Teaching your daughter to be confident and capable
“ Never tell your daughter that when a boy is mean or rude to her it's because he has a crush on her. Don't teach her that abuse is a sign of love. Make your daughter so capable that you don't have to worry who will marry her! Instead of saving money for her wedding day, spend it well on her education and most importantly, instead of preparing her for her marriage, prepare her for herself! Teach her confidence. Teach your daughter economic independence so in the future, she can have a partner, not a master. Teach her it's not about being beautiful. Teach her to be bold. Be strong. Be real, in a world full of fake. Let's redefine beauty.”
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I'm going to pass that on.
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My 65 yo younger sister a set of nunchucks. 
They're probably illegal but she'll appreciate them.
My own father told me that. I didn't try to argue with him, but I didn't buy it. It's hard as a kid when an adult tells you something stupid, because adults are supposed to know what they're talking about. But sometimes you just KNOW they're wrong.
If I could have, I would have said, "No, Daddy, those boys weren't throwing rocks at me because they 'like' me. They were doing it because they're nasty little shits." 
We ALWAYS told them there was nothing they couldn't do. I designated every cent I was lucky enough to inherit from my parents so that they could go to any school they got into, if they wanted to go to school in the USA (they did, and it was just barely enough). The one that actually did get married had a fabulous wedding in a castle overlooking a vineyard on the Rhein River. The other one doesn't believe in mariage, although that didn't prevent her from planning her sister's wedding in the castle.
The married one lives with her husband and two sons in New York City, which was always her ambition, and she makes enough to afford it in her chosen profession.
The other one has become one of Europe's top attorneys in her field, became the youngest partner in her international New York law firm, and makes several multiples of what I do. I don't know what the barrier is to join the 1%, but I'm sure she has long passed the entrance requirement. She doesn't flaunt it in anyone's face, though, and juggles her profession with her man and her two daughters, just like we did with them. IF she ever has a wedding day, she would probably chew me out if I ever dared to contribute toward it. She says I blew my inheritance on their educations, so it's only fair if she blows some of it back. Actually, she already did blow some of it back. Last year, my wife and I celebrated out 70th birthdays and our 40th wedding anniversary. She invited the whole family to two weeks in Hawai'i. including hotel, air fare and food. She actually DID chew me out for paying for dinner one night.
I think we followed the advice set out in the OP to the best of our ability.
They went from this:
to this:
to this:
Rec.
