I'm having bariatric surgery next week and trying to prevent from becoming homeless.

[BlueLucy]

My health condition started with a rare lung disease called Pulmonary Langerhans Cell Histiocytosis. Cysts filled my lungs, I was on oxygen, and didn't have the lung function to be able to move much. I gained a lot of weight and now I have been diagnosed with Lipedema. Lipedema is a painful fat disorder. It's not really my fault I am like this. I am explaining this because someone from DU who I will not call out here.. posted on my facebook that I should get a job and stop begging for money. I thought I do owe people a more detailed explanation of what is going on in my life, no matter how embarrassing it is.

I'm having Duodenal Switch Procedures - SADI-S surgery a week from today on 7/21/22. I'm 7 days into my fat free milk diet. I can having nothing but fat-free milk for 14 days to shrink my liver for a safer surgery. Because I also have Lipedema, there will have to be more surgeries in the future to get rid of the remaining painful fat.

On top of the health issues, being on the brink of homelessness, my son who just lost his step father, Tommy has been disowned by his bio dad and bio family. Tommy came into my life when my son was 4, Tommy was his dad, they were close. My son is gay. It's not a big deal to me and wasn't to Tommy but his bio father is Egyptian and Muslim. My son's father snooped in his laptop while my son was visiting him. That whole side of the family instantly disowned him. He is devastated. We're going through a lot. I thought I needed to explain more of what is happening after getting told to get job and stop begging. I promise you, this is not easy. I don't want to ask. It's a lot easier to try and deal with this now than later if I have an eviction on my record. If you have a little extra, please help me. I do genuinely appreciate all the help I get.

P.S please forgive my grammar. I'm not a good writer.

This is my gofundme or Paypal to avoid fees. [e-mail]

https://www.gofundme.com/f/rent-and-bills-for-the-next-3-months

[Joinfortmill]

1. I am so sorry. Mary. I prayed for you.

[BlueLucy]

2. Thank you so much!

I appreciate prayers. All the prayers I can get are welcomed.

[XanaDUer2]

3. I can't afford to give

I have homelessness fears too. But I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish you health.

[BlueLucy]

4. Thank you!

I appreciate your caring heart.

[XanaDUer2]

5. Kick nt

[Elessar Zappa]

6. If your gofundme is still up on August 3rd,

I can kick in then. Sending you good vibes in the meantime!

[BlueLucy]

7. Thank you so very much!

I really need good vibes and appreciate all the good vibes sent my way I can get.

[Samrob]

79. August 3 is SS pay day. I can give up a few bucks then also. nt

[Baggies]

8. Give!!

I did what I could.

[BlueLucy]

10. Thank you so much!

You have helped a lot!

[ProfessorGAC]

9. Take Care Of Yourself

And, i hope you have a speedy recovery.

[BlueLucy]

11. Thank you! I will be updating when I get out of surgery, nt

[XanaDUer2]

12. Kick nt

[BlueLucy]

13. Thank you!

[BlueLucy]

14. Kick for visibility. nt

[mvd]

15. Good luck, BlueLucy

I know how it can feel embarrassing, but there are many caring people here. Don’t worry. K&R

[BlueLucy]

17. Thank you!

Yes! There are a lot of caring people here. Just when I nearly lose faith in humanity DU comes through.

[mvd]

19. You are welcome. Yes don't be afraid to ask - I have done it 4 times

I really wish I could donate. I will kick the thread from time to time.

My mom is in a similar situation with a foreclosure. Her lawyer, who is expensive to keep, can help for a while. But the time will come when she has to move. And she would be better off moving when she can find a place. I am also autistic, so we have some similarities in our stories.

[BlueLucy]

21. Thank you! I love you.

Thank you for sharing that. It helps to know we're not alone. v

[mvd]

36. It does. Hugs back to you

I really hope our lives improve soon.

[yardwork]

16. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Kick for visibility.

[Hekate]

18. I hope so much that your health & life & that of your son take a turn for the better...

You deserve so much more from this life.

[BlueLucy]

20. Thank you.

I hope so too. Honestly, if it wasn't for my son and my grandson who I know love and need me...I wouldn't keep trying. Lucky for me, they do love me and need me.

[nolabear]

22. I have lipedema as well. It's a very difficult condition.

I’m curious (and you don’t have to share. I’ll understand) about what you were told about gastric bypass and lipedema. It won’t address the problem, though I know there may be other non-lipedema weight to shed. It is debilitating and painful for sure. I’m trying to figure out whether to have the liposuction procedures. Insurance often doesn’t cover it.

This may well not be a suitable GD discussion but I thought I’d mention that you’re not alone. I assume you know about Lipedema Simplified and all the recommendations?

[BlueLucy]

23. Lipedema

I was told that I would lose weight with this surgery but not anywhere near as much as someone who doesn't have it. I would need liposuction after. UnitedHealthCare was sued in a class action lawsuit for not covering liposuction for lipedema and lost. I don't know about Lipedema Simplified, I was just diagnosed in April. I found a DR. at OHSU who told me how to go about doing everything to get UnitedHealthCare to pay. I have UnitedHealthCare with my medicare advantage.


https://coverlipedema.com/your-insurance/united-healthcare/

[nolabear]

25. Well that's good news! I have them as well.

Yes, check out the Lipedema Simplified website. And Dr. Karen Herbst. She’s one of the best in the field, not with liposuction but with everything having to do with the condition itself. As with most things there’s a lot of stuff out there, some of which I believe in more than others, but it’s at least getting some research and potential treatment studies.

[BlueLucy]

28. I'm on the website right now.

Thank you for this! I'm going to be reading here all night! I wish I had known sooner. Thank you! https://lipedema-simplified.org/

[nolabear]

29. You're welcome!

[BlueLucy]

24. I don't know if this is the forum to discuss but..

If you send me your e-mail, I am happy to share pictures. It's very painful for me.

[nolabear]

27. That's okay. I can imagine. There are FB groups where you can share.

Frankly I don’t go on them much any more. You can find some helpful advice but there’s a lot of diagnosing en absentia too and varying recommendations that I think are better from a professional. But you do get a good idea what’s out there re compression, MLD, surgery, etc.

[BlueLucy]

31. Yes. By my pictures

I look like a classic case. Thank you again,

[FakeNoose]

26. Dear BlueLucy

I can't believe all this is happening to you at the same time. What a challenging situation!

I hope you live in a state or county where there are social services to help you. Some states are helping with rent back-payments, others have medical and prescriptions covered. For sure, you should not be evicted now that you are facing surgery and urgent medical issues. The fact that your son is gay should not matter one iota.

I want to donate however I'm retired and living on a fixed income, so things are tight right now. I'll be happy to help you next month. Also I'm glad that other DUers are able to help right now.

Please ask around about state and county social services. If you don't know, it's OK, Post something here on DU and I promise you SOMEBODY here will be able to tell you where to get help in your area.

Good luck dear.

[BlueLucy]

30. Thank you!

I live in Cowlitz County in Washington State. I moved here two years ago from Portland OR. I did apply for rent help here at Lower Columbia Cap which is the only place that does rent assistance here. I was denied because it was not COVID related (This is a RED area). I know it would not have been this difficult if I still lived in Portland. Also, there is a 2 month waitlist now even for COVID related.
My son being gay doesn't matter to me at all. It's just that he lost his dad who raised him in home day to day and now his bio father has rejected him, disowned him. The way he did so was incredibly cruel.

I appreciate your hugs and kind words.

[FakeNoose]

32. I just posted this on the Washington State thread

https://www.democraticunderground.com/108222462

I hope you get some replies. Be sure to check there later on, because they might not message you directly. They will more likely reply to the thread. Good luck!

[BlueLucy]

33. Thank you!

I'm tearing up right now. Your help is so appreciated.

[sheshe2]

34. Sending healing vibes your way, BlueLucy.

[BlueLucy]

35. Thank you so much, Sheshe2

I could use all the healing vibes I can get.

[Cha]

37. I was looking for this earlier & couldn't

find it.. finally had time to Goodgle it.. it's my best Love & Healing Vives to you Blue Lucy! 💙



Focus!
Please Fight to Save Our Democracy💙 in 2022 & 2024!

[BlueLucy]

40. Thank you!

Thank you! Healing vibes are needed and welcomed.

[Cha]

43. You're So Welcome, Blue Lucy!💙

Focus!
Please Fight to Save Our Democracy💙 in 2022 & 2024!

[Tracyjo]

38. Kick

and good luck. I chipped in a little.

[BlueLucy]

39. Thank you!

I'm very grateful. Peace and love to you.

[BlueLucy]

41. I woke up this morning a lot less stressed and incredibly grateful.

I'm on my way to Vancouver for my pre-op appointment. I will be gone for a couple of hours but wanted to stop here and Thank everyone who donated and also those who prayed or sent healing vibes. I'm thankful, grateful and feel loved by everyone here. Thank you all so very much!

Mary Lucy

[XanaDUer2]

42. Kick nt

[BlueLucy]

44. Thank you for helping me kick this.

[Loryn]

45. Blessings

May you have a speedy, pain & stress free recovery.

[BlueLucy]

46. Thank you!

I will post updates. I appreciate your help very much!

[mvd]

47. Giving a kick for visibility

[mvd]

48. Overnight kick

[BlueLucy]

53. Thank you!

Thank ou so much for helping me keep this alive. I have been able to get sleep knowing I will have August rent now. Thank you!

[XanaDUer2]

49. Kick nt

[LetMyPeopleVote]

50. Kick for visibility

[BlackSkimmer]

51. In June on your other fundraiser, someone offered you a 3 bedroom home.

Did you ever look into that?

[BlueLucy]

52. That was some sort of a joke.

The person lives in Canada.

[Thtwudbeme]

55. That was no joke. That offer was from an established DUer- he did not realize that you lived

further away than he thought.

It was an incredibly generous offer, and I am pretty sure that he would not want to see that referred to as "a joke."

[BlueLucy]

56. I'm sorry.

I really did not think it was real. It was a very generous offer. I am very appreciative and grateful for all the help I get.

[tblue37]

54. K&R for visibility.

[Omaha Steve]

57. Marta & I kicked in yesterday morning

[BlueLucy]

58. Thank you so much!

I've been able to sleep well these last few nights Thanks to folks here like you. The stress of the surgery, only because of my lung disease coupled with it and then finances, everything else. I was able to get some rest. Thank you! Peace and much love!

Mary Lucy.

[mvd]

59. I'll give this another kick

I appreciate the support when I start a fundraiser and want to give back.

[BlueLucy]

60. Thank you so much! nt

[tanyev]

61. Kick.

[mvd]

62. Kick

[mvd]

63. Another kick for support

[Omaha Steve]

64. GoFundMe is currently offline

[mvd]

65. Hi Steve

I can see it using the Safari browser. Maybe a browser issue again?

[Omaha Steve]

66. Probably

[Omaha Steve]

67. It is working for me again

[BlueLucy]

68. Thank you so much!

My surgery is coming up on Thursday and I honestly would have had to have it postponed if not for the help of all of you. I am humbled and grateful.

[demtenjeep]

75. how did the surgery go?

how are you feeling?

[demtenjeep]

76. how did your surgery go?

asking a 2nd time

[Baggies]

69. Only $1460 to go! Com'n! We can do this!

[mvd]

70. Kick

[mvd]

71. Getting closer to her goal

Will give another kick.

[Omaha Steve]

72. Goal reached

[mvd]

74. Big congrats!

So happy DUers came through again

[Rhiannon12866]

73. Kicking back to the top!

[demtenjeep]

77. any update to how surgery went?

please give us an update

[BlueLucy]

78. It was rough for me.

I've been in such pain, I have not been able to come online or even think. I was dealing with an infection as well of the surgery. This surgery is not as easy to do as some say. Maybe, I have a low tolerance for pain or maybe the infection prevented me from healing. Today is the first day that I feel like I am finally on the other side of this. I've been really weak, unable to drink any protein drinks or even much water. I've had to have several IV infusions this week but finally, yesterday... I drank 2 Premier protein drinks and three 16 oz bottles of propel water.

[Samrob]

80. Healing will be slow. Maybe Juven may be your friend. Ask your doc. It's for healing and used by

top wound centers across the country. Made by the makers of Ensure. Check it out.

I have use it for serious bed sores and wounds for my mom as prescribed by Adventist Wound Center in MD.

[BlueLucy]

81. I looked at Juven briefly just now.

It sounds wonderful but expensive. I'll look into it more.

[demtenjeep]

85. I am glad you are okay

we didn't get any updates and I got worried.

[BlueLucy]

87. Thank you so much!

I had to go to the ED last night for a IV infusion but I am OK.. I feel like I am now on the other side of this and recovering. I can't wait til next week when I can have something other than protein drinks and water or propel or Gatorade zero. Next week I will be able to add yogurt, pureed beans... That sort of thing.

[Sky Jewels]

82. Fucking religion strikes again.

It's a pox on the planet.

I'm so sorry about all your hardships and that your son's bio father did that to him.

[BlueLucy]

83. Thank you!

It's really hard. My husband who was my son's stepdad since he was 4 passed away. They were very close. Now, his bio father doing that to him. My son has been expressing fits of rage, I know what is causing it and he is in counseling but it's not easy to witness.

[Sky Jewels]

84. How heartbreaking.

I wish you and your son strength and healing.

[mvd]

86. How horrible. Your son and you have been through too much

I am hoping things get better. We’re alike in the adversity we face. And being autistic makes things even harder.