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Name removed Friday OP
Ilsa Friday #1
Name removed Friday #2
no_hypocrisy Friday #3
Name removed Friday #5
AZSkiffyGeek Friday #4
Name removed Friday #6
PoindexterOglethorpe Friday #7
ananda Friday #8
Wicked Blue Friday #9
Name removed Friday #10
Wicked Blue Friday #12
msongs Friday #11

Response to Name removed (Original post)

Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:02 PM

1. I've tried for over six years to

get my MIL out of the house. She needs socialization with people her age to help stimulate her brain which is deteriorating due to dementia. I've offered to take her wherever and whenever needed. I investigated options, from Sunshine clubs to volunteer opportunities, some church-affiliated, but not all.

She complains about being lonely. She gets paranoid. She gets antagonistic.

She finally attended a Sunshine Club last week and had the best time. She told me all the way home what fun it was, and she'd go almost every day if they offered more sessions. 24 hours later, she tells me she didn't like those people, she didn't trust them, and she didn't want to have anything to do with them. I'm tired of wasting my time trying to help her.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:12 PM

3. At age 90+, my father had alienated me and my siblings.

He was too old to golf.

He was a widower.

Most of his friends had died. He was so desperate for company, that he reconciled with a former BFF whom he purged from his life in 1969. Then he died.

He had nobody -- except the dolt neighbor across the street. The neighbor was/is one year older than me. He walked my father's dog; the dog did nothing; and the dog proceeded to shit all over the house when returned. When I bent over to remove the dried dog shit, my father yelled at me to leave it alone.

Social alienation also drew him to FOX "News" as the shows/hosts/Newt became his new friends.

When he died, my father's estate was worth $1.5 million +. He disinherited me and my siblings. The bulk of the estate went to four charities (but hey! I have a free library card forever now!). And the dolt neighbor got a pay-out of $35,000.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:14 PM

4. My mom has alzheimer's and went into a nursing home in 2019

She was doing great until COVID. She declined horribly over about 3 months of isolation, and had to be moved into assisted living. Fortunately since we've gotten vaccinated and have been able to see her, she's visibly improving over the past three months or so.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 05:29 PM

7. That's among the reasons I anticipate moving to

independent/assisted living some day. I'm 72 now, have as much social stuff as I want, for the most part. Things will improve when my science fiction things return to live events, which will happen later on this year. Hooray!

Also, I'm not all that keen on home maintenance, which will be a factor.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 05:46 PM

8. I hear you.

You can't imagine what vaccination means to me,
now that I'm able to be with people again.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 05:51 PM

9. DU is my only social life

I have chronic fatigue syndrome and don't have the physical energy to do much. Stopped going to UU church a couple of years ago because I couldn't get out of bed early enough.

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 06:48 PM

12. Thanks

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Fri Jun 11, 2021, 06:43 PM

11. I hear how my neighbors verbally abuse each other and wonder if they really enjoy familyfriends

there's 3 or 4 apts where the residents put their loud business out there for everyone to hear on a weekly basis and when I see their faces around the property they hardly every look happy.

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