My brother was on a ventilator in the ICU
For over a week. He had pneumonia, COPD, mrsa, and it turns out, a failed heart valve. They extubated this morning, and he passed about an hour and a half later.
He was 71. You know, it feels like someone kicked you in the stomach. My elderly mom is coping pretty well, but I think it's going to hit her hard a little later.
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I hope you can be comforted knowing that it sounds as though he was given the level of care that he deserved and should have received-- and didn't fall victim to the rationing ongoing in some areas.
None of this makes the loss any easier but it is good that you can be there for your mother.
My sympathy to you and yours. 
5 years ago my BIL passed of a massive heart attack at 56. DH had to tell their 85 year old dad. I think it took quite a while for Dad to grasp. You’re not supposed to outlive your child.
Hugs to you 
When my late Mother passed away, she had been on a ventilator for 9 days at the ICU at Reno Renown Hospital. Her lungs were shot. She had Stage 4 Cancer in both lungs and in the T-8 of her back. MRSA was overtaking her as well. She lasted 75 minutes from the moment of being taken off, each last breath a rattle. She was ready to go.
That was Jan.2, 2013. She was my rock. I still miss her so much.
May you find comfort. A mother, no matter her age, never gets over losing a child. Hugs.
My sincere condolences to you and your family. May your brother RIP.
so maybe your mom was preparing herself mentally and emotionally for the loss. Very sad news, indeed.
It's hard to say Welcome to DU 
, but the members on this site are the best,
and will no doubt help you through this.
I'm glad you're there for your mom.
I'm sure there are no words I can say to comfort you. So...
So difficult.
be kind to yourself and your mom, and ask for help if you need it.
My brothers are some of my best friends. I can't imagine...
