I know I shouldn't be mad. But I am.

[SoonerPride]

Background: A friend of mine who is 71 is practically bed ridden and obese. I help her weekly. I have her credit card in my name so I can just go to the store and buy the groceries she wants when she sends me her list on Fridays. I also cook for her on weekends and try to make enough food for her for the week. For example this last weekend I made a huge batch of chili from scratch along with a batch of cornbread, also from scratch. Oh and I baked her a chocolate cake.

Needless to say I always wear a mask around her and she is in a high covid morbidity risk group: Age plus other health issues.

Her niece got her a covid vaccine appointment that was for 9:30 this morning and was going to take her.

My friend woke up and didn’t “feel good” so she didn’t go.

Now I know it’s not my place to judge and I shouldn’t be mad. But I am.

I’m furious.

These vaccine appointments are worth her weight in gold.
I would crawl across a mile of broken glass to get one but I am in Oklahoma phase 4 and won’t be able to get one for months. Like JUNE. So for her to not value this life saving shot as much as I would just DRIVES ME NUTS.

I have been practicing Deep breathing and calming exercises all day because all I want to do is a scream at her.

So I know I shouldn’t be mad. It’s her life. It’s her choice.

But it still makes livid. 🤬

/rant off

[MLAA]

1. I think that would be the last chocolate cake I made her.

She best eat as healthy as she can since she likely will not be getting a vaccine as soon as she could have.

[Lotusflower70]

2. Hmmm

I get it. I totally do. You are human and you feel. I would be absolutely pissed. Those appointments are precious. My mom had her first one last week. At the same time, like you said her life her choice. Someone else is going to benefit because she didn't go. It sucks but it is what it is.

[Irish_Dem]

3. Does she understand how important the vaccine is for her?

Is she of sound mind?
Perhaps you should talk to her niece who might want to call the family doctor.

If your friend is mentally competent, and has all the facts at hand, understands the importance, but still doesn't want to take the vaccine, then that is her choice.

[SoonerPride]

5. Oh yeah. She knows.

She constantly freaks out about people coming into her home.

She knows it’s important.

And she is of sound mind.

She is just wishy washy.

And I don’t think she understands how hard it is to get the appointments. They pop up and are filled in seconds.

My parents had to drive 100 miles to get theirs. And they were happy to do that!

It’s just maddening to me that she just flaked out.

[Irish_Dem]

9. Maybe her niece could let her know how hard it is to get an appointment.

Or you could tell her your parents had to drive a great distance to get theirs.

I know, it is unbelievable she just blew off the appointment.
But, it is her right to do so, maddening as it is.

I bet her family doc will not be too happy with her.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

4. Why the quotes around "feel good"? My state recommends you don't get vaccinated if you feel sick.

[SoonerPride]

6. It was cold outside

And her joints hurt.

Pretty lame excuse in my book.

[irisblue]

11. is your friend depressed?

some days my depression freezes me in place

[WhiskeyGrinder]

12. I wonder if depression or anxiety might be an issue.

[roamer65]

7. The old saying applies here.

“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.”

[sweetloukillbot]

8. As a caregiver, don't you qualify for 1A or 1B?

i thought caregivers were higher up the queue? Or is that not the case in OK?

[SoonerPride]

10. Well I'm not an "official caregiver" so no

I answered the state questionnaire online and at 55 and healthy and not a primary caregiver I am phase 4.

I almost dressed up in a wig and dress and went in her place. 😝

[meadowlander]

13. When my mom went to get hers, the clinic said they'd had three no shows that morning

so they let her in early.

I don't know the specifics of your friend's case but I can't fathom how anyone could just blow it off. She should have volunteered someone else for the shot.

[Celerity]

14. If she blows off another appointment, cut her off. Hard ears dun hear, hard ears gunna feel.

I do not fault you one bit fore being livid.

[Dustlawyer]

15. I drove over 700 miles round trip to take my mom to her appointment and will do so

again next week for her second. This is ridiculous! I am having a hard time understanding how people do not understand what is at stake.

For people with co-morbidities it is playing Russian Roulette with all but one chamber loaded with bullets.