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Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:14 PM

UPDATE: My 93-year-old father is very close to death from congestive heart failure.

Last edited Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:17 AM - Edit history (1)

Thank you to this virtual family/friend group. My father died this morning. He was under hospice care at my brotherís home and died at home as he wanted to. We had access to medication and professional advice to help him with anxiety, pain, and other issues.

Thank you so much.

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Iím here with him and my brother. Itís been a horrible few days for him. Please send prayers and good vibes for a peaceful passage.

This has been so hard to witness.

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Reply UPDATE: My 93-year-old father is very close to death from congestive heart failure. (Original post)
phylny Jan 2021 OP
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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:15 PM

1. Love to you and your family, phylny.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:16 PM

2. I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have your brother with you. nt

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:16 PM

3. Hard and so very very full of love being with your father at this time.

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Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:17 PM

4. ((phylny))

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:19 PM

5. Prayers for him, you and the rest of your family.

You are doing the hard thing, but it is good he has you all with him so he passes with love surrounding him.


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Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:20 PM

6. ...

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:20 PM

7. warmest hugs dear phylny!

It's so, SO unimaginable, yet please believe me, as hard as it is to witness, you will be even more grateful to have been there. Hang in there. You are strong to do this, and he knows he has you and your brother by his side, and that matters. xo

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:20 PM

8. Sending Dad, you and your brother 💖💖💖💕💕💞💞

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:21 PM

9. I am so very sorry.

You and your brother are doing all you can do at this time. It makes a difference.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:22 PM

10. I'm so sorry, so very sorry

It hurts just to imagine what youíre going through. Our hearts are with you. Sending love and prayers

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:31 PM

11. I know you've seen this coming, but there's really no preparing. I'm happy you both are able to be

With him. That's become a rare gift. I can see he had a long life. I hope he was happy, too. Sending helpful thoughts your way.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:34 PM

12. May your father find peace soon and so sorry for you and your brother.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:35 PM

13. I'm sorry

It's good that you're there with him. That will always bring you great comfort.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:35 PM

14. ....

Peace & Light....

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:36 PM

15. I'm sorry phylny

Sending good vibes and virtual hugs to your family.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:41 PM

16. I'm so sorry for you and your family.

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Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:43 PM

17. ...

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:46 PM

18. I'm sorry for your family. nt

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Sun Jan 10, 2021, 11:54 PM

19. Yes it's an awful thing to witness

My father, age 91, died of CHF and related complications on October 7th, 2020. He was so hoping to stick around to vote (Biden) as he loathed Trump. He was in hospice care for about a week which made a world of difference for us all.

I wish you all the best at this difficult time.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:00 AM

20. I am sorry, but you are there and that will be

a comfort.

When my own parents were at the end, I was told hearing is the last thing to go, so keep talking and give him permission to let go. That's what I did, but it was hard.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:10 AM

21. So sorry.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:12 AM

22. I'm very sorry, phylny.

It is hard to witness, but later you will be glad you were with him. Sending you and your family hugs and prayers for a peaceful passage.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:19 AM

23. Sending prayers and a hug.

Iím so very sorry.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:24 AM

24. Lost my dad last February

Also of congestive heart failure. He was only 83.

I'll send good vibes. Can't offer advice because that would require me to think about it.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:26 AM

25. I am so sorry for your situation. I hope your family finds peace. nt

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:27 AM

26. Sounds awful, but he's lucky to have you there

And you had him until age 93. I lost my dad at 78.

Tell him some jokes when the suffering takes a relapse, and I hope your presence there is of some comfort to him.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:30 AM

27. If your father is not receiving adequate pain control and

hospice/comfort care support - PLEASE speak up! This breaks my heart.

Thinking of you.


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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 12:39 AM

28. Sending good vibes and sincere prayers for your Dad





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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #28)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 02:26 AM

44. so very very sorry

glad you are able to be with him



oops - msg meant for phylny

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:13 AM

29. Strength to you all. So sorry.

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Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:18 AM

30. I'm so sorry, phylny.

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Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:27 AM

31. You are in my thoughts!!!




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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:32 AM

32. Peace to father, and all who love him.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:34 AM

33. I went down that road in 2009

My dad died of congestive heart failure at 88. The last week was very rough. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Please take good care of yourself, as well.

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Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:35 AM

34. ..

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:36 AM

35. ❤️✿❧🌿❧✿❤️

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:42 AM

36. I am sorry for what he and you are going through.

I remember when my father passed. The three of us local siblings went the the funeral home. We looked out the window watching the traffic drive by and my sister observed, "The whole world has changed, and none of these people know it."

FWIW, I understand that the world is changing. I am so very sorry.

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Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:44 AM

37. Holding you and those you love in my heart. n/t

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:46 AM

38. I am so sorry. It is a blessing to your father that you and your brother

can be there for comfort and support. Praying for a peaceful passage for him, free of pain or fear, and for whatever palliative care his situation requires. Many of us have been through the difficult last days of a beloved parent and understand something of what you are going through. As difficult as it is, you will never regret a moment of staying the course and seeing him through to the other side.


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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:46 AM

39. Blessings and peace to you

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:49 AM

40. Hopefully you're all asleep now, but so good that you can be together.

Best wishes for you all, Phylny.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 01:53 AM

41. I'm so very sorry.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 02:00 AM

42. Heartfelt wishes for peace and comfort for you all.

Love will remain

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 02:07 AM

43. I've done exactly what you're doing.

Hold his hand and talk to him. Even if you think he can't hear you. He can. Your presence will be comforting.

It's the hardest thing to do. But it is such a gift of love at the same time. My heart is with you and your family.



And may your dad have a very peaceful passing.

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Response to Grasswire2 (Reply #45)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:13 AM

46. Seriously? Not now, please.

Thanks.

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Response to phylny (Original post)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:19 AM

47. I am so sorry, phylny

My mom died from CHF at the age of 91. My dad was with her as she passed and it was very upsetting for him.

My heart goes out to your family.

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Response to mnhtnbb (Reply #47)

Mon Jan 11, 2021, 05:20 AM

48. Thank you.

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