
Dec 2020

Death of a loved one is always hard, and even more so when it happens during the holidays. Be kind and take good care of you during your time of grief!

louslobbs

(3,230 posts)
97. I said those exact words
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 09:54 AM
Dec 2020

I was so glad she was no longer in pain. Please take care of yourself and know that you have many friends standing by you. Stay safe and I’m so sorry for your loss. Also, I saw the Christmas picture of you and your mom, it was a bright moment...think of those as often as you can. You’ll cry some more, but you will also smile...I did.
Lou

niyad

(113,213 posts)
98. So very sorry for your terrible loss, DI. Sending vibes for strength and comfort and healing for
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 09:54 AM
Dec 2020

you and your loved ones.

Donkees

(31,365 posts)
115. And into the Light, Love, Peace
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 11:36 AM
Dec 2020
We are the stars which sing
We sing with our light
We are the birds of fire
We fly over the sky
Our light is a voice
We make a road for the spirit to pass over

We are like the wind,
Wrapped, in luminous wings,
We make a road for the spirits to pass over.
For the Spirits to pass over.


QED

(2,747 posts)
122. My condolences....
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 12:00 PM
Dec 2020

my mom died on New Year's day a few years ago and the day has never been the same to me. A family tradition was watching the Rose Parade and now it's just bittersweet.

Greybnk48

(10,167 posts)
125. I'm so sorry, D.I.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 12:26 PM
Dec 2020

Your love for each will always be there. The love we all saw in that picture you posted. Please take care, and accept my heartfelt sympathy.

Moostache

(9,895 posts)
131. My deepest condolences...
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 01:16 PM
Dec 2020

I just got through my first Christmas since the passing of my own mother this past November, and it doesn't matter what time or day this happens, it leaves a gaping hole that only closes slowly with time but feels like it will never close again. We cried and remembered mom last night and what helped us all were the shared memories of better days and happier times that temporarily fill that horrible dull ache. I hope that you are able to find the support and memories that will help carry you through this as swiftly as possible.

FakeNoose

(32,613 posts)
132. An eternal flame for your Mom
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 01:18 PM
Dec 2020


It's hard to say goodbye to someone who's always been there for you.
I'm sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need for grieving.
Those who love you will understand and empathize.

Remember that your mother is in a better place now, and her time to suffer is over.
When you see her again in heaven, you'll have so much to tell her.



Response to FakeNoose (Reply #132)

highplainsdem

(48,957 posts)
134. I'm so sorry. My heart is with you.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 01:30 PM
Dec 2020


I sent mail a few days ago with a link that might help, and I know you probably haven't had any time to look at mail, but I hope when you do it will offer some comfort.

for your sweet mom.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,562 posts)
141. I'm so sorry to hear of your pain and loss.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 01:59 PM
Dec 2020

Time comes for us all, sadly...but I bet with a son like you as an indicator, she had a fine life, lived well.

Judi Lynn

(160,508 posts)
146. So sorry you are experiencing this loss. It is good to know her suffering has ended for her.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 02:09 PM
Dec 2020

The love never dies. It's with you forever.

Deepest wishes for your healing.

StarlightGold

(365 posts)
151. I am so sorry
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 02:34 PM
Dec 2020

your mother is gone. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Your first memories are of this person.
Be good to yourself. Don’t try to avoid the emotional pain; you need to grieve and you’ll avoid even more stress. The stress of trying to suppress overwhelming feelings.
I’m sending every calming vibe to you.

CousinIT

(9,234 posts)
155. I am so sorry DI.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:07 PM
Dec 2020

I know your world feels shattered and broken right now and you probably feel hollowed out inside. Only time will heal this for you and meanwhile I'm sending you all the strength to get through this.

Hugs my friend.

leftieNanner

(15,074 posts)
157. My condolences to you DI
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:17 PM
Dec 2020

My Mom passed away on Easter Sunday. Although Easter was difficult to manage for a few years, I now have wonderful memories of her on that day (even though the actual date is different every year) and I eat a chocolate bunny in her honor.

You will have a place in your heart for her for evermore.

majdrfrtim

(317 posts)
159. Grief, though not a mental illness, can sure *feel* like one,
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 03:40 PM
Dec 2020

probably because every new grief reawakens every old grief -- even those we've processed effectively.

My sincere condolences and prayers, FWIW.

Consider yourself hugged.

Requiescat illa in pace.

Atticus

(15,124 posts)
165. It is said that you never "get over" such a loss, but it is possible to "get through" it.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 05:39 PM
Dec 2020

Care for yourself. It's what she would want you to do.

My condolences.

Mr. Evil

(2,833 posts)
168. I still hear my mom's voice.
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 08:24 PM
Dec 2020

Every time she'd call, when I answered she'd always say, "hey honey." I guess I'll always hear (sense) that.
She passed in 2016. I'll always miss her.

My deepest condolences to you, DI. I'm sure she was a grand lady just like my mom.

myccrider

(484 posts)
176. Deepest sympathy
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 11:26 PM
Dec 2020

The pain is intense, I know. Remember all the good things, tell stories, cry, laugh with tears in your eyes, love her memory.

mvd

(65,169 posts)
178. I'm very sorry
Sat Dec 26, 2020, 11:57 PM
Dec 2020

My condolences go out to you, Drunken Irishman. Thinking of you during this very difficult time.

herding cats

(19,558 posts)
179. My condolences on your painful loss.
Sun Dec 27, 2020, 12:02 AM
Dec 2020

Your mom is now free of pain, which matters. However, now you have to deal with this extremely difficult and painful moment in your life.

My heart is with you tonight. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

electric_blue68

(14,848 posts)
180. My deepest sympathy for your loss, DI.
Sun Dec 27, 2020, 01:06 AM
Dec 2020

Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.
l know how devastating it is.
Everyone grieves in their own way, but at some when in the furure the pain will lessen. More joy will return.

Strength to you and family.


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