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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsFrom the New York Times Style Section: "She Gets Paid Just to Humiliate Her Fans"
Welcome to the lucrative world of financial domination, a form of B.D.S.M. that has flourished during the pandemic, when many sex workers and their customers have migrated online because of social distancing precautions. The concept is simple, even if the allure is not immediately self-evident: finsubs (short for financial submissives) send monetary tributes to a financial dominatrix, who could be any gender, in exchange for being humiliated and degraded.
Its controlling someone through their wallet, said Mistress Marley. (The Times agreed to identify her only by her professional name to prevent stalkers from finding her.) I love waking up every day realizing that submissive men pay all my bills and I dont spend a dime.
Trysts take place mostly online, though there can be in-person encounters. And the humiliation could be as fleeting as a few moments, or persist for hours during so-called draining sessions, when the dominatrix hurls a barrage of insults and demands that ends only when a monetary cap is reached or a finsubs bank account hits zero whichever comes first.
In its purest form, financial domination is not transactional. Sending money is the kink, and finsubs offer tributes without expecting anything in return. The arousal is in the act, said Phillip Hammack, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz and the director of its Sexual and Gender Diversity Laboratory. Its about that loss of control.
Its controlling someone through their wallet, said Mistress Marley. (The Times agreed to identify her only by her professional name to prevent stalkers from finding her.) I love waking up every day realizing that submissive men pay all my bills and I dont spend a dime.
Trysts take place mostly online, though there can be in-person encounters. And the humiliation could be as fleeting as a few moments, or persist for hours during so-called draining sessions, when the dominatrix hurls a barrage of insults and demands that ends only when a monetary cap is reached or a finsubs bank account hits zero whichever comes first.
In its purest form, financial domination is not transactional. Sending money is the kink, and finsubs offer tributes without expecting anything in return. The arousal is in the act, said Phillip Hammack, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz and the director of its Sexual and Gender Diversity Laboratory. Its about that loss of control.
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From the New York Times Style Section: "She Gets Paid Just to Humiliate Her Fans" (Original Post)
brooklynite
Apr 2021
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Ocelot II
(115,658 posts)1. OK, that's weird, but to each his own...
Yonnie3
(17,427 posts)2. Insult people and get paid
Perhaps I made the wrong career choice years ago.
Hela
(440 posts)3. Right?! Where do I sign up? n/t
bahboo
(16,333 posts)4. hmmm...I could do this haha....
jcgoldie
(11,627 posts)5. When she saw my bank account...
... I guess she would just be nice to me ..
SheilaAnn
(9,691 posts)6. Or, just get married. n/t