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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI had a horrible experience today.
I met one of the most unpleasant people I have ever in my 67 years had to deal with. I work for a home care agency. Nice retirement job I can pick the clients and the hours I want to work. I picked up a women to take her to the doctor and all she did was bitch and treat me like her personal servant. I live in Alabama and it is hot right now. My cars AC needs freon so I gave a heads up to the agency it wasn't working. I thought it was not a problem since it was 8:00 AM.
While in the waiting room she asked me to pick her teeth. PICK HER TEETH!! I politely declined. She lives within walking distance of a Publix which has a pharmacy but she had her prescriptions called in to a grocery store 8 miles away. She refused to wear her seat belt, she bitched at me about my driving (going too slow, etc.) and she got frustrated and started yelling "Shit!" at the self check out in Kroger. She repeatedly complained about the heat and I told she wasn't the only one suffering. I informed her Publix would deliver her groceries and prescriptions and Handy Ride would pick her up for Dr's appts. She lied and said she had to fill out application for Handy Ride (not true) and Publix didn't have what she wanted.
When I got off the Shift from Hell I informed my agency I never wanted to be sent back there again. She was the epitome of a Trump voter. Entitled, whiny, bitchy and just a general "nothing is my fault" persona.
I dropped her off, put up her groceries and fought off the urge to just slap her. Everything she could do to help herself she didn't want to do. She likes suffering.
End of Rant!
XanaDUer2
(10,774 posts)she sounds unhinged.
liberal_mama
(1,495 posts)Like you want to get near her mouth and nose! I hope she was wearing a mask when she got in your vehicle.
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)crimsonandclover
(58 posts)I dragged the garbage can over to her. I think she watched Gone with the Wind too many times.
3catwoman3
(24,072 posts)XanaDUer2
(10,774 posts)I pick up the garbage container and let them throw it in. To me, it's the height of entitlement
multigraincracker
(32,736 posts)The other day a guy pulled up to me at a light and yelled "do you know what the speed limit is"? I looked at him with a frown and yelled back "don't mess with my discount".
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)I found out this afternoon I could have refused to drive her.
Hekate
(90,867 posts)Ive been adamant about seatbelts for decades. Plus it is the LAW in my state. I just politely let them know Im not going anywhere, and sit with my keys in my lap. In the case of my late MIL I just fastened her belt for her.
But I have to say a b***h like your passenger I wouldnt want to get that close, any more than you did.
OldBaldy1701E
(5,177 posts)"No seatbelt, No drive-y!" And, if she had anything to say, I think I would have just gotten her out of the car and drove away. But, I am not the most 'people' person in the world...
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,739 posts)I'm glad you won't have to deal with her again.
Entitled rude people. So awful!
niyad
(113,630 posts)of work." May she receive everything she deserves.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,739 posts)niyad
(113,630 posts)is actually the root word for ken (knowing) and knowledge?
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,739 posts)niyad
(113,630 posts)have bestowed on me. Not exactly the horrified, insulted reaction they expected. Or, when being called a b****, to look puzzled and say, "but you say that like it's a bad thing." One of my friends, now long dead, used to reply, "AKC registered, darling."
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,739 posts)whistler162
(11,155 posts)dog shelter and apologize!
MissMillie
(38,589 posts)I'm pretty sure the only thing that makes them happy is if they can make other people as miserable as they are.
aggiesal
(8,938 posts)csziggy
(34,139 posts)Danascot
(4,695 posts)unless they're not happy.
Scrivener7
(51,058 posts)OAITW r.2.0
(24,679 posts)You wonder how you get to this advanced age and still think like a clueless dilettante. Self awareness seems to be a attribute lacking in too many adult Americans. I would guess she's a Trump voter as well.
But perhaps I am too cynical....maybe she has Alzheimer's type disease that destroys one's critical thinking while allowing the person to still function at a relatively high level while not processing how her words are taken by the person she is communicating with.
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crimsonandclover
(58 posts)She is diabetic and overweight. I think she may have chronic pain. But it is self inflicted because she won't self check her blood sugar and her joints (knees) won't support her weight anymore. I have no sympathy.
OAITW r.2.0
(24,679 posts)Seemed like an ideal human specimen to infect and destroy.
Wednesdays
(17,450 posts)because nobody wants to be around her!
Maraya1969
(22,507 posts)That is so disgusting if that is what she was asking for.
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)Response to Maraya1969 (Reply #8)
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flying_wahini
(6,667 posts)There are far too many nice and needy people to waste anytime on people
like her.
Beastly Boy
(9,506 posts)similar attitude. Their only exposure, if any, with domestic workers are "the help", or "the servants". They have no clue what the difference is. Hence the attitude.
If your client has a visiting nurse or an administrator attached to her, it is best to file a complaint with them. It is their responsibility to explain the relationship between you and your clients as strictly professional one.
Besides, you might want to create a record of what is going on, just in case. But please, keep fighting the urge to slap them.
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)She had to take care of an elderly mother and never married. I think that is where the bitterness comes from.
I took care of my mother with Alzhiemers. It was living hell but she never spread toxic energy. I dealt with lots of health care workers in the course of the care of my mother and respected the dedication and work they had put into their studies to care for others.
Beastly Boy
(9,506 posts)I took care of both my elderly parents, dementia and all. I wasn't very good at it. I have learned that you have to be a true professional to do the job right. Not too many people appreciate this fact, or appreciate the professionalism of the health workers who take care of the elderly. It's a tough job. All the best to you.
Skittles
(153,226 posts)is this a very elderly person?
does she have relatives who know if she has always been like that? ugh
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)I suspect she is hooked on pain meds. She has a pain management doctor. Believe or not medical pot will soon be available in Alabama. She sure could use some.
Skittles
(153,226 posts)pick my teeth? I mean, that is a serious WTF
Ilsa
(61,707 posts)stages of dementia, which can cause whiny behavior if aggravated by situations, caffeine, etc.
I wouldn't drive her any more and tell her and the agency why. If her behavior caused by a medical condition, the agency should tell you, so you can make an informed ethical decision about whether you want to continue helping her. If there is no medical reason, there is no point in you entertaining misery with anyone like her.
I take care of an octogenarian who is sometimes a royal bitch when her dementia screws up her thinking. She has accused me and her son (my spouse) of physical abuse, and one time she mocked my dead mother's walking, and called her a stuck-up fatty. I'm looking forward to moving her into a nursing home so my day is more pleasant.
Skittles
(153,226 posts)wyn borkins
(1,109 posts)Quite some time ago we shared a few slices of pie and a bottle of milk at an old-fashioned diner. The pie was very good, the milk was ice cold, and the conversation was both warm and friendly. Now that's what I remember...thank you kind crimsonandclover.
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)I don't like milk. We had cows. Milk smells udderly awful when it is fresh. Barn cats liked it, however.
CaptainTruth
(6,609 posts)crimsonandclover
(58 posts)She said floss did not work for her.
Traildogbob
(8,834 posts)Just think, Melania will be picking the Donalds teeth for years to come. Then Ivanka. Oh wait, MTG, McCarthy, and Hannity will volunteer. They will suck the handberders out of his teeth, and pay to do so.
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)The Horror!
I'm over it now. Drink in hand, cat on shoulder, dog laying across my feet.
Traildogbob
(8,834 posts)Loving animals and a drink. Cheers🍷🍸🥃🍺
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)2 rescue cats and 1 rescue dog. They are sweeties even if they are major brats.
Traildogbob
(8,834 posts)All spoiled and brats. I love em all. All rescued. And the comfort and love they give her back, makes me so happy.
She is an ICU nurse. I am so proud of what you all do for people, and deal with abuse. Bless you. Angels here in the flesh.
TeamProg
(6,292 posts)Simply because she's an idiot (generally speaking).
crimsonandclover
(58 posts)I am helping my friend wash her cat tomorrow. We have strong gloves. He is an old long haired cat and has shit on his backside. We have strong gloves.
I_UndergroundPanther
(12,480 posts)With disgusting entitlement issues would just die off and become extinct.
leftyladyfrommo
(18,874 posts)Victim.
Beacool
(30,253 posts)Who the hell picks anyone's teeth? That's just gross. That's the point I would have left her ass in the doctor's office and told her to call an Uber.
3catwoman3
(24,072 posts)I am horrified enough one the rare occasions when I have gotten home from work to find a sesame seed or whatever in my teeth that no one told me about. I would NEVER ask anyone to pick my teeth for me.
Joinfortmill
(14,485 posts)Niagara
(7,691 posts)You're a saint for not losing your patience with this crab tree.
I certainly hope that the rest of your day gets better.
speaknow
(321 posts)heckles65
(549 posts)Only happy when those around her are miserable.
BradAllison
(1,879 posts)Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)Welcome to du!
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BobTheSubgenius
(11,572 posts)But I don't think she likes suffering, per se. What she likes is bitching about being hard done by.
SpankMe
(2,970 posts)Part of me hope it happens.
I've noticed that many old people - of many different political persuasions - lose their "filters" and become mean, shitty, critical, entitled, demanding, and every other bad trait that we suppress out of politeness when we're younger.
I've seen old assholes chew out pharmacists who are desperately trying to help them. I've seen them chew out grocery store workers for the trivialest of mistakes, bitching out neighbors for Christmas lights that are "the wrong color" - the list goes on.
I know I'm on track to be one of these assholes. I don't want to be.
canetoad
(17,200 posts)Picks the teeth of her border collie friends. I suppose that's different.
I think I would have switched the motor off and told her I'm not moving the car until she is belted up.
Demovictory9
(32,482 posts)spinbaby
(15,090 posts)Ive known people like thisall complaints and doom and gloom. They gripe and offend everyone they come in contact with and then wonder why no one wants to be with them.
seta1950
(933 posts)She sounds insufferable
kirkuchiyo
(402 posts)It sounds like my mother. And probably the only reason she doesn't is she was too stupid to take care of here teeth so they have ALL rotted out of her head. But she did used to insist that my niece cut her toe nails...
Dog I'm glad I no longer have any contact with her.
Polybius
(15,510 posts)How old was she? Depending on your answer, I may cut her some slack. She sounds senile.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,858 posts)You're wise to avoid her in the future.
I think it's mostly Republicans who are that way, but I have an elderly Italian-American, pro-
Democratic neighbor originally from NYC who behaves similarly.
She used to seek out my help constantly, since I have a people-pleaser personality (more-so in the past), but she wouldn't even say thanks after all of my favors like driving her to stores, fixing her computer problems, etc.
I finally told her off after she knocked on my door for help yet again, gesturing me with her finger to follow her like I was her obedient pet. And she's never returned ever since, thankfully. Now she just glares at me if I happen to see her outside, like I'm the bad guy.
IronLionZion
(45,570 posts)it's like they enjoy being their own punishment and making everyone else around them suffer for some reason.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)My mom used to say, Self pity is the best kind because you know its sincere!
My mom was right!
Warpy
(111,383 posts)They are really hard to cope with, especially if you're close to them. The routine with family is generally that everyone else are ungrateful incompetents who can't do anything right oh god now don't ever leave me I'll kill myself. It's beyond crazy-making unless you know what's going on with them.
They're awful but you got off easy. Just don't be terribly surprised to hear that she's asked for you to drive her again.
Would you rather see her or be her? Yeah, I know, neither, me too. However, realizing how horrible it must be to live like that and have no choice about it is the beginning of compassion and being able to cope with them. Fortunately for you, you get to say no thanks.
(Bet Publix won't deliver to her because of her behavior)
Neema
(1,151 posts)She lives in my HOA and is a complete nightmare. She refuses to do even the barest minimum to be a considerate neighbor or decent human. No rules apply to her. She feels she and her family can behave however they wish, and whenever faced with even the smallest consequence, she screeches that they're being harassed and she's going to sue. Despite years of legit complaints against her from MANY different neighbors, nothing is ever her fault. I swear everything she says is straight out of the MAGA playbook. She's like a Facebook comment section in human form: no critical thinking skills, no logic, just childish insults, willful ignorance, deflection, lies, and made up grievances from twisting everyone's words around.
She actually likened being asked to follow a safety rule to "living in a concentration camp." I started calling her the Marjorie Taylor Greene of our HOA after that. I found out recently that she is a school counselor, which made my blood run cold. Those poor kids she supposedly counsels don't stand a chance.
Sorry, didn't mean to hijack, your story just brought up my PTSD when it comes to her.