Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:19 PM

Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it.

The people on this board are, for the most part, kind and caring people. Fat shaming is one of the last refuges of fully acceptable abuse across society today.

Zero reason to use weight in a personal attack. This one just seems too simple to have to even say. Don’t try to justify the unjustifiable. Your words aren’t only attacking your target when you go to weight as a descriptor.

Thank you.

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Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it. (Original post)	RegularJam	Jun 2021	OP
Yes. Those are not the "surgical strike" insults that the poster presumes. It hurts many.	hlthe2b	Jun 2021	#1
That's the term I was looking for to make the point in my last sentence.	RegularJam	Jun 2021	#4
I support you whole heartedly!	rb15	Jun 2021	#84
As to vax shaming, no one is speaking against those who should not or cannot get the vaccine	karynnj	Jun 2021	#96
The problem is that many people here disagree as to who "shoud not or cannot" get the vaccine.	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#98
Pointing out that the majority of anti-vaxers are ignoring	Politicub	Jun 2021	#163
So we have to lay off calling trump a _ _ _, orange turd now?	brush	Jun 2021	#2
Just call him an Orange Turd	Bettie	Jun 2021	#8
It's offensive to	RocRizzo55	Jun 2021	#17
Heehee. Now that I agree with.	brush	Jun 2021	#59
No.	RegularJam	Jun 2021	#11
Folks could be more sensitive at the least ...	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#13
How about the word HOG. ??????	Trueblue1968	Jun 2021	#19
I'm going to go with overly rude and hence not politically correct	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#22
Can I take it a little further and go with "prodigious" ass?	brush	Jun 2021	#60
I'm going to say yes on the grounds that prodigious is not a word that has inherently negative	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#65
I've called him a Fucking Bloated Treasonous Psycho.	Cha	Jun 2021	#57
Yes. You do - AND you've already been told it is offensive numerous times.	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#99
Post removed	Post removed	Jun 2021	#105
I am not defending Trump.	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#110
No. Ms. Toad is in no way defending Trump.	femmedem	Jun 2021	#127
Agreed ... there's no need for these pejoratives (nt)	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#3
There is an unquestioned belief among many people	Bettie	Jun 2021	#5
You are 100% correct about this.	madaboutharry	Jun 2021	#6
ALMOST always wrong	MurrayDelph	Jun 2021	#76
Calling out hypocrisy is not the same as fat shaming.	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#100
Thank you.	SoonerPride	Jun 2021	#7
Being orange is a choice he makes	Bettie	Jun 2021	#10
So we can at least make fun of his McDonalds diet? nt	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#14
or that he eats 2038567 Taco Bowls and 9048 pizzas at one sitting???	Trueblue1968	Jun 2021	#20
But he doesn't do that so saying it makes you	SharonClark	Jun 2021	#23
please don't call me a liar. i am sorry i didn't put SATIRE in my post.	Trueblue1968	Jun 2021	#55
Still on shaky ground.	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#103
I understand that argument ...	Hugh_Lebowski	Jun 2021	#104
Just don't say it loudly enough that the government comes hunting you down . . .	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#111
Lots of people love to use oppressive tactics as long as they oppress the right people.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#9
Amen, Brother WhiskeyGrinder.	nolabear	Jun 2021	#12
Yep, it's a bad surprise every time.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#15
+1000 nt	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#79
Great point! Prison rape jokes come to mind in that regard.	bluewater	Jun 2021	#91
Excellent point.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#124
Its also way cool on this board to deride someone for their age, incontinence, or dentures.	milestogo	Jun 2021	#16
thank you for speaking up for our aging mothers and fathers!	rb15	Jun 2021	#89
Thanks for your post, and welcome to DU!	milestogo	Jun 2021	#112
It's a tricky subject.	PTWB	Jun 2021	#128
That must make her feel so much better and so beloved!	renate	Jun 2021	#141
Many hugs to you for a wonderful, loving post. 💖	crickets	Jun 2021	#145
+1000! nt	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#132
What I find even less understandable is the penis-size thing.	Croney	Jun 2021	#18
It's not a tangent. It's all of a piece.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#27
Mind you, when the subject is gun owners, such comments are all the more prevalent.	Dial H For Hero	Jun 2021	#32
Are we talking about guns or trucks?	hunter	Jun 2021	#43
I despise 45	Deuxcents	Jun 2021	#21
The twist to this is the amount of fat shaming TFG has done (mostly to women)	efhmc	Jun 2021	#29
They do, as evidenced by his many efforts to disguise his girth.	Maru Kitteh	Jun 2021	#87
Thank you	wryter2000	Jun 2021	#86
"Fat" is one of the acceptable slurs	sarisataka	Jun 2021	#24
The fat shaming I frequently see here is quite disappointing. n/t	Dial H For Hero	Jun 2021	#33
I always find it interesting	sarisataka	Jun 2021	#82
Hypocrisy, thy name is...humanity.	Dial H For Hero	Jun 2021	#109
+1000! nt	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#133
The reality is as a nation	Casady1	Jun 2021	#25
Completely off topic.	RegularJam	Jun 2021	#26
I don't think so	Casady1	Jun 2021	#28
Actually weight is something that is extremely hard for most obese people to control	Marrah_Goodman	Jun 2021	#150
I do not mean to be disrespectful	sarisataka	Jun 2021	#154
Look at our current population	Casady1	Jun 2021	#155
Okay but being fat does not mean you're a bad person. A lot of people here talk like it is.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#30
Fat doesn't mean you are a bad person	Casady1	Jun 2021	#31
It's not disgraceful. It just is.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#34
We all want single payer	Casady1	Jun 2021	#35
Lol that we won't get single payer until we're "fit."	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#38
The "fat-but-fit" hypothesis went out the window years ago	NickB79	Jun 2021	#53
Could be, and there's research into what we think we know about obesity being wrong.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#88
If being fat is "disgraceful" (as you put it) then how does being fat not make one "bad"?	Dial H For Hero	Jun 2021	#36
uh...no...	rb15	Jun 2021	#90
It is not disgraceful	Marrah_Goodman	Jun 2021	#151
Back in the 60's very few were overweight	womanofthehills	Jun 2021	#48
This is true	indigovalley	Jun 2021	#70
And lack of exercise!	beaglelover	Jun 2021	#72
Since I have no idea what post you are talking about, let me say this:	MineralMan	Jun 2021	#37
This message was self-deleted by its author	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#40
It's unbelievable how many posters hear attack appearance. Like fuckin grade school shit	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#39
Is it ok to fat shame someone who is notorious for publicly fat shaming others, especially women?	Bluepinky	Jun 2021	#41
Is it okay to use a racist slur against a racist? Is calling Trump the n-word useful?	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#45
Oh, but it feels so good to sometimes note that someone has let himself go...	Bluepinky	Jun 2021	#52
Why?	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#56
Also, what about the racial slur?	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#73
No. It is not OK. He doesn't read DU (n/t)	Alpeduez21	Jun 2021	#68
No. That's not how fat-shaming (or sexism or racism or homophobia) work.	meadowlander	Jun 2021	#74
Thank you. n/t	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#101
No.	Happy Hoosier	Jun 2021	#80
I'm ambivalent to some degree, so I won't say what's on my mind	bucolic_frolic	Jun 2021	#42
Man, if this is what you would say, I'd hate to see what you kept to yourself.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#47
But said carefully, without malice	bucolic_frolic	Jun 2021	#51
WTF?	Happy Hoosier	Jun 2021	#81
Educate yoursef - it really isn't that simple. n/t	Ms. Toad	Jun 2021	#102
Absolutely, we should be kind & caring & not ever shame the orange man who has no shame...	Hekate	Jun 2021	#44
If he has no shame, why try to shame him with tactics that only reinforce oppressions?	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#49
I will continue to insult tRump's weight since he does it to women all the time.	BigmanPigman	Jun 2021	#46
He'll never see your insults. But fat people you'd otherwise think of as allies will.	WhiskeyGrinder	Jun 2021	#50
Wow.	Rustyeye77	Jun 2021	#54
I tend to agree with you	PatSeg	Jun 2021	#61
How do you think overweight people feel?	yardwork	Jun 2021	#136
I've been overweight	PatSeg	Jun 2021	#137
What kind of weird-ass logic is that?	Happy Hoosier	Jun 2021	#83
I think BMPM is only calling out Trump's hypocrisy.	Duppers	Jun 2021	#117
Yes, I thought that was clear in my reply.	BigmanPigman	Jun 2021	#121
Apparently not, according to...	Duppers	Jun 2021	#123
Then call out his hypocrisy...	Happy Hoosier	Jun 2021	#146
And what impact are your words having on other people?	yardwork	Jun 2021	#135
I believe in one standard applied to all. I don't fat shame	Hassler	Jun 2021	#58
Fat shaming is wrong, but touting exercise and healthy eating is not.	Jon King	Jun 2021	#62
Fat shaming is wrong, but touting exercise and healthy eating is not.	RegularJam	Jun 2021	#71
Zero connection between weight and healthy lifestyle?	Elessar Zappa	Jun 2021	#125
People confuse association with causation.	Happy Hoosier	Jun 2021	#147
It is just	homegirl	Jun 2021	#63
You just ridiculed all overweight people.	RegularJam	Jun 2021	#69
Fatty? Classy! How kind of you! Nt	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#77
As a person	homegirl	Jun 2021	#130
Just don't make fun of ugly people.	JohnnyRingo	Jun 2021	#94
"fatty"?	Marrah_Goodman	Jun 2021	#152
Please accept	homegirl	Jun 2021	#156
Whatever.	Marrah_Goodman	Jun 2021	#158
Deeply	homegirl	Jun 2021	#159
yet you just used the term "fatty" to describe all/many/most overwieght people	Kali	Jun 2021	#164
Clearly,	homegirl	Jun 2021	#166
it ain't fatties	Kali	Jun 2021	#168
I've put a lot of people on ignore over this.	johnp3907	Jun 2021	#64
Ahhh.....ok??	USALiberal	Jun 2021	#78
I've been on this site since 2004 and I've only put 1 person on ignore. Just because you disagree	Vinca	Jun 2021	#138
Yes, it is getting really old already	PatSeg	Jun 2021	#140
Donald Trump is not a disgusting human being b/c of his size	Alpeduez21	Jun 2021	#66
I imagine I have used the term "big, fat liar" for the Orange One	MissMillie	Jun 2021	#67
Agreed. And being "Fat" isn't necessarily a "choice".	WarGamer	Jun 2021	#75
It sounds like you could lose weight at 2000, but not as quickly.	PTWB	Jun 2021	#129
That's possible... but it's soooo difficult to stay motivated at 2-3lb/month loss n/t	WarGamer	Jun 2021	#134
That's 20 to 30 lbs in less	homegirl	Jun 2021	#160
Atkins works...	WarGamer	Jun 2021	#161
Weight has nothing to do with what kind of person you are.	wryter2000	Jun 2021	#85
Speaking as an obese person...	NNadir	Jun 2021	#92
I'll keep shaming his hypocrisy.	50 Shades Of Blue	Jun 2021	#93
Some of the replies here are very ignorant.	rb15	Jun 2021	#95
There are people here who call Fla. governor Ron DeSantis Rhonda Santis.	johnp3907	Jun 2021	#107
Well said. nt	crickets	Jun 2021	#149
Totally agree ... Even for Trump it's repulsive seeing the word FAT put	Raine	Jun 2021	#97
As some may have noticed, I enjoy referring to tRump as a fat piece of shit	Blue Owl	Jun 2021	#106
I agree with this assessment	Skittles	Jun 2021	#108
Welcome to DU, RegularJam!	littlemissmartypants	Jun 2021	#113
What if we are fat or have been fat ?	JI7	Jun 2021	#114
Probably we should keep our mouths shut so we don't inadvertently "shame" someone by accident	Hekate	Jun 2021	#115
Very well said	PatSeg	Jun 2021	#139
Then you would realize how hurtful and unhelpful that is.	Marrah_Goodman	Jun 2021	#153
I am fat.	KentuckyWoman	Jun 2021	#116
My public school teachers had strict policies against it...	Buckeye_Democrat	Jun 2021	#118
trumpety looks like he does because of his gluttony and sloth	alphafemale	Jun 2021	#119
The Seven Deadly Sins: he's got them all	Hekate	Jun 2021	#142
He is spectacularly loathsome.	alphafemale	Jun 2021	#144
K	Lemon Lyman	Jun 2021	#120
Many fat people have emotional problems.	Duppers	Jun 2021	#122
Everywhere on the planet where the "American diet" is adopted, obesity skyrockets...	Hekate	Jun 2021	#143
" This doesn't happen so much in European or Asian countries"	DrToast	Jun 2021	#162
So when are you going to ban Trump cartoons?	dalton99a	Jun 2021	#126
I don't see it?	pwb	Jun 2021	#131
For anyone who has ever thought to themselves (or said out loud, thanks so much)	crickets	Jun 2021	#148
This thread is really woke.	BannonsLiver	Jun 2021	#157
I believe that people get so worked up about people like Trump that	Blue_true	Jun 2021	#165
Is it impolite to describe someone as "fat"?	Goodheart	Jun 2021	#167
it doesn't bother me that much	Kali	Jun 2021	#169
Why aren't the food companies	I_UndergroundPanther	Jun 2021	#170

Response to RegularJam (Original post)

Fri Jun 11, 2021, 03:21 PM

hlthe2b (92,204 posts)

Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it.

1. Yes. Those are not the "surgical strike" insults that the poster presumes. It hurts many.

4. That's the term I was looking for to make the point in my last sentence.

84. I support you whole heartedly!

96. As to vax shaming, no one is speaking against those who should not or cannot get the vaccine

98. The problem is that many people here disagree as to who "shoud not or cannot" get the vaccine.

163. Pointing out that the majority of anti-vaxers are ignoring

2. So we have to lay off calling trump a _ _ _, orange turd now?

8. Just call him an Orange Turd

17. It's offensive to

59. Heehee. Now that I agree with.

11. No.

13. Folks could be more sensitive at the least ...

19. How about the word HOG. ??????

22. I'm going to go with overly rude and hence not politically correct

60. Can I take it a little further and go with "prodigious" ass?

65. I'm going to say yes on the grounds that prodigious is not a word that has inherently negative

57. I've called him a Fucking Bloated Treasonous Psycho.

99. Yes. You do - AND you've already been told it is offensive numerous times.

110. I am not defending Trump.

127. No. Ms. Toad is in no way defending Trump.

3. Agreed ... there's no need for these pejoratives (nt)

5. There is an unquestioned belief among many people

6. You are 100% correct about this.

76. *ALMOST* always wrong

100. Calling out hypocrisy is not the same as fat shaming.

7. Thank you.

10. Being orange is a choice he makes

14. So we can at least make fun of his McDonalds diet? nt

20. or that he eats 2038567 Taco Bowls and 9048 pizzas at one sitting???

23. But he doesn't do that so saying it makes you

55. please don't call me a liar. i am sorry i didn't put SATIRE in my post.

103. Still on shaky ground.

104. I understand that argument ...

111. Just don't say it loudly enough that the government comes hunting you down . . .

9. Lots of people love to use oppressive tactics as long as they oppress the right people.

12. Amen, Brother WhiskeyGrinder.

15. Yep, it's a bad surprise every time.

79. +1000 nt

91. Great point! Prison rape jokes come to mind in that regard.

124. Excellent point.

16. Its also way cool on this board to deride someone for their age, incontinence, or dentures.

89. thank you for speaking up for our aging mothers and fathers!

112. Thanks for your post, and welcome to DU!

128. It's a tricky subject.

141. That must make her feel so much better and so beloved!

145. Many hugs to you for a wonderful, loving post. 💖

132. +1000! nt

18. What I find even less understandable is the penis-size thing.

27. It's not a tangent. It's all of a piece.

32. Mind you, when the subject is gun owners, such comments are all the more prevalent.

43. Are we talking about guns or trucks?

21. I despise 45

29. The twist to this is the amount of fat shaming TFG has done (mostly to women)

87. They do, as evidenced by his many efforts to disguise his girth.

86. Thank you

24. "Fat" is one of the acceptable slurs

33. The fat shaming I frequently see here is quite disappointing. n/t

82. I always find it interesting

109. Hypocrisy, thy name is...humanity.

133. +1000! nt

25. The reality is as a nation

26. Completely off topic.

28. I don't think so

150. Actually weight is something that is extremely hard for most obese people to control

154. I do not mean to be disrespectful

155. Look at our current population

30. Okay but being fat does not mean you're a bad person. A lot of people here talk like it is.

31. Fat doesn't mean you are a bad person

34. It's not disgraceful. It just is.

35. We all want single payer

38. Lol that we won't get single payer until we're "fit."

53. The "fat-but-fit" hypothesis went out the window years ago

88. Could be, and there's research into what we think we know about obesity being wrong.

36. If being fat is "disgraceful" (as you put it) then how does being fat not make one "bad"?

90. uh...no...

151. It is not disgraceful

48. Back in the 60's very few were overweight

70. This is true

72. And lack of exercise!

76. ALMOST always wrong

47. Man, if this is what you would say, I'd hate to see what you kept to yourself.