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KathieG

(2,049 posts)
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:13 PM Jan 2012

Man who lost wife in Tucson shootings says Giffords makes him sick

"A 77-year-old Arizona man whose wife was killed in last year’s mass shooting in Tucson said the sight of fellow victim Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords and her husband, astronaut Mark Kelly, makes him want to vomit, according to the UK’s Daily Mail online.

George Morris, 77, was shot in the leg and back in the attack just over a year ago as he tried to protect his wife from the gunman. Dorothy Morris, 76, was killed after the couple had gone to the Safeway supermarket to quiz Giffords on her political opinions.

Morris, who describes himself as ‘ultra-conservative’, even refused a visit from President Obama while he recovered in hospital following the shootings in Arizona."

more...


http://blog.sfgate.com/hottopics/2012/01/10/man-who-lost-wife-in-tucson-shootings-says-giffords-makes-him-sick/

Wow.

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Man who lost wife in Tucson shootings says Giffords makes him sick (Original Post) KathieG Jan 2012 OP
I love the way Kelly looks at his wife. greatauntoftriplets Jan 2012 #1
Yup, if Giffords and Obama hadn't been such dirty libruls..... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2012 #2
Are you privy to some information Riftaxe Jan 2012 #11
In what respect, Charlie? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2012 #12
In the fact that Loughner was from all reports Riftaxe Jan 2012 #22
I think that was sarcasm. yardwork Jan 2012 #39
Again, I'm only speaking of this man in the article's state of mind ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2012 #49
The man himself stated he is ultra conservative obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #15
And he refused a visit from the President while in hospital. He's got issues, and they predate this MADem Jan 2012 #18
Exactly obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #24
Heh heh--that was ME! MADem Jan 2012 #29
Oh! hahaha obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #37
Hold on a sec RZM Jan 2012 #53
As per his own words, that isn't why they were going obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #63
I don't think that matters much RZM Jan 2012 #64
Funny, I would love for GW to visit me in the hospital SaintPete Jan 2012 #65
Ideologically speaking RZM Jan 2012 #66
I wasn't really serious, you know SaintPete Jan 2012 #67
he's 77 and tried to save his wife, failing. I give him slack. PTSD. roguevalley Jan 2012 #48
I doubt PTSD made him "ultra-conservative." Bake Jan 2012 #72
No it didn't and I agree he was probably a dork for a long time but his wife of all roguevalley Jan 2012 #73
I feel for the loss of his wife; but his anger and/or stupidity is directed at the wrong people. LonePirate Jan 2012 #3
What else could be expected from a racist asshole TeaNut. Piss on him. His loss is no excuse. RBInMaine Jan 2012 #27
I hear Walmart has a sale on hearts...maybe you should get in line. rustydog Jan 2012 #35
I saw that on the Daily Mail Online. It even had a picture of him. Sorry ole fool. If he wants southernyankeebelle Jan 2012 #4
so he didnt like her before and still doesn't like her after JI7 Jan 2012 #5
Apparently, he sustained brain damage in the shooting... Ecumenist Jan 2012 #6
methinks it was a "pre-existing condition" ... zbdent Jan 2012 #43
I wish nothing but peace for this man MattBaggins Jan 2012 #7
You're a good man MattBaggins. madmax Jan 2012 #16
MattBaggins, I agree Mimosa Jan 2012 #33
You are right... YvonneCa Jan 2012 #60
The hatred was there before he was shot. But I still wouldn't wish that suffering NYC Liberal Jan 2012 #68
So, he went to fuck with the Congresswoman and got way more than anyone deserved, yet he blames HER? MADem Jan 2012 #8
Hate will get ya to that "State"...Oh the Irony opihimoimoi Jan 2012 #9
This is the reason for the saying: Bless his heart. Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2012 #10
Isn't "Bless your heart" Southernese for zbdent Jan 2012 #44
not necessarily. so much depends on inflection. Tuesday Afternoon Jan 2012 #51
Sometimes. Still Blue in PDX Jan 2012 #75
Ugly emotions, but I'm sorry for his loss. Even more sorry that his bitterness is so misplaced & hlthe2b Jan 2012 #13
I am very srry his wife died and he was injured obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #14
How many DU'ers in the same situation would meet with bush The Straight Story Jan 2012 #17
I might not have had nice things to say about him privately..... marmar Jan 2012 #20
You can't know what you'd do if you were shot, the love of your life murdered... Mimosa Jan 2012 #36
If anyone got shot along with me, I'd be more concerned about getting better than perpetuating a MADem Jan 2012 #23
I honestly don't know but I would hope Raine Jan 2012 #30
In the sense of "If you have nothing good to say, don't say anything" ... zbdent Jan 2012 #45
I hate to say it but I think I could imagine deutsey Jan 2012 #54
i sure wouldn't say "she/he makes me sick" about someone who was shot and a victim JI7 Jan 2012 #55
They are. But no one would know them... YvonneCa Jan 2012 #62
Proof positive that grief doesn't cure meanness. aikoaiko Jan 2012 #19
I hope he can find some respite from the grief bigtree Jan 2012 #21
If he wanted peace, he wouldn't be talking to the media Major Nikon Jan 2012 #38
that kind of behavior has roots in some tragedy bigtree Jan 2012 #46
His warped sense of reality has a lot to do with it also Major Nikon Jan 2012 #58
Bless his heart. If he hadn't insisted on going trolling with his The Second Stone Jan 2012 #69
sorry the old guy lost his wife in that tragedy but he sure is carrying a lot of hate book_worm Jan 2012 #25
Sounds like he is stuck in the anger phase of the grieving process, pair that with arthritisR_US Jan 2012 #26
I'll cut him slack because he's grief stricken Raine Jan 2012 #28
Poor Old Geezer has a screw loose somewhere. . . . BigDemVoter Jan 2012 #31
You watch, he's going to try and sue Politicalboi Jan 2012 #32
Ouch. So he might be to blame for his wife being there... gulliver Jan 2012 #34
Obviously loves guns and ammo more than life itself. Loudly Jan 2012 #40
I'll take "People who learned absolutely nothing" for $500, Alex. nt Tommy_Carcetti Jan 2012 #41
None of us can know the kind of grief this man feels, yet some are quick to judge... cherokeeprogressive Jan 2012 #42
He seems genuinely angry that Gifford survived. TwilightGardener Jan 2012 #47
The context was pretty clear to me, YMMV Major Nikon Jan 2012 #61
I wish him peace. emilyg Jan 2012 #50
I can't get angry at this man Marrah_G Jan 2012 #52
I feel sorry for him pipi_k Jan 2012 #56
Sounds like a really stupid motherfucker. n/t tabasco Jan 2012 #57
I'm very sorry this man lost his wife and I'm sorry he was shot himself. mysuzuki2 Jan 2012 #59
You know the reaction, even if he rationalizes it as political nadinbrzezinski Jan 2012 #70
Well said Puzzledtraveller Jan 2012 #74
I think it's sad this thread has so many comments... ellisonz Jan 2012 #71

ProudToBeBlueInRhody

(16,399 posts)
2. Yup, if Giffords and Obama hadn't been such dirty libruls.....
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:17 PM
Jan 2012

.....Laughner wouldn't have had to go shoot her.

Sad.....sad. I'd like to think the man is just emotional, but apparently, he just has the sickness of being a right-wing hatemonger.

Riftaxe

(2,693 posts)
22. In the fact that Loughner was from all reports
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:46 PM
Jan 2012

apolitical. Sure he was a Truther, but we keep a few tame Truthers here on DU over in Creative speculation.

Just inquiring as to what evidence you have that Gifford and the others killed and injured that day were part of a political act.

The exact statement that raises the question is your assertion

"Yup, if Giffords and Obama hadn't been such dirty libruls.....
.....Laughner wouldn't have had to go shoot her. "


Maybe I am just sarcasm impaired tonight

ProudToBeBlueInRhody

(16,399 posts)
49. Again, I'm only speaking of this man in the article's state of mind
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:17 PM
Jan 2012

He's essentially blaming the victim. I have no doubt he projects that if Gabby wasn't a dirty librul Dem, this wouldn't have happened.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
18. And he refused a visit from the President while in hospital. He's got issues, and they predate this
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:40 PM
Jan 2012

unfortunate shooting.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
29. Heh heh--that was ME!
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:06 PM
Jan 2012

He didn't deserve to get shot, but you'd think it would open his eyes to the "Big Picture" of suffering, as so many were maimed and killed that day. He has so much in common with them, but he won't acknowledge it. Instead, he continues on the "I'm A Big Dickhead and I LIKE It" path, for the few remaining years of his sorry-ass life.

Some people just don't get it; he's one of 'em. His loss. He'll figure it out in his final days, and he'll probably be sorry. Or maybe not. Ya never know with mean people.

 

RZM

(8,556 posts)
53. Hold on a sec
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:24 PM
Jan 2012

She was holding an open meeting where the goal was to hear from constituents, whether they supported her or not. He was a constituent and attended so he could be heard. There's nothing wrong with that at all.

obamanut2012

(26,046 posts)
63. As per his own words, that isn't why they were going
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:35 AM
Jan 2012

As MadDEM put it, they were going to fuck with her. The article makes it clear they weren't going to express concerns, but to be tools, to disrupt. It's especially ironic because Giffords is basically a conservadem, but to them, she was a Commie Socialist Pig.

I also wonder why he refused Obama.

Perhaps you care to take to task the other posters who also expressed this opinion, not just myself.

 

RZM

(8,556 posts)
64. I don't think that matters much
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:42 AM
Jan 2012

I don't know Gabby Giffords. But I'll bet that if you asked her on the eve of the event what she thought about people who hate her coming to voice their concerns, she would have said: 'Well, they are my constituents and that's why I'm having this event. I look forward to hearing the concerns of people in my district.'

And he probably refused Obama because he's a crotchety old man who's set in his ways and doesn't like Obama. Not what I would do, but whatever. I'm sure many DUers would refuse George W. Bush coming to visit them in the hospital.

And why are you taking me to task for responding to you on a message board? You posted your opinion and I'm responding to it.

SaintPete

(533 posts)
65. Funny, I would love for GW to visit me in the hospital
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:52 AM
Jan 2012

because then I could say all things I want to say to the bastard, and not get tackled by his Secret Servicers.

 

RZM

(8,556 posts)
66. Ideologically speaking
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 01:00 AM
Jan 2012

That's more or less the same as refusing him. It's a sign that you hate him, just as refusing him would be. In fact, I'd say taking the time to berate somebody while you're full of holes means you dislike them even more than somebody who just says 'go away.'

Bake

(21,977 posts)
72. I doubt PTSD made him "ultra-conservative."
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 10:56 AM
Jan 2012

Sounds like he doesn't really trust the Constitution he took an oath to defend, since, you know, screw the voters, just throw Gabby out "posthaste."

I bet this guy was a real peach before the shooting, too.

Bake

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
73. No it didn't and I agree he was probably a dork for a long time but his wife of all
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 04:41 PM
Jan 2012

his life was shot down before him and he couldn't save her. That is PTSD. This whole story is a lose-lose proposition. I tend to give this sort of thing a little bit of slack.

rustydog

(9,186 posts)
35. I hear Walmart has a sale on hearts...maybe you should get in line.
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:13 PM
Jan 2012

This guy probably dislikes all Democrats. The shooting would not necessarily change his political bent.
But to minimize his horrible loss, the person he loved dearly is not a good way to go about it.

 

southernyankeebelle

(11,304 posts)
4. I saw that on the Daily Mail Online. It even had a picture of him. Sorry ole fool. If he wants
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:17 PM
Jan 2012

blame someone why doesn't he look at Palin.

JI7

(89,240 posts)
5. so he didnt like her before and still doesn't like her after
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:18 PM
Jan 2012

but you would think he would have some sympathy for what they have all gone through no matter what the politics are.

MattBaggins

(7,897 posts)
7. I wish nothing but peace for this man
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:19 PM
Jan 2012

He lost his wife and I will not fault him for his misplaced anger. I will chalk this up to grief and not perpetuate his hatred.

madmax

(16,612 posts)
16. You're a good man MattBaggins.
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:37 PM
Jan 2012

He's still grieving and you've shown wisdom and compassion. If only there were more like you.

YvonneCa

(10,117 posts)
60. You are right...
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:26 AM
Jan 2012

...and are a compassionate person. The man is in pain. This is not the time to judge his politics.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
8. So, he went to fuck with the Congresswoman and got way more than anyone deserved, yet he blames HER?
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:20 PM
Jan 2012

Not the nutcase who shot him?

Sick fucker. Hate like that can rip you up. Looks like it's doing a bang-up job on that guy.

Still Blue in PDX

(1,999 posts)
75. Sometimes.
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 05:43 PM
Jan 2012

I've used it both ways. For me, it depends on whether it is a day when I remember that we are all part of the human race and deserve the benefit of the doubt. And whether I've taken my meds.


hlthe2b

(102,127 posts)
13. Ugly emotions, but I'm sorry for his loss. Even more sorry that his bitterness is so misplaced &
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:32 PM
Jan 2012

will surely consume him.

obamanut2012

(26,046 posts)
14. I am very srry his wife died and he was injured
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:35 PM
Jan 2012

That being said: it sounds like they were 'Baggers, and they went to the Safeway to berate and, it sounds, try to publicly humiliate Giffords. And they got shot. That isn't karma, because karma doesn't work that way. It isn't vengeance. It is ironic.

No, they didn't deserve this, but Giffords wasn't the cause of this, and Gabby will suffer her whole life because of that day.

The Straight Story

(48,121 posts)
17. How many DU'ers in the same situation would meet with bush
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:40 PM
Jan 2012

and have nice things to say about a republican?

marmar

(77,056 posts)
20. I might not have had nice things to say about him privately.....
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:42 PM
Jan 2012

...... but I wouldn't have refused a visit in the hospital. Like him or loathe him, I'd give him the respect of being president.


Mimosa

(9,131 posts)
36. You can't know what you'd do if you were shot, the love of your life murdered...
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:17 PM
Jan 2012

I wouldn't want to hear from any politicians at all during such a time.

This old man is in grief, his health was ruined. He is probably more depressed than any of us can know. That may manifest as inappropriate anger.

I imagine since the Giffords shootings all Congress reps have changed how they meet with constituents. They also must be using armed guards or off duty police during the meetings.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
23. If anyone got shot along with me, I'd be more concerned about getting better than perpetuating a
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:46 PM
Jan 2012

grudge against a GOP politician, even Porgie, particularly if that person was suffering as well as a consequence of the behavior of a nutcase. Life is too damn short.

It's not like Giffords was one of those "gun grabbers" that people like to rail about, either, so he can't be after her on that score. He apparently was just "ultra conservative" and probably Rick Perry is too "lib-rul" for him, too.

Raine

(30,540 posts)
30. I honestly don't know but I would hope
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:09 PM
Jan 2012

that I would be a better person after having such an experience otherwise the suffering would've been for nothing.

zbdent

(35,392 posts)
45. In the sense of "If you have nothing good to say, don't say anything" ...
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:05 PM
Jan 2012

the silence from me would be deafening.

I would be "respectful" ... respectfully silent.

deutsey

(20,166 posts)
54. I hate to say it but I think I could imagine
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:50 PM
Jan 2012

myself saying a lot of angry things in a similar situation with Bush. I'd like to think I'd rise above my baser self, but having been through trauma before I know it can leave me very raw and vocal about my anger.

I'm not proud of that, just being honest about how I've been before.

JI7

(89,240 posts)
55. i sure wouldn't say "she/he makes me sick" about someone who was shot and a victim
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:52 PM
Jan 2012

i don't care about his refusal to meet with Obama. but his comments on Gabby Giffords and her husband are disgusting.

bigtree

(85,977 posts)
21. I hope he can find some respite from the grief
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:45 PM
Jan 2012

What a tragedy. I don't hold anything against this man for his anger (even though I'd disagree strongly with the direction of his scorn). I hope he can find some peace.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
38. If he wanted peace, he wouldn't be talking to the media
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:26 PM
Jan 2012

The only reason anyone is putting a microphone in his face is because he was also a victim. Now he's using the death of his wife and his own injuries to make political statements and even went so far as to blame Giffords and her husand for his woes.

bigtree

(85,977 posts)
46. that kind of behavior has roots in some tragedy
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:06 PM
Jan 2012

. . . the most obvious, the killing of his wife, which he's not in any way responsible for. I hope he finds some peace and healing. That's the kind of attention he needs.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
58. His warped sense of reality has a lot to do with it also
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:15 AM
Jan 2012

If this guy is 77 and pulling this kind of crap, I don't hold out any hope he's going to find peace in this lifetime. It sounds as if he was this way well before the shooting ever occurred. More than likely he's going to die a very bitter and hateful old man. He's shit in his own bed and I can't find any sympathy for him. I'll save that for people more deserving. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do and consider it very benevolent. I just can't share your sentiment.

 

The Second Stone

(2,900 posts)
69. Bless his heart. If he hadn't insisted on going trolling with his
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 02:12 AM
Jan 2012

awful hatred, he would have been safe at home, and the other hating man wouldn't have taken his wife from this life in the collateral damage.

I bet it really does make him sick and want to vomit.

book_worm

(15,951 posts)
25. sorry the old guy lost his wife in that tragedy but he sure is carrying a lot of hate
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:48 PM
Jan 2012

inside him and it's directed at the wrong people.

arthritisR_US

(7,283 posts)
26. Sounds like he is stuck in the anger phase of the grieving process, pair that with
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 09:55 PM
Jan 2012

his rabid ideological bent....sad, very sad

Raine

(30,540 posts)
28. I'll cut him slack because he's grief stricken
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:00 PM
Jan 2012

but really he needs to let the hate go because that's what put him and his wife in the situation in the first place. I think he knows that and instead of dealing with it is still passing it off on someone else.

BigDemVoter

(4,149 posts)
31. Poor Old Geezer has a screw loose somewhere. . . .
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:11 PM
Jan 2012

Doesn't even know whom to blame. . . Poor befuddled old goat. . . Perhaps HE was shot in the head?

 

Politicalboi

(15,189 posts)
32. You watch, he's going to try and sue
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:12 PM
Jan 2012

"He also blamed Kelly for his wife’s death, adding: ‘I’d like to debate our dear captain astronaut (and ask) why he didn’t have security. My wife would still be alive."
I bet Medicare took care of his sorry ass too. He went to the rally because Giffords voted for the health care bill. I bet he tries to sue in a few months.

gulliver

(13,168 posts)
34. Ouch. So he might be to blame for his wife being there...
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:13 PM
Jan 2012

...in the first place. The world is strange.

 

Loudly

(2,436 posts)
40. Obviously loves guns and ammo more than life itself.
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:34 PM
Jan 2012

Did not learn anything from his experience.

 

cherokeeprogressive

(24,853 posts)
42. None of us can know the kind of grief this man feels, yet some are quick to judge...
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 10:56 PM
Jan 2012

Would that have been me, I probably would have already taken my own life if my high school sweetheart and wife of 54 years was killed in such a senseless act.

His comment ‘Every time I see them on TV, it makes me want to vomit.’ may not be in the context some wish to attribute to it. Is it possible that he wants to vomit because every time he sees them and the love they share it makes him miss the love of his life a little more and that emotion is so deeply felt that it affects him physically?

Of course not. After all; he's a republican, so "piss on him".

Just a little more of the hate and intolerance I've come to expect here... Way to go!

TwilightGardener

(46,416 posts)
47. He seems genuinely angry that Gifford survived.
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:16 PM
Jan 2012

Also seems to blame her and her husband (weirdly) that his wife died. His political views are ugly, his reaction to grief and a survivor's healing equally ugly. Just an ugly man.

Major Nikon

(36,818 posts)
61. The context was pretty clear to me, YMMV
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:29 AM
Jan 2012

This guy was a hater before the shooting ever happened. Being tolerant does not require me to tolerate people who hate.

Marrah_G

(28,581 posts)
52. I can't get angry at this man
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:24 PM
Jan 2012

He lost his partner, maybe the love of his life. He has a different world view then I do. I can't say if I were in his shoes I would want W dropping in to say hi for a photo shoot either.

Whatever we think of his views, he is suffering enough.

I wish him and his family some peace.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
56. I feel sorry for him
Tue Jan 10, 2012, 11:58 PM
Jan 2012

He's old. Lost his life partner in a most tragic way.

He couldn't save her, and probably felt/feels helpless. Powerless.

Anger is often an easier emotion to deal with than grief.

mysuzuki2

(3,521 posts)
59. I'm very sorry this man lost his wife and I'm sorry he was shot himself.
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 12:24 AM
Jan 2012

No one deserves to have those things happen. That being said however, fuck him.

 

nadinbrzezinski

(154,021 posts)
70. You know the reaction, even if he rationalizes it as political
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 02:14 AM
Jan 2012

may have a lot more to do with grief... and the sight reminds him of a real deep trauma, just saying. And yes, he basically tells you this in such a way because that is the way he can verbalize it.

Consider that.

At least I like to think that at times there is more to the world than just politics.

ellisonz

(27,711 posts)
71. I think it's sad this thread has so many comments...
Wed Jan 11, 2012, 06:18 AM
Jan 2012

...and my threads on the Tucson anniversary in GD got so few.

I'm kicking them all up because of this thread

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