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Garion_55

(1,915 posts)
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 02:34 PM Feb 2021

I'm hoping things dont really come in 3's 🥺

20 years ago somebody I trusted convinced me to move from California to Arizona to try to change my life.

I would have done that for very few people but I did that for her cuz I trusted her. She was like an older sister. Found me a job and place to live.

3 years later I packed up and left the state, things didnt work out, i screwed up, damaged our relationship.

I reached out a few years later and apologized and explained and asked forgiveness. She kept talking to me but im not sure she ever fully forgave.

Her husband died a few years back. She lost the ability to move around and was put in a home. She never posted online or messaged again after that.

I missed her so reached out to her family on Xmas day. turns out she passed last Nov. 😪

Not sure I ever made things right with her and now Ill never get the chance if not.

So im still sad for that.

Then today it probably sounds silly but Fry’s Electronics died and I'm grieving that.

I worked at the very 1st store. Half of it was still groceries. I dedicated 3 years of my life to that place. Busting my ass learning the products trying to be knowledgeable for the customers.

I saw it explode and get huge. People would drive for hundreds of miles just to see the stores. Tourists would come in from Japan. Media would always be around trying to get pictures but they weren't allowed.

But like indoor malls it had its place and it's time but apparently the world has moved on.

So that's the 2nd thing

Like I said I am hoping not To get hit with a 3rd anytime soon. I still have two elderly parents, Older brothers and sisters with health issues, And a couple cats that are 18 years and older All of which I kNow could be here today gone tomorrow.

Cherish every moment people.

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I'm hoping things dont really come in 3's 🥺 (Original Post) Garion_55 Feb 2021 OP
I'm so sorry for your losses. Don't know what to say, but wanted to give you a hug. LiberalLoner Feb 2021 #1
P.S. the regret thing...that's hard. Every person ends up with regrets, we all wish we would LiberalLoner Feb 2021 #2
Thanks!!! That helps. Garion_55 Feb 2021 #4
❤️❤️❤️ LiberalLoner Feb 2021 #7
Hugs to you MustLoveBeagles Feb 2021 #3
Last time I saw my sister was in 1973. lpbk2713 Feb 2021 #5
Everything comes in 3s. But they also come in 2s. And 4s. And Maru Kitteh Feb 2021 #6
Know two things. marked50 Feb 2021 #8
Life is so precious and fleeting. Oneironaut Feb 2021 #9

LiberalLoner

(9,761 posts)
2. P.S. the regret thing...that's hard. Every person ends up with regrets, we all wish we would
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 02:51 PM
Feb 2021

Have been perfect, hadn’t made mistakes, but we all do make mistakes in life.

I am sure she forgave you. I hope you can find it in your heart now to forgive yourself. ❤️

Garion_55

(1,915 posts)
4. Thanks!!! That helps.
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 03:05 PM
Feb 2021

It sucks not knowing for sure if we even aired it all out let alone if she forgave me for it all. She always knew i had love for her thougb

lpbk2713

(42,753 posts)
5. Last time I saw my sister was in 1973.
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 03:14 PM
Feb 2021


We've been 1200 miles apart since I was a teenager. We spoke by phone around 1980. I might have gotten two or three Christmas cards. There are no real issues between us. It's just that we never were a close family. She will turn 83 in May, I might just send her a b-day card to see what her reaction is.



Maru Kitteh

(28,339 posts)
6. Everything comes in 3s. But they also come in 2s. And 4s. And
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 03:21 PM
Feb 2021

any other configuration you choose to see them in.

"Cherish every moment." Now there is the important part. The only part that really matters. Hold on to that.


marked50

(1,366 posts)
8. Know two things.
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 07:10 PM
Feb 2021

1-I have made some positive impact on those in my life.
2-I may never know what those may have been in 1

Oneironaut

(5,492 posts)
9. Life is so precious and fleeting.
Wed Feb 24, 2021, 07:18 PM
Feb 2021

The next day is never guaranteed. The finality of death is a scary concept to the human mind, and I feel like retail chains going under reminds us of that obliteration, in a way.

I remember Circuit City fondly, even though it was just another boilerplate computers / electronics store. I didn’t really have any good memories there, and in fact, was really bored. My mom and dad would drag me around, often by hand. However, now that it’s gone, I miss it in an odd way. It’s like an old acquaintance of the past that died suddenly - Suddenly, they matter more in your memories than they did in your life...

I’m afraid of dying, but time moves ever forward. Circuit City and I will soon be equal - nothing, forgotten, dust...

This isn’t really intended to sound poetic or pretentious. I just suddenly thought of the parallels of our own deaths and the death of something familiar - anything familiar. It’s like a chapter in our life, no matter how insignificant, is over, and we are conscious of the passage of time.

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