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NewHendoLib

(60,013 posts)
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:35 AM Dec 2022

42 years ago, this morning, my (and my wife's) lives were about to change (just added a pic).

Last edited Wed Dec 7, 2022, 02:24 PM - Edit history (1)

We were nervously getting ready to meet a Justice of the Peace and a small group of friends at Rollins Chapel on the campus of Dartmouth College (I was a few years into getting my PhD in chemistry, my soon to be wife a nurse at the Hitchcock hospital).

Here we are having our small ceremony. It is hard to believe that I was 23, Sue 22

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We had lots of laughs, music, gardens, great books - lots of vacations at Ocracoke Island

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Well, I finished my degree, we had our daughter - then another. We spent a year in Seattle, then 8 in Pennsylvania (Berwyn, Villanova, West Chester) - then 28 in Raleigh - now 3 in Hendersonville, NC

We still do all the things we love - I feel like the luckiest person in the world. The pic below is from one of our hikes in DuPont forest, a few weeks ago.

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Hoping for decades more of health and joy with this magnificent person!

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from our dinner out last night

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42 years ago, this morning, my (and my wife's) lives were about to change (just added a pic). (Original Post) NewHendoLib Dec 2022 OP
Best wishes for you two! CurtEastPoint Dec 2022 #1
Awesome! blueknight73 Dec 2022 #2
Congratulations!! Freddie Dec 2022 #3
Happy Anniversary! MLAA Dec 2022 #4
Thank-you happy feet Dec 2022 #5
Happy Anniversary! Chainfire Dec 2022 #6
Happy Anniversary whopis01 Dec 2022 #7
What wonderful photos! Happy anniversary and many more! 50 Shades Of Blue Dec 2022 #8
Happy Anniversary! underpants Dec 2022 #9
Happy Anniversary! barbtries Dec 2022 #10
You're a lucky guy. Congrats on 42 years! panader0 Dec 2022 #11
Congratulations! There's nothing finer than a long love. NNadir Dec 2022 #12
Congrats! So happy for you both. Most dream of having what you have judesedit Dec 2022 #13
Congratulations! Here's to many more years! nt woodsprite Dec 2022 #14
The happiest of anniversaries to you and your beautiful bride,, and wishing niyad Dec 2022 #15
Happy Anniversary to you and Sue! Nevilledog Dec 2022 #16
Congratulations! sinkingfeeling Dec 2022 #17
Love it! Bo Zarts Dec 2022 #18
Happy anniversary! 70sEraVet Dec 2022 #19
How nice! 2naSalit Dec 2022 #20
Hendersonville is a good choice. Camped there decades ago. twodogsbarking Dec 2022 #21
When you get to the end of your life and NJCher Dec 2022 #22
Happy Anniversary! KS Toronado Dec 2022 #23
Congratulations! snowybirdie Dec 2022 #24
Spectacular! and thanks! right back at you. NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #36
Happy Anniversary! nightwing1240 Dec 2022 #25
Congratulations! Solly Mack Dec 2022 #26
Thanks for sharing your story and many happy blessings to you both! FakeNoose Dec 2022 #27
NewHendoLib ...................... Upthevibe Dec 2022 #28
Best to you and your family. LuvLoogie Dec 2022 #29
Congratulations! CanonRay Dec 2022 #30
Happy Anniversary! Luciferous Dec 2022 #31
Wonderful! TuxedoKat Dec 2022 #32
You are blessed. 💓 secondwind Dec 2022 #33
Happy Anniversary! Love the sweatshirt in that last pic, lol! n/t ms liberty Dec 2022 #34
Oh, that! NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #35
Adorable couple, then and now! Happy Anniversary, may you have many more wonderful years! Fla Dem Dec 2022 #37
So lovely malaise Dec 2022 #38
Here is some good news 10 years from now when you have been married 52 years it will still..... usaf-vet Dec 2022 #39
yes, I fully expect that - and congrats to you! NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #40
Happy anniversary! mahina Dec 2022 #41
Y'all are so cute. Happy Anniversary! n/t iluvtennis Dec 2022 #42
Happy Anniversary and many more to come. c-rational Dec 2022 #43
Happy Anniversary, my darlings! colorado_ufo Dec 2022 #44
Happy anniversary! MissMillie Dec 2022 #45
Happy Anniversary! Loryn Dec 2022 #46
lovely story -- great pictures orleans Dec 2022 #47
Happy anniversary to both of you! highplainsdem Dec 2022 #48
Congratulations! Mz Pip Dec 2022 #49
A hearty congratulations and happy anniversary! MontanaMama Dec 2022 #50
congratulations, what a wonderful life you and Sue have! peacebuzzard Dec 2022 #51
Happy Anniversary! pandr32 Dec 2022 #52
Good luck that you found each other. TexLaProgressive Dec 2022 #53
Boy have we traveled in similar circles! nolabear Dec 2022 #54
Congratulations - Ms. Toad Dec 2022 #55
Congratulations, hope you are as lucky as me and my "old Boy". dem in texas Dec 2022 #93
Congratulations! Ms. Toad Dec 2022 #94
Congratulations to you both!!! CaptainTruth Dec 2022 #56
Congratulations on your 42nd....Hope you have many many more. /NT sdfernando Dec 2022 #57
Happy anniversary to you both WestMichRad Dec 2022 #58
No one was in on the talk! We fooled everyone! NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #61
Awwwwww... So sweet! calimary Dec 2022 #59
Happy 42nd Anniversary!! Niagara Dec 2022 #60
Congrats! Thanks for sharing your happiness with us. fierywoman Dec 2022 #62
Congratulations and Best WISHES wendyb-NC Dec 2022 #63
Wonderful! Faux pas Dec 2022 #64
Very best wishes for many, many more. ⭐️❤️️👋 Judi Lynn Dec 2022 #65
Happy Anniversary! mnhtnbb Dec 2022 #66
Happy Anniversary! Bettie Dec 2022 #67
Love to you both Hekate Dec 2022 #68
This is so cool! Congratulations to both on your 42nd. yonder Dec 2022 #69
Happy Anniversary! SheltieLover Dec 2022 #70
This is simply overwhelming. TY so much for all the good wishes NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #71
Happy anniversary! mcar Dec 2022 #72
Happy Anniversary!!! StevieM Dec 2022 #73
Happy anniversary riverbendviewgal Dec 2022 #74
And may there be 42 more! Congrats! Stinky The Clown Dec 2022 #75
Keep your arm around her; she's liable to run off any minute! Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2022 #76
Happy Anniversary to a lovely couple.. 💕🌹🥳 nt Raine Dec 2022 #77
Two beautiful people. kellytore Dec 2022 #78
Blessed Be! Happy Anniversary, here to many more! Nice photos. electric_blue68 Dec 2022 #79
How lovely! You were such babies (!), but clearly had Hortensis Dec 2022 #80
42 years! You are a lucky man ... especially if you think so. Well deserved KPN Dec 2022 #81
Happy Anniversary!! To BOTH!!! bluestarone Dec 2022 #82
Happy anniversary 🥂🍾 Tree Lady Dec 2022 #83
Beautiful story, beautiful couple lillypaddle Dec 2022 #84
Ain't love grand?! ZZenith Dec 2022 #85
Happy anniversary!! Amazing how time goes. uppityperson Dec 2022 #86
Great story, great couple! DFW Dec 2022 #87
Congratulations and thank you!! secularhumanizer Dec 2022 #88
Congrats! raising2moredems Dec 2022 #89
Congrats NHL! You two look wonderful together. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Dec 2022 #90
nice Skittles Dec 2022 #91
Oh yes. NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #92
Congratulations and many more! eom LittleGirl Dec 2022 #95
we had a nice dinner out last night - waitress snapped a pic, which I added to the end of my OP NewHendoLib Dec 2022 #96

happy feet

(866 posts)
5. Thank-you
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:41 AM
Dec 2022

For sharing your joy in this tough season of America. Wishing you and yours continued blessings. 😊

niyad

(113,213 posts)
15. The happiest of anniversaries to you and your beautiful bride,, and wishing
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:02 AM
Dec 2022

you indeed decades more. Thank you for sharing your joy and love with us.

NJCher

(35,644 posts)
22. When you get to the end of your life and
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:13 AM
Dec 2022

Last edited Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:06 PM - Edit history (1)

Beyond, one learns that is what it’s all about.

Love.

Maybe that's why you specialized in the "love apple."

snowybirdie

(5,222 posts)
24. Congratulations!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:21 AM
Dec 2022

You've earned it. Many many more. We're heading out from home to celebrate 61 years on Friday. Life is good.

NewHendoLib

(60,013 posts)
35. Oh, that!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:43 AM
Dec 2022


Well, I've been a Red Sox fan since I started watching games with my grandfathers back in 1967. It is a continuing habit!

usaf-vet

(6,178 posts)
39. Here is some good news 10 years from now when you have been married 52 years it will still.....
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:49 AM
Dec 2022

.... be as great as it is at 42 years. Except maybe a little slower....

My wife and I have been married for 52 years.

highplainsdem

(48,957 posts)
48. Happy anniversary to both of you!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:36 PM
Dec 2022

And what wonderful photos! I love hearing about happy marriages, and this post made my day.

peacebuzzard

(5,158 posts)
51. congratulations, what a wonderful life you and Sue have!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 12:53 PM
Dec 2022

Great careers, a beautiful place to spend time, and you look happy and peaceful!May you have the best of your lives now!

nolabear

(41,956 posts)
54. Boy have we traveled in similar circles!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:10 PM
Dec 2022

First, congratulations. You’re a lucky, and obviously smart, man to have had such a long and lovely marriage.

Now, Mr Bear is from Winston-Salem and we met in Durham, when he was at Duke (computer science, hallelujah!) so I know Raleigh and Hendersonville well. Then we moved to Pittsburgh and had our two sons so I know PA well. Now we’re in Seattle—just north of it now but lived in the city for many years.

How we never ran into one another is a mystery. 😄

Congrats again. You sound like a good man, on and off DU.

dem in texas

(2,673 posts)
93. Congratulations, hope you are as lucky as me and my "old Boy".
Wed Dec 7, 2022, 04:57 AM
Dec 2022

Last Month - Nov 19 - 65 years. He was 20 and I was 18 when we married.

Ms. Toad

(34,055 posts)
94. Congratulations!
Wed Dec 7, 2022, 05:00 AM
Dec 2022

My parents celebrated their 65th during COVID - they are now at 67.

Always nice to hear of long-term marriages!

WestMichRad

(1,318 posts)
58. Happy anniversary to you both
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 01:24 PM
Dec 2022

… and many happy returns! I remember being surprised that you two got hitched, but I wasn’t “in” on the talk going around the department at the time. It seems to have turned out well!

NewHendoLib

(60,013 posts)
71. This is simply overwhelming. TY so much for all the good wishes
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 03:57 PM
Dec 2022

Kind words and comments!

My DU family is really amazing!

Hermit-The-Prog

(33,309 posts)
76. Keep your arm around her; she's liable to run off any minute!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 05:55 PM
Dec 2022

Congrats and may you enjoy each other many more years.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
80. How lovely! You were such babies (!), but clearly had
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 06:33 PM
Dec 2022

the right stuff to build your life together on.

Happy anniversary, you two.

KPN

(15,641 posts)
81. 42 years! You are a lucky man ... especially if you think so. Well deserved
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 06:57 PM
Dec 2022

and sometimes hard earned luck I’m sure. I know — 43+ years here and feel the same way. May you and yours continue to be so blessed NewHendoLib.

bluestarone

(16,894 posts)
82. Happy Anniversary!! To BOTH!!!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 07:02 PM
Dec 2022

May i suggest a song here? This is the song i chose for my wife and i. Been married 51 years!!

Tree Lady

(11,443 posts)
83. Happy anniversary 🥂🍾
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 07:08 PM
Dec 2022

Great pics. Hubby and I hike also with our dog. Keeps us healthy and mental peace!

lillypaddle

(9,580 posts)
84. Beautiful story, beautiful couple
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 07:09 PM
Dec 2022

Best wishes for the years ahead, and congratulations for the years before.

secularhumanizer

(18 posts)
88. Congratulations and thank you!!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 10:15 PM
Dec 2022

Congratulations and thank you....I desperately needed to read something about the things in life that make being human a life worth living.

raising2moredems

(632 posts)
89. Congrats!
Tue Dec 6, 2022, 11:54 PM
Dec 2022

40 years for me and the better half. One kiddo did the justice of the peace (and a very, very nice reception when the weather was NICER) but we opted for a ceremony, albeit a short and sweet one (no obey in either of our vows). I'm sure the economy was not gangbusters when you two got married either (unemployment was 25% in our area) but eh, we all made it through.

NewHendoLib

(60,013 posts)
92. Oh yes.
Wed Dec 7, 2022, 02:13 AM
Dec 2022

I left big pharma in 2012, Sue nursing in 2000. She makes quilts, I write garden books and do workshops and an on lone course. We keep busy!

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