My husband is tired of hearing me talk about politics

[mainer]

He doesn't want to hear me say anything about what's going on in the news or on Twitter. He doesn't want to hear me say a word about Elon Musk. He doesn't want to hear me say anything about MTG or TFG or J6.

He's retired, so he spends all day watching Youtube videos about the next camera or gadget that he's going to buy.

Does anyone else have a spouse who couldn't care less about politics? I've got to find another conversational partner.

[LakeArenal]

1. Mr Lake isn't a wonk, but he does know all the characters.

I have three kindred political spirits though.

[Karadeniz]

2. You're right: you need someone else to talk to.

[PortTack]

3. Sorry..that must be frustrating!

[snowybirdie]

4. Hello

[DFW]

5. Quite the opposite, and the same with our friends

We live about 4000 miles northeast of Washington, DC. We had some local friends over for dinner tonight, and the first thing I got asked was "so, what's the deal with your Senate majority now that that one woman from Arizona has changed her party affiliation?"

[Generic Brad]

6. Today my wife asked me to change the subject - Great!

I told her I was excited to finally be able to talk about football with her. She thought a moment and replied, "Back to politics."

[JI7]

7. That's fine as long as he votes democratic

Paying too much attention to politics is not good.

[mcar]

8. I suggest getting involved with your local

Democratic Women's Club or other Democratic club. My hubby always wants to talk politics and he's as liberal as me, bless him. But it really helps to have other like minded people to talk to and do things with.

[SallyHemmings]

11. That is a great suggestion.

Honestly, since the tfg administration politics, civics, current events are exhausting. Sadly, the Republican Party is too dangerous to ignore.

It’s a struggle to find a balance.

Good luck.

[Upthevibe]

9. mainer.............

You FOR SURE need to find someone you can vent with.

See if you can volunteer in-person or online for progressive causes.

I have my sister and one of my best friends with whom I can go deep. A majority of my other friends are still much more knowledgeable and active than most (I'm a lesbian and most of my friends are gay men and other lesbians).

[SYFROYH]

10. I know this place called DU. They talk, talk, talk...

I'm kind of in the same boat as your husband. Work has been super hard and stressful. My wife, a stay-at-home mom, consumes all the news all day and wants to talk about it, but I need peace and quiet after work.

[JustAnotherGen]

12. My husband became a citizen last year

In my dreams he "doesn't want to talk about politics"

[barbtries]

13. no spouse,

but I do have children who get tired of hearing it.

DU is so important to me. Don't forget you have us.

[Diamond_Dog]

14. My husband is on our side 100%

But he tells me I want to talk about politics too much even if I only bring up a recent topic 2 or 3 times a day. Is that too often?? He’s retired and we’re both home all day. I’m usually kind of a quiet person but some subjects really push my buttons and I have to vent! I think he just tunes me out.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

15. Honestly, what more is there to say about Musk, MTG or Trump?

[SalviaBlue]

17. On a daily basis? A lot!!!

We all know they are all pieces of shit who want to fuck over Democrats and democracy. To leave it at that and not notice their daily attacks on Democratsdemocracy is head in the sand denial. That said, there is a time and place for these discussions.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

19. Yeah I don't see it that way at all.

The day-to-day attacks don't change what I do in response to their existence -- how could they? -- so following them closely doesn't make sense to me. I don't see how that's "denial."

[Mr.Bill]

16. My wife used to be not very up-to-date

on politics. She was an RN and worked a lot of odd hours and shifts, so it's understandable thet she wouldn't have time for it. So it just became something I was interested in and she wasn't.

Then she and I retired.

Now she is super focused on politics. She even worked at the polls for awhile. It's enhanced our lives in retirement because now we have one more thing in common.

[Renew Deal]

18. Politics are part of life, but they shouldn't be life.

And whatever it is, it's too much for him. Personally, I think that even thinking about politics all the time isn't good for you.

[H2O Man]

20. Once I did.

My wife was convinced I was "too" interested in politics.

She also complained that I had "too many books, and too many artifacts," and the house was crowded. She was right -- once I removed her and all her stuff from my house, there was much more room for getting more books and artifacts.

[Hekate]

26. I can understand that very well

[H2O Man]

32. This summer,

I was talking to the widow of an old artifact collector I knew years ago. We were discussing how a few of the very large local collections are leaving the region. I mentioned my son will keep mine local, and his son after him. She invited my son and I over, and gave us the vast majority of his collection. She liked my boy enough that she said she will leave him the few pieces she kept. And of course my library continues to grow.

Some people that live in the village and hamlets of this township refer to me as "the hermit." Being the strange man has a lot of responsibilities. (grin) Last week, a grade school teacher asked me if I would come in and talk to her class. And in the spring, I'll be doing a presentation for an area historical society. Seems like too much exposure to the public to me, but those books and artifacts demand it!

[emulatorloo]

31. ...

[Xavier Breath]

21. My wife will respond to

and even sometimes initiate discussions about politics, but she does have her limits. I'm okay with that, because by the time she suggests a topic change I usually have to admit that I have been rambling on a bit. In the days of Cheetolini, we were always eager at day's end to discuss that day's latest slip/blunder/outrage/openly-committed-crime-against-humanity.

[Solly Mack]

22. Not me. Good thing, too.

It's not all we talk about, but it comes up daily. Several times a day in all kinds of ways with all types of subjects.

[helpisontheway]

23. My husband agrees with me but he does not like to discuss politics. He leaves

the room 95% of the time if it’s on tv. He gets upset so he does not want to watch or discuss it.

[Corgigal]

24. I also don't care about Musk or Twitter.

However, the Supreme Court and the cases they decide to take , is what stresses me out. I try, try not to talk about it daily. I will watch Meidiastouch, Deep State radio or Lawfare podcast to hear different attorneys opinions. So I try to get facts, from people who are in the game so I’m prepared for bad ruling and what does my family have to do.

Listen to podcasts. It’s better then words just traveling in the air.

[Hekate]

25. Mr Hekate cares about politics, but it stresses him out--and he has other outlets for his energy...

He’s still employed full-time at age 75 and is on Zoom a lot with his cohorts at work. The job is fulfilling and engrossing and provides its own stressors.

I, on the other hand, have become almost a hermit due to COVID shutdowns and all. I’m retired from nearly all my former activities. Even for an introvert, I seem to have hit some kind of limit.

He’s willing to listen to a fair amount of my political angst — and he was a wonderful shoulder to cry on when I literally wept for 2 days after Dobbs because this Court is undoing everything I worked on and believed in for my entire adult life. For an introvert, I used to get out and about a lot, and was very involved in a variety of Democratic/ social justice causes.

Part of the stress of politics for my husband is that he and I both can see very clearly the anti-democratic and fascist trends in the US, but because he is the son of Holocaust survivors, it activates his flight-or-flight instincts far more than mine. This is why I try to tone it down at home.

Then there’s DU. Here’s where I come to let it all out. That’s my sage advice to all DUers whose spouses can’t take the sheer intensity of our feelings — just come here to get it all off your chest. You’ll feel better, and life at home will be better too.

[MotorCityBeard]

27. Ditto! My husband's eyes start to glaze over when I start in about the current outrage

He likes his Judge Judy and doesn't appreciate the daily update of Rethuglican atrocities.

[ecstatic]

28. That's what DU is for. lol

I can discuss day to day political developments from time to time with my parents but that's about it. And they're not happy with MSNBC these days so even that might be limited going forward.

[old as dirt]

29. I have to admit, ...

...that if my wife were as bad as me in that regard, I'd be as tired as she is.

The only difference is that the three machetes under our bed don't belong to me.

They belong to her.

[betsuni]

30. Mine has become a lot more chatty since retirement.

He likes when I play YouTube clips of "The View" during breakfast, enjoys the way they discuss politics. "What are the girls upset about today?" he'll ask. Then at lunch NBC or ABC evening news -- "What's the bad news today?" But sometimes the bad news is too much and I have to find a video of a bear stealing candy bars from a convenience store or something to cheer him up.

[Dorian Gray]

33. My husband

is less interested than I am. I talk sometimes, but I can tell when he's losing interest, so then we talk about other things. (Books, movies, news, our kid.)

I think anything can become all consuming. I'm sick of Elon Musk and have muted him on Twitter. Don't really want to talk about his narcissistic ass. So I get the fatigue.

[panader0]

34. Oh yes. My live-in girlfriend hates it when I talk about politics, especially TFG.

I have been pretty much obsessed since his election and it drives her crazy. On the other hand, she talks
a lot about her job, the radio business, and the minutai of it and I can't relate (although I've learned quite
a bit). So we made a deal -- I wouldn't rant about the Republicans if she stopped her chatter about her job.
So when she starts in on the new advertising schedule or sales revenue or sales staff, I start in with the
latest outrageous stuff I've learned on DU. Pretty funny.
But I have a few close buddies who feel like I do and can speak to them on the phone and rant for an hour.
When something big goes down, an arrest or an election result, the phone rings almost at once.
Seriously, my outrage meter broke about halfway through TFG term, and I am no long shocked by the
antics of the repubs.