At least twice a week I have to remind myself

[MissMillie]

that my partner's ADD is probably harder on him than it is on me.


(He's not having a good day. Obviously has an effect on my day. A year of being in near lock-down doesn't help.)

[XanaDUer2]

1. Hope things start to improve nt

[Demsrule86]

2. I have ADHD and don't take meds as they cause me real issues...I have over the years learned

to manage it. When I went to school, they didn't really know that much about it...and it is hard on the spouse...I forget important stuff, lose stuff-all sorts of things. I get lost...the GPS and computers help me tremendously. I have a relatively mild to moderate case. I also can get very hyperactive during times of stress.

[Karadeniz]

3. We all do that for different reasons! In my case, it's my husband's hearing. He'll ask me to repeat

Myself, so I turn up the volume, then get told I don't need to shout! So I try repeating and repeating, and it turns out the problem is that I don't speak clearly! But, I've always remembered someone's saying that encroaching deafness was one of the most isolating effects of growing old, so I care more that he doesn't feel isolated. So, onward and upward with yelling and mush mouth!!!

[luvs2sing]

4. I can sympathize.

Hubster has all the symptoms of Inattentive ADD, but he won’t deal with it. Everyone in his family has some kind of anxiety disorder of ADD or both. He thinks it’s normal.

When we first went into lockdown, it wasn’t too bad. He worked from home, and we really didn’t have much contact during the day, except for meals. I’m an introvert who needs a lot of alone time. I still had it, even though he was in the next room.

His job was eliminated at the end of October, and he decided to retire. Now he’s here all the time. He never has an unexpressed thought. He thinks I’m his personal Google. There is a ton of stuff that needs done around the house, and he talks about it but is too scattered to formulate a plan or follow any plan I come up with.

We’re limping along right now, knowing things will improve when we can get away from one another more. He always planned to work part-time after retirement and spend a lot of time at the library or gym. All of that is on hold.

I guess the one positive is we both recognize how hard this is and are working together to make it easier. Still, I’d just love to crush up a Ritalin and sneak it into his orange juice..but I can’t..he doesn’t drink orange juice.