Sad update on my 100 yr old dad, & my sister/his caretaker...

[CaptainTruth]

I posted here a couple weeks ago that my dad turned 100. He was able to have a pleasant celebration surrounded by family members, while he was still cognizant & in good humor. It was truly a blessing.

A lot can change in 2 weeks. Since then he's rapidly gone downhill, & last night my sister, who he has been living with for the past few months, & who has been his primary caretaker during that time, had a stroke & ended up in the ICU. Today dad was in such bad shape that my niece had to call an ambulance & have him taken to ER, & he will probably go to hospice/palliative care either later tonight or tomorrow. None of us expects him to live more than a few more days. Needless to say, I'm on a plane tomorrow, the cost be damned.

We are a strong family, we stick together, we help each other regardless of the cost, family is family, blood is thicker than water & all that. We will get through this... but... support from friends is always helpful & appreciated...

[Skittles]

1. someone is always here on DU

we are here for you

[calimary]

15. Thank you, Skittles. I can't tell you how many times I've quoted you on this.

It’s been a tremendous help and a big dose of moral support - for me personally and for me to pass along to others here.

“Someone’s always here.”

You probably don’t even know the extent of how helpful and comforting and reassuring just those three words are.

I’d thank you for all of us but that seems a little presumptuous. But I can DEFINITELY thank you for me.

[Skittles]

23. awwwwww

[diehardblue]

60. ❤

[SheltieLover]

2. So sorry you, Dad & Sister are going through this

Healing vibes on the way to you, Dad, Sister & All. 💓💓💓

[KT2000]

3. So much at once

and that makes it even harder. So glad you have a supportive family - it means everything. Peace to you all and best wishes for your sister.

[leftieNanner]

4. Sending you best wishes CaptainTruth

Losing family is tough.

I'm glad you have a strong family.

[gademocrat7]

5. We are with you on this journey.

Sending you supportive hugs.

[Lonestarblue]

6. I'm so sorry. That's a lot to deal with.

I wish you peace in whatever decisions you need to make for your Dad. Also sending good vibes for your sister’s recovery.

[SheilaAnn]

7. Wish I had more than prayers for you all but I do hope all ends as good as it can..n/t

[onecaliberal]

8. I'm sorry. Sending you strengthening peaceful vibes.

[Botany]

9. Hospice workers are the best. Listen to them.

Free advice and this got me through my late father's last few months and after he passed
make a list of what you think you need to do today, put one foot in from of the other foot,
and if you only get part of the list done so be it.

[catbyte]

10. I'm so sorry. We're here for you.

[BoomaofBandM]

11. Hugs to your family, peace for your father, and a healthy recovery for your sister.

[sheshe2]

12. Sending vibes to you and yours.

My sister and I have been primary caregivers to mom the past 3 and a half years. She will be 95 next month. It is not an easy task.

Best to you all.

[malaise]

13. So sad

[Hortensis]

14. The message I'm getting is of a very fortunate father and family.

Best wishes for your sister's recovery and that the last years and ends of all your lives are as good as your father's.

Family.

[a kennedy]

16. So sorry for what you're going through......just know you have "like" family here.....

Positive vibes, prayers, much love and know we’re all here for you.

[calimary]

17. Yes. You will get through this. And yes it'll be challenging.

Just know that you’re nowhere near alone as you work this part of The Journey.

[MissMillie]

18. Hoping for the best for all of you (n/t)

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[barbtries]

19. I'm so sorry.

especially the double whammy. safe travels

[HipChick]

20. DU family sending you hugs, light and love..

[blogslug]

21. I wish you peace and ease

What you're going through is a lot. I hope you have people and services to lessen your burden. ❤️

[Nevilledog]

22. ...

[hlthe2b]

24. Many supportive thoughts coming your way.

I'm sorry for the pain.

[calimary]

25. And as our sweet Skittles reminds:

“Someone’s always here.”

And so are many pairs of strong shoulders that you can lean on.

[Niagara]

26. Best wishes to you and your family.

[Atticus]

27. The strength of your family is a blessing that, at least in part, is likely due to the feeble man

now about to die. And, it sounds to me like you are the worthy heir of that strength.

None of us is eager to accept the torch when it is passed, but that is often the last thing we can do for our dying loved one.

[irisblue]

28. I am so so sorry. I cannot imagine how awful this is for you and your family

[essaynnc]

29. Positive vibes and thoughts from me to you and yours.....nt

[Cracklin Charlie]

30. So sorry.

It can happen that way sometimes.

Peace.

[riversedge]

31. It is sad time for you and your family. Peace to you and yours.

[samnsara]

32. stay strong...(((Hugs)))

[mgardener]

33. What a lot to deal with!

We are always here.

[Retired Engineer Bob]

34. I am so sorry to hear this CaptainTruth

I’ll keep you in my thoughts. Take comfort in the company of your family and the support you can offer each other. Here’s hoping your travel is uneventful and you can all get together quickly.

I’ll echo Botany’s words regarding the folks who work in hospice care. We lost my dad and my grandmother in the last year and a half, both had hospice care. Not only did they provide comfort to their patients, they also helped the rest of the family as well.

[Meowmee]

35. I am so sorry😿

Hugs to you and your family 💕

[pazzyanne]

36. Prayers and hugs to you and all your family members.

Take care of you as well as your father and sister.

[niyad]

37. sending vibes for a gentle crossing for your dad, and vibes for peace and healing and strength

for all of you.
Your DU family is here for you,

[Desert grandma]

38. May it help you to know

that all of your friends here at DU are sending their warmest thoughts and much love and positive energy to you and your loved ones. ((hugs))

[we can do it]

39. So sorry.

[vercetti2021]

40. I'm so sorry

I can't imagine

[TheBlackAdder]

41. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Caring for an elderly person takes a toll on the caretaker.

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You sister should be commended for her dedication to your father, but it is such a stressful task.

Sending positive energy.

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[roamer65]

52. I take care of a father a few days a week.

Stressful is definitely an understatement.

Good luck to you, Captain!

[hamsterjill]

42. Yes, a whole lot can change in two weeks.

And when it rains, it tends to pour. I'm so sorry for this double whammy for you and your family.

Care taking is hard and takes a heavy toll. My best wishes for your sister and a full recovery.

As to your father, I believe in my own weird fashion that we have some degree (who knows how much, but some) degree of control when it's our time to leave. I'm sure he has sensed that it is his time soon and wants the attention to be put on the recovery of your sister.

All I can say is that I'm very sorry that this has happened, and that I'm sending prayers and a hug for you and your family.

[zeusdogmom]

43. So sorry you are going thru this rough journey

Supportive, caring thoughts for you. And may your dad and sister have wise and caring medical staff.

[smirkymonkey]

44. So sorry for what you and your family are going through, CaptainTruth.

Sending you and your family warm thoughts and healing vibes to get through this together.

[YDogg]

45. I'm so sorry, CaptainTruth

All best wishes to you and your beloved family. ❤

[MineralMan]

46. I'm so sorry to read that!

[MerryBlooms]

47. Sending love from Oregon.

[Danmel]

48. I'm so sorry Captain

It just totally sucks, no matter how prepared you think you are, it is just so hard. Sending virtual hugs and wishing you and your family comfort and peace.

[Generic Other]

49. Stay strong!

[Loryn]

50. I am so sorry.

Things do change quickly. I am so grateful for the hospice care my dad received. They were wonderful.

[tiredtoo]

51. Sending positive vibes your way. EOM

[Snackshack]

53. Sorry to hear this.

Yes, family is what matters. I spent the last 15yr caring for my mother, father & grandmother. It’s a tough position to be in. I hope the best for your Sister and Father and you. Hospice is a wonderful organization with a great support structure (at least in my case, couldn’t have made it w/o them).

Best Wishes…🕯

[orleans]

54. i'll be thinking about your dad tonight and your sister and you

with love

[tblue37]

55. I hope your sister fully recovers!

[GulfCoast66]

56. Wow. Heartbreaking.

I’m thinking of you and your family.

Your strong family is the greatest testament to your father.

Peace.

[raging moderate]

57. Tell your sister, Hang in there!

Your Dad would want her to recover and thrive and live on, for him!

[Hekate]

58. Peace to you all

[electric_blue68]

59. Woah! Your dad, your poor sister, and you...

))) stregnth ((( to you.
))) peace ((( to your dad.
))) healing, and a full recovery ((( for your sister.

So sorry you are being buffeted by a double shock.

[Fla Dem]

62. Thankful you have a strong family bond, it means so much.

I hope your sister fully recovers and your Dad passes peacefully. Stay well yourself.

[marble falls]

63. We're your backstop. Thoughts for your sister, too.

[BobTheSubgenius]

64. One catastrophe on top of another.

I am so sorry to hear your news. I wish that my 8 years of watching my father disintegrate in front of my eyes after a stroke gave me some useful insight or at least some comforting thoughts.

But all I can offer are condolences and a wish for your family getting through this as well as possible. I'm sorry.

[MLAA]

65. Sending love.

[seta1950]

66. I'm sorry

We are thinking of you and your family

[pandr32]

67. Hopefully your dad will be comfortable and relaxed

...with all the changes and for the duration he has left.
It is wonderful you have a strong family to support each other.
We are here, too.

[nitpicker]

68. Crumples are so sad

I hope (1) you can get there and (2) he can appreciate that.

[SYFROYH]

69. peace & love

[CTyankee]

70. I am glad I was with my mother as she was losing consciousnes. I whispered in her ear "I'm here,

Mother, I'm here." Those were the last words she heard. She was 92 years old.

[Politicub]

71. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what this must feel like. You sound

like a strong and thoughtful person. That will help your family immeasurably.

[FakeNoose]

72. Hugs and love from your DU friends

We're here when you need us, my friend!

[IbogaProject]

73. Try and visit or have staff setup facetime

So sorry for the sudden decline of both your dad and sister. I'm wishing them both the best. Please try and visit or have staff setup facetime, contact with the outside will help them both.

[waterwatcher123]

74. Sorry you have to experience such trauma - hopefully better things on the horizon.

[nolabear]

75. So much to go through at once. But your family sounds wonderful.

Sadly, we die. But not everyone has family that loves them out of this world. I’m truly sorry for your dad and your sister. I hope they do know they’re loved. Sure sounds like it. ❤️

[BComplex]

76. I'm so sorry to hear about this turn of events, CaptainTruth.

I hope things begin to look up real soon.