ATTN DU! A warning about gay & lesbian neighbors. This happened to me.

[Botany]

They bake cookies, leave 'em on your front porch in pretty boxes, and include clever notes too.

[sinkingfeeling]

1. I got a Whole Food's cake from my gay neighbors.

[struggle4progress]

26. Quelle horreur!

[DangerousRhythm]

74. Was it the berry chantilly?

That one is my favorite.

[sinkingfeeling]

76. Yes it was!

[DangerousRhythm]

86. The best!

Those are good neighbors. 😂

[redstatebluegirl]

2. When I had surgery a few years ago, they brought food for days and offered to take care of me while

my husband was teaching. Wonderful neighbors and friends!

[Botany]

7. When my son was a toddler he was watched by a nice lesbian couple*.

I used to think of what hell on earth they would drop on anybody who bothered my son.
BTW he has grown up straight, is married, and now is a dad himself.


* they moved away a long time ago.

[cwydro]

19. Why wouldn't he grow up straight?

Being babysat by gay people doesn’t “turn” anyone gay.

Sorry, I find it odd you had to include that.

[Botany]

20. Good God in Butter

I was kidding!

[Hassin Bin Sober]

56. I got the joke and I'm gayer than Christmas.

[Botany]

73. Thanx! I thought this thread was pro GLB&T oh well

Can I ask you a question as a straight white guy? I got to the bottom of the cookie
box and I ate two ginger/sugar cookies with colored "sprinkles" on them. Will I become
gay and will the gay PTB pick out a man for me to marry or do I have a choice in the
matter? BTW how can I break the news to a woman I have been seeing?

[Hassin Bin Sober]

80. You will have a choice in the matter only after all your old friends try to hook you up...

.... with the only other gay person they know. Usually their hairdresser.

[FreeState]

22. I was raised in a heterosexual sex cult

and I still turned out gay. Environment has little to no effect on orientation fortunately

[lunatica]

31. Oh snap!

[Tommymac]

57. Cults really suck.

[FreeState]

65. Even the naked touching sucked

Two old men touching your naked body under a flimsy poncho and oiling and washing your body was not all it was cracked up to be.

Granted pantomiming my own death in three different ways if I revealed the secret handshakes still freaks me out. But what do you expect when the founder had sex with 14 year olds girls by threatening them with death of their whole families if they didn’t marry him.

[Trueblue Texan]

35. kidding, yes...

But remember in this culture, many of us were not exposed to anything about being gay that was honest. We were taught lies about homosexuality and to fear it. I know I have a lot of information to catch up on. Mostly the subject of homosexuality was just a black box that we knew nothing about and what was revealed to us was shameful. My generation is trying to catch up to the facts and trying to shed the biases we were taught. Please help us and try to remember we are trying to learn better, even as we reveal the biases we were taught and the ignorance that lingers and that we continue to try to overcome.

[yardwork]

99. I'm a lesbian and I laughed. It's snark aimed at homophobes.

[RussellCattle]

3. My neighborhood has several of these people and we have come to expect such deviant....

.....behavior from them. And sometimes bread. Fresh baked bread. Yum.

[BeeBee]

4. Sounds like my husband and I need to up our game.

Although we do give wine to our neighbors.

[paleotn]

67. Damn! You're insidious!

[gay texan]

5. Absolutely!

Those vile wretched moral absent people (like me) will also help you with fashion ideas AND fix your car.

If you really piss me off i'll do a random drive-by decorating

[ProfessorGAC]

12. Beauty, GT!

Very funny post!

[AmyStrange]

33. Ok, that's funny...

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Fashion ideas I can do without, and I don't have a car, but if you're ever in the Seattle area, I could sure use some drive-by decorating.
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[gay texan]

47. pffft whatever

i can put a solid twist on BOHO styling

[AmyStrange]

49. BOHO styling?

-

And since I'm already showing my ignorance, what the hell is drive-by decorating anyway?
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[gay texan]

51. ;-)

Bohemian styling!

You're in Seattle, It's time to be hippie-fabulous!!!

Drive by decorating? Easy. Its where a centralized network of fab operatives sneak you a gift certificate to a fancy eatery to lure you away. When your gone, we break into your house, rework your living room and kitchen for something much more awesome

[AmyStrange]

61. Would I have to actually go to the restaurant, or...

-

could I just stay home and watch the decorating show live and in person?

Actually, that sounds like one hell of a great reality series idea.

Of course, people would probably get pissed when they got home, or maybe not, but hey, that could be part of the appeal!

Some people might even think they're haunted!

I can see this going HUGE, dude!

Or maybe not.
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[LeftInTX]

43. I think I know you!

[gay texan]

55. LOL n/t

[Hassin Bin Sober]

82. My husband and I were the handymen in the building of the condo we just sold.

Can’t cook worth a shit but we can rewire your house or fix your plumbing.

We just bought a house but haven’t moved in yet. We’ve been running back and forth doing little projects.

I think we are being sized up by the three neighbor moms. I’m sure they’ve figured it out by now. I feel like a piece of meat.

But that’s ok, they look like they might be fun. AND they had Black Lives Matter signs on their front lawns. Which is a very good sign. It helped sell the house. I think one of the other houses had a teacher union sign too!

I’ll seal the deal with the giant snowblower I just bought if we get snow. Great way to make friends.

[WA-03 Democrat]

6. I wish there was an app

To find cool neighbors.

[TrogL]

50. There is. It's called Nextdoor

[GoneOffShore]

87. Not always - some NextDoor groups have gone all HOA and RWNJ. Be careful.

[WA-03 Democrat]

106. I have next door

What I was think is type in the address and 5 houses in each direction a list of people and anything they want to share and public records search.

Next door is the lost cat and dog message board. Which is great. Our neighborhood is on the WA side of the Columbia River and it thinks houses on the south side in OR are in the same “neighborhood” is an another example of next door’s shortcomings. It’s not properly fenced around a physical neighborhood.

I just want an app that tells me how many Evangelicals are in my cal-du-sac. I bought new and half of them are not cool and right wing bigots. Having good neighbors is wonderful having ones you do not like and are judged by is not fun at all.

There has been at least 6 families in our neighborhood that did not “fit” and they sold at the first chance.

[LuckyLib]

104. I hear ya. We're thinking of moving but afraid to leave

our liberal neighborhood!

[LaMouffette]

8. Gay people rock! I have never known anyone gay who wasn't the nicest, kindest, most thoughtful

and empathetic human being you could ever want to meet.

[pnwmom]

53. Gay people are human beings, with the normal amount of good qualities and flaws.

As the daughter of a gay parent, I am leery of any suggestion that gay people are less diverse (in every sense) than straight people, no matter how well meaning.

They are not super-people . . . nor should we expect them to be. They shouldn't have to be super-special in order to be accepted as full human beings with the same civil rights as anyone else.

[Celerity]

60. you must not know many of us nt

[cwydro]

63. Lol, my thought too.

I’m gay, and I’ve known both good and bad people of all orientations.

[pnwmom]

78. I know they're all trying to be nice

but to me, as a daughter of an ordinary, not super-human, gay person, it feels like othering.

Gay people shouldn't have to be special to be accepted.

[LaMouffette]

107. I'm sorry about the othering! I guess "Gay people rock!" is a pretty broad generalization,

but I really did mean it in the best way. Mea culpa!

[pnwmom]

108. I know everyone here means well

but a lot of it feels like "I want my own pet gay person." And I'm seeing so many stereotypes. No, all gay people don't like to cook, and they're not all great dancers.

I think you understand. Gay people shouldn't have to be super-duper people to be accepted.

[LaMouffette]

109. Yup, and I should've known better too due a work project I did recently about disability rights.

One of the themes was the exasperation people with disabilities experience with well-meaning people who praise them as courageous and inspiring superheroes just for carrying out normal everyday activities. They call it the "supercrip stereotype" and see it as a form of othering (much like what I just did!).

Anyway, thanks for the reminder and Happy New Year to you!

[pnwmom]

110. Yes, you get it -- and that's a great analogy.

Happy New Year, LaMouffette!

[LaMouffette]

113. Thank you, pnwmom!

[FakeNoose]

9. How can I get a gay neighbor? I LOVE cookies!

[Irish_Dem]

10. My gay neighbors brought me food and shoveled my snow when I broke my leg this year.

Other gay neighbors kept up my morale during the election with Biden flags and pep talks.
They saved my sanity. They decorate outdoors for every holiday and I enjoy it a great deal, makes me smile.

[Botany]

14. All part of their "gay agenda."

BTW I have a gay neighbor (no cookies) but we get together and let our dogs play all the time.
We drink wine too.

Boxer 50 lbs of muscle and 90+ lbs of blond female lab. They beat the hell out of each other
and love every minute of it.

I loves me some of my gay-bors.

[Mr.Bill]

15. That reminds me.

Whenever a wingnut talks about the "Gay Agenda", I ask them where I can get a copy of it.

[Irish_Dem]

18. Good response. The wing nuts just babble nonsense. nt

[Irish_Dem]

16. Wow, that is 140lbs of fighting dogs!

My little six pound dog would go nuts wanting to join them.
He is a little hell raiser.

Gay neighbors are the best.

[Botany]

28. Funny the growl, snap, bark, and knock each other over and never leave a mark.

When we are gonna meet we tell our respective dogs the other dogs name and they run
to the back door and or down the alley to see each other. They sleep for hours afterwards.

Your six pound dog would be more than welcome. No doubt he/she would be boss in no time.

[Irish_Dem]

29. Right hard to tell if they are playing or killing each other.

Sounds like a lot of fun.

Right the little dogs are the bosses.

[Botany]

32. It is called play displays

2 common ones:

The play bow head down & butt up

showing throat ..... roll over and show your throat

[Irish_Dem]

36. Interesting, play mediates the stress response to make it more functional in the future.

Loved the one with the polar bear "hugging" the husky who was not sure how to feel about it.

[Botany]

39. I don't think it was in that video but I have seen both the dog and then the bear showing each ...

... their throats.

BTW the husky was very good with the bear hug.

[Irish_Dem]

41. Right, husky just sat there. Didn't look like he much of a choice, but he didn't fight it.

[PSPS]

13. OMG! Don't open it and let teh gay out!!1111!!!

[Botany]

25. I already did! And I feel fabulous too.

I think it was the puffed gingerbread with powered sugar but it might have been the short breads.

[Demsrule86]

17. OMG really! so what is the word I am looking for.... awesome! 😊 My daughter is Gay and

is now engaged to a lovely young woman.

[LSFL]

21. Those darned gays

Always being helpful and sympathetic to me when I have problems!

Real Americans know that you talk shit about those less fortunate!

They should all be hugged! I mean han..... Too late...God knows my true feelings now. Looks like eternal damnation for me. Thanks a lot gay people!

[David__77]

24. I appreciate that there are so many people who aren't antagonistic toward gay people.

Mostly a long time ago, I dealt with a good amount of harassment about sexual orientation.

What I really hope for is people coming to a place where a range of sexual orientation and identity/"being" generally, is not just acceptable, it is understood to be part of being human.

[Tink41]

30. My Ex-spouse came out 20+

Years ago. Grew up several houses away as kids. Never knew, those days I think we assumed the gays popped out of the sky as fully grown adults. Surely your best pal wasn't gay.....
We decided to be upfront with our child about why we had split. My feelings and hope were that if we discussed this openly, someday no one else would experience the heartbreak we did as a family. Maybe our child could be the friend a person could trust to come out to. There was no animosity between us, I understood it to be a situation purely influenced by society. I couldn't quite find
my reasons then, but I knew things had to change.
I've been a full champion for equality and acceptance, so much so people speculate about me. Who cares. 3 hearts shattered in a million pieces from ignorance.

[pnwmom]

71. You made a wise choice, Tink41.

When this happened in our family, the young/adult/children were told to keep it all a secret.

[Tink41]

75. Yeah, NO!

This is how we ended up where we were. Still love and care for each other very much. Cruel. In more ways than one.

[Irish_Dem]

48. I hope the same thing David. Young people today seem much more accepting of the fluidity of

sexual gender and preference. So I think the future is hopeful.

When my daughter was a teen, we watched Milk, the Harvey Milk movie.
She did not understand the scene where the police raided a gay bar.
She said, being gay is not illegal Mom, what the heck is going on here.

I explained how it was when I was young and she was in disbelief. I took this as real progress in the younger generation.

I love Harvey Milk, he is one of my heroes.

[Tink41]

77. Younger sibling has remarked on this

Shocked when my child's friends had come out, like no big deal. My sibling couldn't imagine that happening when we were in school.
Thank God things are changing.

[Irish_Dem]

79. Right, times were very different back then.

Yes thank god it is all changing.

[David__77]

81. Thanks for sharing that.

I like that it may be less challenging for young gay people now than in the past, even recent past. That said I think I’ve learned from my experiences with anti-gay sentiment and actions and it has helped me to be aware of and motivated me to oppose oppression of others.

[Irish_Dem]

83. Despite the progress, there is much work to be done.

I worked in health care and have friends and family members who work in that field as well. The LGBT community is greatly underserved.
Teens are still at risk from even their own family.

Because the concept of sexual identity and preference is now fluid and complex, there are still societal acceptance issues.

Yes good for you, turning your pain to speak out for those who are oppressed.

[Aristus]

27. Shocking...

If I had neighbors like that...





...I'd never let them leave the neighborhood!

[Dem2theMax]

37. Me too!

I'm so jealous of people who have gay/lesbian neighbors.

I'm surrounded by Republicans!

[Hermit-The-Prog]

34. Quick, call up some evilgelicals. Maybe the news will put them in a coma.

DU actblue link for Warnock, Ossoff, Stacey Abrams' Fair Fight:

https://secure.actblue.com/donate/dufor2020runoff

A few questions: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=14520874

and answers: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=14520972

[BigmanPigman]

38. I have always lived in areas that like artists

and unconventional people (40 years in different cities).

What I want to know is what would separate and distinguish "gay" people from the artists, individualists, liberally minded, etc. How do you know if someone is gay, do they wear a sign? Do artists and liberals have a certain appearance compared to gay people? I don't know which of the people I see are gay or not unless they are actually making out right in front of me. How and why are they identified as gay? Does it make a difference in being a good neighbor?

[Botany]

46. Well I barely know one of the couples who dropped off cookies and since they are both ....

.... women, are not sisters, live together, have the same last name (married?), and rock the gay
flag @ times so I guessed them to be gay.

Does it make a difference in being a good neighbor? No, but overall "they" tend to be nice but
I have had a few G & L neighbors who were not nice people.

[mjvpi]

40. Wow, it's like "they" are just like us. Normal people.

Log Cabin Republicans even proved that "they" can be self centered, greedy assholes just like other, normal Republicans. It’s like whom they love is irrelevant to their measure as a human being.

It’s the ultimate irony, with all of the hate in the world, finding true love makes you hated.

I love Christmas cookies. It bonds us godless heathens to the holidays.

[George II]

42. DAMN!!! You gotta move.

[GulfCoast66]

44. After we moved out of our old house the gay neighbors saved the life of the neighbor

On the other side of his house.

One of them was a retired military officer who came out after retirement. An elderly lady moved into our house because her son purchased it. A deranged man broke in and proceeded to stab her to death. She bled out on the gay neighbors couch. Anyway the other neighbor heard the screaming and broke in to try to save her. He was stabbed in the liver. Stumbled over to the gay couples house. Because one of them was retired military he knew how to save his life. Both were honored by the city as hero’s. Best neighbors we ever had. Served us caviar on occasion as well.

[LeftInTX]

45. I need gay neighbors!

Everyone here is old and retired and have been married for at least 40 years! Seriously...

[pnwmom]

54. There are plenty of gay people who are old and retired and have been married

for decades -- even if it wasn't legal till recently.

To some of their neighbors, however, they might be known as "housemates."

[LeftInTX]

58. Mine are all heterosexual grandparents.

At least within 5 houses or so each way. Otherwise, I don't know enough about anyone's personal life. I'm sure there are plenty of gay couples, just not right near me.

[pnwmom]

70. To their friends and neighbors, my parents looked like heterosexual grandparents.

Till they didn't.

And Ed and Lois Smart (parents of Elizabeth and several other children) shocked all their neighbors last year.

https://www.insideedition.com/elizabeth-smarts-father-reveals-he-has-not-spoken-to-his-ex-wife-since-coming-out-as-gay-57533

[soldierant]

52. This is such a charning thread

it's going to be a downer for me to go back to the rest of the internet. Sniff.

Long live caring and loving people of any and all sexualities - or none, if that's theyr thing.

[MurrayDelph]

59. Our gay neighbors own a cheesecake bakery

(I haven't had the heart to tell them I dislike cheesecake when they drop off samples. More for my wife)

We've returned the favor, dropping off cookies and other baked goods, as well as some of the garlic sauce my wife invented when we owned a Caribbean/Jewish restaurant.

[sdfernando]

62. Oh my!

[AntiFascist]

64. WARNING: we (gays) give our straight neighbors goodies and they even give us goodies back! n/t

[paleotn]

66. Oh my gawd!!!!!!

It starts with cookies. But after awhile, it's pies, cakes and all kinds of bread products. Slippery slope, my friend.

[KentuckyWoman]

68. I have had not gay neighbors do that too

It is as if we are all people or something.

Shocking, I know.

[birdographer]

69. I KNEW when I saw this

that it was going to be something like this!!!

[PirateRo]

72. The monsters!

Who do they think they are? Neighbors? Friends? Family? People?

How dare they show compassion! How dare they share!

I did enjoy my gay neighbors, they were a fun lot before they moved away. So are my gay coworkers. Wonderful people

[Revanchist]

84. I don't even know my neighbors name

The only reason I know the one across the street is because she's my MIL

[dem in texas]

93. I need to take cakes and cookies to my Gay neighbors

One gave me his phone number to call if we needed help if one of us falls, he is already doing this for other elderlys in our neighborhood. Another gay couple foster rescue dogs until they are placed They also gave us a new dog house for our dog.

[KY_EnviroGuy]

85. In return, I'll give you fair warning.....your salad may depend in it.

Our LGBT neighbors bring us fresh tomatoes from their garden every year..... ....

[Skittles]

88. my gay neighbor gave me fabulous cupcakes

[Demovictory9]

89. oh noooos!!

[sarge43]

96. Not cupcakes!!

You're doomed, Skittles!

just in case

[Mister Ed]

90. If you don't watch out, they'll start fostering puppies and kittens.

Fostering homeless, helpless puppies and kittens! And finding homes for them! Homes!

That's what mine did. I pass this on as a warning to all.

[lillypaddle]

91. They'll have you over for dinner, too

and when it snows, you can get together with them and smoke a doobie, along with having a cup of coffee - just by walking next door.

And even 25 years later, after you both have moved to different states, they ALWAYS remember to send you a birthday card.

Miss my gay neighbor so much. Thanks for the warning!

[malthaussen]

92. How long will this carnage go on? n/t

[CaptainTruth]

94. NO!!! Please tell me they didn't force their cookie-eating lifestyle on you!

[RicardoFuerte]

95. They give you their friendship!! That's the best part.

[lindysalsagal]

97. And they sometimes make great singers, dancers, and actors, too!

I am totally smitten with Jonathan Groff. (The king in the first cast of Hamilton)

[sandensea]

98. And worst of all: they like to buy vintage - but run-down - homes, and fix them up!

https://www.towleroad.com/2007/01/gerald_fords_ch/

Why, if you happen to live on the same block they could add $50k or more to your home value overnight, without your moving a finger.

The nerve!

[Botany]

100. Double income, educated, and they fixup homes and raise the property value too.

The nerve!

[sandensea]

101. What IS the world coming to!

We need to go back to old-fashioned family values - like the kind the Trumps have!

(bigly)

[cab67]

102. reminds me of this.

https://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2014/2/19/couple-new-to-florida-arent-happy

[Chakaconcarne]

103. Bastards!

[tavernier]

105. My two gay neighbors (married couple) are my best friends.

and they don’t even mind that I’m in love with a dead gay guy (Freddie Mercury) over all the straight men I meet.
They even encourage it with Freddie presents... socks, wine glasses, tee shirts.

[frogmarch]

112. Oh, my gosh! Mine do that too!

The couple loves to bake, and one of them is a pro. And how! They give me cookies, not cakes like the one in the picture, but they're still beautiful - and yummy. Here's a cake Bryan made for a fair.

[Cbus Girl]

114. Living up to lesbian stereotypes we made

Homemade dog treats and delivered them to our furry neighbors.

[Botany]

115. Welcome

BTW I live in Clintonville and my lab loves dog treats.