Being a straight woman is uniquely challenging......

[Coventina]

Because you have to try and find a mate amongst those who are your only common predators.



(adapted by me from an anonymous meme on the internet)

Full disclosure about me: I present as straight but identify as demisexual.

[Srkdqltr]

1. What is demisexual ? Just a question no judgment.

[Coventina]

2. A person who has no sexual desire until an emotional bond is formed.

I wish "asexual" and "demisexual" were available terms when I was growing up.

I would have identified as "asexual" at least, had the term been available to me.

I never dated anyone. Men who asked me out terrified me, I couldn't understand why someone I didn't know would want to spend time with me.

I am married now, but because I got to know a co-worker who was brave and patient enough to approach me differently.

My parents assumed I was lesbian, since I expressed no desire for men. Since they were fundamentalist Christian, this caused them a lot of angst they did not outwardly express toward me.

It was a huge relief to them when I finally did start a relationship with my husband.

Little do they know that it could have just as easily been a woman. However, no woman pursued me in that way, either sexually or romantically.

[Srkdqltr]

4. Ok thank you .

You have to know, I'm an older woman. I really don't care how others have sex. That sounds harsh. I meant that however you are sexually is you and is valid.
I think that it is better now that people can understand how they are.
Can't expect all of us older folks to know as a lot of us don't have the vocabulary.
I knew about gay men and women but all the subtleties between are new.
Thanks for the answer.

[Coventina]

7. I was not at all offended by your question!

I'm no spring chicken myself! (I'm GenX)

When I was growing up there were only "straights and gays."
I was always puzzled because I was neither.
I just simply wasn't interested.

We (meaning all of us) really are a rainbow!!

[LiberalFighter]

5. What I find amazing is how many I don't find sexually appealling...

Or have an interest in establishing a friendship.

[Walleye]

3. One of Katharine Hepburn's comments about marriage: "how can you sleep with a man in the room"

[John1956PA]

6. I hear you. I am a heterosexual male, and I find that many males are crude.

I generally avoid interacting with males, even those in my 60+ year-old age bracket, since many of them are boorish and materialistic. Fortunately for me, my part-time work position is in a place where there is a small all-male crew, and we respect one another's space.

[Coventina]

8. kicking for the evening crowd

[area51]

9. Hi,

Ace here.

It was on DU awhile back that someone posted about asexuality & I realized that's what I am.

[Coventina]

10. Very cool! I think you are the only one I've ever "met"

Isn't it nice to finally have an understanding that you are not alone?

I would have loved to know I was ace as a teenager / young adult.
Until I got to know my husband, anyway.

Now, I acknowledge that I'm demi.