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Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:09 AM

Update on my wife and our separation due to COVID and her Green Card part 3 (Thx BtA)

Well, it's been quite a few days.

Tuesday, I left Hong Kong, got my 10th COVID test in seven days (overkill much?) and bored my Cathay Pacific plane from HKG to Nanjing.

I was terrified because of the fractured relationship between the US and China, I would be denied entry into China the same way my wife was denied in Seattle. I didn't sleep for two days except for an occasional short nap that I was jerked awake in cold sweats.

I get the immigration counter. They take my passport and start asking questions, like why I have a Q (family) visa instead of a Z (work), X (student), or L (tourist) visa. Thank God I can speak fluent Mandarin.

I told them I went home because of family and health issues. My wife was denied her American Green Card three times and about what happened at SEATAC. I told them I just wanted to return to the wife I hadn't seen in 26 months.

They were shocked at what I said, told me my Chinese was amazing, asked me if I would be staying with me wife, and if I understood the quarantine policy. I answered yes to all their questions.

Then the entry stamp came in and they stamped me in. I exhales relief. They handed me back my passport, smiled, and told me to enjoy my time with my wife in a week.

I walked in, got my bag, walked into the bathroom and sat in a stall. I pulled out my passport, looked at the entry stamped and openly sobbed for almost five minutes. I was back. . .and it was only a short time before we were back together.

I am now 40 miles from her in quarantine. They put me in an apartment and, respecting my Kosher and diabetic concerns, have gotten me my three squares a day. It is currently day three of seven. The meals are Chinese and are more than I can eat at one time. Today I had Lan Zhou La Mian, which is all beef, lamb, or chicken and Halal.

Four more days and I am done with this. I go back to my wife and prepare for our move to Beijing where I will be a social studies teacher at one of the most posh and prestigious high schools in the country, run and sponsored by the #1 university in China, Tsinghua University. This school is a place Americans are told by the embassy to send their children when they are in China and is 50-50 Chinese/Foreign mix, with students from 26 countries. They will give me a two bedroom condo on campus, a base pay of $75K a year gross, and almost $15K in benefits, including gifts for my marriage and childbirth, performance, longevity, retirement plans, health insurance for my entire family, travel, relocation, and shipping allowances, and opportunities to publish my novels as there is a publishing company through Tsinghua.

It's all over. Thank you, BtA, for updating DU. My next post about this will be reuniting with my wife and pictures of our reuniting.

DU has helped me more than I can say. You've helped me get back her and get back my sanity. Words cannot express my undying gratefulness for all of you.

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Reply Update on my wife and our separation due to COVID and her Green Card part 3 (Thx BtA) (Original post)
AZLD4Candidate Sep 2022 OP
JCMach1 Sep 2022 #1
peacefreak2.0 Sep 2022 #2
YDogg Sep 2022 #3
magicarpet Sep 2022 #4
judesedit Sep 2022 #5
Ford_Prefect Sep 2022 #6
Ford_Prefect Sep 2022 #7
colorado_ufo Sep 2022 #8
niyad Sep 2022 #9
liberalla Sep 2022 #10
NBachers Sep 2022 #11
wendyb-NC Sep 2022 #12
bobnicewander Sep 2022 #13
karin_sj Sep 2022 #14
FakeNoose Sep 2022 #15
Hortensis Sep 2022 #32
littlemissmartypants Sep 2022 #16
momta Sep 2022 #17
erronis Sep 2022 #18
Hortensis Sep 2022 #33
moonscape Sep 2022 #19
catrose Sep 2022 #20
Grumpy Old Guy Sep 2022 #21
BigmanPigman Sep 2022 #22
calimary Sep 2022 #23
shrike3 Sep 2022 #24
virgdem Sep 2022 #25
onecaliberal Sep 2022 #26
people Sep 2022 #27
Pacifist Patriot Sep 2022 #28
Tree Lady Sep 2022 #29
crickets Sep 2022 #30
renate Sep 2022 #31
Meowmee Sep 2022 #34
ChazII Sep 2022 #35
elleng Sep 2022 #36
Karadeniz Sep 2022 #37
Behind the Aegis Sep 2022 #38
DFW Sep 2022 #39
Roy Rolling Sep 2022 #40

Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:13 AM

1. Congrats, sanity at last for you... You won't regret teaching outside the US!

Good luck in the rest of your journey...

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:14 AM

2. Hooray! Your long journey is just about over.

Wishing you and your wife much happiness in the future. ♥️💐♥️

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:15 AM

3. Sending warm wishes to you and your wife

I have followed your saga here and wish both nothing but the best. Enjoy every moment. 😀

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 07:30 AM

4. Cupid will soon be with you....

Very soon now.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:04 AM

5. Thank goodness it's finally happening for you.

Love is a very strong motivator and your determination and tenacity have paid off. Blessings for you both. Keep us posted 💖

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:09 AM

6. Mazel Tov!!!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:11 AM

8. We are all so happy for you and your wife!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:17 AM

9. We are so very happy for you and your wife. So looking foward to your

next texts and pics. Here's to a wonderful new chapter in your lives.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:20 AM

10. It's almost over! Finally!

I'm so happy for you! I wish you both the best!


p,s, The job sounds fantastic!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:22 AM

11. What a story! Thank you for updating us, and keep them coming. I'm glad for you.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:23 AM

12. That's such good news

Look forward to your next update and pictures of you and your wife at long last together. Peace and Blessings to both of you.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:40 AM

13. Congratulations!

And best wishes for continued successful progress until you and your wife are together again.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:52 AM

14. Wonderful news!

So happy for you and your wife.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:02 AM

15. I'm very happy that you and wife and family will finally be reunited

Also I'm ashamed for the way your wife was treated by our government. Possibly Covid fears were the reason for her treatment, and maybe that means she'll get better treatment in a few years. I hope so!

Stay well my friend.

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Response to FakeNoose (Reply #15)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 05:45 PM

32. Perhaps "shame" about the U.S. should be withheld.

Remember, our fellow DUer has claimed 3 serious mental illness diagnoses in one thread, including schizophrenia and antisocial personality disorder, and a second, overlapping set in another.

Sincere sympathy and best wishes for both him and his wife do not require assuming we know everything or believing everything. Or running the risk of doing possibly grave injustice to the people who've processed their various applications. And, back to why I'm posting, possibly causing yourself inappropriate angst.

We can also be glad that he's able to be a DUer from China and remains safe. That may not always be the case.

It's probably okay to respond with expressions of shame about the U.S., but always remember that China still maintains prisons around the country where people who express the wrong attitudes are sometimes sent. From what I've read, conditions have been very harsh in the past, and the government is reportedly tightening up again after some years of loosening. We don't know what could cause trouble -- or not -- but for that very reason we should always be careful to stay away from delicate subjects while he posts in a community where people are in the habit of saying whatever they want in perfect safety.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:07 AM

17. Thanks for the update.

Can't wait to see the pictures!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:07 AM

18. Such a long saga - and this heartwarming segment. Wish the USofA could be as hospitable!

Just imagine being given that reception when/if you and your wife come back to the US. No, I can't imagine it either.

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Response to erronis (Reply #18)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 05:58 PM

33. We do a lot, and immigrant aid groups more, but I can't imagine all this here either.

Freedom to pursue our happiness is not the same as central state planning.

We can just be glad they'll be together and wish them well.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:07 AM

19. Yay! (understatement)

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:34 AM

20. I'm so happy for you, especially at this time of Teshuvah, of returning

But I'm so sorry for what we've lost from the horrible way your family was treated.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:37 AM

21. Great news!

Congratulations!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:39 AM

22. Man, you've been through hell.

No wonder the emotional relief hit you hard. Congrats!!!! You deserve an A+ for effort alone.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:42 AM

23. Good to hear!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:43 AM

24. May you live happily ever after.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:43 AM

25. Fantastic news and congratulations.

Wishing you all the best in the future. Can't wait to see the pix.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:52 AM

26. I am elated for the two of you.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:55 AM

27. Such good, good news

Looking forward to seeing the pictures.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 10:12 AM

28. Great news! Thanks for the update.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 11:10 AM

29. Glad to hear it's almost over

And you will be reunited. Our immigration laws need to be worked on. My husband told me he was friends years ago with a guy who for some reason couldn't bring his wife over from Vietnam so he ended up staying there. That was back during the war.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 12:37 PM

30. I am so happy for you!

All the best to you and your wife in your new life.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 12:44 PM

31. Wow... this really was an epic journey

With a fairy-tale ending!! We’re so happy for you and your beloved!!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 06:08 PM

34. Yay!

Wishing you both the best in your new life 🤗

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 06:12 PM

35. Wonderful news and thank for sharing it with us.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 08:15 PM

36. WONDERFUL!!!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 09:38 PM

37. You'd have been a fabulous congressman... our loss! I know you'll both happy!!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Thu Sep 29, 2022, 11:26 PM

38. You're welcome!

I am glad things are going "well", or as well as can be expected. Can't wait to hear your update when you and your wife finally reunite.

Mazel Tov!

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Fri Sep 30, 2022, 12:35 AM

39. I'm glad to hear you will finally be back together again.

I'm sure fluency in Mandarin helped smooth your way back in. I can't tell you how often fluency in local languages has facilitated my work and travel. As one who respected a spouse's wishes to live in her country, I know there are adjustments to make, but determination and understanding will eventually solve most or all of that. Welcome home.

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Response to AZLD4Candidate (Original post)

Fri Sep 30, 2022, 04:41 AM

40. What an Ordeal

Glad you were up to the task. Keep us posted.

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