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bif

(26,993 posts)
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:07 PM Jan 2021

I know I'm going to get into a fistfight at the grocery store

one of these days for speaking my mind. Today I encountered a guy who wasn't wearing a mask. I said, "No mask?" He gave me this stupid, condescending grin and said "No". I really wanted to smack him but I just shook my head and walked away. Plus he was walking the wrong way down a clearly marked one way aisle. What do you do when you encounter assholes like this?

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I know I'm going to get into a fistfight at the grocery store (Original Post) bif Jan 2021 OP
I just walk the other way Just_Vote_Dem Jan 2021 #1
MOVE CANS SO WHEN HE REACHES FOR ONE, THEY TOPPLE OVER ON HIM. trueblue2007 Jan 2021 #46
In other words, blugbox Jan 2021 #64
I point them out to the store staff and say, Turbineguy Jan 2021 #2
I've been an asshole about walking the wrong way, not about the mask MiniMe Jan 2021 #3
The stores I've been in aren't marked well. n/t Ms. Toad Jan 2021 #22
Our stores aren't marked at all any more. blueinredohio Jan 2021 #38
I always wear my mask, but the one way aisle pnwest Jan 2021 #33
The supermarkets I go to had one way markers then got rid of them. I never got what good they did. Gidney N Cloyd Jan 2021 #53
Super-soaker full of hand sanitizer? Make7 Jan 2021 #4
Fart! Dave in VA Jan 2021 #5
Do curbside. Or delivery. Liberal In Texas Jan 2021 #6
Me too! Grocery delivery only right now. liberal_mama Jan 2021 #15
Same here MoonlitKnight Jan 2021 #47
Body slam them until they are a pile a human pulp. LuckyCharms Jan 2021 #7
Please don't do that. MineralMan Jan 2021 #8
Do you have good health insurance? Do you have a lawyer on retainer? NurseJackie Jan 2021 #9
I go to security or a clerk and report the person. Or I say something. Irish_Dem Jan 2021 #10
Thats what I do to with one addition FreeState Jan 2021 #43
I did that too. Walked out of my Physical Therapy center and cancelled all future appointments. Irish_Dem Jan 2021 #44
The grocery store where I shop the customers are fine Chainfire Jan 2021 #49
You could complain to your county health department. Irish_Dem Jan 2021 #51
I live in Huntsville, Al. No one is allowed anywhere inside without a mask. crimsonandclover Jan 2021 #11
That's the law here in Michigan bif Jan 2021 #14
Harass the help, that's nice... former9thward Jan 2021 #26
I did not harass the help bif Jan 2021 #62
I'm betting that is because Huntsville skews the IQ of the entire state of Alabama A HERETIC I AM Jan 2021 #32
I don't leave Huntsville unless I am going out of state. crimsonandclover Jan 2021 #48
If he gets close, pretend you're having an intense coughing fit... lilmamba Jan 2021 #12
I just walk away from them. johnp3907 Jan 2021 #13
I pull out my purse-sized spray Lysol and spray it towards them. They will walk away quickly. sinkingfeeling Jan 2021 #16
THIS. roamer65 Jan 2021 #24
That is assualt legally. former9thward Jan 2021 #29
go to another store DBoon Jan 2021 #17
Write your message on the back of the competitor's register receipt. lpbk2713 Jan 2021 #27
This is a BRILLIANT suggestion - thanks! Maru Kitteh Jan 2021 #42
Go the other way, stay calm and relax. BlueJac Jan 2021 #18
Speak softly and carry a big can of Twisted Tea.... NightWatcher Jan 2021 #19
i report the store to the bureau of employment services Ms. Toad Jan 2021 #20
I had a guy in an Albertson store walk by me with no mask Beachnutt Jan 2021 #21
Are they still doing the one way only aisles ? underpants Jan 2021 #23
Kroger near me has the markings on the floor, but ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jan 2021 #30
I ignore, then go in the opposite direction. nt Raine Jan 2021 #25
I figure a good chunk of the anti-maskers are also anti-vaxxers. roamer65 Jan 2021 #28
If I know a location has a high likelihood sarisataka Jan 2021 #31
I cough like ellie Jan 2021 #34
I understand your frustration. Niagara Jan 2021 #35
This message was self-deleted by its author doc03 Jan 2021 #36
I'm worried, too. I'm usually pretty cool, but my temper tends to build until it escapes. Midnight Writer Jan 2021 #37
I saw one of our county judges today in the mall with no mask. What can you do doc03 Jan 2021 #39
I live in a blue bubble in red northern Michigan. kirkuchiyo Jan 2021 #40
I'd tell such a jerk that "a mask is a defense against pepper spray". oasis Jan 2021 #41
Ignore them, I don't want to fight like you. Nt USALiberal Jan 2021 #45
Mask compliance here is near 100%. Mr.Bill Jan 2021 #50
Halfway don't get it occupant Jan 2021 #52
just call them maskholes and walk on away demtenjeep Jan 2021 #54
I am using curbside to avoid these idiots Gothmog Jan 2021 #55
Fortunately at our local Publix I very rarely see someone without a mask. GulfCoast66 Jan 2021 #56
The stores I frequent must have gotten rid of them Catherine Vincent Jan 2021 #57
Push your mask aside, and start coughing uncontrollably DemocraticPatriot Jan 2021 #58
Stop interacting with them. Most of them are purposely doing it and they like to make a show of it JI7 Jan 2021 #59
I Rant Loudly to My Teenage Son TuskMoar Jan 2021 #60
I'm ready to throw down Dorian Gray Jan 2021 #61
Whip out your phone and act like you are recording them, add some colorful commentary... Pluvious Jan 2021 #63

Just_Vote_Dem

(3,644 posts)
1. I just walk the other way
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:09 PM
Jan 2021

Most of these idiots are just looking for a fight, and I'm not going to indulge them.

MiniMe

(21,883 posts)
3. I've been an asshole about walking the wrong way, not about the mask
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:11 PM
Jan 2021

I don't go to the grocery very often, always wear a mask. But one time I accidentally didn't pay attention to the one way marker at the end of the aisle. As soon as I realized, I turned my cart around and exited the aisle. I was just so excited that there was Charmin TP in that aisle. Oops. Felt bad, but the store wasn't crowded at all.

pnwest

(3,466 posts)
33. I always wear my mask, but the one way aisle
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:46 PM
Jan 2021

thing makes me crazy. If I don’t need something down aisle A, but a thing I need is in aisle B - I still have to go all the way down A so I can turn around and go to B to get my thing. It’s infuriating and a waste of my time to have to traipse every goddamn aisle to get 5 things I need because they’re not marked the right direction for me to skip aisles I don’t need. So, yes, I am the asshole about the aisles.

Pretty sure I’m not alone, ‘cause my grocery store took the arrows off the floor after a very short while. Idea only works on paper assuming all shoppers go thru every aisle.

Gidney N Cloyd

(19,847 posts)
53. The supermarkets I go to had one way markers then got rid of them. I never got what good they did.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:46 PM
Jan 2021

I'm all in on the masks and distancing but the one way aisles only do any good if you also require people not to pass others while they are looking at something on the shelf. You also need to mark the cross-aisles.

Liberal In Texas

(16,269 posts)
6. Do curbside. Or delivery.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:14 PM
Jan 2021

I won't go into a grocery or any other store unless there is no alternative. The new strain of covid is even more contagious so I don't need to be in the same room as a maskhole.

liberal_mama

(1,495 posts)
15. Me too! Grocery delivery only right now.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:22 PM
Jan 2021

Every time I have to go on an errand to get cash from the ATM, I see multiple maskholes. I sure wouldn't want to be in a store for an hour with these people.

MoonlitKnight

(1,585 posts)
47. Same here
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:22 PM
Jan 2021

There are just too many of them and it only takes one.

Plus the CDC issued the warning to anyone in high risk groups to not go into any indoor space that may have a person not wearing a mask.

LuckyCharms

(22,645 posts)
7. Body slam them until they are a pile a human pulp.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:14 PM
Jan 2021

I'm kidding of course.

What I do is to get far away from them as soon as possible.

If I'm in a situation where I'm trapped with them and have to get by them in an aisle or something, I do a big drama filled move where I give them a side- eye and say something like "WTF man" as I slink by them holding my breath.

Best thing is to just get away from them.

NurseJackie

(42,862 posts)
9. Do you have good health insurance? Do you have a lawyer on retainer?
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:14 PM
Jan 2021

Can you afford fines and time away from work for any community-service that's headed your way? Do you have a job that requires any sort of background check or security clearance? How's your credit?

Best to just walk away. Don't give in to violence.

Irish_Dem

(81,242 posts)
10. I go to security or a clerk and report the person. Or I say something.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:18 PM
Jan 2021

I tell the person: You are going to get sick if you don't wear a mask. Do you want to die? I know I don't.

If they don't have their nose covered, I tell them to pull up their mask over their nose.
One man told me it fogs up his glasses.
I told him if fogs up EVERYBODY'S glasses, we are all struggling, but we have to do the right thing.

If they are wearing the mask as a chin diaper, I tell them to pull up their mask.

I am a small older female, no male has so far wanted to get into fisticuffs with me.
But I am willing to fight if I have to. I get so mad when I see people not wearing masks.

FreeState

(10,702 posts)
43. Thats what I do to with one addition
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:58 PM
Jan 2021

If they say there is nothing they can do I let them know I am leaving my cart for them to put back but that I won't be coming back to their store and will let my family and friends know that they dont care about the health of all their customers. It usually gets some movement.

Irish_Dem

(81,242 posts)
44. I did that too. Walked out of my Physical Therapy center and cancelled all future appointments.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:10 PM
Jan 2021

I was in for a PT appointment and another patient was not wearing a mask. When I complained to the center manager, she said patients did not have to wear masks at all times. Which is the opposite of what I was told when I called to screen PT sites for Covid protection.

I had about three months of future PT appointments on their calendar and cancelled them all on the spot and walked out.
I then called the CEO of the company and complained as well. I told them that if I get Covid, I am holding them liable.
The CEO office called me right back and apologized and said changes would be made. Asked me to reschedule my appointments.
I said no thanks. I don't trust the PT center with my health. I went else where with a very good Covid protocol.

I was also in line waiting for a register to come open at the drug store. One clerk motioned me to come up to her register.
I said loudly: No thank you, the man standing in line right next to that register does not have a mask on. I will wait until a safe spot opens up. Every one looked at him.

I have not tried your tactic yet, walk out and leave a basket full of merchandise.
We can also leave a bad review citing their refusal to make customers wear masks.

We are going to have half a million American deaths and there are still idiots out there not wearing masks.
I have run out of patience with these people.

 

Chainfire

(17,757 posts)
49. The grocery store where I shop the customers are fine
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:11 PM
Jan 2021

The Employees don't wear masks or don't wear them properly. I complained to their home office and it improved for a few days, but then they went back to their old tricks. To go to another grocery store I have to drive an additional 20 miles. I just try to stay out of their way.

Irish_Dem

(81,242 posts)
51. You could complain to your county health department.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:30 PM
Jan 2021

Call the stores CEO's office. That is the only person who can do anything.

Complain to the manager when you go in.

People not wearing masks around you increase your risk.
It is not fair.

crimsonandclover

(58 posts)
11. I live in Huntsville, Al. No one is allowed anywhere inside without a mask.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:18 PM
Jan 2021

Whole Foods and Publix have signs that state mask is required for entry. I saw a guy kicked out of the liquor store for not wearing a mask. It has not been a problem here.

bif

(26,993 posts)
14. That's the law here in Michigan
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:22 PM
Jan 2021

I told a cashier and she said, "What am I supposed to do?" I told here she should tell the manager.

bif

(26,993 posts)
62. I did not harass the help
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 08:55 AM
Jan 2021

I just mentioned that there was a customer not wearing a mask.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,876 posts)
32. I'm betting that is because Huntsville skews the IQ of the entire state of Alabama
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:46 PM
Jan 2021

Not to tell you anything you already know, but the presence of the Redstone Arsenal and the various NASA facilities means your city has a high number of advanced degrees, and as a result, a smarter, better educated (and as a natural result, more liberal) population than most other towns nearby.

I'll bet the folks that refuse to wear a mask have no problems down the road in Decatur or Culman.

crimsonandclover

(58 posts)
48. I don't leave Huntsville unless I am going out of state.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 05:51 PM
Jan 2021

Cullman and Decatur are awful. Huntsville isn't the only non redneck city but it is one of the few.

lilmamba

(62 posts)
12. If he gets close, pretend you're having an intense coughing fit...
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:19 PM
Jan 2021

...otherwise just ignore him. Keep your distance. These people aren’t worth getting assault charges for.

Also, point him out to the first employee you see.

johnp3907

(4,307 posts)
13. I just walk away from them.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:20 PM
Jan 2021

They’re not worth the trouble.
But I also give them “the secret flip-off.” My hands stay at my side but the fingers of the hand facing them curl up - except for the middle finger. It’s silly, but it makes me feel better.

sinkingfeeling

(57,832 posts)
16. I pull out my purse-sized spray Lysol and spray it towards them. They will walk away quickly.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:26 PM
Jan 2021

former9thward

(33,424 posts)
29. That is assualt legally.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:40 PM
Jan 2021

That person has no idea what you are spraying on them. What if they pull out pepper spray and spray it towards you?

DBoon

(24,982 posts)
17. go to another store
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:26 PM
Jan 2021

and write the manager of the first store to tell them to enforce their mask policy if they want your business.

lpbk2713

(43,273 posts)
27. Write your message on the back of the competitor's register receipt.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:39 PM
Jan 2021


That way they will know you're not blowing smoke. Send it to the home office and tell
them which one of their stores doesn't care about taking common sense precautions.

Maru Kitteh

(31,759 posts)
42. This is a BRILLIANT suggestion - thanks!
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:50 PM
Jan 2021

And perhaps send a copy to the nearest franchise office as well. Franchise managers HATE non-compliance and really hate to get "what's going on with your brand" letters.


Ms. Toad

(38,634 posts)
20. i report the store to the bureau of employment services
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:29 PM
Jan 2021

Stores in Ohio are obligated to enforce the mask order, and a unit out of the BES is the entity charged with enforcement.

If there are more than a couple, or they are repeat offenders, I stop shopping there and tell them why (and report them).

I comply with one-way aisles - but it doesn't really bother me if others don't. The real risk is the aerosolized cloud that lingers in the space the breather occupied. That cloud really doesn't become worse because they are walking toward me rather than away.

Beachnutt

(8,909 posts)
21. I had a guy in an Albertson store walk by me with no mask
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:33 PM
Jan 2021

and I did what you did I said no mask huh, he said no and proceeded to walk on and I said so your one of those anti mask people then, he just kept walking so I found a store employee in the meat dept and I said are'nt mask required in this store and he said yes why I said some dude in a red shirt on that isle refuses to wear one and boy he got pissed and went straight to the guy and informed him that he had to leave with no mask the guy left immediately.
So just tell store personnel.

underpants

(196,489 posts)
23. Are they still doing the one way only aisles ?
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:36 PM
Jan 2021

Every place I’ve been to here got rid of them.

JustABozoOnThisBus

(24,681 posts)
30. Kroger near me has the markings on the floor, but ...
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:41 PM
Jan 2021

... nobody is paying attention to them. Even the employees who are shopping for delivery / pickup are pushing their big carts any which way.

roamer65

(37,953 posts)
28. I figure a good chunk of the anti-maskers are also anti-vaxxers.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 03:40 PM
Jan 2021

So let’s see how they behave when a good chunk of the vaccinated majority start taking off their masks and these morons still catch the virus.

Vaccinated folks still can be asymptomatic carriers.

I bet these freaks flip flop and want mask mandates.

Niagara

(11,849 posts)
35. I understand your frustration.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:04 PM
Jan 2021

It would be easier, safer and less frustrating if you ordered online for curbside pickup or door delivery. It would at this time be the safest option for those of us wanting to avoid potentially infected people. You can always report the store for not enforcing mask wearing.

Response to bif (Original post)

Midnight Writer

(25,404 posts)
37. I'm worried, too. I'm usually pretty cool, but my temper tends to build until it escapes.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:22 PM
Jan 2021

People are dying, and an errant breath could be a lethal weapon.

Not wearing a mask is as irresponsible as pointing a loaded gun at people. Sure, you may not intend to hurt anyone, but you know how dangerous it is.

doc03

(39,085 posts)
39. I saw one of our county judges today in the mall with no mask. What can you do
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:34 PM
Jan 2021

if I would say anything I have no doubt I would have the local cops harassing me for something.

kirkuchiyo

(402 posts)
40. I live in a blue bubble in red northern Michigan.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:38 PM
Jan 2021

Inside those limits masks are constantly in use. Outside however... There are convenience stores where no one, not even the employees, are wearing them. I just turn around and leave when I come across that.

oasis

(53,689 posts)
41. I'd tell such a jerk that "a mask is a defense against pepper spray".
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 04:41 PM
Jan 2021

Then reach into my pocket as if I had pepper spray.

Mr.Bill

(24,906 posts)
50. Mask compliance here is near 100%.
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:20 PM
Jan 2021

Has been from the beginning. The one way thing is just not working. The way the stores are designed to draw your eyes to the products keeps you from looking at the floor. I couldn't tell you the color of the floor at the store where I have been shopping for 30 years. They need to put the one way signs at eye level.

 

occupant

(166 posts)
52. Halfway don't get it
Mon Jan 18, 2021, 06:31 PM
Jan 2021

I have been known to say "Gee, you'd look alot better in a mask than ventilator tubes" Stunned a couple people. In my town we have a Pet Store where college age kids work. They wear their mask under their nose. I walk in and see a kid like that and he says "can I help you?" I tell him "Yea, you can pull that mask up over your nose, I don't want your germs." Got a hella look but he complied. I have not been back in there since. Their is a large Pet Store chain store just down the street and I'm going back there because they care.

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
56. Fortunately at our local Publix I very rarely see someone without a mask.
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 01:59 AM
Jan 2021

I just avoided them. Distancing works.

Catherine Vincent

(34,610 posts)
57. The stores I frequent must have gotten rid of them
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 02:03 AM
Jan 2021

I'm happy about it because it didn't make sense. I also didn't think space between shoppers needed to be 6 feet especially if it was crowded. Early in the pandemic, I was in a lane looking at stuff and I saw from a distance someone further away from me but I kept looking at the items and I decided to look wondering why they didn't move and apparently this lady was just waiting til I moved. I thought geeze come on lady you can still pass me up...we both had masks on.

JI7

(93,614 posts)
59. Stop interacting with them. Most of them are purposely doing it and they like to make a show of it
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 06:06 AM
Jan 2021

Let the store know. Maybe call or write the store to tell them what happened and to say you don't feel safe shopping there if policies are not being enforced.

TuskMoar

(87 posts)
60. I Rant Loudly to My Teenage Son
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 06:39 AM
Jan 2021

He is usually with me. I call the non masker a prick. Huff and puff when they are in an area I want to be in. Make an ass of myself. But don’t directly confront them. Easier to do with a wingman.

Dorian Gray

(13,850 posts)
61. I'm ready to throw down
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 06:41 AM
Jan 2021

only problem is I live in one of the most compliant neighborhoods in Brooklyn. So I never have the chance. LOL

Pluvious

(5,394 posts)
63. Whip out your phone and act like you are recording them, add some colorful commentary...
Tue Jan 19, 2021, 03:00 PM
Jan 2021

... about how inconsiderate anti-maskers like this example, here at [ store name, city ] etc.

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