Brides' wedding was ruined when videographer walked out before vows

you can make a deposit, but never pay the full amount, as you are more likely to never see it again.

It's just the way it is. We had to pay in full, upfront, to secure a wedding photographer five years ago. It was that or forgo the service.

You film and send it out with best wishes.

IF, after this you disagree pre screen your clients otherwise film and shut the front door...

to vet the companies, I have to believe it was intentional.............

Sadly, she will not have a recorded video to look back on in future years of the glorious event.

My wife and I sit down on our anniversary and view our wedding every year, and have for 35 years.....

It is a shame that they will not be able to do this, just because of some asshole photographer's bigotry............

misled her in his advertisement? Perhaps grounds for a civil court lawsuit, if they wish to pursue, and also, perhaps enough folks had pictures to share w/ the happy couple too, they snapped themselves.

Some people are just plain mean and bigots too. A real shame.

What a creep who thinks "his faith", whatever that is, allows him to ruin a wedding.

Thank goodness for her pro-active aunt who worked with Tolman Media to do the best they could to remedy an awful situation...

Templeton’s aunt, Cheryl Grindle, who lives in New Mexico and was unable to attend the wedding, negotiated with Tolman Media to get the company to gather any photos and videos made by friends and family at the wedding, along with any footage the second videographer took, and create a video for the couple at no cost. Hillyard confirmed the company plans to do so.

Karma, and maybe a personal lawsuit from the brides or the media company, will get Seth Curl in the end.

I also tend to have a subtle presumption that youth equals openness, then I remember that the first to equate age and wisdom is an old fool.

There were many youthful insurrectionists in the Capitol on January 6th.

...that notion saying, "fear not, the bigots will die out and a more enlightened generation will replace them."

Many young people in conservative areas as well as rural think like their parents/grandparents.

Unfortunately a new generation of young bigots always manages to rise up to replace the old ones.

The idea that God is watching over them or these sayings are just things people use to put themselves at ease with this shitty world we live in. If we really want to live in a better world we need to actively change it for the better by teaching our kids good beliefs and values, while making sure that the beliefs of toxic people are never passed on.

I know of young people like this. A former friend who's kids seem friendly, but are rabid bigots because of their upbringing.

Let me tell you about my first wedding: the photographer was a complete no-show. I asked the guests to send me copies of the photos they were taking and I built a nice wedding album out of what they did for love.

But wait, there was more, lots more. The wedding was held in my parents’ back yard, and one week before the event we woke up to find the County was digging up the street to a depth of 3 feet. My mother never got the message, if indeed there had been notification at all. Just — 3 feet deep. The workmen promised ramps at the end of each workday, but it made proposed delivery of the rental chairs, flowers, and food a bit iffy.

The dog ran away, and when my younger sis and I finally found him he had some extremely vicious stickers stuck all over his belly that took a lot of time to cut away.

Oh yes, the back yard. My sister and I were raised with the knowledge that there were no fairy princesses here. It was nice though, with the fruit trees and flowers, and the people who knew us and wished us well. The chairs did come in time, which was a really good thing given that the groom turned pale about the time he said “I Do” and Mom was able to shove a chair under him just as his knees gave way.

The guitarist was a friend of a friend of my Dad’s .... we were told he was having some trouble with alcohol and might be a no-show. Gaah. He showed up, played some classical music, and was in every way a gentleman.

What else. Because there was definitely more, oh my god, but it’s been 50 years.

Let me tell you about my second wedding, 33 years ago. The weather was clear, it was October, and suddenly the temperature was 103 degrees. The cake started to melt. And so it went. We are still married.

For better or for worse.

So, to the two brides: I lift a virtual toast and send my love as I do to all couples on their weddings The people who love you were there.

That's why they contracted with a videographer, so that they could send the video to those who couldn't be there. And having the videographer walk off the job, with no notice, meant there was very little they could do to recover. The brides weren't even told that he had left until AFTER the ceremony.

To focus on the good-hearted aunt who is going to make sure a video is made...
To decide it’s not the end of the earth and they have a whole life together henceforth...
Write a different “story” — which is what I did...

Or, do as my sister has done and still get steaming mad about what happened at her wedding 36 years ago on the rare occasions it gets brought up.

The videographer who broke his contract owes them not just a full refund but substantial damages. He needs to get really bad Yelp reviews. He is a complete asshole, and the world should know it.

"Or, do as my sister has done and still get steaming mad about what happened at her wedding 36 years ago on the rare occasions it gets brought up"

It is so self-defeating to hold a grudge like this, but we all have people in our lives that do so.

it was an accident or mistake.

The people that brought us a Nazi, Hitler fan boy, college sexual assaulting prick, Lier about acceptance into military academy, illiterate, immature, never held office, in a wheel chair from drunk college spring break GQP, Marginal Traitor Green, Bang Bang Barbie BroBart wanna be.
Surprised gay people reside there, without being ran away.

For all the talk about systemic bigotry, many seem to forget, not acknowledge, or understand systemic heterosexism/homophobia. The article points out the EXTRA fucking steps she took, that many of us take, in order to make we aren't fucked over because we are GLBT, and yet, we still get ripped off, demeaned, or worse. Too many say shit like, "well, if I were queer, I wouldn't want such and such doing my what-have-you.", which isn't the goddamned point! The point is we have to jump through hoops just to line shit up and even then, as per this article, it still isn't enough.

Heterosexism and homophobia are fucking real and it's about time people start to wake the fuck up and smell the rainbow!

Here is that lazy coward's email after he got a whirlwind of online backlash and ruined his name and reputation for contract videography.

“This destroys me that I’ve ended up in a position where I am getting so many people saying so many negative things about me, my life, my career, and my beliefs. I’ve never been in a situation like this before, and I try at all costs to avoid things like this. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to do that and want this to be right. I am so sorry Clarissa and Teegan for everything. I pray that we can move forward and try to find some middle ground for all of this. I don’t expect this to fix everything immediately, but I hope it’s a step in the right direction.”

"Middle Ground"? he took the money and he did zero due diligence. He agreed and signed a contract and accepted payment for this job. Crybaby is now sad he messed up. The christian thing would have been to do the job and be more careful and keep his discrimination to before he signs a contract rather than afterwards.

Poor baby.

that way ALL OF US non-bigots can decline their services

I feel ZERO empathy for this bigoted racist person.

He deserves no mulligan. Maybe in 30 years he'll grow a conscience and really understand what he did and how it took something irreplaceable away from the couple, and a whole class of people too. At that point I'd re-evaluate but I'll be long for this world.

It sounds like Clarissa had made it clear to him, or someone in his business, when he was hired to do the photography at the wedding.

Did he think he’d be treated like a fucking hero for shitting on these ladies’ wedding ceremony?

Too fragile to honor his contract, too fragile to tell his customers why he was walking off the job, and too fragile to apologize until weeks later when the backlash hurt his business. He seems like a big crybaby to me.

But it's NC.

She made a real good faith effort to find someone who would be willing to do the job and he screwed her.
This is why this kind of shit can't just be dismissed as "find another photographer."
He needs to be nailed to the wall for this.

vendor was hired, the vendor walks out because he claims he didn't know?

Nah. That vendor did it on purpose.

This is so much bullshit all the way around. Bullshit of others that was heaped on the couple.

Having to work harder to find a business run by decent people - and yes, my definition of decent includes not being a bigot - and then for that vendor to simply walk away. No notice. No nothing. Walk away after taking the money. After agreeing to a service.

Disgusting behavior.

If he took their money and then started waving his Bible as an excuse for skipping out, I fail to see why he shouldn’t be taken to civil court like any other scam artist. He contracted to perform a service and then walked out, just like a sleazy roofer or appliance repairman.



What’s more, I hope his business can get put on the list for shady and dodgy outfits.

Q: How do you rate this service?

State your reason below:

This contractor took our money and then quit without performing his contracted service.

Time after time after motherfucking time, the Christian thing to do turns out to be fucking someone over.

“Christian.” I don’t think that word means what they think it means.