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Nexus2

(1,261 posts)
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 08:55 AM Aug 2021

Is there any possibility that Cumo may be innocent?

It really doesn't look good. There's several accusers with corroboration of their experiences, a seeming mountain of document evidence and he really appears to have no evidence or anyone saying that the accusation don't seem like him. His defense/explanation doesn't hold to examination.

Overall, it seems pretty airtight.

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Is there any possibility that Cumo may be innocent? (Original Post) Nexus2 Aug 2021 OP
about the same as my 5' 10" 240 lb self winning the Boston Marathon dsc Aug 2021 #1
They have email threats so no mucifer Aug 2021 #2
Possibility, yes. Probability, no. no_hypocrisy Aug 2021 #3
40 witnesses testified under penalty of potential imprisonment, to bullwinkle428 Aug 2021 #4
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha... ha ha ha ha! PJMcK Aug 2021 #5
Is there any possibility...? kentuck Aug 2021 #6
I think all of that is true. Percy Aug 2021 #32
I still like him. Do a criminal investigation and I may change my mind. pwb Aug 2021 #7
Oh come on. WhiskeyGrinder Aug 2021 #8
There is a generational and cultural gap imho Deminpenn Aug 2021 #9
it's the retaliation and the hostile work environment that got to me. mopinko Aug 2021 #11
Where I worked, women Deminpenn Aug 2021 #13
He also grew up in a time when husbands got away with beating and raping their wives. ariadne0614 Aug 2021 #12
This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #14
I grew up in that time, too kskiska Aug 2021 #19
This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #21
Please don't minimize the Abuse of Women Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #22
No one was filing lawsuits back then Deminpenn Aug 2021 #28
There were no legal cbabe Aug 2021 #41
Got it! Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #58
Everytime I watch an episode of Deminpenn Aug 2021 #27
This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #34
Thanks Deminpenn Aug 2021 #39
My reaction is the same watching Mad Men MotorCityBeard Aug 2021 #40
Don Draper would have been old enough to be his father... LeftInTX Aug 2021 #53
He was born in 1957. By 1970, the year he turned 13, PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2021 #26
I started working in a bank in 1970. leftyladyfrommo Aug 2021 #30
I concur. kskiska Aug 2021 #49
While that's true although the 50's ran into the mid-60s, Deminpenn Aug 2021 #31
No..please stop with that LeftInTX Aug 2021 #52
This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #36
Thank you. Treefrog Aug 2021 #38
EXACTLY! nt Raine Aug 2021 #55
He's 9 years older than I am and your assessment is bullshit. Cuthbert Allgood Aug 2021 #29
Gotta change with the times Polybius Aug 2021 #33
That's true to a degree Deminpenn Aug 2021 #35
I'm the same age as Cuomo. I'm a woman, and this has NEVER been acceptable. Treefrog Aug 2021 #37
I'm Cuomo's age Sur Zobra Aug 2021 #43
It's about power LeftInTX Aug 2021 #45
Yup Sur Zobra Aug 2021 #47
Cuomo is a year younger than me...He turned 18 in 1975 LeftInTX Aug 2021 #44
Nope, not a chance. Phoenix61 Aug 2021 #10
Yes. The AG found these women credible, but I do not. they should have been willing to Demsrule86 Aug 2021 #15
I agree with you. Polly Hennessey Aug 2021 #17
Who said the women would not go "Under Oath"?? Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #24
Biden says he should resign BradAllison Aug 2021 #46
Don't worry Sur Zobra Aug 2021 #48
Yes. This may all be part of a dream that you are having Tom Rinaldo Aug 2021 #16
Anything is possible. 😚 Polly Hennessey Aug 2021 #18
Ouch. Percy Aug 2021 #42
I didn't mean it to be mean, honest Tom Rinaldo Aug 2021 #54
Everyone who had their posts constantly deleted for criticizing Cuomo deserve an apology now ansible Aug 2021 #20
How about you ask those women. Or you can just demean them as overreacting. alphafemale Aug 2021 #23
I don't know them nd have no way to reach them, besides they have said what they think. Nexus2 Aug 2021 #56
There's two ways he could be innocent Bucky Aug 2021 #25
It would mean everyone else is lying and he alone is telling the truth Jose Garcia Aug 2021 #50
I don't know MustLoveBeagles Aug 2021 #51
Thanks. It happens. I think some folks thought I was saying Cumo WAS innocent. [nt] Nexus2 Aug 2021 #57

dsc

(52,155 posts)
1. about the same as my 5' 10" 240 lb self winning the Boston Marathon
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 08:58 AM
Aug 2021

and turning around and climbing Mt Everest.

bullwinkle428

(20,629 posts)
4. 40 witnesses testified under penalty of potential imprisonment, to
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 08:59 AM
Aug 2021

what they had observed regarding this case. It seems rather difficult to try and "FAKE NEWS!" this away, as Comb-over Caligula had attempted to do in the Ukraine impeachment case.

PJMcK

(22,031 posts)
5. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha... ha ha ha ha!
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:00 AM
Aug 2021

Nope.

Not a chance.

By the way, I voted for him 3 times for governor. It's time for Cuomo to go.

kentuck

(111,079 posts)
6. Is there any possibility...?
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:04 AM
Aug 2021

...that Andrew Cuomo has created several political enemies and some people may have seen him as a threat to the power structure of the Party? They may have thought he was going to run for the Presidency in 2024?

I suppose anything is possible but people are going to believe what they are going to believe.

Percy

(721 posts)
32. I think all of that is true.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:20 PM
Aug 2021

Depending on how this goes he could still run for the presidency. It's unlikely, but he'd make a very good president.

pwb

(11,261 posts)
7. I still like him. Do a criminal investigation and I may change my mind.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:04 AM
Aug 2021

A Report does not prove anything legally. IMO.

Deminpenn

(15,278 posts)
9. There is a generational and cultural gap imho
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:13 AM
Aug 2021

Cuomo grew up in the 1950's and early 60's when men were still supposed to be the breadwinners and women were just starting to become more independent. Add to that he grew up in a very traditional Italian Catholic family where there was a lot of affectionate hugging, touching and kissing. Today's young women, they are very independent and expect to be treated as equals. I can easily see things Cuomo did where it never even crossed his mind that his action would be considered offensive to a younger woman.

FTR, not a fan of Cuomo's especially after reading a New Yorker profile story on him.

mopinko

(70,078 posts)
11. it's the retaliation and the hostile work environment that got to me.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:22 AM
Aug 2021

the touchy stuff, i half way agree w you, but come on. #metoo #timesup
that's just not an excuse any more.

but i'm about that age. and yeah, we expected it. we put up w it. we survived it.
except for those who didnt. it wasnt the guys w the fast hands that were the problem, it was the ones who couldnt take no for an answer. those are the ones that crushed people.

so, fuck him. step down.

ariadne0614

(1,727 posts)
12. He also grew up in a time when husbands got away with beating and raping their wives.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:25 AM
Aug 2021

If he was able to make those two cultural adjustments over a period of half a century, I'm sure he's smart enough to see the entire picture.

Response to Deminpenn (Reply #9)

kskiska

(27,045 posts)
19. I grew up in that time, too
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:54 AM
Aug 2021

and worked in a fairly large office where there was an office manager for the female employees, as well as one for males. Women weren't allowed to wear pants to work until around 1970. Secretaries went along with their bosses on business meetings in places like Puerto Rico. I was hit on all the time by men, even senior VPs, but never would have dreamed of making an issue of it. You'd just handle it.

Many women today have agendas. I hope Cuomo hangs in there and doesn't resign.

Response to kskiska (Reply #19)

 

Mary in S. Carolina

(1,364 posts)
22. Please don't minimize the Abuse of Women
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:12 AM
Aug 2021

The women are handling it, you didn't "handle it", in fact, you enabled abuse if you did not sue.

Deminpenn

(15,278 posts)
28. No one was filing lawsuits back then
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:07 PM
Aug 2021

and wouldn't even have thought about it. In the office there was a place for women (secretaries, clerks, filing) and a place for men (being the bosses). It's still that way in more places than maybe you realize.

cbabe

(3,539 posts)
41. There were no legal
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:40 PM
Aug 2021

protections back then. So even the concept of harassment didn't exist much less the ability to file a lawsiut.

The choice was to quit. Or take it.

To ignore our lifelong degradation only makes the silencing so much worse.

 

Mary in S. Carolina

(1,364 posts)
58. Got it!
Sat Aug 14, 2021, 09:25 PM
Aug 2021

I forget about those women that came before me that had no recourse. I am sorry for what you had to go through.

Deminpenn

(15,278 posts)
27. Everytime I watch an episode of
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 11:58 AM
Aug 2021

"I Love Lucy" or "The Honeymooners" or even "The Dick Van Dyke Show", I think "wow, that would not be happening today".

Response to Deminpenn (Reply #27)

MotorCityBeard

(201 posts)
40. My reaction is the same watching Mad Men
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:35 PM
Aug 2021

I started working in offices in the mid 80's. This was around the time of the Anita Hill hearings, and those had a big impact on office culture.

We had a department meeting, and my boss asked everyone around the table if they believed Ms. Hill. And yes, I thought it was a horribly inappropriate question for work.

Anyways, all the females believed her; all the males, except for me, did not believe her. Being the lone male hold out, I was asked why. I said she stood to lose a hell of a lot by coming forward (her reputation, job, etc.). If she was willing to risk all that, I really felt (and still do) that she was sincere.

LeftInTX

(25,258 posts)
53. Don Draper would have been old enough to be his father...
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 03:09 PM
Aug 2021

Cuomo was born in 1957...He was too young to go to Woodstock, he probably smoked pot at times, had a stack of Led Zepplin records, and probably was into Saturday Night Fever....

I was born in 1956.

There was nothing like Mad Men going on with my peers...

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,848 posts)
26. He was born in 1957. By 1970, the year he turned 13,
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 11:21 AM
Aug 2021

women were beginning to make vast strides in the workplace. Women's Lib was a thing by the late '60s.

He grew up along with the changes. No excuse. None whatsoever.

Trying to cut him some slack because of his age is wrong, just as wrong as the things he did.

leftyladyfrommo

(18,868 posts)
30. I started working in a bank in 1970.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:12 PM
Aug 2021

i was right out of college.

All kinds of shit went on. Employees just thought it was business as usual.

It wasn't just the men. A lot of women liked the parties, too. The thinking was just completely different then.

The man who owned the bank was a huge Nixon supporter. He. Went on to become an ambassador.
He liked pretty young blondes. The women that turned him down lost their jobs.

We just learned to deal.

kskiska

(27,045 posts)
49. I concur.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 02:15 PM
Aug 2021

In the office I worked in, the women were complicit in so many of those situations, or just laughed off the innuendo. I don't recall even one incident, though maybe it wasn't spoken of, where a man became physical or forced himself on a woman. I remember a girl jokingly saying, "Hey, John, when are you gonna take me to bed?"

Deminpenn

(15,278 posts)
31. While that's true although the 50's ran into the mid-60s,
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:17 PM
Aug 2021

you cannot discount Cuomo's cultural upbringing in a very traditional Italian Catholic home. I'm sure treating women with respect was a key part of that. But there are also many Italian homes where hugging, kissing, caressing, touching, patting are signs of affection and love. Sometimes you don't stop to think not everyone was raised the same way and might see things differently.

Not defending Cuomo, but just noting that the perceptions of actions by one person aren't always the same as the perceptions of the other person. And those perceptions can be influenced by age and upbringing.

LeftInTX

(25,258 posts)
52. No..please stop with that
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 03:04 PM
Aug 2021

He's Italian-American, but he is savvy enough to know what the norms are in American culture...Sure there is more of that in that in the Italian culture, but that's not what's going on here....
You're confusing affection with a power grab..Huge difference.

Response to PoindexterOglethorpe (Reply #26)

Cuthbert Allgood

(4,916 posts)
29. He's 9 years older than I am and your assessment is bullshit.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:10 PM
Aug 2021

Are you seriously saying he isn't capable of learning cultural norms because he was born in the 50s. What else is he incapable of adapting to?

Polybius

(15,385 posts)
33. Gotta change with the times
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:23 PM
Aug 2021

It's like an older person dressing like it's still 1987. It's just not right, and makes them look bad.

 

Treefrog

(4,170 posts)
37. I'm the same age as Cuomo. I'm a woman, and this has NEVER been acceptable.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 12:31 PM
Aug 2021

Especially at the professional levels in which he’s worked.

Many of us pushed back about this behavior, and it’s been known for years that it is wrong. Screw these excuses for a serial abuser.

 

Sur Zobra

(3,428 posts)
43. I'm Cuomo's age
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 01:14 PM
Aug 2021

I was born in 1959. We grew up in the 1960s and the 1970s, not the ‘50s.

I always felt offended by groping men. The difference for young women today, is that it is a little harder for men to get away with such behavior and more women are calling them out for it.

I also grew up in a Catholic family. Not one of my 4 brothers sexually harassed women, but they aren’t arrogant, power hungry, nor did they feel privileged to act the way that Cuomo acted. My brothers knew it was wrong to act that way, and Cuomo knew it was wrong also, but he did it anyway because he felt entitled to act that way. He still does

LeftInTX

(25,258 posts)
44. Cuomo is a year younger than me...He turned 18 in 1975
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 01:32 PM
Aug 2021

No...unless he was from another country, he grew up with modern norms....

My husband is Mexican-American and the same age..He always knew better.....
I grew up in a very traditional family also...It was probably more traditional than Cuomo's. My dad's parents were immigrants.

Cuomo grew up in a powerful family, so I'm thinking that's where this might stem from.
Sexual harassment is often a "power play" in work settings.


I really don't see the Italian-Catholic-breadwinner-hugger-kisser as part of this.

I experienced some harassment in the late 70s and 80s, but every man was always alot older than me. The worst offender was a guy from India....(This was 1980) That guy was in his late 30's and was hell bent on getting what he wanted...
Also guys from the middle east were problematic, but I did not work with them, but went to school with a lot of them. (Iranians)..They were pretty bad, but I could avoid them.

Cuomo knew better.....

Phoenix61

(17,002 posts)
10. Nope, not a chance.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:15 AM
Aug 2021

The odds of getting that many people to lie about the same thing is ridiculously small. They would all have to be motivated by something and if it’s money, think of how much they could make by blowing the lid off a conspiracy that big? And with that many people involved one of them would go for it.

Demsrule86

(68,552 posts)
15. Yes. The AG found these women credible, but I do not. they should have been willing to
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:40 AM
Aug 2021

go under oath. And I believe this is politically motivated by those who want a different candidate. So I say to Cuomo do not resign. Make them try to impeach you because more will come out during this process.

Tom Rinaldo

(22,912 posts)
16. Yes. This may all be part of a dream that you are having
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:49 AM
Aug 2021

And I, along with the rest of this board, and all of Cuomo's accusers are all just a part of it. When the alarm goes off and you wake up you will realize that none of the shit that Cuomo is accused of actually happened.

Hey, it's possible

Tom Rinaldo

(22,912 posts)
54. I didn't mean it to be mean, honest
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 04:02 PM
Aug 2021

I just thought it was a playful way to express the opinion that eleven women (most if not all of them Democrats) a Democratic Attorney General who herself campaigned with Cuomo, and elected Democrats at all levels of government in NY State are unlikely to have it wrong. I have no gripe with the OP's author (who was asking for opinions) and did not mean it as a dig.

 

ansible

(1,718 posts)
20. Everyone who had their posts constantly deleted for criticizing Cuomo deserve an apology now
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:57 AM
Aug 2021

He's scum

Nexus2

(1,261 posts)
56. I don't know them nd have no way to reach them, besides they have said what they think.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 04:10 AM
Aug 2021

As I said in my OP, the case seems pretty airtight, tons of corroborated testimony and documented evidence. Cumo appears to be guilty of what he was accused of as far I can tell barring some huge cinematic (bordering on fantastic) conspiracy or a M. Night Shyamalan level twist/reveal.

But I wanted to get other opinions to see if anyone had, perhaps, read or seen something I missed or had some different thoughts or observations.

Bucky

(53,997 posts)
25. There's two ways he could be innocent
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:21 AM
Aug 2021

1) There was no sexual harassment... and just by coincidence all 11 women who accuse him are just terribly mistaken
2) It's a frame up job by... um... his arch nemisis Dr. Evil

Failing either scenario, I'm pretty sure 11 accusations of sexual harassment is a slam dunk.

MustLoveBeagles

(11,591 posts)
51. I don't know
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 02:38 PM
Aug 2021

As you said it doesn't look good. I was in favor of the investigation hoping he'd be exonerated but that's not how it turned out. I don't think the allegations against him were made up but found the timing of the leaks suspicious and the fallout from this will be politized. I don't see how he recovers and predict he will be forced out one way or another. I'm now very afraid that the California recall could go badly for us. I predict that the Republican governors who've done similar or even worse things will get away with it without consequences. That's just the way it is.

I'm sorry that some posters chose to mock you in their replies.

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