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Peacetrain

(24,293 posts)
Tue May 3, 2022, 06:49 AM May 2022

Will a woman having an ectopic pregnancy in the US have to die ??

Since there is no provision for the health of women... in the US over 100,000 pregnancies a year are ectopic.. and it is the leading cause of maternal death.. years ago we almost lost a dear friend to ectopic pregnancy and only through medical intervention was her life saved. There is no running for the nearest state that can provide an abortion.. it was a matter of hours for her.. I

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ectopic-pregnancy/symptoms-causes/syc-20372088

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Will a woman having an ectopic pregnancy in the US have to die ?? (Original Post) Peacetrain May 2022 OP
Seems like it. Unless the medical profession can rename and recodify the condition. nt Samrob May 2022 #1
It was that close, just hours if they not intervened.. she would have been dead Peacetrain May 2022 #3
Do you think guys like Governor Abbott or DeSantis care if a woman dies? Walleye May 2022 #2
I am floored .. just floored Peacetrain May 2022 #4
What pisses me off atreides1 May 2022 #24
Yes I can't begin to understand the women on that side Walleye May 2022 #25
Seems like it could come to that. Laffy Kat May 2022 #5
Oh Lord... I am just in tears right now.. we will lose women.. girls.. Peacetrain May 2022 #6
Yes, back to the Dark Ages. Laffy Kat May 2022 #36
No. speak easy May 2022 #43
Some do, and some do not. DemocraticPatriot May 2022 #47
Which ones do not? speak easy May 2022 #49
I may be thinking of bills which are still in the legislative process across various states, DemocraticPatriot May 2022 #55
Well, sort of Farmer-Rick May 2022 #51
An ectopic pregnancy will kill the mother if untreated - that's certain. speak easy May 2022 #59
Yeah, sure Farmer-Rick May 2022 #77
Prove that you were raped or a victim of incest? speak easy May 2022 #79
Yeah, I kind of worded it badly Farmer-Rick May 2022 #80
Does a republikan care? lastlib May 2022 #69
In some of the red states . . .. Lovie777 May 2022 #7
Not only will there be dead women vlyons May 2022 #8
can you just imagine the tales that will spring up around that? mopinko May 2022 #57
Next up will be a law to jail multigraincracker May 2022 #9
Lawmakers will say... ProudMNDemocrat May 2022 #19
That's how they did it in Romania jmowreader May 2022 #81
Something for Congress to revisit bucolic_frolic May 2022 #10
In some states HAB911 May 2022 #11
Before the last national election, I read an article about a candidate explaining why he was pro-choice Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #12
Less voters over time. That is how Republicans view women. ProudMNDemocrat May 2022 #21
Sen. Gary Peters (D-MI) Pinback May 2022 #28
Thank you so much! Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #72
You're welcome. Pinback May 2022 #74
It's extremely important and what this decision is all about Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #75
Yeah, that's how it was before Roe Farmer-Rick May 2022 #56
Well said and I couldn't agree more Rhiannon12866 May 2022 #73
Yes, some will. Time will not be on their side. Also watch for Iris May 2022 #13
And since this causes infection to the mother, the mother Karma13612 May 2022 #16
My mother told me a friend of hers had to do that. It sounds so barbaric and Maraya1969 May 2022 #23
That happened to my mother in law BonnieJW May 2022 #38
Many years ago, in CA, a friend was pregnant. Close to her duue date, it was niyad May 2022 #39
Manslaughter NowISeetheLight May 2022 #14
+1, uponit7771 May 2022 #52
It will depend on each state's law, I suppose 867-5309. May 2022 #15
Have you read the most-recently passed laws? niyad May 2022 #40
Those provisions are purposely vague Farmer-Rick May 2022 #58
I would like Prosecutor to have the guts to prosecute Legislators avebury May 2022 #17
Have to? No. But they will because that's the choice the anti-women crowd has made. Solly Mack May 2022 #18
My beloved friend Stacey died in agonizing pain from an ectopic pregnancy. Mister Ed May 2022 #20
I am so so sorry.. I am so stunned by all of this Peacetrain May 2022 #29
Even for the new laws that allow for health of women, they are vaguely written. Doctor risks Demovictory9 May 2022 #22
Can Congress pass a law protecting women in these situations? IronLionZion May 2022 #26
Congress can pass a law making abortion legal again. hedda_foil May 2022 #63
An ectopic pregnancy is a death sentence and the fools deciding what women should do with Vinca May 2022 #27
That'a highly unlikely. The goal is births and an ectopic Phoenix61 May 2022 #30
Really? You find it unlikely? Here's from last month. Scrivener7 May 2022 #37
That's not what it says. The problem is it is very poorly Phoenix61 May 2022 #42
Oh, sure. Let's take a crap-written bill, one that in reality prohibits access to Scrivener7 May 2022 #46
Wow! You have no idea if I have a uterus or not. Phoenix61 May 2022 #60
Too freaking funny. There is not a thing in that post that could remotely be construed as Scrivener7 May 2022 #61
Pro-life my as_. This is about power and control. Evolve Dammit May 2022 #31
Yes, because the life of a woman is worth less than that of a sinkingfeeling May 2022 #32
We're just women Bettie May 2022 #33
In simple response to your query, the answer now is YES. Many, many women and girls will die now. Texin May 2022 #34
Yes. It is specifically and intentionally written INTO some laws. Sit with that for a moment. Scrivener7 May 2022 #35
No. speak easy May 2022 #41
All you women are just going to have to accept the fact that you are merely... ECL213 May 2022 #44
Yes, Ken Blackwell, ex mayor of Cincinnati said exactly that. Boomerproud May 2022 #62
My daughter had that type of pregnancy Tree Lady May 2022 #45
Oh, absolutely. Ligyron May 2022 #48
Welcome to Afghanistan world wide wally May 2022 #50
So what about the reservations? greymattermom May 2022 #53
For years, I've been saying that no Dr. T May 2022 #54
Yes - BTDT JustAnotherGen May 2022 #64
wtf! That is just madness. Celerity May 2022 #65
Was going in for a salpingectomy JustAnotherGen May 2022 #66
How long ago was that? renate May 2022 #67
Not permission - JustAnotherGen May 2022 #68
The GOP deliberately let a million people die of covid. Irish_Dem May 2022 #70
There are genetic defects dangerous to the mother spinbaby May 2022 #71
doesn't that violate DO NO HARM Skittles May 2022 #76
Nope. Multiple women will die. GoCubsGo May 2022 #78

Peacetrain

(24,293 posts)
3. It was that close, just hours if they not intervened.. she would have been dead
Tue May 3, 2022, 06:58 AM
May 2022

Not a thought for women... I was listening to MJ this morning also, and caught the statistic of 4000 women in emergency rooms per week in Chicago pre Roe for botched abortions.. Its crazy what is not completely thought out here..

Walleye

(45,542 posts)
2. Do you think guys like Governor Abbott or DeSantis care if a woman dies?
Tue May 3, 2022, 06:54 AM
May 2022

What pisses me off is, all of a sudden men are experts on this, when usually you just mention menstruation and they run for the hills

atreides1

(16,799 posts)
24. What pisses me off
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:56 AM
May 2022

Is that people keep forgetting that it's other women who also support this!

Any woman who has spoken up against this right are just as bad if not worse then DeSantis or Abbott...it's time to bring those bottom feeders out in the open light...

Laffy Kat

(16,990 posts)
36. Yes, back to the Dark Ages.
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:01 AM
May 2022

And just like before, it will be poor women and girls who will be maimed or killed. This is a nightmare.

I couldn't sleep either. I'm about to try again.

Hugs to you. We are in this together.


speak easy

(12,598 posts)
43. No.
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:16 AM
May 2022

The most restrictive 'trigger' anti-abortion legislation have life of the mother / medical emergencies exceptions.

 

DemocraticPatriot

(5,410 posts)
55. I may be thinking of bills which are still in the legislative process across various states,
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:58 AM
May 2022

rather than laws which have already been passed. I can't recall which specific states, but over and over I have read about bills being legislated currently to restrict abortion which make no exceptions for rape, incest or the life of the mother.

These used to be common exception supported by even Republicans, but they have become more and more extreme.

Farmer-Rick

(12,787 posts)
51. Well, sort of
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:49 AM
May 2022

If it will kill the mother AND you can get a doctor to say that. But here's the thing. Back before Roe v Wade, you couldn't find doctors to put their careers on the line and make that determination.

So, do you have to have 100% certainty or 98% or 60% or 49% that the mother or fetus is going to die? And if you make the wrong call, frequently malpractice insurance wouldn't cover the doctor for abortions even medically necessary ones.

Now, rich people just paid doctors under the table or flew off to Europe to get their much needed abortions. But it was a huge struggle to get a doctor to admit you needed an abortion to save your life if you were middle class. So much so that a lot of women never got their medically necessary abortion because the pregnancy advanced too quickly and oops they died.

Then there are the horror stories of women who had to carry their dead fetuses to birth.... doctors and mother knowing the fetus had died.... because no doctor would admit 100% that the fetus was dead.

Then there are absolutely no exceptions for rape or incest. And many a woman killed herself in those cases. But could you get a doctor to go on record and say the woman was 100% going to kill herself over the horror of carrying their rapist's baby? Not if you were Middle Class.

So maybe the law has some weasel words about death of the mother but in practice no one really cared.

speak easy

(12,598 posts)
59. An ectopic pregnancy will kill the mother if untreated - that's certain.
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:46 AM
May 2022

That's all I was replying about.

Rape and Incest ? Girls/Women have to step forward and prove that ? No way - women must have control over their bodies without interference. there are no alternatives at all .

speak easy

(12,598 posts)
79. Prove that you were raped or a victim of incest?
Wed May 4, 2022, 10:34 AM
May 2022

Last edited Wed May 4, 2022, 11:08 AM - Edit history (1)

What sort of exception is that? I am agreeing with you too.

Lovie777

(23,779 posts)
7. In some of the red states . . ..
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:10 AM
May 2022

a women will die in excruciating pain from "ectopic pregnancy" and probably get blamed for the death of the fetus.

vlyons

(10,252 posts)
8. Not only will there be dead women
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:11 AM
May 2022

there will also be dead newborns, smothered and thrown in the trash, buried in the garden or woods, abandoned in the back pews of churches.

mopinko

(73,974 posts)
57. can you just imagine the tales that will spring up around that?
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:14 AM
May 2022

what modern day fairy stories are we about to hear?

multigraincracker

(38,067 posts)
9. Next up will be a law to jail
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:13 AM
May 2022

those that have a miscarriage. It's always the girls fault. They are evil bastards.

ProudMNDemocrat

(20,984 posts)
19. Lawmakers will say...
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:42 AM
May 2022

That miscarriages are "intent to having an abortion." Thus there will be criminal charges against women who suffer miscarriages despite the evidence that says otherwise. Women miscarry every day.

jmowreader

(53,410 posts)
81. That's how they did it in Romania
Wed May 4, 2022, 11:50 AM
May 2022

Under Ceaucescu every pregnancy that didn’t end in a live birth was an illegal abortion.

bucolic_frolic

(55,887 posts)
10. Something for Congress to revisit
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:13 AM
May 2022

May give Democrats an opening on the whole issue. Hard to explain a death sentence when a medical procedure can save lives.

Rhiannon12866

(259,032 posts)
12. Before the last national election, I read an article about a candidate explaining why he was pro-choice
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:27 AM
May 2022

I don't remember the name of the candidate, and I don't think he even mentioned his party - but he shared a devastating personal experience. He said that years before his wife was pregnant with a much-wanted child. But something went wrong and the fetus was no longer viable. What needed to happen was that the fetus had to be removed - since his wife's life was at stake. But no doctor or hospital would agree to the procedure since it was considered an abortion - which was illegal. Even though his wife would certainly die unless the procedure was done ASAP. Time went on and she became deathly ill - and it wasn't until the last minute that they finally found someone they knew to agree to the procedure - it was a very close call.

And if this becomes law in this country, a lot more women could find themselves in this terrible position. How many women will die because saving the mother's life has become illegal??

ProudMNDemocrat

(20,984 posts)
21. Less voters over time. That is how Republicans view women.
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:46 AM
May 2022

Especially if they do not vote for them.

Pinback

(13,662 posts)
28. Sen. Gary Peters (D-MI)
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:12 AM
May 2022

Piece in Elle magazine:
https://www.elle.com/culture/career-politics/a34339956/senator-gary-peters-abortion/

Very moving, gut-wrenching story. If they hadn't had a friend in hospital administration, his wife almost certainly would have died, or at the very least lost her uterus.

Peters, who comes across as a low-key midwestern dad (which he is), has been a strong champion for women's rights for many years.

Rhiannon12866

(259,032 posts)
72. Thank you so much!
Tue May 3, 2022, 05:52 PM
May 2022

I could not remember where I read this or who was the author, but obviously his personal story was affecting enough that it stuck with me. Thanks so much for letting me know who it was and for the link!

Pinback

(13,662 posts)
74. You're welcome.
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:08 PM
May 2022

His & his wife’s story is harrowing (though fortunately with a positive outcome — finally). Every “pro-life” American needs to hear this story and explain why they want to condemn women like this to death.

Rhiannon12866

(259,032 posts)
75. It's extremely important and what this decision is all about
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:13 PM
May 2022

These decisions are very personal and devastating - that's what needs to be brought to light - and lives can hang in the balance which is what needs to be emphasized, if these decision makers care.

Farmer-Rick

(12,787 posts)
56. Yeah, that's how it was before Roe
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:07 AM
May 2022

Yeah, they wrote weasel words about life of the mother into forced birth laws but they amounted to nothing.

Because doctors refused to go on record saying the woman would die without an abortion. And I think there was something about malpractice insurance not covering medically necessary abortions. Not sure about that but I remember that's how some doctors excused the death of the mothers.

Yeah, it was a horror show for middle class and poor women back then. It will be again.

Can you imagine carrying your rapist fetus to term? A lot of women killed themselves over things like that. I think there even was a serial rapist who brutalized his victims horribly. When they finally caught him he said he was trying to have a baby from his victims. Because you know, they were forced to carry his spawn.

A horror show is coming.

Rhiannon12866

(259,032 posts)
73. Well said and I couldn't agree more
Tue May 3, 2022, 05:55 PM
May 2022

This is a return to a national nightmare and women will suffer and die - again.

Iris

(16,890 posts)
13. Yes, some will. Time will not be on their side. Also watch for
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:30 AM
May 2022

women being forced to carry deceased fetuses to term and delivering a stillborn child.

Karma13612

(5,018 posts)
16. And since this causes infection to the mother, the mother
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:35 AM
May 2022

Won’t survive. Peritonitis, sepsis, very gruesome stuff.

I’m absolutely disgusted and gutted by this.

Maraya1969

(23,582 posts)
23. My mother told me a friend of hers had to do that. It sounds so barbaric and
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:52 AM
May 2022

dangerous to the woman!

BonnieJW

(3,140 posts)
38. That happened to my mother in law
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:11 AM
May 2022

Baby died in 8th month. Had to carry a dead baby for 6 weeks

niyad

(134,080 posts)
39. Many years ago, in CA, a friend was pregnant. Close to her duue date, it was
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:13 AM
May 2022

discovered that there was no fetal heartbeat. She was forced to go through 36 hours of agonizing labor to deliver what they already knew was a dead fetus. She was never quite the same after that. That medical staff was very lucky that I was not there with her.

NowISeetheLight

(4,002 posts)
14. Manslaughter
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:30 AM
May 2022

As far as I’m concerned if someone else causes the death of another it’s manslaughter. These politicians may have civil protections from lawsuits while in office but they sure don’t have criminal protections.

 

867-5309.

(1,189 posts)
15. It will depend on each state's law, I suppose
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:34 AM
May 2022

and hopefully there's at least a provision for the health of the mother.

Farmer-Rick

(12,787 posts)
58. Those provisions are purposely vague
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:17 AM
May 2022

And very, very restrictive. So much so that it was rare to find doctors to agree to abortions even with clear evidence that the woman was going to die. Because it would hurt the doctors careers.

So, don't count on any laws to protect women from a fetus killing her. They never worked before Roe.

avebury

(11,202 posts)
17. I would like Prosecutor to have the guts to prosecute Legislators
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:36 AM
May 2022

who voted on bills like that for negligent homicide start to die as a result of these bills. Also practicing medicine without a license.

Solly Mack

(97,278 posts)
18. Have to? No. But they will because that's the choice the anti-women crowd has made.
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:39 AM
May 2022

They don't care if women die.

Women don't get a choice but everybody else is getting the choice to murder us.

Because denying a woman with an ectopic pregnancy an abortion is pre-meditated murder.

Mister Ed

(6,993 posts)
20. My beloved friend Stacey died in agonizing pain from an ectopic pregnancy.
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:45 AM
May 2022

A few years later, my friend Louise - the wife of my best friend - was spared the same fate through surgical intervention.

The right-wing Taliban would sentence Louise to suffer and die the way Stacey did.


Peacetrain

(24,293 posts)
29. I am so so sorry.. I am so stunned by all of this
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:12 AM
May 2022

I just can't answer everyone's posts.. It starts the tears up.. but I am so sorry for the loss of Stacey I had to respond.. I know how my friend suffered and she also got the medical intervention that saved her life..and if Minnesota had the no abortion status at that time, she would not have been able to get to another state that had the procedures to save her life.. just chilling to think about this .. and I looked up the numbers this morning.. 100,000 in the US alone..

Demovictory9

(37,113 posts)
22. Even for the new laws that allow for health of women, they are vaguely written. Doctor risks
Tue May 3, 2022, 07:47 AM
May 2022

jail or losing license, so many women will die

IronLionZion

(51,566 posts)
26. Can Congress pass a law protecting women in these situations?
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:07 AM
May 2022

I feel like we should have enough votes to get that passed.

Vinca

(54,352 posts)
27. An ectopic pregnancy is a death sentence and the fools deciding what women should do with
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:09 AM
May 2022

their own bodies don't even understand what it is. If "all life is precious" as they so often tell us, why kill two at the same time? Other women who learn they are carrying nonviable fetuses will be forced to be human coffins until their 9 month penalty is up. Fuck these no nothing busybodies who insist on policing uteri.

Phoenix61

(18,892 posts)
30. That'a highly unlikely. The goal is births and an ectopic
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:12 AM
May 2022

pregnancy will never end in a birth.

Scrivener7

(60,081 posts)
37. Really? You find it unlikely? Here's from last month.
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:05 AM
May 2022
https://www.insider.com/missouri-seeks-to-ban-abortion-for-ectopic-pregnancies-new-bill-2022-3

Missouri Rep. Brian Seitz proposed a bill to severely restrict abortion access.

The bill would ban abortion after 10 weeks and make it a crime to terminate ectopic pregnancies.


People need to get a grip on what the ACTUAL goal is here. When they tell you who they are, believe them.

Scrivener7

(60,081 posts)
46. Oh, sure. Let's take a crap-written bill, one that in reality prohibits access to
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:31 AM
May 2022

abortion for an ectopic pregnancy, and take the writer's word for the notion that he didn't really mean that.

And what he "really" meant was just to "clean things up" so that abortion was even more difficult to access in a state that had already taken away a woman's right to healthcare.

Here's another fun one from 2019 on this "unlikely" eventuality:

https://www.thecut.com › 2019 › 12 › ectopic-pregnancies-have-nothing-to-do-with-abortion.html
New Law Would Force Abortion Doctors to Do the Impossible
A 700-page anti-abortion bill proposed by Ohio state legislators includes a strange side provision that would require doctors to "reimplant an ectopic pregnancy" into a woman's uterus or face charges of "abortion murder.". But ectopic pregnancy is the term for a pregnancy that grows outside the uterus and thus will never produce a baby


I'm sure you will come back with a "it'll never happen" story, but stop and think for a moment, and try to think as if you had a uterus. THEY ARE TRYING TO MAKE LAWS ABOUT THIS. Why are the words "ectopic pregnancy" even in lawmakers mouths? Where the fuck do they get off even talking about this? If you had a growth in a testicle that was going to inevitably kill you, would you be sanguine if moronic lawmakers were proposing laws that would prohibit treatment?

Phoenix61

(18,892 posts)
60. Wow! You have no idea if I have a uterus or not.
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:51 AM
May 2022

I don’t have discussions with folks who resort to insults.

Scrivener7

(60,081 posts)
61. Too freaking funny. There is not a thing in that post that could remotely be construed as
Tue May 3, 2022, 10:55 AM
May 2022

an insult. But you seem to have honed in on the statement "try and think as if you had a uterus." And you seem to think that is an insult to you.

Can't make this shit up.

sinkingfeeling

(58,068 posts)
32. Yes, because the life of a woman is worth less than that of a
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:25 AM
May 2022

clump.of cells to the RW 'religious'.

Bettie

(19,892 posts)
33. We're just women
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:27 AM
May 2022

so, they don't care. Remember, their standard is "when the Constitution was written"...so, we really don't have any rights according to the right wing clowns on the court.

On another note, Clarence Thomas might be surprised at how few rights his co-workers think HE should have.

Texin

(2,869 posts)
34. In simple response to your query, the answer now is YES. Many, many women and girls will die now.
Tue May 3, 2022, 08:57 AM
May 2022

Scrivener7

(60,081 posts)
35. Yes. It is specifically and intentionally written INTO some laws. Sit with that for a moment.
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:01 AM
May 2022

If you have the misfortune to have that medical condition, though it can easily be remedied, you MUST die.

Let it instruct all us women on what our status is in this "home of the free."

We ain't.

speak easy

(12,598 posts)
41. No.
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:15 AM
May 2022

The most restrictive 'trigger' anti-abortion legislation have life of the mother / medical emergencies exceptions.

ECL213

(459 posts)
44. All you women are just going to have to accept the fact that you are merely...
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:19 AM
May 2022

life support systems for a uterus. So sayeth the Lord.

Boomerproud

(9,369 posts)
62. Yes, Ken Blackwell, ex mayor of Cincinnati said exactly that.
Tue May 3, 2022, 11:01 AM
May 2022

So very sad, but it's God's Will.

Tree Lady

(13,385 posts)
45. My daughter had that type of pregnancy
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:26 AM
May 2022

And almost died from it years ago, the doctors saved her life by getting the fetus out. She didn't even know she was pregnant just got real sick and passed out.

She lives in CA so would have been taken care of.

I can't believe they won't have exception for this.

greymattermom

(5,808 posts)
53. So what about the reservations?
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:51 AM
May 2022

They allow gambling and many have hotels already. Can abortions be done there?

Dr. T

(722 posts)
54. For years, I've been saying that no
Tue May 3, 2022, 09:53 AM
May 2022

man has any say in this. As a man, I'm entitled to an opinion. But men should leave the legislating to the people most affected by pregnancy and that would be women. I've also said that if men could get pregnant, there would be an abortion clinic on every street corner. I truly do believe that. I'm guessing that The Former Guy has an abortion doctor on his quick response staff.

JustAnotherGen

(38,117 posts)
66. Was going in for a salpingectomy
Tue May 3, 2022, 01:19 PM
May 2022

After a prior miscarriage - and in that time we had an oops.

I was only 3 weeks in and the pee test at the surgery center didn't show it.

Imagine my poor Giovanni having to tell me that when I came out of it.

There are only two men I have ever trusted my life with - My dad and my husband. Liberal Stalwarts both - but I always knew my dad would pick me - and so did my husband.

Alito? Not so much - he's against us.

renate

(13,776 posts)
67. How long ago was that?
Tue May 3, 2022, 02:12 PM
May 2022

Even after Roe v Wade, you had to get permission? That is horrifying.

At least your husband was willing. I'm just sick thinking of all the women who will be coerced into pregnancies (or just have an unplanned pregnancy with someone they don't want to stay with) and will be trapped forever in a relationship with someone they don't love or trust--the alternative, for the ones able to get away, being raising an unwanted child on their own. Marital rape will become a foolproof weapon for men to use to control women once abortion isn't even a remote option.

It's so easy for people who are financially or emotionally able to raise children to make life-altering decisions for people whose lives will be kneecapped by having an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. I cannot believe how quickly this country has spiraled into dystopia.

JustAnotherGen

(38,117 posts)
68. Not permission -
Tue May 3, 2022, 02:19 PM
May 2022

2013 - I have a living will since about 2 months after I got married in 2012.

It wasn't his 'permission' - it was him having to sign off on that by my Gynecologist. I'm sure somewhere he has the medical bill - he saves everything. It clearly references abortion as a line item. He was told emergency abortion.

It's funny - he waited to become a citizen until Biden was in office. Granted we live in NJ - but at least we have one more white male (from Italy) on our side.

His entire focus on this has been very Calabrese centric - the wife is everything. Don't put words in a woman's marriage. What happens between spouses isn't some Senator for life's business.

It was a life saving decision - what kind of monster would a woman be married to that would force her into her fallopian tube bursting? Like - I think Alito, Kavanaugh, Gorsuch, Roberts, and Thomas are sick sob's who would punish their wives for a bad attachment. Like I'm trying to get that to sink in.

Irish_Dem

(82,423 posts)
70. The GOP deliberately let a million people die of covid.
Tue May 3, 2022, 03:03 PM
May 2022

Why would a hundred thousand women be a problem?

spinbaby

(15,405 posts)
71. There are genetic defects dangerous to the mother
Tue May 3, 2022, 05:03 PM
May 2022

I know a woman whose baby had triploidy—three sets of chromosomes instead of two. This defect is considered to be incompatible with life and often causes dangerous toxemia in the mother. She had to wait for the fetus to die before insurance would pay for the d&e.

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