Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:19 PM

Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it.

The people on this board are, for the most part, kind and caring people. Fat shaming is one of the last refuges of fully acceptable abuse across society today.

Zero reason to use weight in a personal attack. This one just seems too simple to have to even say. Don’t try to justify the unjustifiable. Your words aren’t only attacking your target when you go to weight as a descriptor.

Thank you.

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Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it. (Original post)	RegularJam	Friday	OP
Yes. Those are not the "surgical strike" insults that the poster presumes. It hurts many.	hlthe2b	Friday	#1
That's the term I was looking for to make the point in my last sentence.	RegularJam	Friday	#4
I support you whole heartedly!	rb15	Friday	#84
As to vax shaming, no one is speaking against those who should not or cannot get the vaccine	karynnj	Friday	#96
The problem is that many people here disagree as to who "shoud not or cannot" get the vaccine.	Ms. Toad	Friday	#98
Pointing out that the majority of anti-vaxers are ignoring	Politicub	Monday	#163
So we have to lay off calling trump a _ _ _, orange turd now?	brush	Friday	#2
Just call him an Orange Turd	Bettie	Friday	#8
It's offensive to	RocRizzo55	Friday	#17
Heehee. Now that I agree with.	brush	Friday	#59
No.	RegularJam	Friday	#11
Folks could be more sensitive at the least ...	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#13
How about the word HOG. ??????	Trueblue1968	Friday	#19
I'm going to go with overly rude and hence not politically correct	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#22
Can I take it a little further and go with "prodigious" ass?	brush	Friday	#60
I'm going to say yes on the grounds that prodigious is not a word that has inherently negative	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#65
I've called him a Fucking Bloated Treasonous Psycho.	Cha	Friday	#57
Yes. You do - AND you've already been told it is offensive numerous times.	Ms. Toad	Friday	#99
Post removed	Post removed	Friday	#105
I am not defending Trump.	Ms. Toad	Friday	#110
No. Ms. Toad is in no way defending Trump.	femmedem	Saturday	#127
Agreed ... there's no need for these pejoratives (nt)	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#3
There is an unquestioned belief among many people	Bettie	Friday	#5
You are 100% correct about this.	madaboutharry	Friday	#6
ALMOST always wrong	MurrayDelph	Friday	#76
Calling out hypocrisy is not the same as fat shaming.	Ms. Toad	Friday	#100
Thank you.	SoonerPride	Friday	#7
Being orange is a choice he makes	Bettie	Friday	#10
So we can at least make fun of his McDonalds diet? nt	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#14
or that he eats 2038567 Taco Bowls and 9048 pizzas at one sitting???	Trueblue1968	Friday	#20
But he doesn't do that so saying it makes you	SharonClark	Friday	#23
please don't call me a liar. i am sorry i didn't put SATIRE in my post.	Trueblue1968	Friday	#55
Still on shaky ground.	Ms. Toad	Friday	#103
I understand that argument ...	Hugh_Lebowski	Friday	#104
Just don't say it loudly enough that the government comes hunting you down . . .	Ms. Toad	Friday	#111
Lots of people love to use oppressive tactics as long as they oppress the right people.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#9
Amen, Brother WhiskeyGrinder.	nolabear	Friday	#12
Yep, it's a bad surprise every time.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#15
+1000 nt	USALiberal	Friday	#79
Great point! Prison rape jokes come to mind in that regard.	bluewater	Friday	#91
Excellent point.	WhiskeyGrinder	Saturday	#124
Its also way cool on this board to deride someone for their age, incontinence, or dentures.	milestogo	Friday	#16
thank you for speaking up for our aging mothers and fathers!	rb15	Friday	#89
Thanks for your post, and welcome to DU!	milestogo	Friday	#112
It's a tricky subject.	PTWB	Saturday	#128
That must make her feel so much better and so beloved!	renate	Saturday	#141
Many hugs to you for a wonderful, loving post. 💖	crickets	Saturday	#145
+1000! nt	USALiberal	Saturday	#132
What I find even less understandable is the penis-size thing.	Croney	Friday	#18
It's not a tangent. It's all of a piece.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#27
Mind you, when the subject is gun owners, such comments are all the more prevalent.	Dial H For Hero	Friday	#32
Are we talking about guns or trucks?	hunter	Friday	#43
I despise 45	Deuxcents	Friday	#21
The twist to this is the amount of fat shaming TFG has done (mostly to women)	efhmc	Friday	#29
They do, as evidenced by his many efforts to disguise his girth.	Maru Kitteh	Friday	#87
Thank you	wryter2000	Friday	#86
"Fat" is one of the acceptable slurs	sarisataka	Friday	#24
The fat shaming I frequently see here is quite disappointing. n/t	Dial H For Hero	Friday	#33
I always find it interesting	sarisataka	Friday	#82
Hypocrisy, thy name is...humanity.	Dial H For Hero	Friday	#109
+1000! nt	USALiberal	Saturday	#133
The reality is as a nation	Casady1	Friday	#25
Completely off topic.	RegularJam	Friday	#26
I don't think so	Casady1	Friday	#28
Actually weight is something that is extremely hard for most obese people to control	Marrah_Goodman	Saturday	#150
I do not mean to be disrespectful	sarisataka	Saturday	#154
Look at our current population	Casady1	Saturday	#155
Okay but being fat does not mean you're a bad person. A lot of people here talk like it is.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#30
Fat doesn't mean you are a bad person	Casady1	Friday	#31
It's not disgraceful. It just is.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#34
We all want single payer	Casady1	Friday	#35
Lol that we won't get single payer until we're "fit."	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#38
The "fat-but-fit" hypothesis went out the window years ago	NickB79	Friday	#53
Could be, and there's research into what we think we know about obesity being wrong.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#88
If being fat is "disgraceful" (as you put it) then how does being fat not make one "bad"?	Dial H For Hero	Friday	#36
uh...no...	rb15	Friday	#90
It is not disgraceful	Marrah_Goodman	Saturday	#151
Back in the 60's very few were overweight	womanofthehills	Friday	#48
This is true	indigovalley	Friday	#70
And lack of exercise!	beaglelover	Friday	#72
Since I have no idea what post you are talking about, let me say this:	MineralMan	Friday	#37
This message was self-deleted by its author	USALiberal	Friday	#40
It's unbelievable how many posters hear attack appearance. Like fuckin grade school shit	USALiberal	Friday	#39
Is it ok to fat shame someone who is notorious for publicly fat shaming others, especially women?	Bluepinky	Friday	#41
Is it okay to use a racist slur against a racist? Is calling Trump the n-word useful?	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#45
Oh, but it feels so good to sometimes note that someone has let himself go...	Bluepinky	Friday	#52
Why?	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#56
Also, what about the racial slur?	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#73
No. It is not OK. He doesn't read DU (n/t)	Alpeduez21	Friday	#68
No. That's not how fat-shaming (or sexism or racism or homophobia) work.	meadowlander	Friday	#74
Thank you. n/t	Ms. Toad	Friday	#101
No.	Happy Hoosier	Friday	#80
I'm ambivalent to some degree, so I won't say what's on my mind	bucolic_frolic	Friday	#42
Man, if this is what you would say, I'd hate to see what you kept to yourself.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#47
But said carefully, without malice	bucolic_frolic	Friday	#51
WTF?	Happy Hoosier	Friday	#81
Educate yoursef - it really isn't that simple. n/t	Ms. Toad	Friday	#102
Absolutely, we should be kind & caring & not ever shame the orange man who has no shame...	Hekate	Friday	#44
If he has no shame, why try to shame him with tactics that only reinforce oppressions?	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#49
I will continue to insult tRump's weight since he does it to women all the time.	BigmanPigman	Friday	#46
He'll never see your insults. But fat people you'd otherwise think of as allies will.	WhiskeyGrinder	Friday	#50
Wow.	Rustyeye77	Friday	#54
I tend to agree with you	PatSeg	Friday	#61
How do you think overweight people feel?	yardwork	Saturday	#136
I've been overweight	PatSeg	Saturday	#137
What kind of weird-ass logic is that?	Happy Hoosier	Friday	#83
I think BMPM is only calling out Trump's hypocrisy.	Duppers	Saturday	#117
Yes, I thought that was clear in my reply.	BigmanPigman	Saturday	#121
Apparently not, according to...	Duppers	Saturday	#123
Then call out his hypocrisy...	Happy Hoosier	Saturday	#146
And what impact are your words having on other people?	yardwork	Saturday	#135
I believe in one standard applied to all. I don't fat shame	Hassler	Friday	#58
Fat shaming is wrong, but touting exercise and healthy eating is not.	Jon King	Friday	#62
Fat shaming is wrong, but touting exercise and healthy eating is not.	RegularJam	Friday	#71
Zero connection between weight and healthy lifestyle?	Elessar Zappa	Saturday	#125
People confuse association with causation.	Happy Hoosier	Saturday	#147
It is just	homegirl	Friday	#63
You just ridiculed all overweight people.	RegularJam	Friday	#69
Fatty? Classy! How kind of you! Nt	USALiberal	Friday	#77
As a person	homegirl	Saturday	#130
Just don't make fun of ugly people.	JohnnyRingo	Friday	#94
"fatty"?	Marrah_Goodman	Saturday	#152
Please accept	homegirl	Sunday	#156
Whatever.	Marrah_Goodman	Monday	#158
Deeply	homegirl	Monday	#159
yet you just used the term "fatty" to describe all/many/most overwieght people	Kali	Monday	#164
Clearly,	homegirl	Monday	#166
it ain't fatties	Kali	Tuesday	#168
I've put a lot of people on ignore over this.	johnp3907	Friday	#64
Ahhh.....ok??	USALiberal	Friday	#78
I've been on this site since 2004 and I've only put 1 person on ignore. Just because you disagree	Vinca	Saturday	#138
Yes, it is getting really old already	PatSeg	Saturday	#140
Donald Trump is not a disgusting human being b/c of his size	Alpeduez21	Friday	#66
I imagine I have used the term "big, fat liar" for the Orange One	MissMillie	Friday	#67
Agreed. And being "Fat" isn't necessarily a "choice".	WarGamer	Friday	#75
It sounds like you could lose weight at 2000, but not as quickly.	PTWB	Saturday	#129
That's possible... but it's soooo difficult to stay motivated at 2-3lb/month loss n/t	WarGamer	Saturday	#134
That's 20 to 30 lbs in less	homegirl	Monday	#160
Atkins works...	WarGamer	Monday	#161
Weight has nothing to do with what kind of person you are.	wryter2000	Friday	#85
Speaking as an obese person...	NNadir	Friday	#92
I'll keep shaming his hypocrisy.	50 Shades Of Blue	Friday	#93
Some of the replies here are very ignorant.	rb15	Friday	#95
There are people here who call Fla. governor Ron DeSantis Rhonda Santis.	johnp3907	Friday	#107
Well said. nt	crickets	Saturday	#149
Totally agree ... Even for Trump it's repulsive seeing the word FAT put	Raine	Friday	#97
As some may have noticed, I enjoy referring to tRump as a fat piece of shit	Blue Owl	Friday	#106
I agree with this assessment	Skittles	Friday	#108
Welcome to DU, RegularJam!	littlemissmartypants	Saturday	#113
What if we are fat or have been fat ?	JI7	Saturday	#114
Probably we should keep our mouths shut so we don't inadvertently "shame" someone by accident	Hekate	Saturday	#115
Very well said	PatSeg	Saturday	#139
Then you would realize how hurtful and unhelpful that is.	Marrah_Goodman	Saturday	#153
I am fat.	KentuckyWoman	Saturday	#116
My public school teachers had strict policies against it...	Buckeye_Democrat	Saturday	#118
trumpety looks like he does because of his gluttony and sloth	alphafemale	Saturday	#119
The Seven Deadly Sins: he's got them all	Hekate	Saturday	#142
He is spectacularly loathsome.	alphafemale	Saturday	#144
K	Lemon Lyman	Saturday	#120
Many fat people have emotional problems.	Duppers	Saturday	#122
Everywhere on the planet where the "American diet" is adopted, obesity skyrockets...	Hekate	Saturday	#143
" This doesn't happen so much in European or Asian countries"	DrToast	Monday	#162
So when are you going to ban Trump cartoons?	dalton99a	Saturday	#126
I don't see it?	pwb	Saturday	#131
For anyone who has ever thought to themselves (or said out loud, thanks so much)	crickets	Saturday	#148
This thread is really woke.	BannonsLiver	Sunday	#157
I believe that people get so worked up about people like Trump that	Blue_true	Monday	#165
Is it impolite to describe someone as "fat"?	Goodheart	Monday	#167
it doesn't bother me that much	Kali	Tuesday	#169
Why aren't the food companies	I_UndergroundPanther	Tuesday	#170

Response to RegularJam (Original post)

Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:21 PM

hlthe2b (86,095 posts)

Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it.

1. Yes. Those are not the "surgical strike" insults that the poster presumes. It hurts many.

4. That's the term I was looking for to make the point in my last sentence.

84. I support you whole heartedly!

96. As to vax shaming, no one is speaking against those who should not or cannot get the vaccine

98. The problem is that many people here disagree as to who "shoud not or cannot" get the vaccine.

163. Pointing out that the majority of anti-vaxers are ignoring

2. So we have to lay off calling trump a _ _ _, orange turd now?

8. Just call him an Orange Turd

17. It's offensive to

59. Heehee. Now that I agree with.

11. No.

13. Folks could be more sensitive at the least ...

19. How about the word HOG. ??????

22. I'm going to go with overly rude and hence not politically correct

60. Can I take it a little further and go with "prodigious" ass?

65. I'm going to say yes on the grounds that prodigious is not a word that has inherently negative

57. I've called him a Fucking Bloated Treasonous Psycho.

99. Yes. You do - AND you've already been told it is offensive numerous times.

110. I am not defending Trump.

127. No. Ms. Toad is in no way defending Trump.

3. Agreed ... there's no need for these pejoratives (nt)

5. There is an unquestioned belief among many people

6. You are 100% correct about this.

76. *ALMOST* always wrong

100. Calling out hypocrisy is not the same as fat shaming.

7. Thank you.

10. Being orange is a choice he makes

14. So we can at least make fun of his McDonalds diet? nt

20. or that he eats 2038567 Taco Bowls and 9048 pizzas at one sitting???

23. But he doesn't do that so saying it makes you

55. please don't call me a liar. i am sorry i didn't put SATIRE in my post.

103. Still on shaky ground.

104. I understand that argument ...

111. Just don't say it loudly enough that the government comes hunting you down . . .

9. Lots of people love to use oppressive tactics as long as they oppress the right people.

12. Amen, Brother WhiskeyGrinder.

15. Yep, it's a bad surprise every time.

79. +1000 nt

91. Great point! Prison rape jokes come to mind in that regard.

124. Excellent point.

16. Its also way cool on this board to deride someone for their age, incontinence, or dentures.

89. thank you for speaking up for our aging mothers and fathers!

112. Thanks for your post, and welcome to DU!

128. It's a tricky subject.

141. That must make her feel so much better and so beloved!

145. Many hugs to you for a wonderful, loving post. 💖

132. +1000! nt

18. What I find even less understandable is the penis-size thing.

27. It's not a tangent. It's all of a piece.

32. Mind you, when the subject is gun owners, such comments are all the more prevalent.

43. Are we talking about guns or trucks?

21. I despise 45

29. The twist to this is the amount of fat shaming TFG has done (mostly to women)

87. They do, as evidenced by his many efforts to disguise his girth.

86. Thank you

24. "Fat" is one of the acceptable slurs

33. The fat shaming I frequently see here is quite disappointing. n/t

82. I always find it interesting

109. Hypocrisy, thy name is...humanity.

133. +1000! nt

25. The reality is as a nation

26. Completely off topic.

28. I don't think so

150. Actually weight is something that is extremely hard for most obese people to control

154. I do not mean to be disrespectful

155. Look at our current population

30. Okay but being fat does not mean you're a bad person. A lot of people here talk like it is.

31. Fat doesn't mean you are a bad person

34. It's not disgraceful. It just is.

35. We all want single payer

38. Lol that we won't get single payer until we're "fit."

53. The "fat-but-fit" hypothesis went out the window years ago

88. Could be, and there's research into what we think we know about obesity being wrong.

36. If being fat is "disgraceful" (as you put it) then how does being fat not make one "bad"?

90. uh...no...

151. It is not disgraceful

48. Back in the 60's very few were overweight

70. This is true

72. And lack of exercise!

76. ALMOST always wrong

47. Man, if this is what you would say, I'd hate to see what you kept to yourself.