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NickB79

(19,258 posts)
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 09:32 PM Nov 2021

My unvaxxed cousin is infected but still going out and about

She's 39, morbidly obese, with various health issues that have her on partial disability, but still unvaxxed. She also has two children who likely brought it home. She also lives with her mom, who's also morbidly obese, almost 60, and mostly homebound. I don't know my aunt's vaccination status, but I pray she's vaccinated. Most of my redneck Trumper family aren't though.

She's spent the past 5 days on Facebook bitching about how horrible she feels after her COVID diagnosis.

Tonight she posted how she really wanted to be home in bed but had to take her cat to the vet for her spay appointment. I called her out on how irresponsible she was for going out while contagious, potentially exposing other people.

I'm now unfriended. Good. People like her are why 750,000 Americans are dead. And that's exactly what I'm going to tell her if I ever see her face to face again.

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My unvaxxed cousin is infected but still going out and about (Original Post) NickB79 Nov 2021 OP
My initial gut reaction... targetpractice Nov 2021 #1
That's exactly what I would do, and I would also report her to her local Tanuki Nov 2021 #2
Absolutely. Going out and about knowing your contagious? WTF. Lucky Luciano Nov 2021 #3
Same here. Call the vet AND the health department. wnylib Nov 2021 #17
Please call the Vet!!! mchill Nov 2021 #25
You responded to my post but wnylib Nov 2021 #36
And this MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #20
I stopped by my vet today to get a med refill for my dog - and masks are required just to enter Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #5
At the beginning of September, my dog had spinal surgery after herniating a disk. Gore1FL Nov 2021 #14
I hope your dog is doing better MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #22
Thanks! He is crate-bound, but able to walk without the help of a sling. Gore1FL Nov 2021 #37
Oh, I am so sorry! That had to be extremely stressful! For both of you... Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #28
Thanks! It's been quite a few months! Gore1FL Nov 2021 #38
Wow! It sure sounds like you've been through so much, and dachshunds are impossibly adorable! Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #40
All our local vets are requiring pet owners to call when they arrive at office, bullwinkle428 Nov 2021 #18
We're now allowed in the building, but we can't accompany our pets. Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #23
My Vet was bought by Banfield Corporstion mchill Nov 2021 #26
Well, that's where I went today and where I go has been very strict. Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #33
Post Delta the same here mchill Nov 2021 #42
Our vet still isn't letting any humans other than employees into the hospital. hunter Nov 2021 #30
That's the way it was here until recently. And we're still asked to call before coming in Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #34
Pretty much the same here, at least for our cat, Equomba Nov 2021 #31
Awww, that sounds like one precious and remarkable bird! Rhiannon12866 Nov 2021 #35
This MustLoveBeagles Nov 2021 #19
Does she still deny the existence of Covid? guillaumeb Nov 2021 #4
it just amazes me how juvenile "unfriended" sounds Skittles Nov 2021 #6
Welll, it is fb after all. 2naSalit Nov 2021 #7
yeah I know Skittles Nov 2021 #8
Some peoples' kids... 2naSalit Nov 2021 #10
I try to imagine these people actually CALLING each other to discuss their issue Skittles Nov 2021 #11
Calling takes too long. Lucky Luciano Nov 2021 #12
and people think these are / were real friends Skittles Nov 2021 #13
Like when Trump said to Pence, "I'm not gonna be your friend anymore!" bullwinkle428 Nov 2021 #16
Total disregard for the lives of other people. Same for the maskless in public places. Doodley Nov 2021 #9
Sorry You Have To Deal With That COL Mustard Nov 2021 #15
One of my vets still won't let people in with their pets. Your cousin is why that's a good idea. catrose Nov 2021 #21
And she quite possibly gave her own cat COVID mchill Nov 2021 #27
True! That would break my heart. But obviously I am not her. catrose Nov 2021 #32
Your unvaxxed cousin is crazy. Seriously. Evolve Dammit Nov 2021 #24
So ... I guess the family Thanksgiving is going to be awkward this year? FakeNoose Nov 2021 #29
I know someone who flew from Africa to Wisconsin while infected Poiuyt Nov 2021 #39
You should definitely call the vets office to inform them! Your cousin is evil to go out when she liberal_mama Nov 2021 #41

targetpractice

(4,919 posts)
1. My initial gut reaction...
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 09:38 PM
Nov 2021

... Call the vet and warn them that their staff has been possibly exposed.

This is the first thing that popped in my head... Not sure if it's the appropriate thing to do or not, but I would.

wnylib

(21,580 posts)
17. Same here. Call the vet AND the health department.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:43 PM
Nov 2021

Also, cats and dogs can get covid. I think I read that cats are more susceptible to getting it than dogs. They don't usually get as sick as humans, but they can transmit it to other animals if infected. Not likely to infect humans directly, but if they sneeze and leave the virus on surfaces that people touch, it might be possible for people to pick it up.

So this selfish, thoughtless woman could be infecting other people's pets as well as other people.

mchill

(1,018 posts)
25. Please call the Vet!!!
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:55 PM
Nov 2021

Sorry, I could care less about your cousin, but if your Vet is allowing pet parents inside then she may have infected the practice. I am so careful about my cats by not allowing them to be around people unmasked. I meet the Vet assistant outside and ask that my cats be taken straight back to the exam room. I cover their carriers.

Please notify the Vet!!!

wnylib

(21,580 posts)
36. You responded to my post but
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 12:31 AM
Nov 2021

I think you meant to respond to the OP.

I am careful to keep my cat away from unmasked people, too. I live in an apartment building. Before covid, I used to let her go down the hall with me when I went to the laundry room. She enjoyed sniffing at doors and especially liked running into neighbors in the hall and getting petted and fussed over by them.

But I have not let her out of the apartment since March of 2020. She misses the company and I feel bad about it, but there are people in the building and their visitors who are not vaxxed and don't wear masks.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
5. I stopped by my vet today to get a med refill for my dog - and masks are required just to enter
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 09:47 PM
Nov 2021

Owners are no longer permitted in exam rooms with their pets, it's been this way since the pandemic hit, instead a masked vet tech comes out to take the pet in the back for an exam, treatment, etc. And it's recommended to call before you walk in so there aren't too many people inside at once. In fact, early on, I had to bring my dog in to be spirited away by a masked vet tech and wait in my car, only speaking to the vet by phone. Currently, owners are allowed to wait in the building and the masked vet will come out to talk to owners. I'm not sure how other vet offices are handling this, but that's how mine is.

Gore1FL

(21,151 posts)
14. At the beginning of September, my dog had spinal surgery after herniating a disk.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:37 PM
Nov 2021

I went to an emergency vet and then to a surgical facility. They both operated slightly differently from each other, but both times, I wasn't allowed in the building. It was essentially Park. Text. Pet retrieval by staff. Phone call.

Given the insanity of it all, it went smoothly.

My poor dog has had major issues requiring hospital stays. The was the first time I couldn't visit him. That was the worst part.

Gore1FL

(21,151 posts)
37. Thanks! He is crate-bound, but able to walk without the help of a sling.
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 01:30 AM
Nov 2021

We have to work on his lateral stability before he can roam freely. He tends to fall to one side or another and doesn't plant is feet well when standing. When he runs, his back feet work together in a bunny-hop sort of motion. He can actually run better than he can walk, and walk better than he can stand. "Sitting" is basically him on his behind with his hind legs stretched forward in front of him, now.

It's hard to believe we are on like week 10 of this. Up until a couple of weeks ago, I had to carry him everywhere and used a sling to hold his back legs up.

We've come a long way but there is a way to go. I don't know how stable he is going to ultimately be, but I think he's still improving.

He's a dachshund, so there isn't far to fall, at least!

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
28. Oh, I am so sorry! That had to be extremely stressful! For both of you...
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 11:06 PM
Nov 2021

I hope that your dog is doing much better now! I'm very fortunate, my dog may be 15, but his reason for visiting the vet has been for a recurring ear infection which did not require a stay.

Gore1FL

(21,151 posts)
38. Thanks! It's been quite a few months!
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 01:32 AM
Nov 2021

I responded to a post above (in this sub-thread) with a fairly detailed update, if you are interested.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
40. Wow! It sure sounds like you've been through so much, and dachshunds are impossibly adorable!
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 01:53 AM
Nov 2021

I don't know if this is a helpful suggestion, but when my beloved cocker spaniel got older (he was at least 18, I originally adopted him from rescue), he had trouble walking and I had to carry him in and out. What helped my Barney was acupuncture. I'd had it myself so I knew it wasn't uncomfortable and it was non-invasive. It was offered at the vet office where I'd taken my cat, so I checked into it. And I met another dog there, a Golden Retriever, who was paralyzed and whose owners carried her in on a stretcher. They said she was getting better and when I met her, she wagged her tail at me.

So I started bringing Barney in every other week - and other than the car ride, he didn't mind. And it really did help. He was able to walk in and out by himself for the rest of his life. I know you have your treatment plan, but I wanted to share my experience. Your sweet dog is so very fortunate to have you, I hope so much that he continues to get better...

bullwinkle428

(20,630 posts)
18. All our local vets are requiring pet owners to call when they arrive at office,
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:44 PM
Nov 2021

and one of the vet techs comes outside to bring the animal into the clinic.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
23. We're now allowed in the building, but we can't accompany our pets.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:54 PM
Nov 2021

In the beginning of the pandemic, I sat in my car in the parking lot, waiting to hear from the vet who was treating my dog, through an entire thunderstorm. But I'm grateful that they're taking every precaution.

mchill

(1,018 posts)
26. My Vet was bought by Banfield Corporstion
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:57 PM
Nov 2021

Across the country from California. At that point the local Vets were told to let customers in against their wishes. I refuse to go in but I did witness people coming and going without masks. That was during that lull before Delta. Now they still let people inside but with masks. I still don’t go in.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
33. Well, that's where I went today and where I go has been very strict.
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 12:17 AM
Nov 2021

A vet tech who worked there was helping to foster my dog who was originally a "pet shop rescue." And since they already knew him, I continued going there even though it's a much longer trip for me now. And they were the ones who took the dog and had me wait in my car at the beginning of the pandemic - and though owners are allowed in the building now, we're not allowed in exam rooms, a masked vet tech comes out to take the pet, and everyone is masked and maintains distancing. I'm in New York, if that makes a difference.

hunter

(38,325 posts)
30. Our vet still isn't letting any humans other than employees into the hospital.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 11:31 PM
Nov 2021

It's still call from the parking lot when you get here and put on a mask when we come out to pick up or return your pet.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
34. That's the way it was here until recently. And we're still asked to call before coming in
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 12:22 AM
Nov 2021

Sometimes they ask you to wait. There are benches inside where we're allowed to wait now, but we're still not allowed to accompany pets in exam rooms like it was before the pandemic. A masked vet tech comes out and takes the pet and a masked vet comes out to speak to owners now.

 

Equomba

(197 posts)
31. Pretty much the same here, at least for our cat,
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 12:06 AM
Nov 2021

but I am able to get a private exam room at the avian vet for our African Grey parrot, who is around 45 years old. In fact I am taking her there tomorrow for an exam and you cannot imagine how relieved I am for this exception. She had a life or death event a number of years ago while having an exam and ever since then she's been on a special list... long story short I get to stay with her during the exam. It still stresses me out to the max, I'll be on pins and needles until it's over.

Rhiannon12866

(205,879 posts)
35. Awww, that sounds like one precious and remarkable bird!
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 12:27 AM
Nov 2021

My local vet once sent me to another vet for a second opinion for my beloved cat. I liked her a lot, but her specialty was birds - and we often saw birds in the waiting room. And I still remember the vet's license plate - it said BIRDDR.

Good luck with your special bird, she sounds like one very special pet...

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
4. Does she still deny the existence of Covid?
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 09:46 PM
Nov 2021

Perhaps she could reach out to Airhead Rodgers in Green Bay for advice.

Skittles

(153,182 posts)
11. I try to imagine these people actually CALLING each other to discuss their issue
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:11 PM
Nov 2021

I guess that's just too much effort

Lucky Luciano

(11,258 posts)
12. Calling takes too long.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:24 PM
Nov 2021

I think my longest phone conversations are like one or two minutes these days.

“Hey, where are you?”
“Ah ok…be right there.”

bullwinkle428

(20,630 posts)
16. Like when Trump said to Pence, "I'm not gonna be your friend anymore!"
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:42 PM
Nov 2021

following certification of the election.

COL Mustard

(5,918 posts)
15. Sorry You Have To Deal With That
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:37 PM
Nov 2021

I have family members who are just as thoughtless. And that's really what it is, they just don't think.

I'm sorry in advance for your potential loss, but I really can't muster sympathy for the unvaxxed among us.

catrose

(5,073 posts)
21. One of my vets still won't let people in with their pets. Your cousin is why that's a good idea.
Thu Nov 11, 2021, 10:45 PM
Nov 2021

I hope she didn't expose anyone at the vet's office--and that someone will care for her cat if the worst happens to her.

Poiuyt

(18,130 posts)
39. I know someone who flew from Africa to Wisconsin while infected
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 01:39 AM
Nov 2021

He found some doctor over there who gave him a clean bill of health so he could fly home. Of course, shortly after he recovered, he started railing against the African countries who were locking their borders.

liberal_mama

(1,495 posts)
41. You should definitely call the vets office to inform them! Your cousin is evil to go out when she
Fri Nov 12, 2021, 02:33 AM
Nov 2021

knows she is infected with a deadly virus.

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