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Demovictory9

(32,423 posts)
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 07:36 PM Mar 2021

Chubby pastor tells women to lose weight, wear makeup and look "less butch"

https://www.kmov.com/news/missouri-pastor-slammed-for-telling-wives-to-lose-weight-look-less-butch-to-keep-husbands/article_74bf3477-28bd-5efc-9c3c-f0ade3d653ed.html?block_id=994074

Missouri pastor is on leave after he gave a sermon that many people say was sexist, misogynistic and inappropriate.

Pastor Stewart-Allen Clark took a leave of absence Tuesday from First General Baptist Church in Malden, Missouri – located in the state’s southeast boot heel – after receiving widespread criticism for his sermon given in late February.

In his sermon, he explained that women need to lose weight and submit to the sexual desires of their husbands to keep the men from straying.


Clark also said wives need to wear makeup, dress nicely, have nice hair and appear less “butch.”

The original video was deleted from the church’s website, but a woman who was watching the sermon that day managed to post the video to Facebook, where it has caused widespread anger and gained thousands of comments.

Clark continued to ask why women “let themselves go after marriage” and reiterated that men only marry for good looks and sex.

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Chubby pastor tells women to lose weight, wear makeup and look "less butch" (Original Post) Demovictory9 Mar 2021 OP
"...only marry for good looks and sex." Don't forget cooking and cleaning. TreasonousBastard Mar 2021 #1
And he used Melania Trump as example of look for women to strive for Demovictory9 Mar 2021 #3
He painted Melania as the perfect example of womanhood. Irish_Dem Mar 2021 #9
That broad is carved up like a turkey meow2u3 Mar 2021 #16
Even if I had the money I would never want to get all that plastic surgery. Irish_Dem Mar 2021 #20
She cant even smile naturally her face is pulled so tightly Demovictory9 Mar 2021 #19
If he thinks that, let's not hear him complain treestar Mar 2021 #2
Good lawd... WTF?! demmiblue Mar 2021 #8
WTF? You make no sense. treestar Mar 2021 #26
Some other pastor says sex for procreation only... LakeArenal Mar 2021 #4
Looks like an Disaffected Mar 2021 #5
Not to be mean but reverse standards in selection aren't in his best interest. JanMichael Mar 2021 #6
He looks like a butch woman..... Haggard Celine Mar 2021 #7
True but he is not the past use of the term "butch". JanMichael Mar 2021 #11
Sometimes it's hard to tell. Haggard Celine Mar 2021 #22
He isn't exactly a dream boat, is he? Irish_Dem Mar 2021 #10
Twitter verse is providing him with feedback on his looks Demovictory9 Mar 2021 #12
I can only imagine, twitter can be brutal and he so deserves it. Irish_Dem Mar 2021 #14
Yes, blame the wife treestar Mar 2021 #27
I don't know about all y'all, but GoCubsGo Mar 2021 #13
Its the congregation that exposed.his nonsense Demovictory9 Mar 2021 #15
Good for them! GoCubsGo Mar 2021 #17
he resigned and got counselling Celerity Mar 2021 #25
Does the man not own a mirror? steventh Mar 2021 #18
He is seeking.counseling Demovictory9 Mar 2021 #21
Yikes. This cretin has no room to talk about anybody's looks, or the way they dress or, well, catbyte Mar 2021 #23
First get rid of that beer gut before commenting on the weight of Raine Mar 2021 #24
were I there, I would have told him to loudly to KISS MY ASS demtenjeep Mar 2021 #28
I guess I confused Ted Cruz with his father or something. TheBlackAdder Mar 2021 #29

Demovictory9

(32,423 posts)
3. And he used Melania Trump as example of look for women to strive for
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 07:40 PM
Mar 2021

Lady Melania Trump as an example of what women should strive to look like, although he acknowledged that “not everybody looks like that.”

Irish_Dem

(46,534 posts)
9. He painted Melania as the perfect example of womanhood.
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:05 PM
Mar 2021

Most women don't have the time or money for constant Botox and plastic surgery.
Or to have designer clothing. And to sit in a spa all day getting nails and hair done.

meow2u3

(24,759 posts)
16. That broad is carved up like a turkey
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:15 PM
Mar 2021

and that dumbass sexist pastor expects us to look like that piece of meat in a dress? I don't think so.

That idiot pastor should take a long look at his ugly ass.

Irish_Dem

(46,534 posts)
20. Even if I had the money I would never want to get all that plastic surgery.
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:19 PM
Mar 2021

And spend all day, every day at the spa.

Her very expensive designer clothing was horrible.
I figure the designers hated her, she supposedly did not pay her bills.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
2. If he thinks that, let's not hear him complain
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 07:39 PM
Mar 2021

that women marry for money and security. How much do you want to bet he finds that to be sinful?

treestar

(82,383 posts)
26. WTF? You make no sense.
Sun Mar 14, 2021, 11:45 AM
Mar 2021

Read. I said his hypocrisy probably kicks in and the reverse of women having to be thin and beautiful is that men need money. So he probably doesn't like women looking for money and security. What is wrong with you? Read sentences, they are the same no matter who says them.

LakeArenal

(28,806 posts)
4. Some other pastor says sex for procreation only...
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 07:43 PM
Mar 2021

This guy says screw like Gomorrah.

Christianity is confusing.

JanMichael

(24,873 posts)
6. Not to be mean but reverse standards in selection aren't in his best interest.
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 07:54 PM
Mar 2021

In his sermon, he explained that women need to lose weight and submit to the sexual desires of their husbands to keep the men from straying.

1. Weight - bummer. He could try to improve his appearance.

Clark also said wives need to wear makeup, dress nicely, have nice hair and appear less “butch.”"

2. appear less incel - bummer. He could, if he wanted to be the "one", appear more "butch". He is not that at all.

Gawd I hate people like that.

JanMichael

(24,873 posts)
11. True but he is not the past use of the term "butch".
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:08 PM
Mar 2021

Tough guy that may or may not be pretty.

That said maybe he (or they them or that) is the current "butch"?

Haggard Celine

(16,835 posts)
22. Sometimes it's hard to tell.
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:33 PM
Mar 2021

Some women like to keep their hair short and wear pants. It's not necessarily a statement about their sexuality; plenty of them are straight, they just don't like to dress feminine. But a lot of people would say that these women look butch.

Now a man who is sort of dumpy and wears loose-fitting clothes and big glasses and has his hair cut like it's a helmet would not be considered butch at all. Some would say that he looked more like a butch woman than a man. And that's what I was talking about. Sorry for the lengthy explanation.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
27. Yes, blame the wife
Sun Mar 14, 2021, 11:46 AM
Mar 2021

it's just as possible she "let herself go" because he strays anyway. And there are plenty of gorgeous women with husbands who stray. What a dumbass.

Just not appropriate. If he went on about women obeying their husbands, we might disagree, but at least he would be talking about the Bible.

GoCubsGo

(32,075 posts)
13. I don't know about all y'all, but
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:13 PM
Mar 2021

I am not going to take weight and beauty advice from a homely, obese man. That fucker needs to take a good, long look in the mirror before he passes judgement on anyone else. If I belonged to that congregation, I'd have gotten up and walked out for good.

steventh

(2,143 posts)
18. Does the man not own a mirror?
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:17 PM
Mar 2021

Does the man not have a 10th grade education? Ain't ain't ain't. Really dude?

The "sermon" reminds me of this:

“And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” -Matthew 7:3

This is mean and way beneath me but, his hands are tiny lol.

catbyte

(34,340 posts)
23. Yikes. This cretin has no room to talk about anybody's looks, or the way they dress or, well,
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:36 PM
Mar 2021

about anything.

Raine

(30,540 posts)
24. First get rid of that beer gut before commenting on the weight of
Sat Mar 13, 2021, 08:48 PM
Mar 2021

anyone else oinkie (no insult intended to the porcine community).

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