Do U ever think youself into a funk for no reason?

[Garion_55]

For the last Couple days I have been down in the dumps kinda and there's absolutely no reason for me to be. I thought myself there.

I had a conversation with someone from my past recently. After which for no reason I started spinning different Realities In my head About How things could have turned out differently in the past with them.

Then I started thinking each reality through to its end game and coming up with all kind of different horrible outcomes.

I did care about this person back then but there was 100% no chance that things could have turned out differently than they did and I knew it back then And I know it now.

And yet I am still running through the scenarios through my head about things for absolutely no reason and a lot of times is ending up making myself depressed.

I guess it's maybe just other things going on and this is the way I am choosing to manifest it.

It is weird though because I never talk myself into any kind of depression and I am usually apretty mellow middle of the road type person.

Anybody else kinda do the same thing?

[samnsara]

1. my husband...all the time!

[Rorey]

2. It's easy to get caught in a loop

I have a few tools I use when I start obsessing. The easiest and quickest one for me is journaling. The action of writing something down (I usually type) seems to give me clarity so I can see things as they are, rather than the way I thought they might have been.

[sop]

3. They call it excessive rumination.

[IbogaProject]

4. time of the year

Ask your self "what am I going to think about next"?

It also might be the time of the year. I've been off for a couple of days w no clear explanation.

Also might be post transition euphoria letdown, we are a month in and now down to brass tacks.

Take care of your self.

[multigraincracker]

5. Sounds to me like you are

normal. After a bunch of ups, I’m looking for the downs.

[dhill926]

6. usually about 2 in the morning...

sucks...

[smirkymonkey]

12. That's about the time it starts getting to me as well.

Probably a lack of sleep and a fear of what the next day has in store. I just wish I could be one of those normal people who fell fast asleep at a normal hour and woke up fully rested, ready to start the day.

It's never like that for me though. I have such erratic sleep/wake patterns and I don't even eat regularly. I wish there was some way to re-set the clock. What I wouldn't give for a few months at a spa!

[a kennedy]

13. and sorry if this is rude, how old are you??? I'm 70 and have the problem of fast sleep

with help from a melatonin 2.5 tab and then wake up at either 3:30 or 4:00, 4:30 or 5:00. I’ll get up and stay up for about 1.5 or 2 hours, go back to bed and sleep for about 2- 3 hours almost every night. I have’t had a good nights rest for at least 10 years........

[smirkymonkey]

14. No, it's not rude.

I have tried everything, including melatonin, trazodone, hydroxyzine, benedryl, other otc meds, etc. I am 57. My pattern is that I won't sleep well at all for a few nights and then I can sleep on Thurs and Friday because I am so exhusted from not sleeping during the week (I have to get up for work in the morning at 7:30 or 8am), so I think part of it is just anxiety about having to get up in the morning during the week.

I wonder if it would be better if I could just sleep and wake at will, without having a schedule. I would love to be retired.

It totally sucks, doesn't it? I would kill for a solid, heavy 8 hours of sleep. I know that sleep tends to be lighter as you get older, but why do we feel like such crap when we don't get any? There has to be a better way! It doesn't seem very healthy.

I can't even really nap anymore. I have tried things like Ambien years ago, but had such a weird reaction that I really wouldn't want to try it again. There doesn't seem to be any happy medium.

Well, hopefully there will be a miracle cure soon!

[mobeau69]

7. Nothing good ever comes from thinking.

[underpants]

9. Don't think, it can only hurt the ball club

- Bull Durham

To the OP. Everyone stirs stuff up for themselves. I do it all the time mostly worrying about really stupid little stuff. I’ll lose sleep over simply nothing.

I’ve found that for me when I’m running regularly everything is better. I think it could be meditation or some other pass time but for me it’s running or the solitary of shooting hoops.

[babydollhead]

8. this Brene Brown quote helps me, maybe it will help you.

“Don't grab hurtful comments and pull them close to you by rereading them and ruminating on them. Don't play with them by rehearsing your badass comeback. And whatever you do, don't pull hatefulness close to your heart.

Let what's unproductive and hurtful drop at the feet of your unarmored self. And no matter how much your self-doubt wants to scoop up the criticism and snuggle with the negativity so it can confirm its worst fears, or how eager the shame gremlins are to use the hurt to fortify your armor, take a deep breath and find the strength to leave what's mean-spirited on the ground. You don't even need to stomp it or kick it away.

Cruelty is cheap, easy, and chickenshit. It doesn't deserve your energy or engagement. Just step over the comments and keep daring, always remembering that armor is too heavy a price to pay to engage with cheap-seat feedback.”
― Brené Brown, Dare to Lead

[Generic Brad]

10. I feel that way whenever I have to go into the office now

Those days are so unproductive. I can’t start early and have to commute (so I start out two hours behind). I have to wear a mask all day. All my good equipment is at home so I have to work off of a small laptop. The staffers who work on site are hungry for a familiar face and stop by to chat excessively. I can’t multi task on Zoom calls. I can’t have podcasts or music on in the background.

I have to go in tomorrow. I’m in a funk.

[Tree Lady]

11. There is a reason

Our thoughts create our reality. If I spiral down overthinking my mood plummets.

if I try to fix myself reading self help or struggling to figure out what wrong with me, again a spiral of thoughts.

Its when I stop everything, try to over analyze, trying to fix, etc. That new ideas new better thoughts come.

[Raine]

15. Often I drift into those kind of periods usually for no reason

my mind just goes there. Luckily I get over them soon but it happens too often to suit me.

[Garion_55]

16. for me its VERY odd

i tend to pick the parts of my past i liked the best, retain those parts, scrub the rest.

a few regrets but nothing major. usually i dont go down rabbit holes too much about what could have happened-ism, different outcomes, etc.

i have always thought our lives have already been written in a book. we are watching it play out. what happened was supposed to happen by that book. wishing the story had been different is nice here and there but not really productive. focus on today and what might be tomorrow. prepare for that.