From RAINN: What is sexual harassment?

[pnwmom]

It seems that many could use a refresher class. In general, keep your HANDS OFF other people at work, unless they request assistance.

You should be able to feel comfortable in your place of work or learning. If you are being sexually harassed, you can report it to the authorities at your job or school.

What is sexual harassment?
Sexual harassment includes unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature in the workplace or learning environment, according to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). Sexual harassment does not always have to be specifically about sexual behavior or directed at a specific person. For example, negative comments about women as a group may be a form of sexual harassment.

Although sexual harassment laws do not usually cover teasing or offhand comments, these behaviors can also be upsetting and have a negative emotional effect.

What does sexual harassment look like?
Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances. The harasser can identify with any gender and have any relationship to the victim, including being a direct manager, indirect supervisor, coworker, teacher, peer, or colleague.

Some forms of sexual harassment include:

Making conditions of employment or advancement dependent on sexual favors, either explicitly or implicitly.
Physical acts of sexual assault.
Requests for sexual favors.
Verbal harassment of a sexual nature, including jokes referring to sexual acts or sexual orientation.

Unwanted touching or physical contact.

Unwelcome sexual advances.
Discussing sexual relations/stories/fantasies at work, school, or in other inappropriate places.
Feeling pressured to engage with someone sexually.
Exposing oneself or performing sexual acts on oneself.
Unwanted sexually explicit photos, emails, or text messages.

Some forms of sexual assault include:

Penetration of the victim’s body, also known as rape.
Attempted rape.
Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetration of the perpetrator’s body.
Fondling or unwanted sexual touching.

https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-harassment?gclid=Cj0KCQiAv6yCBhCLARIsABqJTjbGxZJNls3MCc86TmboMxhlIG8itqlrsFvHg81Pf3OGGWXRrf3RFewaAqFxEALw_wcB

[LizBeth]

1. Thank you.

[50 Shades Of Blue]

2. K & R!

[CurtEastPoint]

3. Good info. I had to look up what RAINN is:

RAINN'S MISSION
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) is the nation's largest anti-sexual violence organization. RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline (800.656.HOPE, online.rainn.org y rainn.org/es) in partnership with more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers across the country and operates the DoD Safe Helpline for the Department of Defense. RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice.

[Faux pas]

4. Kickin'

[torius]

5. Here is the EEOC text in full.

https://www.eeoc.gov/sexual-harassment

It is unlawful to harass a person (an applicant or employee) because of that person's sex. Harassment can include "sexual harassment" or unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature.

Harassment does not have to be of a sexual nature, however, and can include offensive remarks about a person's sex. For example, it is illegal to harass a woman by making offensive comments about women in general.

Both victim and the harasser can be either a woman or a man, and the victim and harasser can be the same sex.

Although the law doesn't prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or isolated incidents that are not very serious, harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted).

The harasser can be the victim's supervisor, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or someone who is not an employee of the employer, such as a client or customer.

[pnwmom]

6. Thank you! nt

[Tree-Hugger]

7. Thank you!!

[UpInArms]

8. Important

Although the law doesn't prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or isolated incidents that are not very serious, harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted).

[pnwmom]

9. Important: both bolded sentences about unwanted touching. nt

[gldstwmn]

12. How did he know they were unwanted?

So far I only recall one woman moving his hand. This is an attack on Cuomo. I'll wait for the results of the investigation. In the meantime you know who is a sexual harasser and rapist? Donald Trump, that's who. Let's do something about that.

[pnwmom]

14. Because they didn't ask for it. They're not lovers. It's not "grab first and ask permission next."

Putting aside the photo at the wedding, which doesn't involve a staffer, in a professional or business situation, workers and their bosses need to keep their hands off each other, unless permission is given.

The default is NOT TOUCHING. It's not up to any of these women to enforce what should be the default, but too often isn't.

Here's a reporter who said he behaved inappropriately with her for years. And he knew how she felt. Look what he said at the end.

And before you claim that SHE should have stood up for herself, remind yourself that if she complained, this statehouse reporter might have been prevented from doing her job -- covering Cuomo.


https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/542992-former-reporter-accuses-cuomo-of-sexual-harassment

“He took my hand, as if to shake it, then refused to let go. He put his other arm around my back, his hand on my waist, and held me firmly in place while indicating to a photographer he wanted us to pose for a picture,” she wrote.

“I was wrong to believe this experience would last for just a moment. Keeping his grip on me as I practically squirmed to get away from him, the governor turned my body to face a different direction for yet another picture. He never let go of my hand,” she continued. "Then he turned to me with a mischievous smile on his face, in front of all of my colleagues, and said: ‘I’m sorry. Am I making you uncomfortable? I thought we were going steady.’ ”

[littlemissmartypants]

10. ❤ nt

[gldstwmn]

11. No one is accusing Cuomo of rape.

You know who is accused of rape? Donald Trump, that's who. Why don't we have that conversation and we can deal with Cuomo once the investigation is complete. The Cuomo accusations are targeted. Let's figure out why.

[pnwmom]

15. This isn't about rape. It's about sexual harassment, which includes unwanted touching. n/t

[gldstwmn]

16. Yes. Donald Trump is a sexual harasser too.

[pnwmom]

17. People here have had millions of conversations about DT. That doesn't give every other guy

a free pass.

[gldstwmn]

18. Donald Trump should definitely not get a free pass.

E. Jean Carroll has DNA evidence.

[pnwmom]

19. No sexual harasser should get a free pass because DT is worse. n/t

[Solly Mack]

13. K&R