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left-of-center2012

(34,195 posts)
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 01:40 PM Apr 2021

Co-workers at a Conn. bar discover they're sisters after 8 years of knowing each other

Cassandra Madison and Julia Tinetti became such good friends so quickly when they first met as co-workers at a bar in Connecticut that they used to joke they were sisters. Eight years after that first meeting, they found out they really are sisters.

Their relationship first began in 2013 when Madison was working as a waitress and Tinetti as a hostess at the Russian Lady Bar in New Haven. "It was like natural," Tinetti said. "It wasn't awkward. We hit it off literally right away." Madison has the Dominican flag tattooed on her arm, which Tinetti noticed before noting that she has the Dominican flag tattooed on her back. "I'm adopted from there and she's like, 'What? Me too!' And I was like, 'That's so cool,''' Madison said.

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Madison learned from her father that her older brother was very sick when he was born and the family had financial issues, so he gave the girls up for adoption. Neither of the women are angry about the decision. "My father just cried a lot, and he just kept apologizing," Madison said.

"You can't be mad at somebody for wanting to give their child the best life," Tinetti said. "And now the fact that we can connect with them, it's very, very special for us."

https://www.today.com/food/restaurant-co-workers-realize-they-re-actually-sisters-today-t214361

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Co-workers at a Conn. bar discover they're sisters after 8 years of knowing each other (Original Post) left-of-center2012 Apr 2021 OP
Kickin' with gusto! Faux pas Apr 2021 #1
they have the same eyes CatWoman Apr 2021 #2
And tattoos! StClone Apr 2021 #3
Sweet soothsayer Apr 2021 #4
Beautiful Claire Oh Nette Apr 2021 #5
And donor insemination kids, as well. Ms. Toad Apr 2021 #7
Wow...those kids, too Claire Oh Nette Apr 2021 #10
Wow...those kids, too Claire Oh Nette Apr 2021 #11
Yup! Ms. Toad Apr 2021 #17
Great story, great that they understand why they were put up for adoption. And I learned.... George II Apr 2021 #6
I lived and worked in west Hartford for a couple of years in the mid 80's and madinmaryland Apr 2021 #8
Yes. Back when I moved up here (30 years ago) it was the hopping place to go before/after.... George II Apr 2021 #9
Was Gordie Howe's restaurant still open when you were in the area. It was in Glastonbury. madinmaryland Apr 2021 #15
Sorry, I never heard of it. I moved up here in 1988.... George II Apr 2021 #16
I lived in Deep River, CT for 3 years in the 70s. halfulglas Apr 2021 #19
Lovely story but they are from DR malaise Apr 2021 #12
Lovely story but they are from DR malaise Apr 2021 #13
wow Demovictory9 Apr 2021 #14
Who says there's no feel-good news these days? (n/t) PJMcK Apr 2021 #18
I'll be away for a few minutes . . . . AverageOldGuy Apr 2021 #20

Claire Oh Nette

(2,636 posts)
5. Beautiful
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 02:12 PM
Apr 2021

Reunited adoptee here, both sides.

So many adoptees discover their birth families or half siblings practically in their own back yards.

Fate brings people together, and the truth will out.

Love this story!

Ms. Toad

(34,059 posts)
7. And donor insemination kids, as well.
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:07 PM
Apr 2021

My daughter found her biological father using 23 & me.

Turns out that she and her half-brother went on a middle school People to People trip in the same summer to the same country. (There were two trips that summer from NE Ohio - they weren't on the same trip - but stilll pretty wild!)

Claire Oh Nette

(2,636 posts)
10. Wow...those kids, too
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:21 PM
Apr 2021

My kind of adoption--birthmother was a girl who went away, high school sweethearts, the valedictorian and the 4 sport All State all star, both over 18, but "society" intervened and I disappeared in secrecy--kind of faded out by the time sperm doners emerged on the scene.

Always good to have more people to love, and more people to love you.

My maternal half brother lived across the street from the high school I worked at as a TA in college and student taught at, two blocks from my best friend's aunt/cousins. His buddy from grad school was in my buddy from high school's wedding.

I'd say coincidence, but there are too many of these stories for mere coincidence.



Claire Oh Nette

(2,636 posts)
11. Wow...those kids, too
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:21 PM
Apr 2021

My kind of adoption--birthmother was a girl who went away, high school sweethearts, the valedictorian and the 4 sport All State all star, both over 18, but "society" intervened and I disappeared in secrecy--kind of faded out by the time sperm doners emerged on the scene.

Always good to have more people to love, and more people to love you.

My maternal half brother lived across the street from the high school I worked at as a TA in college and student taught at, two blocks from my best friend's aunt/cousins. His buddy from grad school was in my buddy from high school's wedding.

I'd say coincidence, but there are too many of these stories for mere coincidence.



Ms. Toad

(34,059 posts)
17. Yup!
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 04:13 PM
Apr 2021

Our daughter always wanted to know the other half of her genetics - and we always wanted her to know them - enough that we had asked a friend to be a donor. Unfortunately, once the friend declined we were left with the medical system which imposes secrecy on the process.

So we were thrilled when she got a message from a woman on 23 & me suggesting that her husband was a 100% match as my daughter's biological father. She met him (and the rest of her relatives on that side of the family) in person on father's day about 2 months later. They invited her to be as much a part of their crazy family as she wanted.

I'm not sure they are in contact much any more - but we were thrilled that they welcomed her as part of their family. You're right - alwasy good to have more people to love and to love you!

George II

(67,782 posts)
6. Great story, great that they understand why they were put up for adoption. And I learned....
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:00 PM
Apr 2021

....something today. For years I've been going to the Russian Lady in Hartford. I never even realized there is one in New Haven!

BTW, a little off topic. I worked with a man for 15 years in Old Saybrook, CT, before I found out that both he and I grew up on the same street in Brooklyn, NY about 50 years earlier.

madinmaryland

(64,931 posts)
8. I lived and worked in west Hartford for a couple of years in the mid 80's and
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:10 PM
Apr 2021

Remember going to the Russian Lady there a few times. Didn’t they have multiple levels.

George II

(67,782 posts)
9. Yes. Back when I moved up here (30 years ago) it was the hopping place to go before/after....
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:18 PM
Apr 2021

...Whalers games. There were a couple of bars a block or two from the Civic Center that we went to.

madinmaryland

(64,931 posts)
15. Was Gordie Howe's restaurant still open when you were in the area. It was in Glastonbury.
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:39 PM
Apr 2021

Went there a couple of times. Can’t remember where else in Hartford I went.

George II

(67,782 posts)
16. Sorry, I never heard of it. I moved up here in 1988....
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 03:47 PM
Apr 2021

I just googled it, it opened in 1980 and closed in 1984.

halfulglas

(1,654 posts)
19. I lived in Deep River, CT for 3 years in the 70s.
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 04:23 PM
Apr 2021

Going out to eat almost always meant going to Old Saybrook or sometimes Middletown or Mystic, but mostly Old Saybrook.

AverageOldGuy

(1,523 posts)
20. I'll be away for a few minutes . . . .
Tue Apr 13, 2021, 04:39 PM
Apr 2021

Just sat down at the computer and opened up DU.

First was "citizen blues' " report on her/hus student.

Then there's POTUS Biden at the slain officer's funeral.

And now this.

Something wrong with my computer -- the screen is all blurry.

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