People are so rude and angry these days. Is it just me? Or where I am?

[FlyingPiggy]

I’m in AZ and everywhere I turn, people in general are just so much more ill mannered, hot tempered, angry, and rude.

[chowder66]

1. I'm seeing it too as is everyone I know in different cities.

[spooky3]

2. Ditto--especially when driving

Too many people are just being inconsiderate (drivers and pedestrians).

[chowder66]

13. Yes! Drivers are always inconsiderate where I live (Hollywood) but the pedestrians

are definitely being more careless and aggressive.

[spooky3]

15. I often feel as though I live within a video game

where people walk into the road without even looking, drivers ignore yield signs, etc., and my challenge is to avoid all of these sudden obstacles.

[chowder66]

22. Yep. Offensive and Defensive driving. You really have to be on alert at all times.

[Retrograde]

28. It's like they've forgotten how to drive during the pandemic

I live in Silicon Valley - highly educated area, dense population. Yesterday, I was coming home and stopped for a light. The person in front of me stopped on the railroad tracks, despite signs saying "Active Railway" and "Do Not Park on Tracks". There are only 4 trains an hour on those tracks at that particular time - what could possible go wrong?

And don't get me started on the people who think STOP signs are suggestions

[Jade Fox]

3. A lot of it is because of Trump IMO.....

He made it okay to act like an asshole.

[spooky3]

16. I agree nt

[FlyingPiggy]

39. Totally agree on that

[onecaliberal]

4. It's everywhere.

[elleng]

5. NOT true where I am in MD.

[think4yourself]

6. It's not just you.

It’s everywhere. I don’t know the solution.

[FSogol]

7. Social media is designed to make people angry so they tune in more.

[Clash City Rocker]

8. Covid isolation made many people forget how to be decent human beings

Airports have to put up posters telling people not to be rude to their employees now. The rudeness of the internet has turned into rudeness in real life.

[mopinko]

9. i've been such a crank since the plague.

never had an issue w anxiety before but by half way through 20, i was a wreck. just a wreck.
i had so many issues w neighbors who were suddenly in my face, instead of my usual having the block to myself all day. everyone around me was cranky.
i got into a whoooole lot of trouble. trouble someone my age should know enough to avoid.
mostly calmed down now, but so itching to get out of the house i'm about to start chewing body parts like a bored dog.

[Maraya1969]

10. If you can, try and lead with a smile. I'm not trying to be Pollyanna but I've found that it works

Kind of like; unarm them by being nice.

I don't know how that works in traffic though.

[Tetrachloride]

20. In traffic, I use "back of the pack" strategy.

Aggressive cars will go first. Let them be in accidenta, not me.

Pedestrians are another story. Put on your music and chill. Sip your tea, coffee, smoothies. You have a car and they don’t. Enjoy it, such as it may be.

Avoid universities. Notorious jaywalkers.

[FlyingPiggy]

40. That's what I have been doing too. Going slower in the R lane has helped

And just staying home as much as I can.

[hlthe2b]

11. I think it is everywhere-- COVID-hangover, but mostly a result of Trumpism

A colleague after a shift in an Atlanta ER told me that one of the nurses told a belligerent man in no uncertain terms that if he did not stop cursing her out and sit down as repeatedly requested she would have to call security (as they have had to do for one or another patient every shift for the past two years). Well, of course, he just became more belligerent so she got in his face and asked him what he thought his bank would do if he came in behaving like that. That actually gave him pause and he went back and sat down.

So, it is "funny" that it seems people think they can be abusive in any and all places but when it comes to where they park or request money, it gives them pause. Sigh...

[CBHagman]

23. What presence of mind that nurse had!

It's been some time since I have had a job that required me to work with the public, but I recall there are ways to escalate things and ways to break through to the human being behind the belligerence, and the nurse definitely pulled that off.

[Skittles]

12. I definitely read about it more

stories from wait staff and retail workers just make me cringe

[Runningdawg]

14. It's been that way for years in OK but Trump made it worse.

It seems like people go out of their way to provoke "stand your ground". I stopped taking freeways 5 years ago, now, I plan routes without stoplights. If I need cash, I use the ATM inside a bank. I don't shop in stores unless they are small enough to see all 4 walls from the entrance.

[Baitball Blogger]

17. It's a given where I live.

crude, crass and self-interested.

[TigressDem]

18. I am in MN, but my son is drinking the koolaid and finally got him to agree to no political talk.

At least for awhile.

I took him out to brunch the other day and we were talking about comedy, Cuban cuisine, Fluffy's brush with Cuban coffee and repairs needed to my deck. But he was in a sad/angry about stuff so started man-splaining shit to me.

I asked him to stop and when he kept it up, I then asked him not to yell. He wasn't exactly yelling, but then I said, talk like we were before, just turn the volume down a bit. He did.

In general I smile a lot at random people and it kind of disarms them a bit.

I've met some Karens and dealt with them as needed.

But mostly I still stay to myself with my hubby and work is different kind of stress, but people are behaving themselves to keep it professional, so it isn't too bad. I still buy groceries on the app and pick it up in the store. So I limit my chances of interacting with people.

[alittlelark]

19. It's pretty bad out there.

I'm glad I am rural - I only have to go into town every week to 10 days.

It is kinda scary and certainly not healthy.

[ornotna]

21. I've been noticing that as well

Ill mannered and rude pretty much sums it up.

[Raine]

24. Being locked up for two years will do that to people IMO. nt

[Sympthsical]

29. I think it's this

Socialization isn't just something we instill in our kids and it sticks for the rest of their lives. Socialization is a constantly reinforced thing. Remove it for too long a time, and people start fraying. Social skills require practice or else they atrophy.

Covid messed people up. I think people being away from others and interaction increased a lot of "main character" behaviors. Insularity warps notions of objectivity.

I'm an extroverted introvert, so Covid was just the best of times for me, lol. I don't have to meet with people and only talk during work? That's living the dream. When Covid ended, I picked things right back up. Others just aren't that. I have a highly extroverted nephew. He has to be talking or hanging out with people always. all the time. forever. Covid hit him with a massive depression. We spotted it and did what we could with it. But, his surliness is definitely ratcheted up to an 8 or 9, whereas he might've been a 3 or 4 pre-Covid.

But he's also 15. So you kind of wonder how much of that is just built in to adolescence, lol.

[Raine]

34. I think you're right

in the first few weeks it seemed (to me anyway) people were super polite. I guess because everyone was scared and didn't know where we were headed. It seemed like wherever I was people when saying goodbye would also say "take care, stay safe". As time when on though less and less of that, for awhile though at least most were polite but now rude and surly and angry.

Like you it hasn't been so hard on me, I'm a homebody and introverted. My problem now is making myself go out places again and interact with others. I tend now to just put off going out for errands etc as long as I can.

[mvd]

25. Not just there

It seems like a pretty cruel world out there here, too. Likely in general.

[electric_blue68]

26. Nope, not really here in The Bronx, and the longer cross Burroughs trips I still do quite less of...

because of fucking covid!!! Arrrrggggg! I am going to do a bit more in Sept & early of Oct to our parks.

Most people I encounter are still considerate, nice, at the least nuetral.

[Samrob]

27. I believe it's all over the country and perhaps a huge portion of the world. Remember,

Trump set the tone for America and America sets the tone for the world.

[former9thward]

31. No, America does not set the tone for the world.

What an unbelievable centric view of the world and wrong.

[Deuxcents]

30. My pet peeve is.. I'll say thank you

And the reply is “no problem “. Agggg. Can’t say sure. You’re welcome. My pleasure. Something other than no problem. I think it’s rude but then.. I’m getting old

[Retrograde]

32. It's a politeness

many languages have similar expressions - Spanish "de nada", French "de rien" - that signify that you haven't been an undue burden to the person doing the favor. Come to think of it, "you're welcome [to my time/effort]" conveys something similar.

[Deuxcents]

33. Ok.. I'll try to be open to it.. thanks for the explanation 🙏

I’ll also make a point to not be such a grouch!

[AnotherDreamWeaver]

35. I'm in Calif. I had an appointment at Kaiser today, and I use a walker.

I count my blessings it was gifted to me. Returning to my truck at least 6 people asked if I needed help. Most were women, and one was a woman of color wearing a head scarf. I thanked them and said I'm just slow, until the nurse showed up with a wheel chair and said she had seen me from her office. I let her wheel me to my truck, then she went back and fetched my walker and loaded it in my truck. I witnessed the world has kind people, and I am grateful.

[mvd]

36. They're still out there

I have experienced them when I created my GoFundMes, people on occasion buying a small item at Wawa I couldn’t buy, my mom’s caring lawyer. It seems they are real gems nowadays when you can find them.

[onethatcares]

37. Wanna change the world?

Start with your self.

Yes, there are butt heads out there and many people that think they're more important than everyone else. Let them pretend.

Smile at others, leave 5 minutes early, and be kind.

Maybe it'll catch on.

[Raven]

38. Smiling at others is a winner for me. I make a practice of doing that and, more often

than not, it disarms the nasty people right away. They just don't know what to do with it.