"Sometimes sex is NOT about procreation"

[kpete]

[rubbersole]

1. Very politely said, Tom Barton.

[duckworth969]

2. Well put my brother

Man, that is a great essay. Hope the dude can eventually get some, ha!

[KS Toronado]

15. Welcome to DU!

[Towlie]

3. All that camera and cropping work when you could have just copied and pasted it...

 
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https://www.theadvocate.com/baton_rouge/opinion/letters/article_14d912ae-ed75-11ec-ab21-f7d9a674b2b9.html

Outlawing abortion is just a bad idea.

I’m an old man who’s probably already had his last sex, but that doesn’t mean I’ve turned against it.

In my mind, sex is the best it gets. It’s fun, good exercise and free! Most importantly, it’s life’s most spectacular form of intimacy. Think of music, think of poetry.

People are going to have sex. We humans love to make love. Of course, sometime procreation is what it’s all about, but that’s only “sometimes.”

Most of the time, the main point of sex is joy, communication, passion. Is there something wrong with embracing someone like your life depended on it?

Sometimes, in that embrace, by mistake, or bad luck, or carelessness, we create a fetus. In a desired pregnancy, common sense says that fetus is a wondrous miracle. In an unwanted pregnancy, common sense says that fetus is the equivalent of a bulldozer falling on a couple’s head.

All my life I’ve known the difference between a fetus and a baby. Now I’m being told there is no difference. That’s a distortion of words, and an error. The foundation of a house is not a “beloved home.” A three-month-old fetus is not a baby.

Having a kid shouldn’t be a surprise assignment from God. Raising a kid is a 21-year project that’s going to take up all of the parent(s)' resources. Even then, it might never be finished. Pushing people into parenthood is bad business.

Sex is beautiful. God did give it to us. We should not be asking every man and woman, every time they enjoy this gift, to be wagering on a lifelong obligation to raise a child.

The abortion alternative comes from our friend, science. It’s not the enemy.

TOM BARTON

retired computer programmer

Baton Rouge

Good essay though!

[kpete]

6. Towlie

thanks for the link,
kp

[Karma13612]

9. Love your sig line.

So sad but true.

As far as cropping and resizing, or just reading a copy and paste, I’m on the fence.

I’m 68 and remember when there wasn’t an internet. Reading a page from a newspaper seems to bring it home to me mentally. I KNOW that a human wrote that, and that a newspaper thought it worthy of being inked and applied to news paper. And then distributed in batches tied together with twine, and delivered to news stands and boxes on street corners and on front porches.

Either way, we get the news. One sometimes seems more real.

[KS Toronado]

16. Photo of a newspaper automatically proves it's real

[EarnestPutz]

31. Exactly right. "Seeing it in print" in a newspaper has always given something more veracity.

[Towlie]

38. Think so?

[KS Toronado]

40. LOL, thanks for proving us right!

But "All that camera and cropping work when you could have just copied and pasted it"...
Stuff like this is why I love DU, have a great day Towlie! Oh, you owe me a keyboard.

[LisaM]

35. I liked seeing it in actual print.

I see no reason to complain about that. It was kind of interesting to see it juxtaposed with other articles, which is something lost in the internet age.

[MiHale]

12. Just a different technique...

I like seeing the original copy from the paper, it adds a certain amount of credibility. Same words, same guy…but I grew up holding newspapers.

[IbogaProject]

19. Cool I wanted to read the letter above

Something about Brooklyn's elibrary card being unrestrictedted for anyone in an area with book bans.
https://www.theadvocate.com/baton_rouge/opinion/letters/article_39cf372e-f0a8-11ec-a8a1-a331e5d1c473.html

[3catwoman3]

4. Isn't sex MOSTLY not about procreation?

Not just sometimes, but almost always?

[scarletlib]

25. 99% percent of the time yes.

Think back to early man. It was thousands of years before a connection was made between sex and pregnancy. Even in modern times, tribes have been discovered who did not understand the connection.

That is true so why the heck were they having sex? Just like the letter says, people enjoy it and the feelings both emotional and physical that come with it.

[twodogsbarking]

33. Sometimes sex is about procreation.

But not usually.

[Karma13612]

5. Bravo Tom Barton

Why can’t we have more level-headed people on the Supreme Court and in other positions of leadership in this country. I’m not saying there are none, I’m just saying they are in short supply. And we are losing ground every single day.

Thanks for posting. This is what everyone is thinking, but for some reason, no one is willing to say it out loud.

[AdamGG]

51. Why can't we have more level-headed people on the Supreme Court?

Because someone purposely appointed Federalist Society assholes.

[Karma13612]

53. Well, there is that.

Frightening where we are headed.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

7. I'm betting Tom Barton is being modest about whether he has had his last sex or not.

[FSogol]

8. His phone is ringing now, I bet. n/t

[Probatim]

21. It was a cry for help - not a pro-choice statement lol

[jaxexpat]

32. Oh.......Clever, this stuff works, Tom Barton!

[DFW]

10. So well expressed, if somewhat understated

"Sometimes??"

I think I would have gone stark raving bazoonies if someone had told me on our wedding day that we were expected to have sex only often enough to have our two daughters.

I guess there are still some Republicans SOMEWHERE that might agree with that, but I doubt that they are many in number.

[Mr. Steve]

11. Well Stated

I have to agree with you, my brother.

[Chainfire]

13. Good points, well said.

In some people's minds, anything done for fun has to be a SINNNNNNNN! The time spend making love could be better spent praising the Lord; he is insecure and requires constant praise from the millions or he gets pissed and send hurricanes or wars.)

[Marthe48]

14. When we were first married

and so broke, we referred to sex as cheap entertainment

[oldsoftie]

17. every time I have it; its not about procreation.

[Niagara]

18. +1

I've never had a sexual encounter for the purpose of procreation.

[evolves]

24. Nor have I.

It's mostly been great fun and profound connection. 30+ years of successful contraception!

[2 Meow Momma]

20. Tom is right but he had better get a security system or

a big dog.

Christofascism will come for him. That’s America today.

[Wounded Bear]

22. Well said...nt

[mathematic]

23. The newspaper botched the dude's point. Sex is "sometimes" about procreation

The correct title would be "Most of the time sex is not about procreation" or "Only sometimes is sex about procreation".

[jalan48]

26. It seems to me that our supposed Christians seem very uncomfortable (ashamed) about their sexuality.

[3catwoman3]

27. Ashamed of their own, and perversely obsessed...

…with everyone else’s.

[jalan48]

28. Yes, there's some real sexual hang-ups fueling their political policies.

[CaptainTruth]

29. Very well said indeed.

[raccoon]

30. Sex is NOT free if somebody is paying for birth control. Nt

[Mr.Bill]

45. Or if you're in Nevada.

[LuckyCharms]

34. Have you no shame Tom? No pride? I swear, some guys will say anything

to get laid.

Just kidding of course.

His way of thinking is entirely correct.

Sex is natural. A pleasurable and healthy thing.

Actually, so is masturbation. I still occasionally run across situations where people freak out if the concept of masturbation is mentioned.

I have two standard lines when speaking to people who are a little uptight about sex:

1) Then why did Jesus make me horny?

2) Why did God give me hands if he didn't want me to masturbate?

These statements usually don't go over real well.

[Blue Owl]

36. Sometimes it's locker room abuse while Gym Jordan looks the other way

[lame54]

37. I hope this letter gets him laid

[inthewind21]

39. MOST

of the time sex is NOT about procreation!

[Brainfodder]

41. I always assumed we were all accident babies.

[JudyM]

42. For just a tiny second reading this, I was sorry my 2 christofascist neighbors have both moved away...

because I’d have loved to pop this in their mailboxes.

One of the women, having just had her 9th child, told me they might still have more kids: “we’ll see what the Lord provides.”

[NJCher]

43. his letter points out the common sense

of women being able to control their own bodies.

to Mr. Barton, who did a fine writing job.

[IronLionZion]

44. Children deserve to be with a family who wants them

Children don't deserve to be a punishment or consequence

[3catwoman3]

55. Very well said!

[Jilly_in_VA]

46. As I have so often said

Repugnicans are obsessed with the idea that somebody, somewhere, is having sex, and, God forbid, is ENJOYING IT!

[tclambert]

47. Blasphemer! Don't you know that every sperm is sacred?

[Person of Interest]

48. Hollywood Squares

I remember watching Hollywood Squares many, many years ago when Peter Marshall asked Paul Lynde, "Paul, are there any down sides to sex?"

Lynde answered, "Yes: children."

Sometimes poeple have sex because it's pleasurable. Cold-hearted, joyless religionists will never understand that, especially when everything under the sun is viewed as sinful and forbidden.

[raising2moredems]

49. Pregnancy does not exist

Just to ensure the "domestic supply of babies". Had a whiner where I work wondering why the company doesn't reimburse more than $10K for adoption. One reply was - the question is why does it cost that much to adopt? It is not moral or ethical. I agree - it is selling of a commodity, in this case a (usually white) infant.

[Dark n Stormy Knight]

50. K&R!

Well said, sir!

[The Jungle 1]

52. Sperm can live for five days.

They are a carbon based, mobile life form.
Christians need to stop flushing sperm.
We need more laws. Laws are the answer. More laws please. Stop killing sperm.

[newdayneeded]

56. And donny trump

gets a ton of sex from super hot chics because he's so good looking, great charisma, and.......what's that?........ooohhh, it's only because the scum bag had tons of money, and could pay them off with hush money. They wouldn't touch with a 10 ft pole without his money.