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dsc

(53,397 posts)
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 08:54 PM Aug 2021

I am a gay man of a certain age

I was 13 in 1981 when we started hearing about this odd disease killing gay men. I was 19 in 1987, when AZT got its approval as a treatment. For those 6 years, the entire gay and lesbian community (as it was called then LGBT community now) demonstrated, marched, begged, pleaded, and did anything else they could think of to get any treatment for this horrible disease. If we would have been offered a free vaccine in 1982 we would have crawled over irradiated, broken glass to get it. I am just going to say this, I literally can't fathom or get over the utter irresponsibility and selfishness of the people who are protesting not to have this vaccine, not to wear masks (I do have to be fair and point out barebacking was very much a thing in the gay community), and all of the rest. 40 years ago we would have built statues to the creator of such a vaccine.

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I am a gay man of a certain age (Original Post) dsc Aug 2021 OP
K&R!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! n/t RKP5637 Aug 2021 #1
excellent observation Skittles Aug 2021 #2
✔️ blm Aug 2021 #3
I made this very comparison UpInArms Aug 2021 #4
Yes, I don't understand people today. Haggard Celine Aug 2021 #5
I think the effects of Covid are not easily seen. People are terrified of Polio. Maraya1969 Aug 2021 #6
And now it's affecting younger and younger people, including children Rhiannon12866 Aug 2021 #16
I am terrified of Covid...Got 2 shots, will get another if I need to..as many as they say.. Stuart G Aug 2021 #37
I am assuming you did not mean to aim this at me. I am vaccinated and I always masked up Maraya1969 Aug 2021 #39
I did not mean to aim this at you or anyone...ever...Just making a point..I am sorry if I posed this Stuart G Aug 2021 #41
It's OK. Just wanted to make sure. eom Maraya1969 Aug 2021 #46
I think working to make protease inhibitors available was the high point of my professional life. NNadir Aug 2021 #7
+1 . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Aug 2021 #30
Unfortunately this is a bad analogy as AZT ended up being bad for HIV patients. Dallas Buyers Club Pisces Aug 2021 #8
You DO know that DBC was just a really bad movie, right? NullTuples Aug 2021 #9
That doesn't negate that AZT was not a good drug for HIV. Pisces Aug 2021 #11
I have several friends alive today because of AZT FreeState Aug 2021 #26
I agree with you. Horrible drug. I don't even know why they chose it for HIV Maraya1969 Aug 2021 #40
It was the first treatment that had any efficacy against AIDS dsc Aug 2021 #12
Completely understand your POV, as I share it. I've always been interested in public health... Hekate Aug 2021 #10
I lost my dear school friend, David, in 1988. We were last together at our high school MerryBlooms Aug 2021 #13
The generation that broke Fauci in. carpetbagger Aug 2021 #14
From 1969 to 1979 I was a ticket agent at National Airport in Washington DC. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2021 #15
Well said! Karadeniz Aug 2021 #17
K&R MustLoveBeagles Aug 2021 #18
As kids, mom was serious with us about appalachiablue Aug 2021 #19
I am only 53 but my parents vividly remembered Polio dsc Aug 2021 #21
One of the early anti-vax conspiracies was that polio vaccination caused HIV/AIDS greenjar_01 Aug 2021 #38
I dated a boy/man that had polio. LakeArenal Aug 2021 #48
dsc.... Upthevibe Aug 2021 #20
K&R spanone Aug 2021 #22
They not only marched, beggged and pleaded for themselves Warpy Aug 2021 #23
Moderna will soon be in clinical trials of a mRNA vaccine for HIV. roamer65 Aug 2021 #24
We are witnessing the awesome power of propaganda dlk Aug 2021 #25
Republicans laughed at AIDS deaths Tiger8 Aug 2021 #27
Rethuglicans love death & suffering, and making money off of it. Crowman2009 Aug 2021 #31
I was reminded of "Republicianism" a few weeks ago Tiger8 Aug 2021 #35
I came out in 1982 when I was 18, in Detroit MotorCityBeard Aug 2021 #34
Yes, that proves just how bad Republicans have gotten Tiger8 Aug 2021 #36
Recommended. H2O Man Aug 2021 #28
Your attitude about masks, at least, seems to be uncommon among gay men of a certain age. Ms. Toad Aug 2021 #29
And by the way, Fauci was there then, struggling to identify the disease and develop treatments. lagomorph777 Aug 2021 #32
I remember the start of it all.... Random Boomer Aug 2021 #33
The same people who would put HIV and gay people in concentration camps... RicROC Aug 2021 #42
I am a gay man of a more advanced age and a gay activist for 50 years. trickyguy Aug 2021 #43
I'm a couple of years younger than you, and I feel the same way. Politicub Aug 2021 #44
My brother is also a gay man a couple of years older than you. Borchkins Aug 2021 #45
Thanx for the post Mr. dsc Botany Aug 2021 #47

Haggard Celine

(17,821 posts)
5. Yes, I don't understand people today.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:09 PM
Aug 2021

Well, I guess I understand sort of. There were people back then who claimed that AZT was poison and that the government created it to finish people off. Then there were quack doctors who came up with certain diets and compounds that were supposed to cure AIDS. It wasn't on the scale of what we see now, though, with the internet and so many scam artists claiming that the disease isn't real, or it's just the flu, and we didn't have an entire political party telling people to go about their lives as if everything were normal. The internet is a great tool, and I love it, but it has fucked up this effort to stop this disease! These fools who have no discernment between truth and bullshit are literally killing us.

Maraya1969

(23,497 posts)
6. I think the effects of Covid are not easily seen. People are terrified of Polio.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:14 PM
Aug 2021

AND AIDS. I think because too many people have not taken Covid seriously. Many have said they don't care because it is an "old people" disease.


They are likely going to see some things to scare them now.

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
37. I am terrified of Covid...Got 2 shots, will get another if I need to..as many as they say..
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 11:30 AM
Aug 2021

..Been very sick, recovered don't want to be "very sick again." Would you want to be....VERY SICK? ????


iF YOU DO WANT TO BE VERY SICK, (and really don't know what that is)...................................


you are far stupider than anyone you consider stupid..whoever, wherever and whatever those people may be.

OK..I will make you less stupid...............................................................................................................
...Picture if you can, a breathing tube in your nose and throat, and being in a hospital bed, for a week or so, with that tube and some I -Vs in your arm, not being able to get out of bed....

So think about that if you do not want to get the vaccine..


You are now .....less stupid... about being very sick...

Maraya1969

(23,497 posts)
39. I am assuming you did not mean to aim this at me. I am vaccinated and I always masked up
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 11:45 AM
Aug 2021

And I watched my partner die from respiratory distress syndrome many years ago on a ventilator. It was horrible.

Stuart G

(38,726 posts)
41. I did not mean to aim this at you or anyone...ever...Just making a point..I am sorry if I posed this
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 11:50 AM
Aug 2021

in a way that offended you in any way, shape, or form....or anyone for that matter... VERY SORRY!!!

NNadir

(38,045 posts)
7. I think working to make protease inhibitors available was the high point of my professional life.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:17 PM
Aug 2021

In the industry, despite much criticism, we really did care.

Pisces

(6,235 posts)
8. Unfortunately this is a bad analogy as AZT ended up being bad for HIV patients. Dallas Buyers Club
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:20 PM
Aug 2021

Shows the guinea pig side of getting AZT early on.

FreeState

(10,702 posts)
26. I have several friends alive today because of AZT
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 12:03 AM
Aug 2021

Do they have side effects still? Sometimes but none as bad as missing their friends and family that didn’t have access to AZT.

dsc

(53,397 posts)
12. It was the first treatment that had any efficacy against AIDS
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:36 PM
Aug 2021

was it perfect, no? But I know several people for whom it gave enough time to get to the more effective treatments. But it is a valid point that AZT was nothing like the vaccines in terms of efficacy.

Hekate

(100,133 posts)
10. Completely understand your POV, as I share it. I've always been interested in public health...
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:33 PM
Aug 2021

… matters, and am utterly baffled by what I see as the sheer ignorance combined with stupidity that is so rife in the US.

In my case it may have something (or a lot) to do with my husband and me becoming the oldest couple in our extended families. We are only 73 and 74, but we seem to be the only ones who actually remember epidemics and their devastation. We remember, we experienced, we observed. Like you, we KNOW what vaccines are for.

All I can do for family members who are refuseniks is pray for them, as they are impervious to other approaches.

MerryBlooms

(12,248 posts)
13. I lost my dear school friend, David, in 1988. We were last together at our high school
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:55 PM
Aug 2021

5 year reunion in 1986. I almost didn't attend, but I am so glad I did, because he didn't make it to our 10th. I think about him often, and our school cafeteria lunches together, school dances... He was a lovely soul, and one of my most favorite people. I often think how much better my world would be with his laughter and hugs still with me... I am pretty sure his thoughts would mirror your post. Thank you.

carpetbagger

(5,484 posts)
14. The generation that broke Fauci in.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 09:57 PM
Aug 2021

Seriously, you guys put him through boot camp and he came out a better doctor and administrator.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(28,493 posts)
15. From 1969 to 1979 I was a ticket agent at National Airport in Washington DC.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:06 PM
Aug 2021

A significant number of the men I worked with were gay, although most of them were not out in the early years. But working with them, as I learned they were gay, helped me understand, as best I was able, what it was like for them.

I'm lucky in that over the years since I've known a reasonable number of LGBTQ people, and I learn new things every day about their lives.

Any number of men I knew back then have died from AIDS.

Thank you for posting.

appalachiablue

(44,022 posts)
19. As kids, mom was serious with us about
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:31 PM
Aug 2021

the polio vaccine and all meds. When young, she had experienced the summer polio scares, then Pres. FDR in office. Her father was a doctor as well so we knew about the importance of medicine.

Years later in the 1980s, I worked at a health agency near NIH and had dealings with them. I remember Dr. Fauci very well from then. Also my younger brother who was living in NY died of Aids in 1992 after his partner went months earlier. Brother had tried new treatments in France and was helped by excellent physicians, but it wasn't enough. So we know what a vaccine could have done to help him and millions of people through that major health crisis.

With you on people's blind ignorance and stubborn ways. Don't they have any family members or others to explain to them how bad things got with the Aids crisis and other major health issues? Can they read?

dsc

(53,397 posts)
21. I am only 53 but my parents vividly remembered Polio
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:36 PM
Aug 2021

and one of my grandmothers had lost a sister to the flu. Dying of diseases such as measles, mumps, and rubella were things into the 1950's and early 1960's. I will admit, that AIDS is my searing memory but my parents and grandparents instilled the history of polio and the flu.

 

greenjar_01

(6,477 posts)
38. One of the early anti-vax conspiracies was that polio vaccination caused HIV/AIDS
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 11:31 AM
Aug 2021

(i.e., Edward Hooper's asinine book).

LakeArenal

(29,949 posts)
48. I dated a boy/man that had polio.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 06:07 PM
Aug 2021

It’s real not a legend. It gave him many emotional issues as well. Including drinking til he was blind drunk.

Upthevibe

(10,180 posts)
20. dsc....
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:34 PM
Aug 2021

I'm a lesbian and I remember everything we did! People were literally marching in the streets (including me) for the government to take action (F.U. to Ronald Reagan, BTW). I went to many, many demonstrations (including with the "radical" group ACT UP).

When I moved to L.A. in 1988, I worked on the AIDS Hotline. I remember the class that was given (by the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center) was on the level of a college course. It was six weeks long, two nights a week, four hours per night and was required we before we could work the hotline.

The people we're dealing with now (the anti-maskers) are completely brainwashed on too many levels for me to get into now.

Thank you for this post and presenting your thoughts in the context of what the LGBT community did and the contrast regarding what's happening now.

Warpy

(114,615 posts)
23. They not only marched, beggged and pleaded for themselves
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 10:53 PM
Aug 2021

they started groups like Act Up to do outreach to groups who weren't them, like IV drug addicts. Their campaigns were creative and effective. They also used to come into the wards from time to time, telling staff what was going on with research.

I have to think all the marching and agitating had an effect, I think it was shortly after AZT came out that we started seeing "compassionate use" drugs, identified only by numbers and letters and requiring massive paperwork. They allowed our patients to go home and at least tidy things up and say goodbye. Some of them started to get quite a lot of time by the end of the 80s.

I was a far cry from 13 in 1981, got my nursing license just about the time stories about GRID started to appear and things got very bad, very fast.

Seeing what's going on with Covid has brought some of those memories back, especially the treadmill the docs were on: asssess, intubate, pronounce, over and over again.

roamer65

(37,953 posts)
24. Moderna will soon be in clinical trials of a mRNA vaccine for HIV.
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 11:18 PM
Aug 2021

Imagine if it works.



By all of us taking the SARS-CoV-2 version, we just may have helped to make a large step towards preventing HIV.

https://www.verywellhealth.com/moderna-to-trial-hiv-and-flu-vaccines-5189912

dlk

(13,247 posts)
25. We are witnessing the awesome power of propaganda
Wed Aug 4, 2021, 11:54 PM
Aug 2021

It should never be underestimated.

 

Tiger8

(432 posts)
27. Republicans laughed at AIDS deaths
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 12:05 AM
Aug 2021

In the 80's, Rush Limbaugh would read from the names of gay men who died of AIDS, and after each name, played a laugh track and/or applause.

Limbaugh also mocked the red ribbons people wore who lost a loved one to AIDS....and he mocked the AIDS quilt, to the absolute joy of people calling into his show.

But other Republicans took AIDS seriously, which was actually worse. William F. Buckley advocated tattooing all gay men on the buttocks, while others favored building camps to quarantine gay men, and spread stories that gay men would "lash out" and deliberately infect others by biting them, spiting, and licking produce in grocery stores.

Republican politicians acted as if AIDS didn't exist, or if pushed, opposed doing anything about it. A reporter asked Reagan administration officials how they planned to address the AIDS crisis, and the spokesman joked about it, asking the reporter of he was a homosexual, and turning to his associates and asking, "Are any of you homosexuals?" to their nervous laughter.

Fundamentalist Christian preachers and televangelists were eager to proclaim AIDS as God's judgement on sexual sin - and compared it to Sodom and Gomorrah. Televangelist Pat Robertson claimed that gay men wore a "secret ring" with a spike in it, and used it to infect others with HIV when shaking hands or touching them.

But perhaps the worst offender was the Catholic Church. Numerous Popes spoke out strongly against condoms, and opposed safe sex education with a vengeance - even going to Africa and commanding people to not use condoms - which lead to the deaths of millions of Africans.


Regardless, they were all adamantly opposed to spending any money or doing anything to help or educate people on how to keep themselves safe from HIV infections - because it would be interfering with God. While others on the right saw AIDS as the perfect bogeyman to get people to donate money, or make them view gay people as a menace to society.

Finally - the tide started to change when gays started fighting back. Preachers and politicians were shouted down with chants of "SHAME, SHAME, SHAME, SHAME" and ACT-UP was formed and would bust into church services, splattering buckets of red paint on the finely decorated walls. Hollywood got involved....movies such as "An Early Frost" and "Philadelphia" humanized the terror that was AIDS.

This change gave Senator Ted Kennedy (D-MA) the impetus he needed to be the lead sponsor on "The Ryan White Act" which had 66 co-sponsors - enough to bypass a promised filibuster attempt by Senator Jesse Helms (R-NC).

You can read about The Ryan White Act here.
https://hab.hrsa.gov/livinghistory/legislation

Crowman2009

(3,524 posts)
31. Rethuglicans love death & suffering, and making money off of it.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 09:17 AM
Aug 2021

AIDS, wars in the middle east, death squads in central America, putting drugs in urban areas, defunding welfare programs, environmental contamination...I could go on and on.

 

Tiger8

(432 posts)
35. I was reminded of "Republicianism" a few weeks ago
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 10:48 AM
Aug 2021

I live in Massachusetts, and smoke from the Oregon wild fires covered Boston so badly, that I couldn't see the skyline. Never happened here before.

Climate change is here. And Jimmy Carter warned us about it over 40 years ago - and took steps to promote solar, wind, conservation, etc.

A recent article in The Guardian claimed President Carter was "Decades Ahead of His Time" but he really was just a smart man who cared about our future. As history unfolds, Jimmy Carter will be recognized as one of the best presidents of all time. Link to article...
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2021/may/03/jimmy-carter-climate-change-carterland-film-biography


Unfortunately, Reagan deleted all Carter's programs - and clearly because Reagan was a pawn of the energy industry - and also behind his support of death squads, wars, and anything else that will...

1. Drive their bigoted voters to the polls by attacking marginalized groups.
2. Make their greedy financial backers - fossil fuel industries, food industries, wall street, etc. - more wealthy.

Of course, that means the most effective Republicans are always the most sadistic, heartless motherfuckers.

MotorCityBeard

(203 posts)
34. I came out in 1982 when I was 18, in Detroit
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 09:59 AM
Aug 2021

It was a very scary time and I remember all of that. I've always hated Reagan with a passion as he didn't want to do anything about it as it was killing the "right" people. I've gone to funerals for friends that died of it and then heard AIDS joke at work (I did go to HR and made a huge stink about that).

I've thought that it's probably a good thing that social media was not nearly as prevalent back then as it is now. Especially in the beginning, when they did not know what caused it or how it was spreading, can you even IMAGINE the disinformation that would have been going around? Hell, there was plenty of bullshit going around without social media. I remember one theory for the cause of AIDS being disco music(!)

 

Tiger8

(432 posts)
36. Yes, that proves just how bad Republicans have gotten
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 11:16 AM
Aug 2021

Conservatives have scapegoated Asian Americans for COVID - the level of HATE ginned up on the Right is appalling.

And that Right Wing Hate has consequences - with record levels of reported hate crimes against persons who look Asian, regardless of nationality.

From an Asian girl who had acid thrown in her face, disfiguring her for life - to elderly Asians who have been beaten, shot and killed. Record numbers of hate crime victims among Asian owned business and even on college campuses. The cases are so sad and depressing to read - and now our fellow Americans - Asian Americans live their lives in fear.

So yes, it is frightening to think how bad it would be for LGBTQ if social media had existed back then. Plus, Right Wing Media is far more sophisticated at ginning up hatred and intolerance with their lies, smears, anecdotal stories and conspiracy theories.

Ms. Toad

(38,637 posts)
29. Your attitude about masks, at least, seems to be uncommon among gay men of a certain age.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 01:08 AM
Aug 2021

One of my Provincetown friends - after escaping being part of the July 4 surge - went to the town meeting to speak out against the proposed rule on re-imposing universal indoor masking. Several of his friends were cheering him on, generally expressing the opinion that as long as it doesn't kill you, we just have to live with it like we live with AIDS, with no obligation to mask up for public safety.

I extricated myself from that discussion before I alienated too many friends, but I was pretty disgusted at the cavalier attitude toward a deadly virus.

lagomorph777

(30,613 posts)
32. And by the way, Fauci was there then, struggling to identify the disease and develop treatments.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 09:19 AM
Aug 2021

Random Boomer

(4,405 posts)
33. I remember the start of it all....
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 09:26 AM
Aug 2021

I was a gay woman in my 20s and living in New York City when I read a short article about a cluster of gay men developing Kaposi's sarcoma. Doctors were puzzled because typically this was a disease seen in older men of Mediterranean descent. That oddity stuck with me and eventually it was tied to AIDS and the epidemic of cases that ravaged the gay community.

When I read about the first few deaths from a new virus in China, I had that same prickle of unease and a flashback to the Kaposi's sarcoma article. I posted that thought on one of my online forums (not DU) and several of the other posters scoffed at my apprehension. Within a month, however, those deaths were proven to be a precursor of yet another epidemic.

Pay attention, folks. You can see these events coming, and be more prepared (at least emotionally and psychologically) if you keep an eye out for medical news.

RicROC

(1,249 posts)
42. The same people who would put HIV and gay people in concentration camps...
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 12:10 PM
Aug 2021

are the ones who cry "Freedom" and refuse to follow social and health protocols.

trickyguy

(769 posts)
43. I am a gay man of a more advanced age and a gay activist for 50 years.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 01:05 PM
Aug 2021

I lived in Chicago when the AIDS epidemic started hitting the gay community.
Watched many friends die a horrible death - some in their 30's and 40's.
The reason we marched to get treatment is because of government homophobia.
Some people actually thought the disease was a good thing because it would get rid of gay men mostly.
Ronald Reagan did nothing during those 6 years. He finally said the word "AIDS" a little to late.

But you know who stepped in during that time to help get trial drugs into our community.
Yes, Dr. Anthony Faucci implemented the use of experimental drug programs. He saved lives.

So now I am living through my second epidemic and things seem oddly familiar.
Like havine Dr Faucci in charge of disseminating information.
As you state, we would have done anything to get some kind of treatment for
a frightening and horrible disease.
And today we have people who are protesting this vaccine which saves lives.
It's really mind blowing but I'm vaccinated and trying to take care.

Thank you for your important post.

Politicub

(12,328 posts)
44. I'm a couple of years younger than you, and I feel the same way.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 01:21 PM
Aug 2021

I went to college when HIV was a death sentence, and I used condoms, but they weren’t 100 percent effective. It was so scary to get tested for HIV and wait a week or two for the results. Testing was something that was almost a right of passage, and it never got easier waiting for the results.

It makes me so angry that people are so stupid and stubborn about the Covid vaccine. I’m not religious, but I regard it as a modern miracle.

Borchkins

(735 posts)
45. My brother is also a gay man a couple of years older than you.
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 01:43 PM
Aug 2021

I am so thankful that he made it through those times as well. Many of our older friends were not so lucky. THanks for this observation.

Botany

(77,323 posts)
47. Thanx for the post Mr. dsc
Thu Aug 5, 2021, 03:01 PM
Aug 2021

It reminded me of being a boy and going to a new school in N.W. PA and going to the
nurse's office and seeing our doctor (small town) there along with my brother and one
other kid who was new to the school too. We were told we were going to get out TB
vaccination then and there. There was no fuss, there was no problem, and we got the
vaccination (old school big ass scar) and then we went back to class end of story.

"I literally can't fathom or get over the utter irresponsibility and selfishness of the people
who are protesting not to have this vaccine ... "

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