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Attilatheblond

(2,277 posts)
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:32 PM Mar 5

Seven signs of high functioning depression

Gotta figure a lot of people here can relate. To be aware and keeping up with news likely means being depressed too.
Interesting little article might be comforting. It's not just you and not just me. It's what happens.

[link:https://wapo.st/435QS1X|]

The seven signs of high-functioning depression highlighted in Meltzer’s video include:

Isolating from friends and family.
No longer finding joy in the activities you loved.
Persistently criticizing yourself.
Frustration with small irritations or setbacks.
Turning to mindless habits for hours on end.
Always feeling low on energy.
Managing day-to-day tasks but feeling empty inside.
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Seven signs of high functioning depression (Original Post) Attilatheblond Mar 5 OP
What do I win? NT mahatmakanejeeves Mar 5 #1
Maybe not some pills Attilatheblond Mar 5 #2
A nice trip, escorted by those nice young men, in their clean white coats, yagotme Mar 5 #8
A nice trip, escorted markodochartaigh Mar 5 #25
Well, you had to bring that up... yagotme Mar 5 #27
😆 underpants Mar 5 #31
100% here dclarston13 Mar 5 #50
I don't know, but second prize is twice as much of it. NT mahatmakanejeeves Mar 5 #53
Me too LiberalLoner Mar 5 #58
Found the part about depression sometimes manifesting in anger to possibly explain a lot about life in the USA today Attilatheblond Mar 5 #3
Crop duster drones grumpyduck Mar 5 #15
OK Attilatheblond Mar 5 #19
One other thing about anger: ret5hd Mar 5 #18
So... 2naSalit Mar 5 #36
It's a lab test Marthe48 Mar 5 #38
Thanks... 2naSalit Mar 5 #44
Glycated (or glycosylated) hemoglobin. keep_left Mar 5 #60
I can admit to a solid five of them ScratchCat Mar 5 #4
One can reach an age where one realizes persistantly criticizing ones self is pointless Attilatheblond Mar 5 #5
That Mme. Defarge Mar 5 #11
I've been diagnosed Mossfern Mar 5 #6
I have depression and anxiety Marthe48 Mar 5 #39
Yup Mossfern Mar 5 #40
Music and walking in nature Unwind Your Mind Mar 6 #63
Likewise. Being outdoors, in particular, is a great help. Martin68 Mar 6 #66
Be careful it doesn't affect your physical health, especially digestive issues. twodogsbarking Mar 5 #48
Yes, Mossfern Mar 5 #49
The Second Brain. Michael Gershon. twodogsbarking Mar 5 #52
I have 5 of the 7 atreides1 Mar 5 #7
I keep winning the desire to take a nap. nt Gore1FL Mar 5 #10
Copy that one Attilatheblond Mar 5 #20
Gin! sarisataka Mar 5 #9
And tequila 🤪! rubbersole Mar 5 #12
.... littlemissmartypants Mar 5 #13
I think limbicnuminousity Mar 5 #14
The covid pandemic also spawned another epidemic; substance abuse. PTSD as well Evolve Dammit Mar 5 #22
I think a sign of real depression Skittles Mar 5 #55
Very interesting thoughts about isolation. ... electric_blue68 Mar 5 #59
I'm a schizoid who is retired as opposed to a retired schizoid. elocs Mar 5 #16
Why are you not allowed to see your daughter? nt SunSeeker Mar 5 #28
She is in a mental health care facility with a legal guardian appointed by the state elocs Mar 5 #35
That's must be torture. SunSeeker Mar 5 #45
Thanks. It is hard because she is just an hour's drive away. elocs Mar 5 #47
Been doing that for a couple decades. progressoid Mar 5 #17
My older sister is like that kimbutgar Mar 5 #21
I had several friends that I never hear from anymore, even when reaching out. The depression is wide-spread IMHO Evolve Dammit Mar 5 #23
Mindless habits are comforting. maxsolomon Mar 5 #24
Turned on CNN for literally 30 seconds and almost threw something at the tv. Boomerproud Mar 5 #30
Sign No. 4, I believe. maxsolomon Mar 5 #34
Meh. You're describing any day with an "A" in it Orrex Mar 5 #26
I hear that.. Hope22 Mar 5 #37
Pretty much me since Trump was elected. SunSeeker Mar 5 #29
That sick fuck has caused a lot of damage. mobeau69 Mar 5 #41
Yay BunnyMcGee Mar 5 #32
No kidding Hekate Mar 5 #33
and he has plans et tu Mar 5 #42
I don't understand how "separation from friends and family" qualify as a characteristic of high-functioning depression. Martin68 Mar 5 #43
Sometimes limbicnuminousity Mar 6 #62
I understand that situation, but without that clarification, it would not pity be Martin68 Mar 6 #64
I think they call it depression because to other people you looked depressed. twodogsbarking Mar 5 #46
an aunt told me Skittles Mar 5 #57
Good point Farmer-Rick Mar 6 #61
I'm not sure I understand your point. I've suffered from high-functioning depression - I suffered Martin68 Mar 6 #65
From your replies to others I can see that you don't understand. twodogsbarking Mar 6 #68
Please tell me what it is I misunderstand. If the situation assumed for not having relationships with Martin68 Mar 6 #69
You stated more than once in comments that you didn't understand. twodogsbarking Mar 6 #70
Meaning you did not provide enough information, or the right kind of information, to be understood. I Martin68 Mar 7 #71
My apologies. twodogsbarking Mar 7 #72
This is me on a bad day. RandySF Mar 5 #51
Weird. I just looked into this yesterday reading about the dancer Stephen "Twitch" Boss. chowder66 Mar 5 #54
45 years and counting TexasBushwhacker Mar 5 #56
"Turning to mindless habits for hours on end" Polybius Mar 6 #67

yagotme

(3,028 posts)
8. A nice trip, escorted by those nice young men, in their clean white coats,
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:41 PM
Mar 5

and a sweater with the arms that tie in the back..

yagotme

(3,028 posts)
27. Well, you had to bring that up...
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:50 PM
Mar 5

But, if it's court-mandated, do I still have to pay??

"They're coming to take me away, ha ha, to the funny farm,..."

Attilatheblond

(2,277 posts)
3. Found the part about depression sometimes manifesting in anger to possibly explain a lot about life in the USA today
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:37 PM
Mar 5

Long time ago, I flippantly suggested America needs crop dusters to hose us all off with anti-depressants. Might be time to dust off that old whimsical hare brained scheme.

ret5hd

(20,563 posts)
18. One other thing about anger:
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:15 PM
Mar 5

I have read that pre-diabetes and diabetes can cause anger and rage episodes.

Since reading that, i have often wondered about all this road-rage stuff, and how much of it may be caused by undiagnosed diabetes.

Just looking at my friends/neighbors/city-mates, i think almost everyone would be doing themselves a favor by getting their A1C level tested.

2naSalit

(86,951 posts)
36. So...
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 03:14 PM
Mar 5

Just what IS A1C?

I hear it mentioned in ads all the time but I have no idea what they are talking about.

Marthe48

(17,125 posts)
38. It's a lab test
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 03:26 PM
Mar 5

Shows how your body used glucose the last 3 months. A good A1C is lower than 5. Over 7 is not. The result might not come back as other lab tests. A1C has a longer name, too. I missed it when I looked at my labs on my hospital access last time.
Our daughter is a renal dietitian.

ScratchCat

(2,020 posts)
4. I can admit to a solid five of them
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:37 PM
Mar 5

I can't say I turn to mindless habits for hours on end, and I don't persistently criticize myself, but the rest are me for sure.

Attilatheblond

(2,277 posts)
5. One can reach an age where one realizes persistantly criticizing ones self is pointless
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:40 PM
Mar 5

Oddly, I find some of my best insights come while doing mundane chores that don't take a lot of brain waves. Not sure that equals 'mindless habits'. If it does, it might be semi-productive for me.

twodogsbarking

(9,931 posts)
48. Be careful it doesn't affect your physical health, especially digestive issues.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 05:04 PM
Mar 5

There is a tight bond between your gut and brain and one can affect the other and vice versa.
Best to ya.

Mossfern

(2,610 posts)
49. Yes,
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 05:53 PM
Mar 5

my therapist suggested I read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
I highly recommend the book.

I'm considering switching to a neurophysiological therapist....if I can afford it.

limbicnuminousity

(1,407 posts)
14. I think
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:53 PM
Mar 5

the Covid lockdown literally traumatized many people. Most people are hardwired to respond poorly to isolation, a remnant of times when being kicked out of the tribe was a death sentence. Just a suspicion, but I think PTSD and terror management theory explains a fair bit of some of the more insane behavior witnessed over the last few years in the US. There's a lot of behavior that seems reflexive, not thought out, as if individuals are trying to reassert control over their lives and environ. The policies are similar to what conservatives have always aimed for but there is an urgency to their actions that seems pathological to me.

electric_blue68

(15,030 posts)
59. Very interesting thoughts about isolation. ...
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 09:37 PM
Mar 5

While not the only way I get energy (music, creative pursuits, hanging out w friends f2f, phone) I love walking parts of Manhattan in particular, parts of Downtown Brooklyn when I lived there.

Not in overcrowded areas, but a well walked street w stores, restaurants, interesting architecture, mini parks. I get energy from being around people, as well as enjoying being by myself.

And at 70, near 71 still feeling cautious about being in more peopled areas (where I used to be). I'm all vaxxed, maxxed, and masked.
I might try being out more this later Spring, and the nicer weather of Summer in parts of Mahattan esp where I can sit in a park, too. 👍

elocs

(22,650 posts)
16. I'm a schizoid who is retired as opposed to a retired schizoid.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 01:56 PM
Mar 5

I can do the social sprint but have no interest in the social marathon. I am very friendly, but I have no friends and I'm fine with that. I am depressed because I'm not allowed to see the one person who means the most to me, my adult daughter. But I am high functioning as much as I need to function.

elocs

(22,650 posts)
35. She is in a mental health care facility with a legal guardian appointed by the state
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 03:11 PM
Mar 5

and the person who hates me the most in the world, her mother, has the ear of her guardian. So I have neither seen nor talked with her for over a year now and I've never been told the reason. (My daughter is 32.)

elocs

(22,650 posts)
47. Thanks. It is hard because she is just an hour's drive away.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 04:35 PM
Mar 5

We can't see each other or talk, but I wonder why they didn't figure out that as soon as she was allowed online and could use the computers that she would email me, which we've done for most of the past 8 or 9 months. I send her packages from Amazon that don't say who they are from so I guess they assume they are from her mother. She is basically isolated from any friends or family. Her mother visited her twice last year when at the same place I used to visit her every week and we went out on a 4 or 5 hour pass.
I never imagined that as bad as things were that they would get worse, but they did.

kimbutgar

(21,278 posts)
21. My older sister is like that
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:22 PM
Mar 5

The only joy she has is her cat. If I don’t call her I won’t hear from her. Once a month I set up a hair appointment for us and if I don’t call her and set it up it doesn’t happen.

Evolve Dammit

(16,817 posts)
23. I had several friends that I never hear from anymore, even when reaching out. The depression is wide-spread IMHO
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:42 PM
Mar 5

maxsolomon

(33,461 posts)
24. Mindless habits are comforting.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:45 PM
Mar 5

I've been cataloging my vinyl records. I can turn off the overthinking for a half hour and just do.

It's better than watching MSNBC talk about Trump more.

Boomerproud

(7,984 posts)
30. Turned on CNN for literally 30 seconds and almost threw something at the tv.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:58 PM
Mar 5

I knew this election season would be unbearable but I can't take their droning on and on every day any more.

maxsolomon

(33,461 posts)
34. Sign No. 4, I believe.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 03:10 PM
Mar 5

Frustration with small irritations.

Rather than friends and family, I'm avoiding the news lately.

Hope22

(1,908 posts)
37. I hear that..
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 03:19 PM
Mar 5

…I have some stuff that didn’t make the list! I wonder what comes after high functioning? 😁

SunSeeker

(51,800 posts)
29. Pretty much me since Trump was elected.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 02:55 PM
Mar 5

I lost contact with a lot of Trumper relatives. And lost faith in humanity.

And I spend way too much time on DU.

Martin68

(22,967 posts)
43. I don't understand how "separation from friends and family" qualify as a characteristic of high-functioning depression.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 04:00 PM
Mar 5

That is a clear sign of disfunction. I've suffered from high-functioning depression, but without friends and family I would have been lost.

limbicnuminousity

(1,407 posts)
62. Sometimes
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 11:30 AM
Mar 6

the healthiest option to pursue is to separate from friends and family. Especially for the young raised in conservative areas.

Martin68

(22,967 posts)
64. I understand that situation, but without that clarification, it would not pity be
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 12:57 PM
Mar 6

considered "a sign of high functioning depression." Quite the opposite, in fact.

twodogsbarking

(9,931 posts)
46. I think they call it depression because to other people you looked depressed.
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 04:17 PM
Mar 5

Actually, being depressed is a feeling and many who suffer from depression feel nearly nothing.
You know how you should feel but you don't. Eventually not much if anything matters. It is all the same.
Your brain betrays you. When you realize it you end up battling yourself because it is all so fucked up.
You once had good and bad days but now only bad days, even when things are actually great.
It happens not unlike other common illnesses.

Skittles

(153,310 posts)
57. an aunt told me
Tue Mar 5, 2024, 08:43 PM
Mar 5

"I have bad days when I feel bad, and I have good days when I feel nothing"......that's chronic depression

Farmer-Rick

(10,240 posts)
61. Good point
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 11:20 AM
Mar 6

I felt invincible, but not in a good way, when my spouse died.

It's that I felt that nothing but my loss had any meaning, so I could do anything. The one person in the world I wanted to see, I would never see, so I just didn't care

I didn't care if I lived or died....not that I went out of my way to try to die. It was just that I had no fear of anything because nothing mattered. Nothing mattered because I felt nothing.

That TV series "After Life" with Ricky Gervais touched on it when he stood up to the mugger. He wasn't afraid of dying or getting hurt. He felt nothing, so he fought the would be thief off.

You have to feel nothing in order to fear nothing, unless your a psychopath.

Martin68

(22,967 posts)
65. I'm not sure I understand your point. I've suffered from high-functioning depression - I suffered
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 12:59 PM
Mar 6

classic symptoms of depression but was able to function well in a job and social situations. It did occasionally cause problems in those areas, however.

Martin68

(22,967 posts)
69. Please tell me what it is I misunderstand. If the situation assumed for not having relationships with
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 01:17 PM
Mar 6

friends and family is confined to those living in politically extreme families or social situations, shouldn't that be stated? Are there other situations where someone is considered high functioning even if they are isolated from family and friends? You are coming very close to gaslighting me by simply dismissing me with "you don't understand." I've lived with depression and know what I'm talking about.

Martin68

(22,967 posts)
71. Meaning you did not provide enough information, or the right kind of information, to be understood. I
Thu Mar 7, 2024, 04:48 PM
Mar 7

have been politely asking for a clarification or an answer to my question regarding your assumptions and your only reply was "you don't understand." That's just rude.

Polybius

(15,525 posts)
67. "Turning to mindless habits for hours on end"
Wed Mar 6, 2024, 01:11 PM
Mar 6

Define mindless. I'm online sometimes 10 hours a day, but to me it's fine and not mindless.

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