I'm gonna have a lot fewer "friends" after today.

[momta]

I have NEVER been political on facebook. Most of my friends from high school are hard core right wingers (I grew up in Louie Gohmert's district), and I never had the motivation or will to start arguing with them on facebook. Honestly I rarely even read facebook anymore.

But today I checked in for some reason, and just lost it. So far I've done angry rants against

1. The gun shit
2. The "pro-life" shit, and
3. The "price of gas" shit

I might set a record for the most "unfriends" today. Think I'll go get some champagne.

[delisen]

1. A Giant Step Forward it is. Every happiness to you.

[LoisB]

2. Congratulations!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. Cheers! Ya done good, my dear momta!

[blm]

4. 💐 🥂 💐

[Freddie]

5. Me too

I don’t GAF anymore. And I’m retired so I don’t have to worry about an employer seeing what I post. I’ve invited people to unfriend me if they’re celebrating this BS.

[NorCalBlue]

59. My First DU Post

Hi Freddie,

I’ve never posted here before. This is my first. I retire soon after 35 yrs banging away at a male-dominated career. A very public one. I have so many “friends” on FB from my career. Some are real friends. Some are guys I worked with 30 plus years ago. Most are amazing. Some I keep just so I can stay aware of what the most fringiest of the right wingers are saying. I can count on one hand the (retired) serial posters who are so far down the GOP conspiracy rabbit hole that it takes a lot energy to see their memes clog my feed every day, but I do it to remind myself of who and what is out there.

I am counting the days to retirement. I can’t wait to be able to breathe. To post. Your comment spoke to me because it is exactly how I feel. At 60 I have been this career-being longer than my my non-work self. These last few years, and now these last few days, make me feel like a horse in the gate at a race track. I can’t wait to feel like you, Freddie.

[pandr32]

60. Welcome to DU

This community can help by being a safe haven and a counterweight to all the mind-stealing nonsense that has taken hold of so many people.

[momta]

63. Yes, Welcome!

I started my FB account because I thought it might help with a business I started. It didn't. But it did allow me to see what people are like out there--people I used to know well but wouldn't want to have dinner with these days.

I won't unfriend anyone. I don't really care what they say to or about me. But if I can give any of them something to think about it will be worth it.

Happy retirement!

[llashram]

64. I felt the same

toward the end of a very nerve-wracking career. It was a relief to leave the racist sexists behind. Been a decade-plus and loving it.

[Freddie]

67. Thank you

Yeah I keep a couple RWNJ “friends” just to see what they’re up to, but I just invited all anti-choicers to unfriend me so they probably did. No loss.
Welcome to DU. This is truly a safe place for us. Been my source of sanity for the past 10 years and the first place I go to for news.

[calimary]

84. Welcome to DU, NorCalBlue!

Wonderful first post! Congratulations! We’re mighty glad to have you with us. And we NEED to have you with us. You help make us stronger and more resolved.

[Beachnutt]

6. I grew up in gohmert district also,

I moved and don't do facebook, also cut ties with many many so called friends and family.

[momta]

7. I went to Longview High School.

Class of '82. You?

[Beachnutt]

56. John Tyler 79

[MyOwnPeace]

8. Well, for one thing.....

I ONLY use FB to see what special friends are up to - I have NO interest in posting ANYTHING or RESPONDING to anything.

As for you - I'd be most proud if you would consider me a friend - if you're posting here - you're a GREAT friend!

[magicarpet]

9. Congratulations,... It is liberating......

[MLAA]

10. Good for you.

[questionseverything]

11. This is why we don't do fb

Being self employed we can’t be open about our politics

[momta]

13. My guitar teacher has the same problem

No judging here. But since I can, I'm gonna.

[Trueblue Texan]

75. Can't be open about politics in many, if not most jobs, either...

...but I may be getting ready to retire sooner than planned. What better time to knock the crap out of lies and right wing spin?

[gab13by13]

12. I live among the Magats in Pa.

I stopped arguing with them long ago. There were 3 or 4 of us who posted on a local Magat web site, they gave me the boot just for saying that Trump is a Putin puppet.

It does no good to argue with them.

I had an opening when Oz became the Magat nominee for Senator in Pa. I asked a racist, bigoted, Trump lover who he was going to vote for, the Muslim from New Jersey or the Harley rider. He said he's not voting for Fetterman so I asked why not, because he is a Democrat.

[momta]

14. Oh, I'm quite aware that it will do no good.

I'm just tired of sitting around quietly letting these blow-hards believe that I agree with them.

[PXR-5]

15. Sadly I no longer have any friends except

a few old ones I left behind in my old state.

We have decided to move back home to our blue state and can't wait.

Here in central Union county NC it's a sea of righties, I have to keep my mouth shut.

I don't do any social media except DU and an Astronomy forum.

[Prof. Toru Tanaka]

18. The Astronomy forum sounds pretty cool!

Hopefully, politics is non-existent there.

[PXR-5]

26. No politics allowed...

https://theskysearchers.com/app.php/portal

By far the friendliest place on the internet.

[Prof. Toru Tanaka]

77. Checked out the home page and

it looks very interesting. I will look into it later today after dinner.

[mnhtnbb]

34. I grew up in Jersey

and lived in California for 23 years, but have been in the Triangle area of NC since 2000. Chapel Hill, for 17 years, Raleigh for 3 years, and now Durham.

Have you thought about relocating in NC? We need to turn NC blue. Lots of progressive folks all over Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill.

[Prof. Toru Tanaka]

16. When they bitch about the price of gas,

tell them to exchange their gas hog truck/SUV for a Prius or an electric vehicle. Their heads will explode!

The same people who will spend hundreds or thousands on unnecessary weapons and ammo will cry the blues over paying a few more dollars per tank for gasoline.

[phylny]

54. Heh.

“You could always sell some of your guns!”

😊

[Prof. Toru Tanaka]

78. Wow, that would send them through the roof!

[LAS14]

17. I'm toasting you. (Unfortunately, not with champagne) nt

[dhol82]

19. I have curated my FB list to allow only left wing attendant friends

I have no problems. If any bizarro people find their way to my feed they are advised immediately about my positions.
It makes like so much easier.

[Paladin]

20. Outstanding work. Congrats.

Losing friends is a lot more indicative of the sorry state of this country, rather than any personal failures on your part. Keep moving forward.

[Joinfortmill]

21. You go!

[Wounded Bear]

22. Sounds like you're draining some toxins from your life...

Life's too short to tolerate bullshit.

[hay rick]

23. Believe people when they tell you who they are.

It can be a bitter pill but if you need to identify and remove the assholes in your life, Facebook is a good place to start.

[momta]

24. Another one bites the dust!

She called me delusional and unfriended me.

[orleans]

27. yeah--well, fuck her

lol

i unfriended or blocked or hid posts from all republicon "friends" on fb a number of years ago

anyone who can see my posts is a dem

two things (offhand) lead up to that. 1. i realized it is pointless/useless trying to argue and change someone's crap ass opinion as they worship republicons

and 2. i wouldn't be "friends" with those people in real life, wouldn't call them, talk to them on the phone, or hang out with them. sure -- we knew each other when we were kids or even high school or college but we're different and ... fuck them! lol

[momta]

29. Fuck her, indeed.

What's interesting to me about this whole thing is that all the people who I believed in high school were pretty cool ARE actually pretty cool. It's the "popular" crowd from back then who spew their vile, hateful crap on facebook, and just assume everyone agrees with them.

That said, I'm not unfriending anyone. I don't spend enough time on fb to worry about them. If they don't like what I say, they can unfriend me.

[Woodswalker]

25. Yes I cleared house

On my FB account after Mango Mussolini was elected in 2016. Haven't looked back. Don't go on FB much anymore either

[SuperCoder]

28. Better to have no friends

Than have pro-life cult friends.

100 percent.

[Handler]

30. I have had to cull my friends list.

It was a difficult thing to do but, I figure life is too short to deal with people with who I am in constant conflict with.

[Hoosier]

31. been there

Tell the ones you care about to "fuck off"
Tell the ones you care about that they're not even worth your "fuck off"

[mnhtnbb]

32. I dropped a significant number of FB

friends during the 2016 election. Anybody who supported Trump was gone, especially the ones who were proud to be deplorables and then told people devastated by Trump's win, that it wouldn't be so bad.

I figured I didn't need racist, bigoted, fans of a con man who was totally unqualified to be POTUS in my life. No regrets.

[DinahMoeHum]

33. Now you know why I've NEVER had an account with FB. . .

. . .or Twitter.

I don't swim in dirty water.

[rebe303]

35. Don't let them get you down

They're just "morans"

[Better Days Ahoy]

36. Fuck them sideways

I've dropped a bunch of Facebook friends whose love of TFG and various conspiracy talking points were just too much. They're not worth my time, friendship or loyalty if those are their beliefs. Those folks on your FB page are underevolved fuckwits from high school. That describes a good 50% of my graduating class from good ol' Rumson-Fair Haven Regional HS in Rumson, NJ. No surprise that they're supporting a complete asshole and participating in tRump flotillas up and down the Navesink. Fuckwads all.

[plimsoll]

37. So I'll offer a pro tip for the champagne.

There were 2 uncorking related accidents at the Giro d'Italia. In both cases the victim held their head over the bottle while pulling the cork. Always point the cork away from your face.

You need to celebrate your freedom safely.

[momta]

48. Most helpful advice...

I've gotten in a long time. Thanks plimsoll.

[SunSeeker]

38. On the day they overturned Roe, I went off on a long time friend who voted for Trump in 2016.

Nobody should be let off the hook for that shit.

[griffi94]

39. You're from East Texas

You're stronger than I was. I bolted the first chance I saw.
Hang in.

[lees1975]

40. Doing that does wonders for your disposition

It clears out your social media account of unwanted, nagging, ignorant stuff.

They have to read it first before they unfriend you.

And if you grew up in Deep East Texas, then just imagining the reactions from those who read your stuff would be enough entertainment to last for a week. I spent enough time there myself to know.

[Evolve Dammit]

41. I've always believed in speaking my truth and calling out BS. Cheers!

[KS Toronado]

42. Have some champagne on me.

[TigressDem]

43. Yeah. That sucks.

Am trying to find a way to deprogram my adult son.

He thinks his vote was "stolen" because somehow he got a link to a website that supposedly shows he didn't vote in 2020 when he checked his registration before hand, got to the polls, voted and was supposedly good.

THEN he says he checked online and it showed he had NOT voted and was no longer registered.

I've sent an email to the SEC of State to see where this link is, if it exists, because I can't find it.

OF COURSE that tells my son it has to be a cover up.

[lunatica]

44. I support you all the way

Now you can ghost them too!

[flying_wahini]

45. You know I used to feel the same way, but now I don't care what they think.

My tongue biting days are behind me. I say how I feel and back it up with facts.

Let them steam.

[momta]

50. Oh, I don't actually care what they think.

I just don't want them to think I agree with them.

[wryter2000]

46. You have better friends here

[eppur_se_muova]

47. One needs to re-count one's friends occasionally. It's just part of life. nt

[SleeplessinSoCal]

49. I need a quick response to the person telling me the Prius isn't good for the environment.

I resorted to it is good for dealing with gas gougers. This nice mechanic - who couldn't figure out how to turn the air off - clearly loves the internal combustion engine. But he is likely listening to garbage over the public airwaves.

[Dark n Stormy Knight]

51. Congrats. I may be wrong, but I can't help thinking

that Dems let RWBS go unchallenged far too frequently.

[IngridsLittleAngel]

52. I haven't been on Assbook in over 9 months now

I finally had enough of it myself. The bitching about the efforts to control COVID. The "stop the steal" shit. All of it. The fact that my dad was constantly winding up in Facebook Jail for pushing back on reich-wing insanity while RWNJ's were allowed to post bigotry and threats made it easier to say "Fuck this. Fuck Zuckerberg. Fuck Assbook."

I have had moments where I've considered delurking long enough to make one last post. Basically saying that anyone who voted for Drumpf in 2020 (I'll forgive the ones who voted for him in 2016 and realized they screwed up) or plans to vote Republiqan in the midterms can just unfriend me. That I don't want to hear their whining, their explanations, their excuses... I don't want any male-splaining or white-splaining or straight-splaining or cis-splaining. I don't fucking care what their reasons are. It's just this simple: Anyone continuing to vote for hatred and bigotry and destruction of human rights is no friend of mine. Especially when they can vote for the QOP's Nazi bullshit in 2022 after what they've spent six months doing to LGBTQ's.

I'm sorry. Anyone who votes for my criminalization, harassment, abuse and death is not my friend. Fuck their gas prices and fuck their guns and fuck their fee-fees.

Honestly... If I post that and half of them unfriend me? Fine. See ya. The only thing that's gonna piss me off is attempts to 'splain at me.

[leftyladyfrommo]

53. I am also putting stuff out I never used to.

The Roe vs Wade and SC shit judt put me over the edge.

[Dr. T]

55. What is this

Facebook you speak of? I treat social media like the cancer that it is.

[The Bopper]

57. Fug em

I’m very outspoken about the wannabe Nazis. I spend very little time worrying whether I piss someone off. Surprisingly I’ve had very few unfriend me as I don’t accept a lot of the wing nut type anyway. Good news is I’ve converted several “friends n the fence “ types, especially family in right wing areas. I’m kinda proud to see them raising hell in South Carolina, Florida and Arizona these days.

[momta]

58. That's kinda my new approach

If they want to unfriend me that's fine. I'm just not gonna keep my mouth shut anymore. These people are not my "friends," just some idiots I got thrown together with over fifty years ago. Nothing they say about me is going to hurt my feelings, and at best I might give them something to think about.

[SouthBayDem]

61. I beg to differ a bit

How many people are misinformed by their own choice/confirmation bias as opposed to not being exposed to the other side of the story?

Sure it's ok to disassociate with people if you find their politics repugnant. But guess where they'll get their news from if they don't hear it from responsible people? Irresponsible ones like AM radio ranters and Facebook pages that share reality disconnected agitprop.

[momta]

62. Not sure what you're differing about

I'm not unfriending anyone. They're unfriending me. I've just decided to not keep my mouth shut anymore, and to not allow them to think I agree with them because I never push back. Now I'm pushing back.

[SouthBayDem]

76. I had the impression you were unfriending people, sorry

So it seems they're the ones choosing to be in their echo chamber.

[momta]

83. No worries. I guess it wasn't exactly clear.

Not sure if any of them have minds open enough to change, but I'll leave that door open unless they choose to slam it.

[YoshidaYui]

65. Or you could do what I did.

I checked out of Facebook after a year because they won't clear your account for at least a year but don't use it. Then I switched to Twitter it's much easier to use and I found many more allies. All I can say is fuck Facebook! Twitter is better.

[TBF]

66. "Agree to disagree" is when we are discussing pepperoni vs. sausage on the pizza -

when it comes to things like human rights I only have so much patience. I started unfriending them this weekend. And I do not care if they are family members.

[pnwmom]

68. Good for you! I changed my non-political FB policy in the Trump era and never went back.

So I did have some "friends" indicate they weren't interested in the posts, but on the upside, I've been able to meet a lot of interesting friends of friends.

So I have many more lawyer friends than before, also progressives who aren't afraid of expressing their opinions.

[Eliot Rosewater]

69. good for you, we must all go full political only on FB and elsewhere nonstop till

we are satisfied we will prevent fascism...

[DFW]

70. With friends like that, as they say.....

You know how the rest of it goes.

[mrsadm]

71. Congratulations!

We are too often, too polite!

[Trueblue Texan]

72. Wow! champagne?

Arguing on Facebook? I just got back on Facebook after 5 or 6 years and I'm willing to call out the liars like never before. We can be friends!

[Trueblue Texan]

73. PLUS...champagne! I'm all about it!nt

[Novara]

74. TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE

[FakeNoose]

79. After Jan. 6th (last year) I had to quit Facebook - finally and for all time

I was so disgusted to realize how many of my high school classmates - old friends - people who are my friends' friends but I've never met - were ChumpHumpers and rooting for the coup! I tried blocking them, and unfriending them, and cancelling their posts, but it just never ended.

After 2 days of the nightmare I quit Facebook and I'm never going back. It gives me a lot more time to spend of DU.

[Martin68]

80. I've been political on Facebook from the beginning. I'm polite and civil. I often let political

cartoons do the talking.

[momta]

81. Good for you.

I struggle with politeness and civility, but I do try. I don't unfriend anyone, though. I don't really care what they say about me, but I want to leave the door open for anyone whose mind is open.

[Martin68]

82. I've never unfriended anyone, but I've been unfriended a few times. That was always a relief.